AnnyMouse28
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That is awesome. I haven't been that lucky.
Do men ever actually crave romance?
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That is awesome. I haven't been that lucky.
May you get to be that lucky, Anny.
It seems that I make her laugh daily, and when she does, the glow I see and the glow I feel makes me smile.
Yes, I want the sex and the intimacy, but when it comes together the heart glistens.
I would not turn down a good session, but these days I would have a hard time if I had to choose between them; because having them both is making love in its truest sense.
Vitriolhack
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I do believe that men do crave romance. Why aren’t they as expressive about it? That’s a good question.
I think that our social conditioning tends to make fun of men who enjoy too much romance. Let’s face it, guys don’t talk about preparing candle light dinners or baths for their romantic interests because they will become the subject of ridicule. Men talk about being the earner.
I do think that, in the last 30 years or so we have seen things change a little. It’s ok for men to cook and bake now, even a little hip. It sounds stupid to say this, but I am old enough to remember that this was not a “man’s job”. I am hoping that the next generation of men will have a different perspective of relationships.
This subject probably warrants an essay type of answer, but I welcome the opportunity to exchange these few lines.
I think that our social conditioning tends to make fun of men who enjoy too much romance. Let’s face it, guys don’t talk about preparing candle light dinners or baths for their romantic interests because they will become the subject of ridicule. Men talk about being the earner.
I do think that, in the last 30 years or so we have seen things change a little. It’s ok for men to cook and bake now, even a little hip. It sounds stupid to say this, but I am old enough to remember that this was not a “man’s job”. I am hoping that the next generation of men will have a different perspective of relationships.
This subject probably warrants an essay type of answer, but I welcome the opportunity to exchange these few lines.
Athalia
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Thank you, Bramblethorn. I didn't know that there was an actual name for it, although I read a paper on it about 40 years ago.
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It greatly depends on the person and what particular "love languages" they speak.
I'm quality time & physical touch so conversations over dinner, holding hands, and sensual make out sessions are certainly in my wheel house whereas buying flowers often requires prompting heavier than a hint.
Simple- yes i crave it, affection, kissing , being caressed by a woman. Told that they love me. Being looked into my eyes is intense. Being one... Brings things to a new level. Just isnt all about sex, the bond between makes the sex even better. IMO
I completely agree with you....I love the excitement and building up to...
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Yes!!! I can only speak for myself but 100% yes I crave that kind of relationship. I have been unfortunately involved with woman that do not enjoy romance nearly as much as I do but I would give anything to know that kind of intimacy in a relationship.
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do men actually crave romance?
I wonder whether I’ll be able to get across my views on the OP’s question better this time.
First of all: the original question seems answered now: YES, some men do crave what is falsely called “romance”, IMHO. It does not matter how many men do not, a long as some do, the answer is YES.
So that boils down to the question itself being not overly helpful. If a group of people talking about this want to get anywhere, they must examine reasons behind and motivations, so I believe.
Of course, men craving sex generally, use “sweet talk” or other romantic gestures for getting into a woman’s pants; nothing unusual or un-natural about that, I find. To me it appears there are two kind of men basically: those who orgasm merely via semen erupting out of their cocks, and those who orgasm inside their brains a lot also. Such a “brain-gasm-focused” man has other things on his mind than merely fucking.
It stands to reason that a man orgasming in his brain also, needs and craves a woman wanting the same also. And when two such people meet one another, they do much more than only fuck one another. OR better: they fuck one another with more than only their genitals. And once more than only genitals come into play during love-making, a couple ends up “romantic” with one another. Before and during and after their orgasms.
With “romantic” meaning (to me): I love the tits of my lover, and her clit and her cunt only, or mainly, because I can affect part of her orgasms via these sexual organs. But I know she possesses another sexual organ, at least as important, or more for great orgasms: her brain and her soul.
How exactly the brain and the soul of a woman become excited also, is different from one woman to the next. Some are sapiosexuals and reaching her brain and her soul is easy. But some are pretty dumb really, so they require a lot of sweet talk, or flowers or what-not-else. "Outwardly romantic” stuff.
Maybe here we can define a meaningful distinction: can a woman be impressed by primitive romantic gestures only (flowers, lavish gifts, diamond rings, etc) or is she filled with “sensitive feelers”, able to pick up affection going further than a man’s desires for emptying his balls?
I wonder whether I’ll be able to get across my views on the OP’s question better this time.
First of all: the original question seems answered now: YES, some men do crave what is falsely called “romance”, IMHO. It does not matter how many men do not, a long as some do, the answer is YES.
So that boils down to the question itself being not overly helpful. If a group of people talking about this want to get anywhere, they must examine reasons behind and motivations, so I believe.
Of course, men craving sex generally, use “sweet talk” or other romantic gestures for getting into a woman’s pants; nothing unusual or un-natural about that, I find. To me it appears there are two kind of men basically: those who orgasm merely via semen erupting out of their cocks, and those who orgasm inside their brains a lot also. Such a “brain-gasm-focused” man has other things on his mind than merely fucking.
It stands to reason that a man orgasming in his brain also, needs and craves a woman wanting the same also. And when two such people meet one another, they do much more than only fuck one another. OR better: they fuck one another with more than only their genitals. And once more than only genitals come into play during love-making, a couple ends up “romantic” with one another. Before and during and after their orgasms.
With “romantic” meaning (to me): I love the tits of my lover, and her clit and her cunt only, or mainly, because I can affect part of her orgasms via these sexual organs. But I know she possesses another sexual organ, at least as important, or more for great orgasms: her brain and her soul.
How exactly the brain and the soul of a woman become excited also, is different from one woman to the next. Some are sapiosexuals and reaching her brain and her soul is easy. But some are pretty dumb really, so they require a lot of sweet talk, or flowers or what-not-else. "Outwardly romantic” stuff.
Maybe here we can define a meaningful distinction: can a woman be impressed by primitive romantic gestures only (flowers, lavish gifts, diamond rings, etc) or is she filled with “sensitive feelers”, able to pick up affection going further than a man’s desires for emptying his balls?
Crankbait88
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I can't speak for other men, but I certainly do. I'm long past lust being the motivator for me. I crave romance and intimacy with partners now.
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If you mean to have sex and not have to pay upfront for it; then yes, I suppose there is always the chance of having a few of them waffling about amongst the realists.
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When speaking in general terms there will always be someone to point out an instance where the generality is untrue. But here it is in general terms.
Men and women are different and think different.
Romance and sex are “ more connected” in women.
Sex without romance is more acceptable to men. Some do not connect the two very much at all.
Neither is wrong It just is what it is.
Look at it this way. The golden rule of do unto others does not apply to sex or romance between men and women. Never has, and never will.
Guys, in general, never think that sending a dick pic is bad.
Why, the golden rule of course.
If a women sent a pussy pic, unsolicited, to a man, just to get excited and to help achieve the almighty goal of self pleasure, the man receiving it would not be offended.
Most guys would love it.
Men, in general, do not look at romance the same way women do. It’s not that romance is not important. That feeling of attachment and the bond between soulmates is there. It’s just not a necessary component of sexual arrousal. Like it is in women. In general. And of course there are exceptions.
Men and women are different and think different.
Romance and sex are “ more connected” in women.
Sex without romance is more acceptable to men. Some do not connect the two very much at all.
Neither is wrong It just is what it is.
Look at it this way. The golden rule of do unto others does not apply to sex or romance between men and women. Never has, and never will.
Guys, in general, never think that sending a dick pic is bad.
Why, the golden rule of course.
If a women sent a pussy pic, unsolicited, to a man, just to get excited and to help achieve the almighty goal of self pleasure, the man receiving it would not be offended.
Most guys would love it.
Men, in general, do not look at romance the same way women do. It’s not that romance is not important. That feeling of attachment and the bond between soulmates is there. It’s just not a necessary component of sexual arrousal. Like it is in women. In general. And of course there are exceptions.
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Depends how you define 'romance'. If you mean 'do I like doing things that make my wife happy, from time to time and unsolicited' then sure, romance is cool because I see the happiness on my wife's face. But if you mean 'what people traditionally call romance' then I often have problems with some of the cheesy kitsch of it.
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There are some emotions that only and a boyfriend can give. I've been with girls who have never had a guy even attempt to drop their macho persona and just be affectionate with them. The day I stopped reading my phone screen and started reading my girlfriend's face was the day I became someone worth being with.
I learned early to always focus on their pleasure above my own in bed, and to keep enough eye-contact that they never felt like they were being used, but only once I learned to make a continuous effort to find small ways to make them smile throughout the day did the sex become something truly passionate and (apparently) memorable. That doesn't mean more animal or aggressive sex can't happen. I've found that a lover who trusts you care will make what she wants - or wants to try - in bed much clearer.
Without romance, you're both missing out on so many feelings that you just can't get from looking up at the stars alone.
I learned early to always focus on their pleasure above my own in bed, and to keep enough eye-contact that they never felt like they were being used, but only once I learned to make a continuous effort to find small ways to make them smile throughout the day did the sex become something truly passionate and (apparently) memorable. That doesn't mean more animal or aggressive sex can't happen. I've found that a lover who trusts you care will make what she wants - or wants to try - in bed much clearer.
Without romance, you're both missing out on so many feelings that you just can't get from looking up at the stars alone.
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Crave romance. I don’t think I do. I’m romantic but that’s because I know she likes it and I like making her happy. I know you have to warm up the car to get the heater to spit out warm air. I don’t need romance but maybe romance is subjective. For me Maybe romance is when she comes out the bathroom in a nighty after brushing her teeth. Ya know, brushing your teeth before getting it on is romance to me.
