Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[ToPleaseHim]

I’ve been in 3 relationships with men I met here and I only regret one of them. I also met a few really good friends here.

I have opened up to people I wish I hadn’t, and I have become much more guarded over the years. I think it’s smart to keep your guard up.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’ve been in 3 relationships with men I met here and I only regret one of them. I also met a few really good friends here.

I have opened up to people I wish I hadn’t, and I have become much more guarded over the years. I think it’s smart to keep your guard up.

This is good advice.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Guard is down for you, of course. It is possible to make good friends here, even just in the threads.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

My guard is down for a lot of people. I’m still too trusting even after my stalker incident.
You, and the rest of the BDSM ladies, never any walls.

Thankfully the crap that happened to me happened here on a forum I rarely even read any more. Any real-life stuff was taken to real-life by both people involved. I hate that that happened to you and I hate that it’s not an isolated incident here.

 

[FunLi]

I’ve been in 3 relationships with men I met here and I only regret one of them. I also met a few really good friends here.

I have opened up to people I wish I hadn’t, and I have become much more guarded over the years. I think it’s smart to keep your guard up.

This is good advice.

I agree.

 

[LikeableMe]

Yes. And my heart is shattered over the loss of what - to me - was a very significant friendship. The closest I’ve ever let myself get to anyone. We were coming up to five years as BFFs, so I really feel the loss. I have no idea what went wrong but the problem with being so close to someone who isn’t nearby makes it too easy for them to shut off, rather than dealing with things.

I’m still happy to make friends on here, but my guard will never go as low as it did for him. He really meant the world to me, and I believed we would always be friends.

 

[Bud_Spencer]

Yes. And my heart is shattered over the loss of what - to me - was a very significant friendship. The closest I’ve ever let myself get to anyone. We were coming up to five years as BFFs, so I really feel the loss. I have no idea what went wrong but the problem with being so close to someone who isn’t nearby makes it too easy for them to shut off, rather than dealing with things.

I’m still happy to make friends on here, but my guard will never go as low as it did for him. He really meant the world to me, and I believed we would always be friends.

I think the tendency is to open up more with online relationships simply because there is no "unspoken" part to the relationship as there is in real life: No touches, no looks, no gestures. So, to take the place of those intimate things, we open our hearts verbally and, in doing that, leave ourselves vulnerable.

That doesn't excuse the abrupt way he cut you off, which I consider such bad manners. After five years, he owed you an explanation, as difficult as it might have been to verbalize.

 

[Cherry_Brandy]

I've not been on here that long. I chat to some very lovely gents but I'd find it difficult to have feelings, beyond friendship, for anyone not touchable.

Words can be stirring but so far emotions would need at least the possibility of a real life connection. I guess as most guys on here are married and inaccessible that's unlikely to happen ....... 'Famous last words' .......

 

[LouisianaWild]

Yes. I have a very good friend that I text and call all the time. We’ve been friends for something like 5 years. We have never met before but with the covid restrictions lifting we might.

I also have an ex that I met on lit. We talked for awhile. At one point we met and decided this was a relationship. It lasted almost 3 years with us flying out to see each other or meeting in cities for long weekend vacations together. We are no longer together, and it almost broke me. He broke up with me and thinks I am okay, but I wasn’t. Not for awhile. Actually, 11 months later and there are still broken pieces of me. Though I don’t say I regret it. I have great memories and things I may have never experienced without him.

 

[kittenell]

I have very real emotions for someone I met on here. Completely surprised me because I wasn’t looking for anything meaningful.

 

[Dom70]

I am feeling the same at the moment. Been hurt before howwever...and..I don't like it!

 

[Dom70]

I seem to be getting feelings for someone I am currently talking to. Been hurt in the past though...so..will keep the guard up.

 

[AmazingLost]

.....

 

[Crownvic]

I seem to be getting feelings for someone I am currently talking to. Been hurt in the past though...so..will keep the guard up.

I agree with you Dom..happened to me...miss the excitement!

 

[JohnnyPump1970]

Yes. The government controls the interwebz.

 

[LadyGreyFortress]

Oh Yes.

 

[TomNeedsCoffee]

Yes and mostly because in our first chat we just laughed and laughed long before anything else

 

[nikeguy]

When you find the right person YES it happens.

 

[Crownvic]

Feeling them right now!

 

[Yours4TheTalkin]

Yes, thought we had a genuine connection and then he ghosted. Lesson learned, guard up.

 

[Crownvic]

Yes, thought we had a genuine connection and then he ghosted. Lesson learned, guard up.

Sorry...

 

[Wanderingwanderer]

I had my suspicions.. but he did enough to make me drop my guard. I wish I hadn't.

 

[elusive_buttrfly]

I haven’t for a very long time. Unfortunately, this venue doesn’t lend itself to a lot of trust, however I believe if both were willing to set all the bs aside and be honest with each other it could happen.

 

[Polranny]

Certainly Yes. I have several very good friends but there is only one , repeat there is only one

 

[Azuldrgon]

I have.
Only a few get close enough and I feel real emotions for them.

I cried real hard when my friend Spicy died and Kat got to talk to me while I did.