Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[ToPleaseHim]

Yes, three times actually (and I only regret one of them). I’ve also made some amazing friends here.

 

[Xerxes82]

Are not all emotions real? I have made some good friends here. At least one of which, though she no longer posts here, is still a real life friend that I spend time with regularly (had Christmas dinner with her and her husband just last night).

But in terms of what I think the question is asking, no, not as such. Twice I've developed deeper feelings for women I met here. But both times it was only after meeting them in person. One of them ghosted me shortly thereafter. The other I fell for deeply. We spent a year having an affair. I loved her so much it physically hurt to be apart from her. Ending things with her was one of the most brutal choices I ever had to make.

Still, a good lesson. I regret nothing.

But I don't think I could have developed those feelings just online. I don't believe I'm wired for it. I don't believe there is anywhere near enough trust to be had in this place. Not for me. Others may feel differently, and I know there are a number of success stories, so clearly it can work for some.

 

[hairball18]

Yes I have. Some that affect you more than you thought they would.

 

[DreamMerchant7]

Emotions are always real! The Mind does not make a distinction..

Yes....................that does happen!

Emotions happen. The power of words has a huge grip on us, even if two people are meeting for the first time.

Emotions cajole and bind us. The Mind or the heart does-not make a distinction. They say virtual is not real. Go figure. When we fantasize or imagine, don't it feel real - even though we know that we are just making things up....

Over a period of time, emotions strengthens. Especially where two people find a kind of connection. Imagination becomes real......and sometimes, it is really really tough to get away from it...

Pawan

 

[RustyIron]

Yes, certainly do feel emotions for connections on here. They can be just as powerful as in RL.
That's just my opinion though.

 

[LikeableMe]

Yes. I met someone on here who became my first love, and now my first significant heartbreak. He was so intertwined with my RL that I even forgot we met here. I’ll probably never fully get over it ending a couple of weeks ago.

I also have friendship feelings for someone I’ve been speaking to on here for years.

 

[Youroldscotsman]

Of course, it is only natural although once I foolishly got too close to someone and let my guard down to the extant it got far too complicated and caused hurt, something I will always regret and will never let happen again. Feel emotions, that is okay and is as it should be, but take care giving to much of your heart over the internet...sometimes it bites.

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I absolutely have less than a handful of times. Even when it ends, the pain of it ending has been worth it to me to have been able to feel the things I was able to feel.

 

[Azuldrgon]

The one thing people don' think about is that there are real people behind the screennames. That's why it's easy to have real feelings for someone.

 

[Dom70]

I think I could...

 

[Sweet_n_SpicySprite]

I think I could...

If you make a genuine connection, I think you could.

 

[Anastasia1999]

Oh I absolutely have.

I am not a machine, or even the long lost Grand Duchess Anastasia for that matter, I am a human being made of flesh and blood and who has real feelings.

 

[caughtbyU]

Yes I have

I’ve made real connections here more than once and explored them deeply. One lasted for years and sometimes gets rekindled for brief periods. Geographic limitations generally quench the fire that gets started. It flared again and I hope is r out for good. I won’t close my self off to new fires and new feelings.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Do you ever kick yourself for it?

I do. Both. I don't let people in easily. I'm guarded. Very.

I think I need to be more guarded. Lol

I di have real emotions for people I have met on here. Some are friends still on Facebook. Some are real life friends and i have met a few in person as well. It does hurt when it goes south, but at the same time it is good for a while.

The thing about being more guarded is that the more guarded you are, the less you will be open to meet people. It's okay to have defenses. The ones who are worth it will find a way thru.

 

[javajug]

Absolutely! It's that simple, really.

 

[WriterGirl2002]

yes, and he knows it

 

[Codeman93]

Yes I do

 

[javajug]

These darn emotions! My heart is much too open here. I have to keep reminding myself to just enjoy these interactions as little daily gifts and stop making more out of them than what they are. I'm going to end up hurting myself or worse, the feelings of someone else who I've grown to care about. Live in the moment Brianna, and let the chips fall where they may.

I hear you. I also think an open heart is a great and wonderful gift.

Being present to what is - and not holding on to what has been - takes practice. Keep practicing! We're here to help you when you need it.

 

[Beachbummin79]

For sure. Sometimes you get burned in the end sometimes it ends up being the most amazing experience. I have had it go both ways and don't regret it one bit

 

[johnnyutah_]

I have in the past, and my time here a long time ago, when I was more regular (under a previous username), was amazing and filled with great friendships and great times. I haven't been here for so long though, and I'm happy to be back. I miss the connection I felt to some of the great people I met on here (virtual only)

 

[GoingBackToBed]

Of course the emotions are real! It doesn't mean it will build into anything more or maybe it will. But in the moment, the emotions are TOTALLY real.

Well said and I agree.

 

[ncheelsmilf]

Yes. I fell very hard for someone here. I will never get over this person. Never.....

 

[ncheelsmilf]

Ouch! I am So sorry you had your heart broken. *hugs*

Thank you. It was real, very real to me. The pain was real too.

 

[PersonalFavors]

It is not often I connect on here but yes a lady and I emailed for a few days back and forth. I became ever more hopeful she was near by. Our conversation was excellent and open. I felt a connection. Never saw a photo so unsure if this was really real. Sounded like it to me.

Does sex count? I took the time to meet a lady a few hours from here. We met and I followed her home. We had an amazing day and evening. Woke up in each others arms before ensuring we both had one for the road. She said she was going to write a story. ~15 years older than I it would have been hot. Out time was very sensual and complete.

 

[ncheelsmilf]

I have no doubt, and what you went through is what my main concerns are now. I not only want to protect my own heart, but I also don't want to break anyone else's. The dilemma is that I'm a naturally outgoing, friendly, and caring person. I genuinely enjoy the company of most of the people I've interacted with here so far. If I'm too closed and withdrawn, I miss out on that pleasure. If I'm too open and vulnerable, then I risk receiving a lot of pain. I sometimes find my rational brain going to all out war with my overly emotional heart.

Your words are exactly what I am (and was) going through. It is a two-edged sword but I hope that you (and I both) can open yourself again to others in a way that rewards you. Probably why I am still here, why I still smile when people give me compliments or when people like you are so kind and wonderful to me. My rational brain and my emotional heart are and always will be at war.