Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[Chillygirl]

I often think I do...and I believe I have but I also think it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of something new and the fantasy until reality comes crashing in like the Kool Aid man!

 

[filt]

I think you can feel real emotions towards someone you meet on here but it is incredibly rare. A lot is contingent on the person in question and how you guys interact. If you’re open and your conversation is beyond the primary subject nature of the site then you have potential to learn a lot about a person and some stories are deep.

The thing is, I, you, we are virtual and if something needs to go then we are top of the list. Best thing to do is enjoy it whilst it lasts and squeeze the pips out of it. If that person goes, remember that you were not the problem.

 

[Lollygirl26]

For sure i have had real emotions and feelings. Some dood and some not.

 

[Anastasia1999]

Absolutely yes...

 

[JonBHappy]

I think it must be pretty well impossible not to!

 

[LittleSammie]

Sure do. Sexual tension goes hand in hand with feelings for me.

 

[30bandits]

Sure do. Sexual tension goes hand in hand with feelings for me.

are you feeling some sexual tension?

 

[steelyblue73]

Oh my god no! That would be so weird.

 

[Crownvic]

It’s only happened twice. The first time it was new and exciting, sexy and kind of intoxicating. It was full of highs and lows but was mostly great until it just was just all of a sudden gone...

The second time was wholly unexpected. It crept in slowly and built into something fun and sweet and sexy and kind of amazing. It ended recently, but on good terms with understanding on both sides.

It’s when they suddenly slam on the brakes and you don’t see it coming!

 

[PlayWithMeToday]

It’s when they suddenly slam on the brakes and you don’t see it coming!

Yeah, that can be pretty brutal.

 

[2021Noobie]

Yeah, that can be pretty brutal.

Bingo! It's easy I get run over

 

[WerdNerd]

There's one and she knows.

 

[GirlWithADirtyMind02]

yes, they know who they are

 

[Gentledom45]

Yes but feeling wasn’t the same for them

 

[ReaperW]

Real emotions, yes, but never love or anything close. I can't imagine falling as deep as that for someone not met in person (though I did in my teenage years) because I'd not trust it. I'd want to see the person interact with others, both casual encounters with strangers and private moments with close friends. These things tell me much about a how a person is outside of the bubble we operate in, and is more difficult to fake longer term. Still, it's a risk intake everytime i connect on here, and I feel that having my eyes open to that means I have a better chance of cutting ties before I fall too deep.

I think what wiser southerner says about reciprocation is true for me as well. Although perhaps what Audrey Marie says is more an appropriate way to think about it. After all, we build ourselves as characters here (not necessarily in a deceptive way) and who's to say we're any more factual than the people in a storybook.

These sure were famous last words... Its hard to cut ties when it feels so right. Perhaps we are still just the characters we would wish to be, but we're in a story I don't want to end.

 

[BadAmy]

Oh I totally feel for others here. Deep passionate love, friendly supportive love, goofy love too.
A jumble of letters on a flat screen doesn't negate emotion for me. Sometimes, it can enhance it!

 

[Chillygirl]

Oh I messed up bad. Let myself be completely vulnerable and open. Shared pieces of myself I share with no one. Said things that should have been left unspoken. And one day he just walked away without ever looking back. I was devastated. I’ll never trust anyone like that again.

 

[VladPuptin]

Oh I messed up bad. Let myself be completely vulnerable and open. Shared pieces of myself I share with no one. Said things that should have been left unspoken. And one day he just walked away without ever looking back. I was devastated. I’ll never trust anyone like that again.

Sorry to hear that Chilly. You'll get through. We all believe in you.

 

[Chillygirl]

Sorry to hear that Chilly. You'll get through. We all believe in you.

Thanks! I’ll definitely get over it, lesson learned

 

[LikeableMe]

Oh I messed up bad. Let myself be completely vulnerable and open. Shared pieces of myself I share with no one. Said things that should have been left unspoken. And one day he just walked away without ever looking back. I was devastated. I’ll never trust anyone like that again.

I’m sorry to hear that. Happened to me too. Really hurt, and the distance made it feel impossible to do anything about, to find any comfort.

I think that getting that close to someone online, where two people genuinely are open, honest and vulnerable with each other, takes a greater deal of trust and effort than with someone who is around you in daily life. It can be a lot more intense, in some cases.

I just wish people wouldn’t ghost. I hate that. If someone had enough respect to open up to someone, to support them when they need it, then at least have the same respect to say goodbye. Yes, it will hurt, but at least the person can grieve over the relationship. Ghosting can often bring fleeting moments of hope - and those, added to the not knowing, assuming, often self blaming - often make it a lot more painful than just being honest with someone.

Ghosting really makes me mad.

 

[Chillygirl]

I’m sorry to hear that. Happened to me too. Really hurt, and the distance made it feel impossible to do anything about, to find any comfort.

I think that getting that close to someone online, where two people genuinely are open, honest and vulnerable with each other, takes a greater deal of trust and effort than with someone who is around you in daily life. It can be a lot more intense, in some cases.

I just wish people wouldn’t ghost. I hate that. If someone had enough respect to open up to someone, to support them when they need it, then at least have the same respect to say goodbye. Yes, it will hurt, but at least the person can grieve over the relationship. Ghosting can often bring fleeting moments of hope - and those, added to the not knowing, assuming, often self blaming - often make it a lot more painful than just being honest with someone.

Ghosting really makes me mad.

I don’t like ghosting but I also realize I’m not entitled to anything. I’d like to think a decent person would give me some kind of closure but I recently read something that said closure is fake....you just have to move on. Maybe that’s true too. For what it’s worth it was great while it was great. I grieved and I’m moving on. Lessons were learned.

 

[RVB_1]

Oh I messed up bad. Let myself be completely vulnerable and open. Shared pieces of myself I share with no one. Said things that should have been left unspoken. And one day he just walked away without ever looking back. I was devastated. I’ll never trust anyone like that again.

That does suck.... not in the good way.

Ruins it for everyone.

 

[sally_sparrow]

Oh I messed up bad. Let myself be completely vulnerable and open. Shared pieces of myself I share with no one. Said things that should have been left unspoken. And one day he just walked away without ever looking back. I was devastated. I’ll never trust anyone like that again.

I'm so sorry to hear about this, Chilly

I had very real emotions for someone here for quite a while. I still think about it and wonder if it could have been different, but, a valuable lesson was learned, and I won't get too close like that again.

 

[Bud_Spencer]

Yes, and I totally ruined it myself. She was perfect, as I knew she'd be. I felt I couldn't be what she needed me to be, as much as I wanted, and broke it off. Only after did I ultimately realize what a complete fool I had been, and she had moved on. I was, and am, heartbroken.

 

[Fingerfuxs]

Yes and no , virtually in the moment , Yes. It’s kinda hard to have a interesting banter chat or PM without feeling it in your words. Or reading it in theirs. That motivation is essentially what’s , what and what makes the magic happen. It’s a disservice , and dishonest to just fake it , for faking sake. It’s a two sided conversation , giving and getting what you gave and they got. In the real world , pretty much the same applies too , with the exception that , in our case you have meet us both , together. If that happened you are either a fuck buddie , fellow swinger or treasured unicorn that we have fun with together.

With the written word , the swinger guide book of how to still applies. No means no , no answer is a answer , don’t stick your dick in crazy more the once and lastly don’t catch feelings confusing sex with love. They are two separate emotions , easily confused , but still all the same separate.