Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[Moochienanu]

It certainly wasn’t meant that way, and I’m sorry you inferred it. Maybe because I was replying to a pm here rather than the pm. Maybe that was the mistake because some context is missing. Idk. I’m only speaking from my experience and of course I’m not in her shoes now. I look back from a place of calm. So yes perhaps it does sound patronising. But I have been in Kitten’s shoes (not the heels obviously) and more times than I’d like to admit. Yes Moochie, it does fucking hurt like a twisting knife. It almost destroyed me. But I only got over it when the I began to see the replacements I sought for my lost love as people in their own right with their own thoughts and feelings rather than the ones I was trying to project onto them

TPH has an excellent line in her signature which I’ll paraphrase “I’m not responsible for the person you’ve conceived me to be”

It’s pertinent because we build people up online. We get infatuated when someone sparks our interests, pays us some attention makes us start feeling the validation we seek. It might be the furthest thing from the truth but we hang our star on it because we don’t want it to be any other way.

By way of illustration I’ve fallen for a woman who ticks all my boxes she perfect but she’s a Jordan Peterson addict. I’m still trying to process this because that man has some views that are utterly abhorrent to me. The woman was not who I built her up to be. She’s much more complex and as such more fun. But lesson learned? You bet.

I’m not sure if I’ve made this any clearer, so I’ll stop here.

I’m sorry you read that as “you’re pretty, there’s plenty more fish in the sea” because that’s not what I meant in the slightest. The point was that looking for replacements is not a solution and moving on from that is the next step and I agree with Sassy that it can be as long as it takes.

I think I understand now what you’re trying to say, but I still disagree. It is no solution to simply jump into more relationships after ending one that left your heart broken, which still seems to be what you’re suggesting.

I was trying to point out that it’s okay to grieve the loss of a relationship without “seeing what’s out there” to help fill the void. It’s healthy to need time and put energy into yourself without another person before you “sample some other guys.”

 

[theeonanist]

I think I understand now what you’re trying to say, but I still disagree. It is no solution to simply jump into more relationships after ending one that left your heart broken, which still seems to be what you’re suggesting.

I was trying to point out that it’s okay to grieve the loss of a relationship without “seeing what’s out there” to help fill the void. It’s healthy to need time and put energy into yourself without another person before you “sample some other guys.”

This is where the context would have helped because I’ve understood from conversations with her that she is looking for that next relationship and it was in the context of her not being able to find a suitable partner that I wrote as I wrote.

Anyway I feel I’ve done enough talking in behalf of PiccoloGattina. If I’ve misrepresented or misunderstood PG, please forgive me.

 

[PiccoloGattino]

This is where the context would have helped because I’ve understood from conversations with her that she is looking for that next relationship and it was in the context of her not being able to find a suitable partner that I wrote as I wrote.

Anyway I feel I’ve done enough talking in behalf of PiccoloGattina. If I’ve misrepresented or misunderstood PG, please forgive me.

I think everyone is trying to help. I just feel alone sometime.

 

[PiccoloGattino]

I wish there was some way I could crawl through the screen and give you a long, comforting hug. I care about you very much!

Thanks Bri! You are a doll. I started writing again, I hope it helps.

 

[theeonanist]

I think everyone is trying to help. I just feel alone sometime.

You know you never have to be alone. I know that friendly vibes in your PMs and on the boards will never fill the emptiness you feel but never underestimate the good will you’ve gained from all of us

 

[tigger_lover]

Being a real person bring with it real emotions and finding a connection here naturally stirs further and deeper emotions, unfortunately (and I hate myself for this) sometimes I hide away anxiously from the feelings.

maybe next time instead of hiding away you need to speak to that person and explain you need time out

 

[craig7091]

Yes,,

 

[Dom70]

I think everyone is trying to help. I just feel alone sometime.

I feel that way sometimes too.

 

[13Fantasies]

Of course. I think it's only natural

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Ah ha ha, YES, I have in the past. It was exciting in the beginning, until I realized that it could never go any further than here.

 

[nightop79]

Mmmmhmmmm

 

[cinnamonNY]

Absolutely. Once it gets past a certain point, it’s hard not too care.

 

[jason28053]

Definitely

 

[alexia34]

It’s happened.

 

[birdman01]

It’s happened.

Yes indeed...she has been on vacation for a couple of months and I miss her more than I thought I would.

 

[NC_Coastal]

Thanks Bri! You are a doll. I started writing again, I hope it helps.

Writing helped me, Kitten. It helped me a lot.

 

[AnalCreampieGiver]

Of course. Especially with the people I met the last time I was active here

 

[oneblueye]

NO...

no touch/no connection

 

[AmbrosiaCaress]

I have been lucky enough to make 2 really good friends here on Lit. So good that we are also Facebook friends. One male and one female and ironically, because of their separate friendships with me, they met here thru me, and are now together!!! And I am in the process of making another really good friend...

 

[NC_Coastal]

Mostly empathy with a tinge of sadness.

 

[DarkWarrioress]

I have been lucky enough to make 2 really good friends here on Lit. So good that we are also Facebook friends. One male and one female and ironically, because of their separate friendships with me, they met here thru me, and are now together!!! And I am in the process of making another really good friend...

~runs in and huggles her friend~ And I'm ever thankful for you, Lady.

 

[AmbrosiaCaress]

Luv YOU Bunches DW

 

[LadyElsbeth]

I don’t post often…

But this keeps resonating with me…

Yes, I have felt real emotions for people I have met on Lit. Sometimes it takes a while to develop them, sometimes it burns like a two ended match. Given the mutual circumstances, I don’t have the illusion that things will last forever, but sometimes it feels that way.

Heartache hurts. That’s why it’s called ache. The heart wants what it wants and some times there’s no rhyme nor reason. Not like we have some magic 8 ball that can show us the way - although it WOULD be nice.

Sometimes there is disappointment. I’ve felt it, too. Eventually, I had to consider that maybe it wasn’t me, it was them. Maybe they were incapable of giving more than what they did and didn’t know how to deal with it or speak it out into the universe. Nobody’s perfect. Myself included. Regardless of the outcome, there will be another day, another opportunity to see the sun and be someone else’s sunshine. Who’s to say that the next person won’t be even better, even if we don’t expect it.

Sorry, just felt like letting all that out….

I could not agree more and this is so beautifully written. Love this response.

 

[DarkWarrioress]

Luv YOU Bunches DW

Ditto, AC!!!

 

[saintcero]

Yes, I felt emotions for someone. I know because I was hurt and mad when she ghosted me. I had no illusions about things but I thought we were beyond a simple ghosting