Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[HumpDayHoratio]

I did back on the old AOL chat sites in the ‘90’s when I was deployed. Met three or four good friends but sadly when I redeployed and AOL lost it’s luster we drifted apart.

Too new to this forum to have made any meaningful friends yet.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I do. I made a bunch of good friends on here I feel very strongly about.

 

[elizaloo]

I'm one of those who met their spouse here on Lit - back in '07.....he's been a rock & a keeper over those years for sure.

Since being back after a hiatus, I've talked with a handful of guys that I've connected with - some for a short time, some for much longer and some have become friends. Not love, but certainly a deep emotional bond with them over chat, emails etc.

Not IRL interestingly enough - no one seems interested in meeting up. Back in the day, I met up with several guys from Lit for dinner and entertainment. H and I met as potential lovers and never looked back! LOL

Guys here now are all, "You're too far away" "I'm too busy" - it's all blather....I dunno what motivates them to say, "I'm looking for someone IRL" and then when I call them on it....they run in the opposite direction. Disappointing, because H and I are exploring an open marriage and I am not encumbered in any way. Oh well....

 

[Ingenue844]

Not IRL interestingly enough - no one seems interested in meeting up. Back in the day, I met up with several guys from Lit for dinner and entertainment. H and I met as potential lovers and never looked back! LOL

Guys here now are all, "You're too far away" "I'm too busy" - it's all blather....I dunno what motivates them to say, "I'm looking for someone IRL" and then when I call them on it....they run in the opposite direction. Disappointing, because H and I are exploring an open marriage and I am not encumbered in any way. Oh well....

This. I’m surprised that there aren’t more willing to do IRL. I keep coming back to guys being wired differently. Not needing in person touch or affection.

The guys here want someone to fantasize and jerk off to. They don’t put in any additional effort than that. And even then, many aren’t worth chatting with.

 

[javajug]

This. I’m surprised that there aren’t more willing to do IRL. I keep coming back to guys being wired differently. Not needing in person touch or affection.

The guys here want someone to fantasize and jerk off to. They don’t put in any additional effort than that. And even then, many aren’t worth chatting with.

Interesting. I've met someone from here IRL. And also a couple from FetLife. I'm surprised guys aren't willing to put in the time and effort. I've found it to be super great.

 

[elizaloo]

This. I’m surprised that there aren’t more willing to do IRL. I keep coming back to guys being wired differently. Not needing in person touch or affection.

I'm completely shocked myself.....all I can do is say, "hey, we've connected, let's see if it goes somewhere."

The guys here want someone to fantasize and jerk off to. They don’t put in any additional effort than that. And even then, many aren’t worth chatting with.

There are definitely plenty of those....and I avoid them like the plague. If you only want sex chat, I'm not your girl. I prefer to get to know who you are as a person, and then I'm happy to utilize my significant erotic chat abilities. Just STOP saying, "If only you lived closer" "Come meet me/don't come" /panic -running away screaming. Let's all at least TRY to be adults! LOL

 

[Thunderbear]

I should hope so, since I married her.

 

[javajug]

Disappointing, because H and I are exploring an open marriage and I am not encumbered in any way. Oh well....

The couple I met have been absolutely wonderful. Sometimes the husband is involved. Sometimes he's just present and documenting. The open marriage thing is kind of magical.

 

[colorfulnayyy]

Yes and no. Sexually yes, but nothing will go past a screen…no because they don’t know the real me…

 

[Kioti3510]

I have been perfectly clear, from the first time I chat with someone, that I am looking for a friend with benefits. So far that has not occurred. Some play the game very well up front and then either ghost, make up some BS reason not to talk any longer, want only to do online or roleplay, or want more than I can give relationship wise. I don't lie about my age, race, location, interests, relationship status, or anything else. If I'm not interested I straight up say so and wish whoever I was talking to well and hopefully we part friends. Sad so many others seem just to be here to be pretenders and collect names of those they play with.

It is entirely possible to make a real and true emotional committment with someone on Lit. I did it many years ago and we are still together. But it seems times and people have changed and not many actually want to meet IRL anymore.

 

[sixfoot4]

Yes, unfortunately. I think it's impossible not to if you talk to someone long enough and your sex play is compatible.

Agreed, that's where I am.

 

[Photog1rl]

I have. We are very far apart geographically so I doubt we’ll ever meet irl but the fantasies about what would happen if we did are super hot.

 

[AllAmericanMale]

I have. I suspect that's true for most, especially if they interact often and for an extended length of time. Camaraderie translates into catching feelings.

 

[WSM98]

Yes, having real emotions for people I've only met virtually is how I can be authentically me.

 

[Hodes101]

Once, whe she ghosted me. Her voice messages were the highlight of my day. I think I scared her off, so my own fault really. But you can't help that butterfly feeling inside, when that person just makes you physically smile

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

Once, whe she ghosted me. Her voice messages were the highlight of my day. I think I scared her off, so my own fault really. But you can't help that butterfly feeling inside, when that person just makes you physically smile

I'm sorry that this happened to you. I had an online relationship with somebody I met here. We had talked everyday for 2 years and I really thought something was going to happen. I mean I was planning and everything. She called me one morning and I told her I'd call her back. She never answered again. That was the last time I talked to her. I do miss those butterflies.

 

[jerryb1966]

I fell hard for a babygirl in her late 20s and me 54 at the time. The phone sex was amazing, our conversations were deep and we both fell for each other. She wanted when I couldn’t give her, marriage and kids. We became friends and we are friends to this day.

 

[cole4258]

Of course and made some really good friends

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

Yes, definitely

 

[JessGabriel]

Oh yes. I've been burned but also loved. I've learned some hard lessons and how to protect myself, but also how to open myself up more.

 

[Polranny]

Made many friends, ghosted by a few, but it's generally Pretty good

 

[LustyScribe]

Absolutely. And I don't regret it, even the ones that basically just disappear. It's MY choice to care about people, and I rarely ever regret that.

 

[Polranny]

Absolutely. And I don't regret it, even the ones that basically just disappear. It's MY choice to care about people, and I rarely ever regret that.

Agree 100%.

 

[Sundayschild]

Very much so.

 

[saintcero]

Yep. I cared and twice now I got ghosted. There might be a good reason for it or maybe there isn’t. I won’t change though