Do you ever feel real emotions for someone you've met on here?

[Pelhamlooking]

It’s so easy to open up to a stranger behind a screen. With opening up you let yourself get vulnerable and let your guard down. The excitement of someone enjoying conversation and distracting you from the problems and worries of everyday life becomes meaningful. Then when it ends, it hurts. Sometimes for a very long time. Never have regretted a moment of it, just wished it lasted longer at times.

 

[ccs29745]

Thanks for the input y'all

 

[IrishStarlight]

Since I posted here last it happened to me again! He said it was getting "too good" between us and we were getting "too close". Sigh...actually don't know what to do now.. just hurts alot.

 

[PearlyDewdrops]

I could but I I know the signs and won't

The TLDR answer:

Not on Lit because I haven't let it happen and stay remote. But there are some women on here who have life experience and ways with images and words I find so attractive.

Three times I have fallen hard for someone in the virtual world and they for me. While two of those remain good friends, it was never the same once we admitted our online world was affecting our real-life loving. In all cases, the reason we had found each other online was that our real life world and loves had turned drab.

We don't regret anything though as we learnt so much and the pleasures and fantasies led to moments of ecstasy, eventually helping in our normal lives although they nearly fucked us up first.

However, my first online falling was exactly that. Such a mess. It never occurred to me that another could become jealous of my online flirting and real-life loving. Phrases like micro cheating didn't even exist back then but the despair, depression, desolation were as real as if we had been leaving sheets stained and soaked with sweat in full-blooded, illicit passion. Talk about being deluded and in denial, well, that was us.

I need the physical. Scent, touch, presence, falling to sleep with limbs entwined, the sound of a lover's contented breathing, making and sharing breakfast, holidaying and going on trips and journeys together...

Online can be perfectly edited but I like real world grit even when it's a pain.

 

[Cherry_Brandy]

I could but I I know the signs and won't

The TLDR answer:

Not on Lit because I haven't let it happen and stay remote. But there are some women on here who have life experience and ways with images and words I find so attractive.

Three times I have fallen hard for someone in the virtual world and they for me. While two of those remain good friends, it was never the same once we admitted our online world was affecting our real-life loving. In all cases, the reason we had found each other online was that our real life world and loves had turned drab.

We don't regret anything though as we learnt so much and the pleasures and fantasies led to moments of ecstasy, eventually helping in our normal lives although they nearly fucked us up first.

However, my first online falling was exactly that. Such a mess. It never occurred to me that another could become jealous of my online flirting and real-life loving. Phrases like micro cheating didn't even exist back then but the despair, depression, desolation were as real as if we had been leaving sheets stained and soaked with sweat in full-blooded, illicit passion. Talk about being deluded and in denial, well, that was us.

I need the physical. Scent, touch, presence, falling to sleep with limbs entwined, the sound of a lover's contented breathing, making and sharing breakfast, holidaying and going on trips and journeys together...

Online can be perfectly edited but I like real world grit even when it's a pain.

I agree with much of this. There are wonderful men on here, so wonderful that they just highlight what's missing in real life. Them being in pixel form is the equivalent of giving me the best cake recipe in the world, including the pictures that make my mouth water and all the ingredients but no oven to bake it in. It's a modern form of torture!

I kinda envy those who can have fulfillment from pixels and LDR's.

 

[Lmizzler]

How can you not?!?!

 

[Lmizzler]

I think some people have a shut off. Like if I talk to someone about personal things and not just sex it makes it much harder, but if the conversation is strictly about naughty stuff it's easier not to get attached. Just my opion.

Very true. I guess I struggle to separate out the two things.

 

[PearlyDewdrops]

I agree with much of this. There are wonderful men on here, so wonderful that they just highlight what's missing in real life. Them being in pixel form is the equivalent of giving me the best cake recipe in the world, including the pictures that make my mouth water and all the ingredients but no oven to bake it in. It's a modern form of torture!

I kinda envy those who can have fulfillment from pixels and LDR's.

Yes. For me Lit can be an hors d'oeuvre, but I want to indulge all the senses.

 

[DirtyMarine]

100%

 

[spankableBelle]

Yes. Completely.

 

[Vivacious_in_the_TxHills]

Yes and still do.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Yes, and I'm still trying to define it, label it, put it in a neat box so I can find a way to be more at peace with it...

 

[ccs29745]

Yes and still am. Not sure why. They are fun to talk with on here and get my mind off of things most times.

 

[Cernunnos69]

I have for sure. Deep emotions felt and it seems to be like clockwork that they either ghost me or push me away. It hurts like a bitch. The not knowing is what kills me the most. I can handle the truth, if you need to not talk to me anymore, just tell me. So hurtful... But... What can ya do?

Yes, the ghosting on here has been almost 100%! Very hurtful for sure. I may take a hiatus from Lit for awhile, haven't had much luck recently connecting for a long-term frequent interaction with a real woman. Lots of fakers on here, seems like a lot of the women are men psoing as women, or women using a totally fictitious persona. And with AI it will only get worse!! Ahhh the good old days . . .

 

[ccs29745]

Everyday

 

[LikeitLikeThat69]

We’re only human, so feelings when sharing things so personal, feelings are bound to happen.

 

[Photog1rl]

100% but I did not expect it.
I think I have felt all the feelings for people on here. I try to separate but I can't. There are people I consider real true friends.
I've had my feelings hurt and my heart crushed(I would not say I was in love with the person but the crush was strong and the ending painful). I've felt seen and understood in ways I haven't before I've had misunderstandings and resolved them (most anyway ) and I've been able to be silly and laugh and have fun.
Lit, while “just” an online sex site brings people together and allows for deep and meaningful connections.
I do try to guard my feelings and am slow toiendships friendships or more because I know it will impact me.

 

[DayDreaming2407]

I've had my feelings hurt and my heart crushed(I would not say I was in love with the person but the crush was strong and the ending painful).

I hate this feeling so much. I try to avoid it and it never fails to happen again. I feel like the only way to avoid it is to just stop responding to people when they reach out. it sucks.

 

[SubzeroGirl]

Yep

 

[RideFl71]

Very much so.. ❤

 

[wildcard34]

I have and I would like to believe that it was and possibly still is a friendship if nothing else!

 

[LikeitLikeThat69]

100% but I did not expect it.

I've had my feelings hurt and my heart crushed(I would not say I was in love with the person but the crush was strong and the ending painful). I've felt seen and understood in ways I haven't before I've had misunderstandings and resolved them (most anyway ) and I've been able to be silly and laugh and have fun.

I feel this in my core.
I just recently had a huge crush with very real feelings that just ended and it hurts like a freaking legit break up.

I set boundaries and I did really good at following them but this guy somehow got to me and I lowered my guard against better judgement. But I’ve also made so really great online friends.

This is a crazy place to be, but I’m comfortable here.

 

[Gentledom45]

Yes and when I said something to her I got ghosted and she started looking elsewhere on Lit

 

[ccs29745]

Yes and she has stopped talking to me. Any other ladies want conversation and someone they can unload on and not feel weird cause a stranger wants to know how you're doing or how you day went.

 

[Bbl87]

I've had stronger feelings than I should have let myself have at one point. Haven't talked in forever, but still care about her and hope she's doing well.

My closest friend here, we've both used the term love but it's not love in a traditional sense. It's more of a really good friends who also find each other incredibly sexy kind of thing. Neither of us wants to leave our current situation or has any aspirations or fantasies of ending up together, but we get along very well and think each other are awesome. Not sure exactly how most would define that, but is what it is.