Do you tell your lover when you're cumming?

[vibes]

Usually there is some sort of agreement as to where ...

 

[Bigspurt]

After 45 plus years we don't have to tell each other. She never blows me to an orgasm so it's not an issue to warn her. Occasionally I will ooze some semen with out the typical contractions and I will not warn her about that in advance. It usually ends the event but I don't care. She got a taste. Maybe some day she will get used to it.

 

[eroticspank]

if someone is kind enough to give you a BJ you have to give her a warning. Hopefully she starts suoking harder. it has been a long time since I have had to give that warning.

I had a gf that loved giving BJs. I had to warn her when I was getting close because she would get carried away and I would cum before I wanted to. Most of the time she would stop when I warned her and we would have intense intercourse. However, sometimes she just liked to make me cum even when I asked her to stop. She seemed to like my loss of control and loved my taste. And I think she did it when she didn't want to fuck because I was usually out for an hour or two after.
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[eroticspank]

I also enjoy it when a woman announces her orgasm during cunnilingus!

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[MaryanneB]

I think the grunts, groans and Oh!Gods are a subtle hint to him. His eyeballs rolling up in his head show me.

 

[AchtungNight]

It varies by the orgasm. Some are more intense than others. Sometimes a quiet orgasm or a dry one can go unnoticed and my partner doesn’t care. Sometimes I overact an orgasm to get my partner excited- haven’t been accused of faking yet! Overactive imagination and fondness for quoting movies has played a role in this. And yes, it’s come out in my writing too.

 

[eroticspank]

I get that in some cases trying to announce the exact point of orgasm can lead to distraction and in some cases a less intense explosion.

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[eroticspank]

I get that in some cases trying to announce the exact point of orgasm can lead to distraction and in some cases a less intense explosion.

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However, in my case, my own announcement usually tends to make my orgasm more intense because it is a turn-on. It is a big turn-on for me to hear my lady announce her orgasm and when it is my turn, it is hard to explain why, but, in most cases, it is a turn-on for me to announce it. Proper breathing is also important at that moment.
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[gtnlynn]

I don't tell her, and it is quite obvious when she is having an orgasm. It is a whole body experience.

 

[StaciRay79]

I've always been vocal - doesn't mean that the words coming out of my mouth make any sense at that critical moment though! LOL

Yes, I do tell them how they make me feel, when something feels good, what I need them to do, and when I'm close...I let them know I'm about to orgasm.

 

[tristantrotsky]

I also enjoy it when a woman announces her orgasm during cunnilingus!

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It's difficult to avoid knowing when she's cumming when her pussy is convulsing in your face...

 

[eroticspank]

It's difficult to avoid knowing when she's cumming when her pussy is convulsing in your face...

That is funny! Yes, I get it. A squirt, fluid flowing, or her arching her back can all be obvious indications. I still like to hear the words. It is like a type of surrender.

To clarify, that does not mean that if the woman I am giving oral cums on my face without saying anything I am upset or not aroused. I think it is wonderful. And even though this thread mentions telling your lover when you are cumming, that does not mean she has to say those exact words--at least in my mind. There are many phrases that are just as erotic and get the point across.
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[cheney_dude_2022]

I think the grunts, groans and Oh!Gods are a subtle hint to him. His eyeballs rolling up in his head show me.

My ex-gf would have a slight grunt or groan, then a smile from ear to ear would be on her face. Almost a total 180 degree from my grunts and groans, then "Fuck yeah!!" as I pump her pussy full of my cum.

 

[eroticspank]

I had a dominant girlfriend who liked to make me look into her eyes as I came. They say the eyes are the window to the soul and I felt like she was going deep inside me and taking a photo.

I had to tell her when I was close and then tell her when I was cumming. She put her face a few inches from mine and commanded me to keep my eyes open and look into her eyes as I came. It was very intense and I only did a few times. I didn't like being so open to her, almost humiliating. But it really turned her on and I was usually giving her very wet pussy cunnilingus or fucking right after.
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[mpeters]

Right now I haven’t a partner, but I suppose I could tell myself, but I already know!

 

[Crownvic]

Love to call her name as I am ready to blow...

 

[Kitty_so_frisky]

Depends on the medium, I guess. I’m verrry vocal, so if it’s in-person, video or voice chat, there’s usually no need unless I’m having multiple orgasms that roll into each other…which does happen! If we’re just sexting, I’ll usually tell him, or sometimes send an audio clip.

Ex-BF liked me to say “I’m your little slut” while cumming. It did get a little awkward when we were broken up and still fucking for a couple months while I was preparing to move back across the country though. I wasn’t “his” little slut anymore and didn’t know what to say the first time he made me cum post-breakup

 

[morelikeasong]

I will usually announce when I’m close. I don’t think I often say when it’s happening because I’m so focused on getting there but maybe that would be a fun way to switch it up

 

[eroticspank]

Love to call her name as I am ready to blow...

I bet she loves that!

 

[Crownvic]

I bet she loves that!

That’s the hot button...for her...makes her crazy...

 

[eroticspank]

Depends on the medium, I guess. I’m verrry vocal, so if it’s in-person, video or voice chat, there’s usually no need unless I’m having multiple orgasms that roll into each other…which does happen! If we’re just sexting, I’ll usually tell him, or sometimes send an audio clip.

Ex-BF liked me to say “I’m your little slut” while cumming. It did get a little awkward when we were broken up and still fucking for a couple months while I was preparing to move back across the country though. I wasn’t “his” little slut anymore and didn’t know what to say the first time he made me cum post-breakup

That is really funny especially if you didn't think about it ahead of time and started cumming about to say your usual phrase...and went silent or put the word "not" in there!
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[Kitty_so_frisky]

That is really funny especially if you didn't think about it ahead of time and started cumming about to say your usual phrase...and went silent or put the word "not" in there!
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I remember the sudden confusion more than what I actually ended up saying. Was probably just an “I’m…cumming”

 

[IARainman]

Don’t have a lover IRL, it would be kinda weird to tell Myself. (I guess that’s the old “left hand knowing what the right hands doing” thing

Online, it’s the only way to know your partner is done.

 

[eroticspank]

I remember the sudden confusion more than what I actually ended up saying. Was probably just an “I’m…cumming”

That makes perfect sense and would have been my guess of what you said. "I'm" comes out but before you say your slut, there is a pause, and "cumming" comes out. I find this kind of thing really hot especially when included in a story. The pre and post-orgasm thoughts and feelings. Sex with an ex can have a lot of feelings and sexual energy.
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[eroticspank]

I remember years ago I helped a lady find her purse. We had met at a bar and on the way home--we shared a cab--she could not find her purse. We went back to the bar and I found it under a bar stool.

She was very happy and thankful. I was staying at a campsite in tent with several tents nearby. She insisted on coming out to my tent and we started kissing passionately. She pulled down my pants and began giving me a BJ. I tried to take her top off but she just undid her bra. I played with her tits and I was getting close to orgasm. I told her I was getting close but she continued. I asked her to stop because I wanted to fuck her. She pushed my hands away and grabbed my balls fondling them. I could not hold back any longer and my pleas for her to stop ended with my intense orgasm in her mouth.

She moaned like she just had a very tasty drink and continued sucking until every drop was gone and my dick was limp. She put her bra back on, adjusted her clothes, and left the tent. She said thank you again for finding her purse and as I looked past her the cab was waiting for her on the street.
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