Does age matter?

[Seduce]

That's how I look at it. 14 or 16 is about right.

Do you have any kids of your own?

 

[Aeroil]

you're seriously the cutest fellow on the planet and i heart you immensely

Thanks, And you're the sweetest person I know .


....oh dear now we've managed to drag our little argument out onto the field

 

[Xelebes]

I doubt you would have any intensions if you met her. She is so much a true Scorpio, poisonous and sharp, that you would probably think you met some sort of lethal weapon and not a young girl.

And I doubt much more she would have any intentions towards you...... you are not her type.

*Ahem*

*blinks shyly*

 

[Xelebes]

Do you have any kids of your own?

No, but to think that they should be denied it is simply intrusive of the personal life. Done with malicious intent should be prosecuted, definitely. Done with honest intent should not be persecuted. 14 and 16 is about right. I'd probably be the same when it comes about time for me to rear my children. Paying attention to the children as a parent is probably the best way to stave off shady characters whom you do not trust.

 

[marieR19]

Definately have to put my two cents in here. I just turned 18 on the 3rd, so just over a week ago. Age of consent here is 18. I envy all those people in places where it's lower. But honestly, being totally subjective about it, I think age shouldn't be a problem as long as both people are rational about it, want it, know what they're getting into, etc. Safe, sane, consentual, is what I've heard. I've never had any actual bdsm experiances, my mom definately does not know I'm into that, but that hasn't stopped her from threatening to call the police on two of the women I've dated. And there was no good reason at all, truthfully, except that she hated them. Honestly. My ex and I used to get in a lot of fights over the phone and stuff, and mom hated that (even tho hetro couples get in emotional fights too), and awhile after we broke up I finally found out that mom had threatened her more then a few times, saying she would put her in jail. Same with my current gf... She came to visit and mom would go nuts when we made any physical contact whatsoever, we certainly didn't do anything more then hug in her presence, but she ended up threatening jail a few times anyways. I know it's different for everyone, but for me it's mainly that my mom is so damn overprotective, plus she hates that I'm gay in the first place. But anyways. Both my ex and my current gf are very wonderful people, yeah there are/were fights and crying and stuff, but that's normal in any relationship, and I honestly do not notice any difference, anything that is different with these relationships, just because they are older and I was a minor at the time.

Marie

 

[Seduce]

No, but to think that they should be denied it is simply intrusive of the personal life. Done with malicious intent should be prosecuted, definitely. Done with honest intent should not be persecuted. 14 and 16 is about right. I'd probably be the same when it comes about time for me to rear my children. Paying attention to the children as a parent is probably the best way to stave off shady characters whom you do not trust.

I agree with that.
Parents do tend to be overprotective about their kids you know.

I would grant my younger girl anything she finds suitable since she was 13 really.

But I would not grant the older one just anything even now when she is 18. They are very different types. So I guess the age doesnt mean much.
It is just the idea of my babies involved in "adult" activities that is a bit of shocking. They grow up too fast......

 

[luxey313]

At 24, it is not age that makes me think that they could not be a great Dom, it is just the fact that I am physically and mentally attracted to older men.

 

[Xelebes]

I agree with that.
Parents do tend to be overprotective about their kids you know.

I would grant my younger girl anything she finds suitable since she was 13 really.

But I would not grant the older one just anything even now when she is 18. They are very different types. So I guess the age doesnt mean much.
It is just the idea of my babies involved in "adult" activities that is a bit of shocking. They grow up too fast......

Very true. My mom is slowly getting to feel the empty nest syndrome now that my youngest brother (she has had six children) is just now in high school. Too fast for her but right now she is eagerly awaiting grandchildren from my older siblings.

 

[Marquis]

I doubt you would have any intensions if you met her. She is so much a true Scorpio, poisonous and sharp, that you would probably think you met some sort of lethal weapon and not a young girl.

One of my subs is a Scorpio. The vicious personality is usually subdued by the ravenous sexuality.

And I doubt much more she would have any intentions towards you...... you are not her type.

I wouldn't bet too much money on that.

 

[Seduce]

One of my subs is a Scorpio. The vicious personality is usually subdued by the ravenous sexuality.
I wouldn't bet too much money on that.

My dear, I know my kid. She gets into pretty sadistic mood around boys, and I never noticed any little sign of opposite behaviour.
As a matter of fact she is lot like her Mom used to be at her age, and trust me, you dont want to mess with that kind.

 

[FurryFury]

Fury's POV Re: Age and sex.

As a mother of two, who are now getting to the age they think about sex a lot, I have a whole 'nother view.

I have made it very clear to them, that their father and I, have no problem with them looking at any materials they want to, masturbating or what have you. With the caveats that they do it only because they WANT to, not because they were pressured into it and so on. That they do not flaunt it meaning, if you are wanking go behind closed doors. And especially that they engage in "safe sex," should they start having it.

I and many of my girl friends were raised with the "don't do it until you marry and/or are in love. If you do you are a bad girl. If you prepare, (i.e. do safe sex), you are bad. You will know when the right time is. Don't look down there, don't think about it" philosophy. That was the talk we got and let me tell you, it really lead to some BAD life choices.

I sincerely wish to give my kids a healthier start in life. They have been taught how to use an condom and they know where they are.

They each have a book about their bodies and sex.

They know they can talk to me or their father at any time about anything.

Even if they mess up they know that while we will be angry and disappointed, we will be there for them. We will help them figure out how to deal with whatever problem they created. They will have to do the work and own up to it though.

I don't care if they turn out to be into BDSM, Gay, Bi or Nilla or most anything. It would probably bug me if they were asexual, a little.

Otherwise as long as they don't get involved with abusers, exhibit self destructive behavior to an extreme, become addicts or Jesus freaks then I'm fine with their choices.

That is my point of view.

(Prepares marshmallows on a stick and waits for flamings.)

Fury

 

[canadiancutie]

Thanks, And you're the sweetest person I know .


....oh dear now we've managed to drag our little argument out onto the field

please continue to exist

 

[MechaBlade]

I have dominated an older woman. She took to it naturally.

I think natural subs should have no trouble submitting to younger Dom/mes.

 

[canadiancutie]

I have dominated an older woman. She took to it naturally.

I think natural subs should have no trouble submitting to younger Dom/mes.

Well, depends. if you're my age, submitting to someone more than a year younger would be...kind of eerie. Actually, dominating someone more than a year younger would probably be equally as eerie.

 

[MechaBlade]

Well, depends. if you're my age, submitting to someone more than a year younger would be...kind of eerie. Actually, dominating someone more than a year younger would probably be equally as eerie.

Wait, how old are you?

 

[Marquis]

Wait, how old are you?

Not even old enough to speak to you.

 

[canadiancutie]

Wait, how old are you?

I turned 18 March 30th

 

[Seduce]

I turned 18 March 30th

3 weeks younger than my older one......
You guys better watch your behaviour

And just to give my opinion on the topic - I think that age does matter. I dont find much younger men interesting for anything, maybe only some conversation. And I dont care for much older ones, they are too patronizing.

10 years plus or minus in my age doesnt mean much, and with those people I can talk or anything else as my equals. We share the similar memories about the past and similar worries about the present.

 

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[esclave_PP]

I'm looking for anyone's opinion on this. I'm 22 and a dom, and are having trouble finding a sub, partly because many ask for older men. So I'm putting this question out there for everyone that wants to answer, could you be submissive to a younger person? Could you be dominant to an older person?

No I couldn't. All of my Dom/mes have been significantly older than I by at least 20 years in some instances. I think perhaps even if you are very experienced, you're still not going to be perceived as such mostly due to your age. While this might not be fair, it generally is what happens. Females typically want someone with a lot of experience under their belt because of safety issues as well as at least the perception of great vast amounts of experience under the belt, or weilding the belt as the case may be.

Best of luck! Try collerme.com -- it seems to have worked for several here.

 

[princess4u]

Best of luck! Try collerme.com -- it seems to have worked for several here.

it worked 4 me

 

[MechaBlade]

18

We're talking about legal sex between adults.

 

[TaintedB]

We're talking about legal sex between adults.

LOL, we just had this conversation in another thread (or maybe it was in this thread). Where she hails from, she was legal four years ago.

 

[shy slave]

I can and do submit to a pair of younger Dommes, 10 and 12 years my junior, and even though I thought my first real Domme would be my age (37) or older, fate has decreed that not be the case.

I've been SweetDommes's submissive for 18 months now, and the plan is for me to marry Miss Holly this september.

Thats wonderful

Congratulations to all of you

 

[shy slave]

As a mother of boys

HI Seduce
I was so pleased to read your protective and honest thoughts about your teenage girls.

My son turned 18 earlier this year.
He was seeing a 15 yr old girl for several months during last year and part of this year.
Legal age in UK is 16 yrs anything else can be considered stat rape.

My issue was with her parents. They allowed him to stay over at her house every saturday night.
This really bothered me a great deal from a legal viewpoint. If the realtionship ended (which it did earlier this year...briefly) whats to stop her parents reporting him for rape yet they allowed him to stay
I spoke to my son about this on many occassions but he just said I was overreacting...maybe I was, but its all ok until something goes wrong. How do I know that the parents will not feel aggrieved once the relationship is over.

Once I had voiced my concerns to him I did not go on about it, but it did affect the relationship i had with him as the gf did not want to be in my home...ever.

They split up and are now back together, call me a cynic but they split after valentines and reunited just before her 16th birthday (presents anyone ).

The gf does seem ok as a person, although my younger son says his brother only sees one side of her.

Now I have other concerns: My 18yr old told me that his gf mum came into the bedroom when he has half naked (bottom half) smiled, looked and said 'Hi' before leaving.
He has not expressed direct concern at this but my mind is creating all kinds of things as to why/what etc.

Maybe I am overreacting, I do have a talent for it, but I really wish he would find somebody slightly older.

The idea of him being ogled by his gf mother may be some peoples fantasy but frankly I want to go and scream, rage, poke her eyes out etc etc etc

Sometimes I think it was easier when they were little kids saying 'why, why' why, every five minutes.

________

Does age matter?
I have never been with any one younger than me, most have been at least 10 yrs older, Andante is only six years older than me.
I guess that means I am either growing up or changing my bounderies to make sure they don't have false teeth and a walking frame