Does anyone here have a hard time getting laid?

[followmenow6969]

Approaching my fourth year... of not getting laid.

Hubby and I volunteer to break your Dry streak

 

[pfflyerhot]

you probably aren't getting out and letting guys talk to you. From everything I know, i certainly whould make a pass.

Small town. That's most of my problem...

 

[L8tnIt]

Small does become an issue...
Small windows of opportunity,
Small quarters,
Small- I think you get the point

 

[Misshotndeep]

Getting laid is not the issue, its finding partners that actually excite me and are interested in exploring some of the same things I am….thats the issue.

Tell me about it.

Small does become an issue...
Small windows of opportunity,
Small quarters,
Small- I think you get the point

It's not the size of the boat. It's the motion in the ocean that counts.

 

[cryingalien]

Tell me about it.



It's not the size of the boat. It's the motion in the ocean that counts.

Really?

 

[Misshotndeep]

Really?

Yeah really. A lot of gals are supposed size queens. But when presented with a bull they can't handle it. A lot of bulls think their size makes them a good lover and just saw in and out. Stamina matters to. As does technique. A 6" man can move about and drive it harder than 9" man. Mr. 9" has to be careful of hurting his partner if he goes to deep. And really it's the thickness that makes it better in my opinion. Nothing like being stretched and feeling a lovers piece rubbing the inner walls.

 

[ncseeker]

I have given up on getting laid, I think.

I seem to have a problem of hooking up with women who are frigid or rigid in their views of sex.

Long term relationships with women who seem utterly scared of expressing themselves in bed, to the point where it starts making me wonder about my own sensuality.

I'm not some freaky guy in the bedroom, actually pretty vanilla, but I seem to always find the women with baggage, who are afraid to leave the lights on, so to speak.

The last relationship, I couldn't even get her on top. Too shy and self-conscious to even go that route.

I know it sounds petty and selfish to focus on such things, but they do add up over time and take away from a relationship, from one's self-worth.

I'm afraid I have given up lately.

 

[Misshotndeep]

I have given up on getting laid, I think.

I seem to have a problem of hooking up with women who are frigid or rigid in their views of sex.

Long term relationships with women who seem utterly scared of expressing themselves in bed, to the point where it starts making me wonder about my own sensuality.

I'm not some freaky guy in the bedroom, actually pretty vanilla, but I seem to always find the women with baggage, who are afraid to leave the lights on, so to speak.

The last relationship, I couldn't even get her on top. Too shy and self-conscious to even go that route.

I know it sounds petty and selfish to focus on such things, but they do add up over time and take away from a relationship, from one's self-worth.

I'm afraid I have given up lately.

Sounds to me like you have just been fishing in the wrong pond. And it's not selfish to have desires and wants. Maybe you should look at what attracts you to those kinds of women and look for something different. Change up your preferences. Maybe find someone you would not normally date.

 

[ncseeker]

Sounds to me like you have just been fishing in the wrong pond. And it's not selfish to have desires and wants. Maybe you should look at what attracts you to those kinds of women and look for something different. Change up your preferences. Maybe find someone you would not normally date.

I'm probably going to say what you already know...what we know...but, you're pretty much right.

I'm not only fishing in the wrong pond, I should be out on the raging ocean.

Of course, the biggest hurdle is not finding someone out of my comfort zone, but finding myself out of said comfort zone.

Thanks for the feedback. I'll thank you even more if I could ever work up the courage to practice your wisdom.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

A 6" man can move about and drive it harder than 9" man. .

should we test that theory?

 

[suckonsimon]

should we test that theory?

Nice one Maniac ... and it's a darn cert you'll prove it true.

 

[whynotjustsayit]

no i wasn't talking about doing things with prostitutes, my take on that is if i have to pay for a woman to have sex with me, she doesn't wanna have sex with me and i don't wanna have sex with someone that doesn't wanna have sex with me.


i just don't really know what to do anymore, the cycle just continues like I don't have a say on anything that happens.

Nobody is so powerless that they have absolutely no say in what happens in their own lives. Bad stuff happens, surely. But it's your choice how to react to it. Or whether or not to change it. Period.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Believe Me I've Been Trying To Change Things

 

[IntmtStrngr]

...

hell yeah I have a hard time getting laid and I'm married.
I had to wait two days this last time and I was ficking to lose my mind.
And my door swings both ways.

 

[absorb]

Yes, my husband is working all the time and with family issues it seems to be once a week if that. Sometimes, only twice a month. I feel like it is really hard to get him to feel in the mood. Then to keep it not so quick. So, yes the answer is it is hard to get laid even married.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

Yes, my husband is working all the time and with family issues it seems to be once a week if that. Sometimes, only twice a month. I feel like it is really hard to get him to feel in the mood. Then to keep it not so quick. So, yes the answer is it is hard to get laid even married.

Twice a month isn't so bad is it?


i'm 30 years old and I've only ever been laid twice


I think you are doing alright

 

[AltruisticDelights]

I will say it again. Self confidence goes a long way in attracting partners. It's genetic to look for the strongest, most confidant and hormone producing partner. You want more ass. Fake it till you make it! Get out, smile, wink and flirt. It may take some time but the best things come to those who are persistent. Look at flirting as you would any skill. The more you do it the better you will get. Take cues from those around you. Watch body language. But don't complain if you won't do the work and expect instant gratification. It's not how the game is played...and it is a game.

My awkward shy nerdy approach seems to work too. I definitely am pretty good at reading people, but I'm too old to pretend to be someone I'm not.

 

[Kitty]

Just curious.


It seems some have no issues at all having casual sex, unlike myself.

It's strange how open you are about your troubles.

Almost as if, you want a promiscuous woman to just offer herself to you, heroically of course.

 

[funluvinaj]

Ha! I can't even get a date, much less progress past that. Has always been that way for me...

Ditto.

 

[pfflyerhot]

A-Ha ha ha...

ha ha ha ha ha... Guaranteed... I've already posted in this thread. Guaranteed.
Although, I've learned from being here, it's not simply a "lay" I desire... or require, or need. I need more. I could, hands down, "get laid" this week if that's all I wanted... tomorrow... hell, tonight, even.
But, nah...

 

[funluvinaj]

ha ha ha ha ha... Guaranteed... I've already posted in this thread. Guaranteed.
Although, I've learned from being here, it's not simply a "lay" I desire... or require, or need. I need more. I could, hands down, "get laid" this week if that's all I wanted... tomorrow... hell, tonight, even.
But, nah...

Yeah. I just realized this about me too. So I suspect there'll be even less then there was last year. I'm okay with where I am.

 

[SherlockianMan]

All the time, and sadly, I'm married.

 

[Wolfias]

Having Muscular Dystrophy bed bound on a ventilator it's impossible.

 

[Lovely2222]

ha ha ha ha ha... Guaranteed... I've already posted in this thread. Guaranteed.
Although, I've learned from being here, it's not simply a "lay" I desire... or require, or need. I need more. I could, hands down, "get laid" this week if that's all I wanted... tomorrow... hell, tonight, even.
But, nah...

Getting laid is not the issue, its finding partners that actually excite me and are interested in exploring some of the same things I am….thats the issue.

Agreed. No sex is better than bad sex. Sex with the right partner, with the right 'connection' is mind blowing.

MM.. You will get there.

 

[SweetSam42]

I have trouble all the time. Last time I asked, he asked me "are you trimmed?" Um. Really?

No sex is better than bad sex.

You can say that again.