Dom/me "Thought of the Day" calendar

[AngelicAssassin]

November 13

The hairy bloke named Skip I must say is close. I have seen dead people, been in fires, explosions (small) crawled in the dark under floors, worked in small confined spaces. Being alone doesn't worry me. Mayhap my lady I am just not sufficiently imaginative. Also the terrorist thing being English we have had it with the Irish for 40 years of bombs in pubs etc so no not terrorists ... Incubus_Dark thank you for setting a question which at least made me think long and hard.

Bachlum Chaam

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 14

For me it black hairy spiders, though I like the little jumping spider kind as long as they stay small. This is probably an irrational fear though we have innumerable red backs (Fung's Australian Black Widows) and Funnel Webs (which make Black Widows look like cudly little critters in both looks and lethality). I also have a distaste of crowds, probably not really strong enough to be a fear. And too, I dislike clowns. This was a phobia in childhood but has degenerated into an active dislike; after all, I consider that I could probably out fight, or if need be, out run anybody in 2 foot pom pom shoes and oil paint.

incubus_dark

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 15

I know there is no perfect sub and everytime I find one that I know would fit the mold fate steps in. I have been blessed with good subs, but not exquisite ones. The latest that I had started to take under My wing was truly exceptional, in every area, she was a newbie and yet had the desire and aspiration to please Me at every turn. So I suppose My fear revolves around her fleeing completely and Me being left out in the open minus a friend and a sub.

Master_Vassago

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 16

That one brings to mind one I've always noticed in me. "If at first you don't succeed, read the instructions." I can usually make something work with out the instructions. I like the challenge of finding all of the parts and seeing what fits into what.

And, this kind of equates to what I like about me, women and sex. "I know what fits into there. With these things, you sometimes you have to force, but I know it should fit. I don't need those instructions!"

DVS

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 17

I love the Moderators.

They are beautiful and wise in their ways.

Lance "Stepford" Castor

Lancecastor

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 18

Lately the thing that triggers with me is suspicion. It does not seem to have a pattern. A woman can say something innocently and I may immediatly suspect a lie. I am fighting hard to get to where I was before. I refuse to accept that this has to stick around as luggage. It is not fair to the woman that comes into my life. She should not have to earn trust more then anyone else or that would be normal. Thankfully, it is getting better.


TigerClaw

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 19

i have a medium to medium-high pain tolerance level myself. As a feedback circuit, i use my hand when i spank most of the time for control, both mine and hers. When my palm gets to the upper end of my tolerance, i know i have to decide to push mine, and hers in the process, or to judiciously move onward. i find the unexpected benefit about that process delivers a modicum of doubt in my playmate's mind. She's never sure if i'm fucking with her head, or thinking of her safety. You see, sadism, in my mind, can work at multiple levels in multiple arenas and all at the same time.

AngelicAssassin

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 20

Most people, especially the ones we call "Vanilla," find what we do in our bedrooms to be disgusting, abhorent, etc etc and would feel the same way about you having or being around kids as you feel about hunters
While I stand by what I said in the Impregnation thread about drawing reasonable boundaries (here ), I think people need to make a little more effort to step outside whatever narrow perspectives they have established around certain things & cultural biases, and perhaps at least educate them about those things a bit before they condemn them

James G 5

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 21

People's concepts of the scenario under discussion keeps drifting back and forth from fantasy to reality. For several participants, the idea of the scenario resonates as a reality - regardless of what anyone said or meant - because for them it is a reality, either because they have witnessed the evidence, or the consequences, or because, essentially, it happened to them. And they will, of course, have great difficulty letting things go at assurances that one's Daddy/Master would never order such a thing because the people who did it to them lied, and nobody helped them. Furthermore, they have likely heard claims of powerlessness as an excuse, and probably as a dishonest one. So an explication of the meaning of TPE will, for them, miss the point.

the shadow of a boy

 

[catalina_francisco]

november 22

Oh..One other thing..Insanity is VERY relative...So don't call yourself "insane".
My guess, and I would be willing to bet money on this one..Is that the Doc. will say one of two things.. Either that you have a stress related disorder..Or a chemical imbalance.
Just about damn near anything can cause the latter..Up to and including diet.
I will say this.
Yes, it would not hurt my feelings a bit to tell a pyl that she needed to go to a doctor.. If I put it in the form of an "order", you can be sure that it was probably right before the "There's the door, don't let it hit you in the ass.".

EKVITKAR

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 23

When I am getting to know a submissive online they can kiss their ass goodbye if they even try to submit to Me...I find it disengenuous and feel I am submitting to their needs to submit...so here for Me...it takes months of getting to know the real person behind the submissive before I have any real interest in knowing them in realtime for the possibility of a D/s or BDSM relationship.

Shadowsdream

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 24

Yes, my submissive girlfriend can say "no" and refuse to do something. She is not a blowup doll. She has a mind of her own and can evaluate the safety or appeal of different situations. But as the relationship progresses, more trust is built and we become more familiar with each other. I know the stuff she definitely doesn't want to do, and thankfully that is stuff I have no interest in. But I occasionally push her to do stuff she is not sure about, and she goes ahead out of trust for me and confidence in the relationship. (That is a dumbed down way of "pushing boundaries".) So there is no force or threats implied, she willingly does these things in the context of service to me.

Mr Blonde

 

[robynwildchild]

Re: January 6

Originally posted by Mr Blonde
If I for one want to have sex with firm flesh that is mindless and willing, I can always just reach down and take matters into my own hands. I seek a sub who brings depth and texture, who's spirit will stand the stress of being trained but not broken.

--SaltydogNH

HA!
that sounds like what i was in high school during whatever sports team's practice i put myself through...
one of those...
conditioned to fuckin catch up and be in the lead bitches who always got FLACK for making the popular lazy peeps look like shit

mind flash
there was no sex involved.
unless that includes naked women in the locker room. ha

i might not get there the fastest
but i'll be the one to out last a bastard

lovely thought for the day.

 

[Mr Blonde]

November 25

Dom/mes do control. How and why they control depends on who they are and who their subs are.

--Ebonyfire link

 

[Mr Blonde]

November 26

I think it's interesting that we can play around with rape, use, cutting, considering clitorectomies, electro-schocks, but the minute someone says "I like to get someone down into a good sub-space and then say 'you pointless pig, give me one reason I should ever look at you again'" and then walking out the door that's beyond the pale.

--Netzach link

 

[Mr Blonde]

November 27

This is the sea bordering that spot on the map labelled "Here be dragons." A high risk gamble normally accompanies a high stakes payoff.

--AngelicAssassin link

 

[Mr Blonde]

November 28

I have no real preference about [a submissive's] experience level. Each new relationship is a fresh start for me. I'm not looking for someone to take the place of past submissives and she shouldn't be looking for a carbon copy of her previous Dom(mes). As long as an experienced submissive is flexible and can adapt to a new relationship, there are no problems and we will create our boundaries for how the relationship will work.

--Mr Blonde link

 

[Mr Blonde]

November 29

I try to keep the mix interesting for them AND for me with a foot in the mundane and a foot in the kinky. Flogging ever harder will only make me resentful and hurt my rotator cuffs, like you said, so I try to introduce some of the never-tested to keep us all on our toes at times.

--Netzach link

 

[Mr Blonde]

November 30

I like to mix it up. Sometimes casual. Sometimes formal. Sometimes polite. Sometimes crude. Giving some variety to the interaction feels most satisfying to me.

--Mr Blonde link

 

[Mr Blonde]

December 1

I for one, tend to be deadly polite in most instances, and prefer to phrase my commands as firm requests. I use tone of voice to carry the power, and actually prefer the mind-fuck the dichotomy between the politeness and the command can cause. Guess it's a bit of that Suthern' Gent coming through...

--TNRkitect2b link

 

[Mr Blonde]

December 2

Responding to a submissive who described a very restrictive situation...

ome relationships do allow for much more private time [...] I personally don't feel that it is healthy to demand that much time and attention of someone [...] hell, I don't want to be in that much control of someone, I need that time away from them sometimes. Maybe it worked for you and good for you, but I can't imagine that it would work for many of the people that I know.

--SweetDommes (abridged) link

 

[catalina_francisco]

December 3 Saint Francisco nameday

Unfortunately in this world we need labels to an extent. After all they are nothing but words we utilise to help identify object’s both good and bad. Without labels there would be difficulty in identifying differences. Difference is not always a negative, often being reason to celebrate not denigrate – we are all unique and therefore different, sameness to me being an ideological fallacy and downright boring. I feel pride to be singled out as different….shows I am an individual and not one of the puppets of this world. Labels do not encourage fragmentation, on the other hand people do.

To quote a famous American saying, ‘guns do not kill people, people do’. The same can be said about labels. To imply that labels are responsible for the fragmentation inside the BDSM community is a very simplistic view, if not naïve. It is my opinion that it is the intolerance, miscomprehension, and closed mindedness that is mostly responsible. It happens because persons in the community cannot open themselves to ideas and thoughts of others. It also is an effective way of limiting the expression of others by attempting to make them feel judged and offensive if they dare acknowledge any difference in either themselves or others. Let’s face it, there is no better roadblock to stop the celebration and appreciation of diversity and difference than to shame another to silence. That then becomes oppression and a censor on freedom of speech.

Francisco

 

[catalina_francisco]

December 4

I always think that if a dominant reads and studies on the lifestyle first, and talks to others who are active, by going to munches and seeing real life encounters, he or she will develop a sense of what he or she wants to achieve.

Ebonyfire

 

[catalina_francisco]

December 5

Unfortunately life doesn't treat us fair or good all the time - and even wworse at others. But unless you are going to give up and despair - and I do not take you the man for that! - then there is only biting your teetha nd keep going like the energizer bunny (maybe not as obnoxiously pink and annoying *winks*)

Hecate

 

[catalina_francisco]

December 6 Sinterklaas

I am one of the Ones that cannot get past first base in a 'nilla sexual moment. I did try two 'nilla dates two years ago but found Myself getting colder and colder in boredom until My only thought was having him naked on his knees entertaining Me.

Shadowsdream