Dom/me "Thought of the Day" calendar

[AngelicAssassin]

October 25

I see you trying to peer into the future, and trying to control it's destiny. Letting your fear be the pen you write the script with. Taking control in a subtle way, yet not hearing the answer you wished for even in the words that speak your desire clearly and concisely. Always one foot on the threshold between running and staying. I feel doubt, hesitation, denial, confusion, lack of self esteem. I see your inability to focus consistently on plans that you formulate to please Me. Small things that add up when I see slow or no progress. Then I see your disappointment when I cannot understand why you set yourself up to fail.

These words were written to My ex fem sub who I still have a wonderful friendly relationship with...when she could not hear Me I took her to this conversation so that she could step back and understand what I saw...this is only a piece of what I saw...

Shadowsdream

 

[catalina_francisco]

October 26

Similarly, if the submissive wants me to control all aspects of her life, then how do I know that the submission is a continuing concious choice? I need to know that someone submitting to me is doing it because it is a turn on, it's deliberate, and so on. So when her submission is a contrast from the rest of her life, then that helps me know it's real.

FungiUg

 

[catalina_francisco]

October 27

I was at a martini party once in support of a television network's fall lineup, and after a few hours, of course, everyone was fairly lubricated on vodka and gin.

I was in the men's room, and in slaunters a female lead from a show you'd know....the female can being lined up out the door.

She teetered to a urinal, lifted her dress and proceeded to have a textbook perfect whizz from about 18 inches out, head back, laughing her ass off the whole time.

Then off she went, leaving the rest of us with our units in our hands, jaws agape.

It was awe-inspiring.

Lancecastor

 

[AngelicAssassin]

October 28

It took me a year before I was even interested in looking for a sub.

WriterDom

 

[catalina_francisco]

October 29

It's definitely not about the bottom, that's clear, his enjoyment, his cock springing to life, all that jazz is either because he put himself in my path and I have that affect or because I'm feeling magnanimous. (And sometimes I feel magnanimous)

But it's definitely not about me either or only me. I can make all those things happen to a point, even if it means buying green plastic army guys and playing take over the world in my room, if it's just about me it's about that empty.

Netzach

 

[AngelicAssassin]

October 30

Whimsacle? I thought I knew how to spell that word.

Anyway. I've never been in a full-time domination sumbitchen relationship; but I know if I ever get to be in one that I am going to be very into freaky, off-the-cuff and non-sequitorious demands. I was wondering if any lifestylers here were on the same page. For some reason, I get a big charge out of the idea of, for instance, ordering someone to refer to me only as "Nasty Boots" until otherwise notified; upon pain of painful punishment. Weird costume stuff like party hats or fake noses to be worn as I see fit. Free associating here. But just general extremely silly and surreal shit backed up by hard-core domination. Whims. Some humiliating to the sumbissive; others just requiring attention and patience to go along with (don't forget what I told you to call me today!).

rosco rathbone

 

[catalina_francisco]

OCTOBER 31

Truly though, it's easy to tell a real dom or sub from the other kind. Real doms and subs are those persons that identify themselves as doms or subs, and who do or have previously had demonstrable corporeity. The type of dom or sub antithetical to the afformentioned real varieties, is clearly the imaginary dom or sub. Ergo, if you identify yourself as a dom or sub, and you have material existance, you are a real dom or sub. Surely, any chain of reasoning attempting to disafirm this simple concept must contain a serious non sequitur.

incubus_dark

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 1

In recent discussions I have brought up that my main concern as a Dominant is looking out for number one, myself.

Although being a Dominant means being responsible, having at the least as much control over yourself as you have over your partner, there is a lot of selfishness in it. I do not feel it is bad, most submissive are service orientated, they want to please while IMO Dominants want to be pleased.

This is why I have rules and I expect them to be followed, for my own kicks. This is why I take care of my partner to my best ability purely out of self-interest. Of course I am not only a complete selfish bastard and have a heart and compassion but have found that I have been driven mostly by my own needs.

Francisco

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: November 1

Reserved ....

move along kittycat

LOL, ain't me posting here...oh except for the one I signed to a couple of days back. I have enough on my hands with the sub side of life!!

Catalina

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Re: Re: November 1

LOL, ain't me posting here...oh except for the one I signed to a couple of days back. I have enough on my hands with the sub side of life!!

Catalina

Reserved it for Saint 'Cisco's rarely seen tail ... on All Saint's Day

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: Re: Re: November 1

Reserved it for Saint 'Cisco's rarely seen tail ... on All Saint's Day

No you will not tempt me to post pics of my tail here.

Francisco.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Re: Re: Re: Re: November 1

No you will not tempt me to post pics of my tail here.

Francisco.

Get back to work stud ... and no, i don't mean on kittycat ... we've still got two months of catch-up.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yes boss

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 2

I think my point is this; a dominant takes on an awesome responsibility when he or she brings a submissive under their protection. Not all relationships are romantic ones, but they have strong bonds nonetheless.

If a dominant is not willing to do all that is necessary to ensure his or her submissive is at least at the same emotional level he or she was before the relationship, and really it would be nice for the submissive to be better off if at all possible; perhaps he or she should re-think the relationship.

Being a dominant is a lot of work, if you don't want to do the work, then don't do it at all.

Ebonyfire

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: Re: Re: Re: November 1

No you will not tempt me to post pics of my tail here.

Francisco.

I can if you want.

C

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 3

For many cutting has been part of their journey, but for many it hasn't.

My hostility isn't toward cutting, rather, it is toward any generalization that seeks to figure out whey we do what we do. We each do what we do because we are hard wired to do so...not all are cutters, not all are abuse victims, not all are insecure women who need men to dictate to them, not all Doms have egocentric, attitude problems....do you see where I am going?

As for my clinical perspective, it is mine. Each of us come here with a different perspective and since mine is social work....that is what I bring to you. Yours is different and adds to the rainbow of BDSM discussion.

I keep coming back to the word rainbow....hmmm sounds lovely, no?

MissTaken

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 4

"Smart Assed Masochists"
Usually those who mouth off to get more abuse They will LITERALLY say "What a fucking girl you are, is that the hardest you can hit?" in the midst of a caning that's already got them bloody, at the most extreme end of that behavior (that comment would be directed at a man, BTW)
Brats and SAMS have some traist in common, except bratty subs still submit, at least to a point, whereas SAMS are just in it for the pain & play
At least that's been my experience.

James G 5

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 5

One of the ancient South American cultures, may have been the Aztecs but I can't remember, actually used to consume their beer via enema as the standard technique in their public bars. There are pictures of people enjoying the process in stone reliefs. One has to suppose that they used to just stand on there head at the bar, hold the money in their toes and tell the barman to top it up. The mess trailing behind those who'd had a wee bit too much hardly bears imagining. Clearly they didn't consider it humiliating though; must depend on culturation.

If you must try an alcohol enema, try a low alcohol sparkling wine such as an Italian Spumante. If it takes 2 or 3 glasses to get you tipsi, use one standard white wine glass' worth. If it takes less, use half that amount. Even if you're a confirmed lush, more than two glasses worth is likely to kill you or make you wish that it did. If you die from it, or end up with some other awefull never-getover, don't blame me, I don't want to hear about it.

incubus_dark

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 6

Pain:

Pain is a stimulus - basic, right.

From my perspective, pain is a stimulus that I administer for my own ends, reasons, and desires. Is pain an advanced stimulus- no. In spite of assorted writings to the contrary. The application of pain can be/get VERY advanced however. And I feel that this is probably what most people confuse. Well that and the emotional component. It is, however, the most intense one that most of us deal with, certainly on a regular basis. (HMM well all that certainly sounds contemplative and highbrow)

On the flip side - I inflict pain, or not. Tickle, or not. Perpetuate illusion, or not. For the enjoyment of myself and my sub. Is it pain, yup. Does it hurt, damn straight. Is it wrong, not if she enjoys it. Now, I think Im really writing this to clear some things in my own mind. So thank you all for the indulgence. I find myself wandering a lot closer to things that I have avoided for a long time.

I find that along with the control and the other things that have always gone into being a Top. I am getting a pervasive feeling like I have been keeping part of myself on a leash. An intolerable circumstance to a Dom. So now I have to figure out how to let a part of myself loose- and when. And find someone that sees that as desireable. Not a troll, but an interesting question. How to find someone that like the beast. All of him.

Is it pain ?

Yes but sometimes it's love too.

EKVITKAR

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 7

Nothing wrong with being a novice spankee. You’d have to wait at least an hour for your first spanking from me. First we’d do some simple D/s play. Having you remove each article of clothing at my leisure. I would help you with the wrist and ankle restraints, and the play collar. Then we’d probably do some nipple play to get an idea of your pain threshold while steadily building your excitement level. Then, if you were good, I might allow you kiss my cock and beg me to let you suck it. Which would probably keep building your excitement, while dropping mine mine way down after I cum. This is a good thing because it allows me to concentrate better on you. We’d review the safe words, and I’d tell you if you want to use yellow, it’s ok, but fight it as long as you can. I’d cuff your hands behind your back to avoid the natural tendency to reach back and block the blows when things get more intense.

I would start with touching and squeezing your bottom, then very light spanks to warm your skin. Then I would stick two fingers in your tight pussy, and tell you what a naughty girl you are to be so wet. That would begin a cycle of fingering, and increasing harder spanks. Just a few on each cheek. Then finger fucking you. Till either you start to cum or we reach yellow. Cumming while you are being spanked is fun. If instead, we got to yellow, I’d stop and rub the sting out your ass, and pet your hair telling you how wonderful your are and how proud I was to spank such a pretty ass. And that as a reward, I’m going to fuck you from behind.

WriterDom

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 8

Really though, after thinking about it that what is a master letter centered wholly on worship of the submissive.

Even from a daddy perspective that is just too sugary and sweet. I do think we all have a bit of Genghis Khan in us that needs to come out and feed every once in a while.

I think the author was focused entirely too much on giving and forgot about taking. There is a balance to be found but I don't quite see it in the overly romanticized view of the author.

Betticus

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 9

I don't think there is any correlation between lying and bdsm. It is just that there are people, given the anonymity of a computer screen that online provides, that will lie. Men more so than women. Not that women don't lie. I had one send me a picture of her niece claiming it was her.

The bdsm community as a whole, does a much better job of reducing risks. Which is probably a good thing, since you are potentially putting your life in the hands of a guy who WANTS to beat you. If I were a nutcase looking for victims, I'd search the nilla side. The pool is much larger, and they do very stupid things.

WriterDom

 

[catalina_francisco]

November 10

Might be a repeat, but might bear on the question as well. Some have discussed the proclivity of their responses whether the stimulus occurs in a BDSM setting, or not. How many times have any of you been at work, a decidedly non-BDSM environment unless you're getting paid for such, and had that auto-from-the-gut response kick into gear?

Let's delve a litte deeper and ask to the point said response crashes against the back of your teeth, starts to bend your knees, what have you, just after get control? Worse yet, how many times has the response slipped out before you clamped down on it? i wonder how many of our non-lifestyle co-workers have mistaken the slips for hardass in the case of a PYL, and pushover in that of a pyl?

AngelicAssassin

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 11

Prions can be destroyed by anything that attacks protien chains at a chemical level, so warm ammonium based disinfectants will do it, or just don't scene with cows, minks, monkeys, CJD sufferers or Brits.

incubus_dark

 

[AngelicAssassin]

November 12

If I would have to mention one of my ‘fears’, it would have to be rats.

I hate the buggers; I think they are the most disgusting animals that God ever created.

I use to have an irrational fear, which by now I can control. When I was younger, not that I am very old now, I would panic if I would come in the neighbourhood of a Rat. Nowadays I just get tendencies to hunt them down and destroy the little buggers.


Francisco