Dom/me "Thought of the Day" calendar

[Mr Blonde]

April 21

Well if someone were to look in the bedroom they would notice four floggers, a riding crop, handcuffs, many feet of rope, a male chastity device, numerous articles of leather clothing, several strap-ons, a butt plug, two hooks in the ceiling and several obligatory books on the subject. These are just the 'in sight' things.

--Smoothie64 link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 22

Netzach: "Here I am with rubber slave beef, completely swaddled in his latex sleep sack.... even his drawn breath is controlled by me and my strict gasmask-tubular-scary-woo-woo mechanism, totally helpless and at my mercy I apply PES electrodes to his cock and milk it for hours on end to get the valuable stud semen for my prize ponygirl betsy in her latex corset and arm binder sleeve!"

rosco rathbone: "Heh. This is kind of hot actually."

Netzach: "Well...yeah!"

link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 23

I would miss the subtleties such as the look in her eyes and the changing of her body when I speak to her or touch her. I would miss having her at my feet or seeing her in a puddle of tears on the floor after using her for my sadistic needs. I would miss holding her in my arms, watching a movie together or sitting at the table while enjoying her wonderful cooking. I would miss taking her out and meeting friends or visiting clubs and have a good time.

--Ziggy link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 24

Describing his voice....

[T]hink relentless in a velvet glove. When i turn "it" on; consciously, or otherwise; i seldom lose someone's attention.

--AngelicAssassin link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 25

i find falling off the bed, slipping in the shower (short of going to the hospital, or impinging on further fun), and "got a cramp!" usually reduces the intimates to gales of laughter. Those are the moments no one else would understand, the ones i hold most dear, and the ones that the intimates will remember fondly and warmly further down the road.

--AngelicAssassin link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 26

I think some women are afraid to take control because of the fear they will become shrewish. You can avoid this by simply giving him a directive like: This weekend you are to see to all of my desires without me having to tell you what they are. Be prepared for a little confusion on his part, but also be prepared for him to sweep you off your feet. It works best if you give him a few days to plan things.

--Ms_Kat link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 27

Relationships change over time, and do go in cycles as well. I think a big problem is greedy submissives who think it is all about them and what they want. What they need to realize is that submitting means not only putting your ass in the air, but also being designated driver for your Dominant when they want to go out and drink a few beers.

--Johnny Mayberry link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 28

I always made myself available for a little cuddling afterwards. As much for me as well as for the sub. Also if the spanking was especially intense that evening, I've also made sure to spread some lotion on her ass to make things feel better. I think it's definitely the Dom/me's duty to take care of whatever sort of aftercare the submissive needs after a scene.

--MastrJ link

 

[Mr Blonde]

April 29

My slave approached Me more than 6 months ago to deepen O/our contract, taking away all of the rights he had found necessary four years ago. To deepen the contract into one of absolutes takes deep consideration on My part. he has already gone through this thought process long before coming to Me. I will take My own sweet time deciding if I wish to formalize what is already occuring. The FINAL contract signed between U/us will be written without benefit of following an Internet guide...it will be so specific to who we are and where we intend to go and will leave no wiggle room.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

April 30

It might not be obvious but dominants/tops also need their own form of aftercare. With me, I usually take a couple moments to reflect while I care for my partner. I feel satisfied if everything went well. While I have needs of my own, in my opinion it is the submissive who has been on the receiving end and needs immediate attention. If something unexpected or unusual happened, I can wait until the next day (or at least before the next scene) to discuss it.

--Mr Blonde link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

May 1

I could not identify with this person any longer, whereas I usually can. Not a failure of empathy or being in tune with them, but a fundamental inability to ever imagine being like that....

we're out of the usual ocean, here be dragons.

--Netzach link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

May 2

Do I find it draining? YES!! A resounding, shout from the rooftops YES but I also need to be needed in that capacity. I never knew how much I relished being wanted/needed in that respect until I started doing it. Now, I can not imagine my life any other way.

--apet4you link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

May 3

Speaking of Shadowsdream

She is scary, but in a fun way as well. I've had fantasies of sending a naughty sub to her, and having them come back and forever promise to be good.

--WriterDom link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

May 4

"submitting to the vanilla life" to me has always been a lazy cop out. Submissive does not mean some vague protean lump free of all independent desires, that's completely idiotic.

--Netzach link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Cinco de Mayo

rosco rathbone: Just make sure that supper is on the table, hot, when I get home.

Netzach: What, you can't dial for chinese?

I'll dial, just make sure you've got the cane in your mouth by the time I'm through the door.

--Ricky Ricardo meets Lucy with a 'tude link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

May 6

RR
"Shut your motherfuckin gob, bite the pillow and TAKE THE PAIN."

AA
"Can we drop the middle part, fuck her throat, and be done with it?"

shy slave
Do you both expect pillow biting, or deep throat?
Damn sure can't do both at same time!!
Whatever you may think to the contrary

Thats the trouble with serving Dom's. They're not always clear in their instructions.

RR
Now just imagine if two sadistic evil bastards were pulling an "after you my dear alphonse, no after you my dear gaston" routine on your sorry ass.

--Larry & Moe threaten to pull a train on Curly link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

May 7

In response to the thread Favorite sounds?

Urethral Sounds as they first begin to enter virgin territory.
--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

May 8

I have also noticed that the numbers of over weight Dom/mes and submissives is the norm rather than the unusual. My theory is that the BDSM community is more accepting and welcoming of all diversities in what society dictates is acceptable. We in the BDSM community are generally more interested in the dominating skills or submissives realities than W/we are in girth.

--Shadowsdream link

 

[Mr Blonde]

May 9

n my time as a fighter and a night club bouncer / debt collector, I would have had no compunction at all about striking someone who threatened me in the face. And everyone I've ever been in a scene with has been told about my past, and my rules. So do i tell them because I need to, or because I'm exhibitting my control, and the difference between what I'll do in play, because I want their orgasms, and I want I have done in the past because I've had to.

--exiledmaster (abridged) link

 

[Mr Blonde]

Oh my....

This is getting seriously behind schedule. I need to get caught up. It would probably be easier if I was a year-round poster here.

 

[catalina_francisco]

You will get there ..and of course you are likely open to others helping you out?

Catalina

 

[Mr Blonde]

Yes, all are invited to contribute! Please just keep the chronology consistent (even if behind schedule) so this calendar can be re-used next year or in the future.

 

[Mr Blonde]

May 10

24/7 means being aware of it all the time, making decisions based on it, and for us, being strictly [real time], living together.

--SweetDommes link

 

[AngelicAssassin]

May 11

Like other competent dominants, I initiate conversations that take us through feedback and reviews. It is simply part of maintaining a productive relationship.

Here are two other comments about this subject:

1. During "play" (active sex), a subbie should use our safeword if there are problems but other issues should wait until later. It is no time for a running critique (unless that has been specifically requested) of what is happening.

2. There is limited value to repeatedly bringing up shortcomings that either can't be solved or are actively being worked on already.

Mr. Blonde ~ The Dominant Ego (Not looking for trouble here...)

 

[Mr Blonde]

May 12

Keeping in the "Mr Blonde" theme...

Discussing "scary" submissives....

The only thing that scares me is that a certain percentage of submissives don't seem capable of informed consent.

--Mr Blonde link