Erections for male bottoms

[drobert44]

When a bottom is soft it doesn't mean that he isn't turned on. In fact it usually the opposite. I'm often completely soft, but just dripping. I'm not sure why many of us don't stay hard but we don't. I've came with a soft cock so many times I can't count them.

I was always soft for my gay top; cant explain it; just wanted to be sub.

 

[write_or_wrong]

When a bottom is soft it doesn't mean that he isn't turned on. In fact it usually the opposite. I'm often completely soft, but just dripping. I'm not sure why many of us don't stay hard but we don't. I've came with a soft cock so many times I can't count them.

Thank you for your input. And thanks to all who have weighed in. I have learned a lot from this thread.

 

[ChasBozwell30]

I'm not usually hard when im being pegged. I usually have multiple dry orgasms, so I don't really need to be hard...!

 

[Nekidinaz]

I've only been fucked in my ass a few times and each time I was hard because I was being fucked from behind while another guy was sucking my cock. The next time I was being fucked in my ass he was fucking me and reaching around to masturbate my hard cock...the other couple times I was soft but definitely "leaking" all over...and all the feelings each time were amazingly sexy and I was soooo turned on!! Not sure if this helps but that's my experience

 

[kccasey]

My wife used to peg me. She told me when she fucked me, my ass got puffy and swollen, like pussy lips do. I am guessing that is why I don't get hard when pegged. The blood is going to ass and not cock. Start out hard but get soft. The feeling inside is so good, I love to get fucked. I don't always cum from anal. When I do, it is usually in missionary position. The cock rubs over my prostate in this position and stimulates me to whole body, shaking orgasm. When that happens, I am in 7th heaven. Even if I do not orgasm, I leak like a bitch in heat. Lots and lots of pre cum leaks from me as my ass is pounded. Usually a large wet spot under me.
Now if I am masturbating with dildo stroking myself while riding I can ejaculate.

 

[tequiladancer]

It all depends. When my wife is pegging me my penis starts out hard. Then after a few it will get soft. Then depending on a hundred things it will get hard again. It might be something she says or she might bend down and bite me or it could be how she looks on top of me. Then at a certain point when my prostate has been stimulated a lot of the time I will loose my erection. At that point I’m not really paying attention to anything just the feeling inside me.

If she pegs me on my hands and knees, I will start out hard the it will go away and I won’t get hard again usually.

I think it’s because my penis isn’t the focal point of the activity.

Damn, your description is hot! I have tried many times to get my wife to peg me..but not happening.

 

[kccasey]

That's too bad Tequila dancer. I hope you get to experience this some time.

 

[Dreamer110]

My favorite videos are when the bottom stays hard while being pounded.

 

[Alpha_femboy]

When the prostate gets massaged it gives ur pleasure without a hardon mostly , to get hard u have too clench ur opening which doesn't cross our mind while getting pounded and we leak cum

 

[Swuq]

Have bottomed all my life. My cock stays soft while being fucked unless my top or I works it. I have leaked precum and cum many times while I was soft and being fucked. Great sensation as well.

 

[Love_To_Be_Sleazy]

I've seen several videos of a guy being fucked by another guy. Sometimes the receiver has a hardon, but most of the time they do not. Anyone know why? Is it the same with pegging? I thought prostate stimulation was a pretty reliable way to achieve an erection. When I have used dildoes or vibrators on myself I always get hard. Why does anal intercourse not do the same?

It really depends on your mate or the one doing the pegging or fucking.

Personally , I like it slow and soft , when done this way I keep a raging hard-on while being screwed as that dick massages my prostate, size does not matter. Same when using a dildo.

BUT

You also have guys that want to hammer you like a jackhammer , even though this may look erotic in the movies , in real life IMO especially for me is not pleasurable and will end our sex session VERY fast. I have sent MANY a guys packing early because of this.

 

[write_or_wrong]

It really depends on your mate or the one doing the pegging or fucking.

Personally , I like it slow and soft , when done this way I keep a raging hard-on while being screwed as that dick massages my prostate, size does not matter. Same when using a dildo.

BUT

You also have guys that want to hammer you like a jackhammer , even though this may look erotic in the movies , in real life IMO especially for me is not pleasurable and will end our sex session VERY fast. I have sent MANY a guys packing early because of this.

Totally agree about the jackhammer thing. Even in hetero amateur porn the woman usually looks bored to death because she isn't getting anything out of all that banging. Like so much of the macho-wannabe stuff like choking, slapping, pushing around, it's just posturing - almost acting - by the man who wants to look like a tough guy.

 

[saintcero]

Limp. Floppy. Leaking buckets.

It’s always been like that for me with ass play.

I don’t understand it as I am completely aroused.

These days I embrace my limp cock as a sign of submission to my Top. I feel the same way about all the precum he drives out of me.

 

[UseMePlease40]

Speaking personally I have been fucked by my trans girlfriend hundreds of times and I have never gotten hard. I am not sure why - maybe because our sex is all about her cock and her orgasm.

I do know that many bottoms get hard and cum while being fucked. I am just not one of them.

I often get hard but much smaller than normal (not that I'm that big anyway), and cum without having to stroke myself. maybe I'm just lucky

 

[whiteasianlvr]

When one is on the receiving end, it's as much about the mental stimulus of being taken which for many of us for whom bottoming is a preferred or exclusive role enables one to focus on pleasuring the top - so getting hard really is not a concern. When he cums, hopefully he'll have brought you off with him - if he's a considerate and good lover!

 

[number47]

Now I really want to bottom it will be a first.

 

[UseMePlease40]

I felt lucky; nobody sucks like a sissy. They try SO hard...


It's almost like us sissies like sucking a lovely cock

 

[EdgySubMic]

A true bottom! Hard and squirting when dicked down! Bless your gay heart!

I beg to disagree. For me being a bottom is about serving your master (in any way he wants/needs) and not about one's own sexual pleasures. For me it most definitely is. If he wants me / his bottom to do/experience/... something then fine, but it is he who decides.

In fact, there's a set of rules that applies to me. Any erection (let alone orgasm) that has not explicitly been permitted leads to punishment being applied. And "punishment" does not imply "being wanked", as is the case in so many stupid porn movies.

 

[Escierto]

When one is on the receiving end, it's as much about the mental stimulus of being taken which for many of us for whom bottoming is a preferred or exclusive role enables one to focus on pleasuring the top - so getting hard really is not a concern. When he cums, hopefully he'll have brought you off with him - if he's a considerate and good lover!

My girlfriend is a completely selfish lover. It is all about her. Her cock and her orgasm. EXACTLY the way I like it!

 

[Escierto]

I beg to disagree. For me being a bottom is about serving your master (in any way he wants/needs) and not about one's own sexual pleasures. For me it most definitely is. If he wants me / his bottom to do/experience/... something then fine, but it is he who decides.

In fact, there's a set of rules that applies to me. Any erection (let alone orgasm) that has not explicitly been permitted leads to punishment being applied. And "punishment" does not imply "being wanked", as is the case in so many stupid porn movies.

YES. My job as her bottom is to serve my Queen and her beautiful cock. Her pleasure is my pleasure.

 

[t1m1d1]

I love watching porn where the bottom is hard, but I’m always soft when being fucked, indeed I feel as though I shrink. However on a few occasions I’ve had an “assgasm”, the most incredible thing ever!

 

[write_or_wrong]

Thank you to all the folks who took the time to make the inciteful responses above. I started this thread because one of my fantasies has been to suck the cock of a guy getting fucked and enjoy what I had guessed would be a spectacular ejaculation. Now I understand better how it depends on the people involved and what their mindsets are related to topping and bottoming.

 

[Bianca66]

For me, a lot depends on the interaction and communication with my partner. Like most people, sex for me is as much in the mind as in the body. If my partner is interacting with me, letting me know how he is feeling or what he wants me to feel, or just talking dirty, then I more likely to show outward signs of arousal.

If he is just going to pound town and getting himself off, then I am less likely to get hard. Still, having a hot guy with a nice cock rearranging your insides is a pretty good feeling and can leave me plenty satisfied, even if I don't get to O-land.

yes being fucked is nice but when the top interacts with me it is great

 

[SexSearcher]

I stay soft when getting fucked but I leak a lot of precum and often cum hands free while never getting hard

 

[LilyField]

i no longer get erect at all, but have wonderful sissygasms.