catalina_francisco
Happily insatiable always
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Miss T, Love that new word!! Can relate to the need to differentiate between common interests, amusing moments, and that something indescernable to narrow down the ones worth meeting...and not always an easy choice. I found I had quite a few willing to fly me all over the globe to meet, but circumstance made it easier for them to come to me, and so some were close, others were like Master, from far, far, away places, and all corners of the globe. I am pleased I was able to confidently, and over time, not allow myself to be pressured into meeting those I detected as 'not suitable' otherwise I would still be wading through the list. LOL.
I met some wonderful men and learnt a lot, but in all except Master, I had minor doubts before meeting which proved true. With him I felt not only a deep emotional bond, and maybe this is related to more than we understand in the here and now, who knows, but I felt a deep sense of security, someone I could trust with my life. It is not something you come across everyday, and some never seem to find it...for us it was there, and just grows and grows when we both think it can not go deeper.
Would have to say that first meeting at the airport was one of the most memorable of my life. The world seemed to fade away for us, and I knew that was not remotely like anything I had experienced then or later with other prospectives I met in a similar way, and the same terminal. I do not think it is for everyone, and it is easy to get carried away with dreams and hopes, but that is also where I think it helps to have clarity about your needs and purpose. Some felt I approached it in a busines like manner, I prefer to think of it as a mission for happiness and fulfilment.
I remember seeing a programme on people (vanilla) who met online and married. Many of them were like me in their approach. They made a decision, and approached it like any other project in life....set guidelines, definite ideas of needs, determination that whether it was No 5 or No 1005 meeting, they would settle for nothing les than they deserved to be happy. It seems it is a formula that can work, but does need clear self set boundaries in mind and heart, while also being open to accepting the odd, unexpected surprise you didn't count on liking, and perhaps would not in any one but the one you give your heart and soul to.
As an afterthought, perhaps some of our success came from the fact we did not play Master/slave online, there were no daily punishments and online sessions, self disciplining in his absence, etc., nor with any of the others I communicated with before him...it was about getting to know each other as people first, our defined views of how we wanted a BDSM 24/7 relationship to be and evolve, our likes and dislikes, expectations, limits etc., but no playing at the imagined reality...that was reserved for one on one contact. Even after our marriage, and the 2 short periods of time we had to be seperated, we did not play out these aspects of the relationship while apart. I wore his collar, and I kept him informed of all progress in our being together from my end, but no disciplining and asking me to obey certain commands just so he could feel he was acting as Master. He knew he was that already and my submission was real. Small things in dress etc., which are in our rules were already part of my daily life before meeting so that was not an issue of checking if I was obeying. So maybe this minimised the risk of being wound up in the moment and blinded to who we both were in reality 24/7.
Catalina
I met some wonderful men and learnt a lot, but in all except Master, I had minor doubts before meeting which proved true. With him I felt not only a deep emotional bond, and maybe this is related to more than we understand in the here and now, who knows, but I felt a deep sense of security, someone I could trust with my life. It is not something you come across everyday, and some never seem to find it...for us it was there, and just grows and grows when we both think it can not go deeper.
Would have to say that first meeting at the airport was one of the most memorable of my life. The world seemed to fade away for us, and I knew that was not remotely like anything I had experienced then or later with other prospectives I met in a similar way, and the same terminal. I do not think it is for everyone, and it is easy to get carried away with dreams and hopes, but that is also where I think it helps to have clarity about your needs and purpose. Some felt I approached it in a busines like manner, I prefer to think of it as a mission for happiness and fulfilment.
I remember seeing a programme on people (vanilla) who met online and married. Many of them were like me in their approach. They made a decision, and approached it like any other project in life....set guidelines, definite ideas of needs, determination that whether it was No 5 or No 1005 meeting, they would settle for nothing les than they deserved to be happy. It seems it is a formula that can work, but does need clear self set boundaries in mind and heart, while also being open to accepting the odd, unexpected surprise you didn't count on liking, and perhaps would not in any one but the one you give your heart and soul to.
As an afterthought, perhaps some of our success came from the fact we did not play Master/slave online, there were no daily punishments and online sessions, self disciplining in his absence, etc., nor with any of the others I communicated with before him...it was about getting to know each other as people first, our defined views of how we wanted a BDSM 24/7 relationship to be and evolve, our likes and dislikes, expectations, limits etc., but no playing at the imagined reality...that was reserved for one on one contact. Even after our marriage, and the 2 short periods of time we had to be seperated, we did not play out these aspects of the relationship while apart. I wore his collar, and I kept him informed of all progress in our being together from my end, but no disciplining and asking me to obey certain commands just so he could feel he was acting as Master. He knew he was that already and my submission was real. Small things in dress etc., which are in our rules were already part of my daily life before meeting so that was not an issue of checking if I was obeying. So maybe this minimised the risk of being wound up in the moment and blinded to who we both were in reality 24/7.
Catalina
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