Guys into SPH, did you start out as genuinely embarrassed or ashamed?

[NiceSlice]

I know guys tend to obsess over penis size and it’s a shame it becomes an issue of anxiety and shame for those who suffer from the embarrassment. From a woman’s standpoint, most of us reach orgasm during intercourse as a result of “friction/pressure when the penis contacts the clitoris”. Our clitoris is VERY easy to “reach” with almost ANY penis if the guy has a clue ‘’where to aim”! The clitoris is approximately about a half inch or less “inside” and so it doesn’t take 8 inches to make contact. Also, as a personal observation, men who have average or smaller penises often have develop MUCH more satisfying oral skills in order to make sure they can give excellent pleasure. I realize a large penis looks more impressive but we women have to live with the same issue regarding breast size remarks. None of us are perfect as we are dealt the hand given at birth…. DNA is a bitch LOL.

 

[MorlockIam]

I know guys tend to obsess over penis size and it’s a shame it becomes an issue of anxiety and shame for those who suffer from the embarrassment. From a woman’s standpoint, most of us reach orgasm during intercourse as a result of “friction/pressure when the penis contacts the clitoris”. Our clitoris is VERY easy to “reach” with almost ANY penis if the guy has a clue ‘’where to aim”! The clitoris is approximately about a half inch or less “inside” and so it doesn’t take 8 inches to make contact. Also, as a personal observation, men who have average or smaller penises often have develop MUCH more satisfying oral skills in order to make sure they can give excellent pleasure. I realize a large penis looks more impressive but we women have to live with the same issue regarding breast size remarks. None of us are perfect as we are dealt the hand given at birth…. DNA is a bitch LOL.

I’m probably average when erect but always saw myself as smaller. I was told those things by a few women I have been with. I was surprised when one said I could hit the right places deep in, it was my third time having sex.

In regards to breast size, smaller or average size breasts tend to look better.

 

[cypressknee]

I know guys tend to obsess over penis size and it’s a shame it becomes an issue of anxiety and shame for those who suffer from the embarrassment. From a woman’s standpoint, most of us reach orgasm during intercourse as a result of “friction/pressure when the penis contacts the clitoris”. Our clitoris is VERY easy to “reach” with almost ANY penis if the guy has a clue ‘’where to aim”! The clitoris is approximately about a half inch or less “inside” and so it doesn’t take 8 inches to make contact. Also, as a personal observation, men who have average or smaller penises often have develop MUCH more satisfying oral skills in order to make sure they can give excellent pleasure. I realize a large penis looks more impressive but we women have to live with the same issue regarding breast size remarks. None of us are perfect as we are dealt the hand given at birth…. DNA is a bitch LOL.

I learned to speak cunnilingus early in like

 

[pbnjay]

I remember waiting for my growth spurt, excited about how it would grow, and it never did.

It took away all my confidence. I was defeated.
My first experience, when she pulled my pants down, I covered my face, under a pillow, as she sucked on it.

Any time size was mentioned, I would get anxious in conversations.

Held me back from being myself.

I came to acceptance of the size after looking back on one of my most embarrassing sexual experiences. I see it as an SPH situation that I replay over and over in my mind. Trying to relive it now, with my current partner, is hard…. But it gets me sooo hard.

 

[NiceSlice]

What was the most embarrassing sexual experience that you remember so vividly?

 

[whenagain]

What was the most embarrassing sexual experience that you remember so vividly?

Are you asking someone specific or in general?

 

[MorlockIam]

What was the most embarrassing sexual experience that you remember so vividly?

For lack of anything else to do I’m going to assume you addressed this to anyone who wants to answer.

After the change room incidents at swimming classes where I learned from the boys that my flaccid penis was small.

I was in the pool and we were lined up in two rows boys facing girls. We had to do some task that involved jumping up and then sinking into the water to crouch and touch the bottom.

As I did this my bathers came off as I sank into the water. Luckily as we had to touch the floor I could pull them back up quickly. The girl opposite saw this and smiled with a blush. I am not sure how clear it would have been under water with the splashes but she knew what happened.

The girls already heard the gossip from the boys anyway. My fantasy even at the time was that one or two of them would just approach me and ask for a look. I was already forming a SPH/CFNM fetish.

 

[Tom_Brown]

My penis is 5.5” long and average girth. My partners have been with bigger and I watched my wife get fucked by a guy who was much bigger, but I’ve never been into SPH.

I’ve always been self conscious about my smaller than average cock size, even though my wife has always said that it’s the perfect size for her and almost always makes her cum. Her clit is extremely sensitive, so grinding my pelvic bone against it while my cock is completely buried in her pussy usually makes her cum.

She once told me that one of her exes had a huge cock and it would almost always be uncomfortable during intercourse and it was almost always painful to be fucked by such a large cock. I’ve asked her if she thinks a cock that big would feel good in her, now that she’s had kids, but she says that she doesn’t think so and isn’t willing to try.

She’s fucked 2 guys since we’ve been married (one guy once, the other twice). The guy she fucked once was the same size as me and she didn’t cum from intercourse. The other guy was around 8” long and a little thicker. He made her cum from intercourse.

I left them alone for an hour and listened from the hall as he pleasured her. She was definitely much more vocal with me not being there. Her moans, sex talk and screams had me thinking that size does matter and was glad that he could pleasure her that much.

We don’t have sex anymore, so I often wonder if she’s having sex with someone who has a much bigger cock. I sometimes fantasize about her hooking up with her ex to see if his huge cock is pleasurable for her now that her pussy has been enlarged by childbirth. I’ve even told her that she should hook up with him, (because they’re friends on social media), but she refuses.

 

[Sgts19]

Not into the SPH either but totally get off with anything regarding my wife and a big cock. Her reactions with a man bigger than me SEEM to be totally different although it might be only because of my twisted mind. lol

 

[nutoseen]

OMG, this is so interesting! I've always been curious about the discoveries guys make about their bodies growing up. We girls go through A LOT of discoveries, especially when we are younger, so it's really interesting to hear from your side of the Great Divide.

Thank you for being so open and honest about how you came to realize and accept your ... shall we say ... short coming?

I've always been curious if guys ever compared themselves to other guys growing up. I've asked my husband about it and a few other guys over the years but I've mostly gotten really short answers about competing in sports that led me to believe that they mostly don't. Nothing close to the emotional detail you've just shared so thank you thank you thank you!

Girls start comparing their bodies to other girls from a really young age and most of us continue comparing ourselves to higher and higher standards of beauty for the rest of our lives. It can really mess some of us up! I love how all of you "grew" lol to accept your short comings. I had a very debilitating identity crisis growing up, partly because I had very, very small breasts. Unlike you guys though, I didn't "grow" to accept the fact and learn to love myself until I was almost 30 though. And then after I did finally accept myself, I got preggers shortly after that (twice) and my breasts finally had the growth spurt I'd been hoping for since I was 14.

I've been a size queen most of my life. But I dated one guy before my husband (who is definitely what I would call "hung") who was into SPH. He was really cute and I liked him a lot, although, to be honest, sex was not super enjoyable with him because of ... well, you know. He taught me it was okay to be a little mean to guys like him though (I always had been anyways lol) and I still enjoy the opportunity when I get it today (which is rare unfortunately). Being tall intimidates some guys already. So I've learned over the years it just adds fuel to some guys' fire when I go into detail about how and why they don't measure up to other guys. I've tried doing it a few times with my husband but he doesn't enjoy it. It doesn't really work with him anyways since one of the reasons I married him is between his legs and he knows it.

Anyways, thanks again for sharing. I never know what I'm going to find on Lit but I swear it feels like I learn something new everyday.

i love being compared and comparing. i've compared for years. i love when i have shrinkage being seen (by women and MF/couples) more than when i am almost fully hard. even women i have no chance of fucking i like to know about my tiny dick and tease me if they would.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Yes, I saw porn and was actually ashamed of my tiny useless clitty.

I got a chastity cage recently and that's why I lock myself up and beg for humiliation.

 

[CuckinTx]

I'm into SPH, I genuinely get turned on by it. It wasn't always that way though.

I wasn't aware penis size was really a "big" deal until I think my early teen years. At the time we had the internet by then and all used it, but I wasn't really looking up penis size statistics or anything at that point. It was still pretty new at that time. But we did start talking about it among friends. None of us new what a normal size was, big or small, or what it was supposed to be when we became adults. What I do remember is, all of us boys were liars and we were all universally "6 inches" long lol.

I obviously knew I wasn't that long, I'm not sure when I first measured, but I definitely knew I wasn't 6 inches long. I wasn't embarrassed or anything at the time, because I was still growing and just assumed I'd grow up into an adult with a huge penis!

I didn't start having reservations about my size until closer to the end of high school. I didn't want to be seen flaccid, definitely not completely flaccid, because I didn't want anyone to think I was small. And I still lied about penis size, because by then I knew average and that I was smaller than it. Yet, I didn't feel like I was lying, because I hadn't accepted that I was already as big as I would get. It was also easy to fool myself, because my sexual experience was limited until I was much older, so there weren't any women to confirm one way or another.

However, in the year after I had finished high school, I started checking out statistics online and comparing. I had a couple experiences where I was partially exposed or nearly exposed, that got me thinking about my size more critically. I realized I was done growing and started to measure without cheating or rounding up. I was a little disappointed at first, but that lasted a short amount of time. It didn't take long before I was getting turned on by it. I satisfied it by comparing myself to the statistics and the like. It took me a long time before I found SPH. I had been into humiliation with my fantasies ever since I had started masturbating. So it's no surprise I found my way to SPH.

So for me, I guess it was weird. Until I accepted I was small, I would have probably been embarrassed to have had my size exposed. When I finally KNEW I was small, then the SPH kicked in! At that point, I was embarrassed about my SPH kink, but not ashamed my penis was small.

What was your experience? Were you ashamed about being small at first and it evolved into a kink? Was it always a turn on? Are you regular size or big, but it became an extension of your existing humiliation kinks?

Much like you I wasn't aware I was small until later. My buddy used to poke fun of my small hands and feet in front of girls. He was hung! I was about 21 before I realized I was small. We both ended up fucking my girlfriend and he saw my cock and I saw his. I was 4.5 inches and he was 8-9! I went limp after seeing his and he kept fucking my girlfriend. For me seeing how big he was broke my spirit. I was also able to see my girlfriend's eyes rollback in her head. I never made her do that. So I knew it mattered. From that moment i knew I couldn't compete. It took sometime for it to turn from shame to excitement. Now I love when people see how small I am and love when they comment on it. Especially from women. Takes the pressure of me and we both know not to try. They don't want a small guy and I know I don't need to try.

 

[CuckinTx]

i love being compared and comparing. i've compared for years. i love when i have shrinkage being seen (by women and MF/couples) more than when i am almost fully hard. even women i have no chance of fucking i like to know about my tiny dick and tease me if they would.

I also love comparing. So far I am always the smallest. Usually happens during skinny dipping at the pool.

 

[bjlatx]

Much like you I wasn't aware I was small until later. My buddy used to poke fun of my small hands and feet in front of girls. He was hung! I was about 21 before I realized I was small. We both ended up fucking my girlfriend and he saw my cock and I saw his. I was 4.5 inches and he was 8-9! I went limp after seeing his and he kept fucking my girlfriend. For me seeing how big he was broke my spirit. I was also able to see my girlfriend's eyes rollback in her head. I never made her do that. So I knew it mattered. From that moment i knew I couldn't compete. It took sometime for it to turn from shame to excitement. Now I love when people see how small I am and love when they comment on it. Especially from women. Takes the pressure of me and we both know not to try. They don't want a small guy and I know I don't need to try.

How many times did he fuck your girlfriend after that?

 

[CuckinTx]

How many times did he fuck your girlfriend after that?

I dated her for about a year. He probably fucked her 50-60 times. About half the time I was there while they fucked. Other half he would show up while I want there. I was at her house most of the time. I fucked her multiple times weekly.

 

[Escierto]

I dated her for about a year. He probably fucked her 50-60 times. About half the time I was there while they fucked. Other half he would show up while I want there. I was at her house most of the time. I fucked her multiple times weekly.

Did you get off listening to them fuck?

 

[bjlatx]

I dated her for about a year. He probably fucked her 50-60 times. About half the time I was there while they fucked. Other half he would show up while I want there. I was at her house most of the time. I fucked her multiple times weekly.

Did he fuck your other girlfriends that often too?

 

[P0peye]

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[Jerryteroga]

I was always embarrased and ashamed but i started out beleiving i was average size until i started experimenting with women. I soon had a few humiliating experiences, few women asked to see it and began laughing at it calling it small, had one girl turn me down because she told me she would never feel me, had 2 other women that expressed no feelings during sex. Now i knew i was small but it wasnt until many years later when my wife admited to me that i was small for her and she explained how she would prefer 8 inches would be her ideal size (which is twice my size) and some how this is when having a small penis became extremly exciting and fun to be humiliated

 

[Cuck_veronica]

I know this is for SPH. But I have STH(small tit humiliation). Mine started because growing up I was essentially flat until like my junior year when I grew into barely a B cup. I was always teases about it by both girls and guys. It was hurtful for a couple years. But after a while I started noticing that then mocking my tits actually started to get me wet. I was happy that gym class was always my last class because it was torture sometimes in the locker room(both the teasing and also I had developed a voyeurism fetish too. So seeing the other girls change had an effect on me too) and I could run straight home and take care of myself. As I got older I grew to grow confident and started to love my body(to the extent that some in my own family started tell me I am narcissistic especially after I bought a full size mirror and put it in my room near my bed) But I still enjoy the small tit humiliation and humiliation in general if that makes sense. Like I know to most and myself I am probably considered hot. But I guess you could say my humiliation fetish could be like being put in my place. I love it when my confidence is knocked down a few pegs even if it is done only playfully during intimate times

 

[Jerryteroga]

I know this is for SPH. But I have STH(small tit humiliation). Mine started because growing up I was essentially flat until like my junior year when I grew into barely a B cup. I was always teases about it by both girls and guys. It was hurtful for a couple years. But after a while I started noticing that then mocking my tits actually started to get me wet. I was happy that gym class was always my last class because it was torture sometimes in the locker room(both the teasing and also I had developed a voyeurism fetish too. So seeing the other girls change had an effect on me too) and I could run straight home and take care of myself. As I got older I grew to grow confident and started to love my body(to the extent that some in my own family started tell me I am narcissistic especially after I bought a full size mirror and put it in my room near my bed) But I still enjoy the small tit humiliation and humiliation in general if that makes sense. Like I know to most and myself I am probably considered hot. But I guess you could say my humiliation fetish could be like being put in my place. I love it when my confidence is knocked down a few pegs even if it is done only playfully during intimate times

That is awesome i love it. You are only the 2nd female i heard of enjoying this but it makes sense. I personally love small tits i finy them very sexy and the most attractive but i have known or heard of other guys saying negative things about small tits so i know it very much does happen. Have they grown more since or are they still barely a B cup?

 

[Cuck_veronica]

That is awesome i love it. You are only the 2nd female i heard of enjoying this but it makes sense. I personally love small tits i finy them very sexy and the most attractive but i have known or heard of other guys saying negative things about small tits so i know it very much does happen. Have they grown more since or are they still barely a B cup?

Oh it's nice to know another woman on here is into it. I am still barely a B cup

 

[P0peye]

One of the sexiest and most beautiful women I've ever known was completely flat chested. She was also one of the horniest! She could fuck me under the table and frequently did just that. Literally!! Wearing skin tight jeans and spike heels, she had a tiny waist and an ass to die for. I used to love kissing her little nipples, but I couldn't resist biting her gorgeous ass.

 

[Escierto]

I know this is for SPH. But I have STH(small tit humiliation). Mine started because growing up I was essentially flat until like my junior year when I grew into barely a B cup. I was always teases about it by both girls and guys. It was hurtful for a couple years. But after a while I started noticing that then mocking my tits actually started to get me wet. I was happy that gym class was always my last class because it was torture sometimes in the locker room(both the teasing and also I had developed a voyeurism fetish too. So seeing the other girls change had an effect on me too) and I could run straight home and take care of myself. As I got older I grew to grow confident and started to love my body(to the extent that some in my own family started tell me I am narcissistic especially after I bought a full size mirror and put it in my room near my bed) But I still enjoy the small tit humiliation and humiliation in general if that makes sense. Like I know to most and myself I am probably considered hot. But I guess you could say my humiliation fetish could be like being put in my place. I love it when my confidence is knocked down a few pegs even if it is done only playfully during intimate times

A B cup? Those are knockers compared to the women with A cups. Just kidding. I adore small and flat chested women!

 

[nassauguy_2001]

I think I’ve always known I wasn’t very well endowed at least starting in high school. Although it’s not an accurate comparison,I started watching porn at an early age so I was witnessing these guys with enormous cocks. That probably messes with what I thought was average but regardless I felt like mine was pretty tiny especially for how large statured I am.
Fast forward to just a few years ago when I started to chat on Lit quite a bit. I had been chatting with older women about various topics,having a good time and roleplaying among other things. There was one woman that convinced me to send her a dick pick which I didn’t mind doing. Thinking she’d be turned on or impressed;her reaction immediately was to essentially laugh and be the one to tell me how small I am. I was honestly surprised but a switch was flipped at that moment. I don’t know if it was a combo of how much I’m into older,dominant women or that I was meant to be arroused by SPH subconsciously.
I was so turned on,she basically stopped chatting but I managed to find many other people,older married women especially that loved to tease me about my size. I still love to chat with women about it and share pics from time to time.
I’m also a bit of an exhibitionist,I love to be nude and fully own my size. I get erotic massages too knowing that they probably laugh in private about how small I am which only adds to the pleasure.

I relate a lot to your last two sentences as I get off on showing off my small size. I mentioned in another thread that my monthly "legit" massage is done by my girlfriend's best friend. I have to imagine that she has made some comments about my size after they have shared a few Cosmos or some good white wine while relaxing, but my G/F has never mentioned any such comments...