Guys into SPH, did you start out as genuinely embarrassed or ashamed?

[nassauguy_2001]

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I love it when they tell their friends! Or even when they confide in another guy about it. Once saw part of a chat between my ex and guy that wanted to get in her pants. She told him I was too small to satisfy her.

I have mentioned it in another thread, but my GF's bestie is my monthly Masseuse. She always smiles right at me when I roll over to my back and the sheet barely "tents." I am sure after a few cocktails at "The Girls" brunch this has been discussed!

 

[DrewC40s]

I struggled with anxiety induced ED for many years (childhood trauma and all that). I was convinced I was small, and always embarrassed by it. Turns out I’m not. I’m a nice solid average size (which is a huge improvement when you’ve thought you were small your whole life), and apparently thicker than average too. Still get the occasional anxiety come up (no pun intended ), but I just breathe and move through it.

But thanks to the years I doubted my ability to please a partner with my cock, I ended up having an exceptionally strong and endurable tongue, and a great imagination. There’s always a way to bring someone to an earth shattering climax without a cock, if you have imagination and patience!

 

[RoanMtn]

I'm into SPH, I genuinely get turned on by it.

I have a very small penis. It doesn't bother me though. It's what I was born with and accept it. It's also a lot easier to fit into panties with a small penis.

Mother Nature compensated though. I'm 6'5" and 215 pounds, lol.

 

[RoanMtn]

Have you ever gotten teased in person?

One woman told me my penis looked more like a clit than a cock, lol.

 

[sarod]

I would not mind finding a friend with SP that I could suck on. small dicks are nothing to turn down, a lot of smaller cocks fire off like a cannon! Super hot!

 

[BBCfan]

I always had strong ego surrounding my dick size from positive feedback all my life...until my partner crushed that by admitting I was very average from her experiences.
The more she revealed it felt like a punch in the gut hearing how she had enjoyed massive dicks from many boyfriends that put me to shame.

The humiliation and insecurity turned into arousal at some point and now I have to be careful when having sex that I don't think too much about those monster dicks she loved or I'll nut way too quickly.
Would have never thought it could happen but I've been switched into having SPH arousal.

 

[Leigh81]

One woman told me my penis looked more like a clit than a cock, lol.

That's what I call a little dink.

 

[P0peye]

One woman told me that sucking my little penis made her feel like she was blowing her toddler nephew.

 

[P0peye]

Growing up, I didn't really think much about my own penis size because I never saw any other boys naked and as a result, had no one to compare myself to. It was only when I began jerking off with my best friend that I realized that my erection was MUCH smaller that his was. We measured his at 8 1/2 inches and THICK while mine was barely 4 inches, FULLY ERECT! and quite thin. Needless to say, the effect on my psyche was dramatic. We would masturbate while watching his father's collection of 8mm black and white stag films and all
the male stars had cocks resembling that of my friend. further enforcing my own feelings of inferiority. As we masturbated, my friend would identify with the male studs, while I identified with their female partners and grew to envy their ability to accept huge cocks all the way down their throats, fueling my desire to become a Cocksucker.

 

[RoanMtn]

That's what I call a little dink.

I'm actually glad it's that small..don't have to worry about it flopping about at inconvenient moments, or constantly having to adjust it, and it's the perfect size for panties. I go to a nudist camp a few times a year, and I definitely have the smallest cock, as well as the only one hairless. The first time my urologist saw it, she gave me a big smile, as did the nurse practitioner the first time I saw her.

On another note, I have a long tongue and love to eat pussy. No woman has ever complained about that, lol.

 

[WonderPonder]

I'm actually glad it's that small..don't have to worry about it flopping about at inconvenient moments, or constantly having to adjust it, and it's the perfect size for panties. I go to a nudist camp a few times a year, and I definitely have the smallest cock, as well as the only one hairless. The first time my urologist saw it, she gave me a big smile, as did the nurse practitioner the first time I saw her.

On another note, I have a long tongue and love to eat pussy. No woman has ever complained about that, lol.

I'm like you and love that I have a small penis. Also my wife has told me how good I am with my tongue on her pussy and ass. The only negative is that I have to sit to pee or I'd be getting it all over myself lol.
I love being a cuckold and have completely embraced my small size now that my friend and neighbor owns my wife's pussy exclusively with his much bigger cock.

 

[artgorden]

Ive been going gyms for 40 years. Been laughed at a few times. We met a couple one night stand bulls. The see my little dick and they know.

 

[LizVegas79]

As a woman, I just want to say this thread is absolutely fascinating.

Thanks for being so open and honest about your feelings and experiences guys.

And I was sorry to read that the original poster's marriage fell apart after getting involved in the swinger's "lifestyle". That sucks. It's definitely a risk for all swingers though. Not just ones with SPH tendencies. I personally know of two marriages that have fallen apart after getting involved in the lifestyle. One might have had a little something to do with size (no pun intended lol) but they other bigger issues too. Again, no pun intended. The other one had nothing to do with penis sizes at all though so you just never know.

 

[RoanMtn]

I guess some might consider this humiliation, but I was okay with it. I occasionally visit a nudist camp not too far from where I live. On one day, I was getting undressed in the parking lot and a woman was walking by, as I was pulling off my shorts she noticed my panties. I took them off and she gave me a big smile, looking at my small, hairless penis. She then waved at me with her little finger and walked on. Actually, I thought it was pretty funny.

 

[bjlatx]

So, @LizVegas79, do you like small dicks?

 

[artgorden]

So, @LizVegas79, do you like small dicks?

Small dicks are ok, but I really like to be the bitch to a real man . Fuck my wife like I can't and you own me.

 

[LizVegas79]

So, @LizVegas79, do you like small dicks?

I'm sorry but I can't say that I do. I've been called a size queen more than once in my life. More than twice too lol

 

[bjlatx]

I'm sorry but I can't say that I do. I've been called a size queen more than once in my life. More than twice too lol

You don’t have to apologize. It took years for my wife to admit that she needed a lot more than I can offer. I have no problems with it at all.

 

[nutoseen]

I'm into SPH, I genuinely get turned on by it. It wasn't always that way though.

I wasn't aware penis size was really a "big" deal until I think my early teen years. At the time we had the internet by then and all used it, but I wasn't really looking up penis size statistics or anything at that point. It was still pretty new at that time. But we did start talking about it among friends. None of us new what a normal size was, big or small, or what it was supposed to be when we became adults. What I do remember is, all of us boys were liars and we were all universally "6 inches" long lol.

I obviously knew I wasn't that long, I'm not sure when I first measured, but I definitely knew I wasn't 6 inches long. I wasn't embarrassed or anything at the time, because I was still growing and just assumed I'd grow up into an adult with a huge penis!

I didn't start having reservations about my size until closer to the end of high school. I didn't want to be seen flaccid, definitely not completely flaccid, because I didn't want anyone to think I was small. And I still lied about penis size, because by then I knew average and that I was smaller than it. Yet, I didn't feel like I was lying, because I hadn't accepted that I was already as big as I would get. It was also easy to fool myself, because my sexual experience was limited until I was much older, so there weren't any women to confirm one way or another.

However, in the year after I had finished high school, I started checking out statistics online and comparing. I had a couple experiences where I was partially exposed or nearly exposed, that got me thinking about my size more critically. I realized I was done growing and started to measure without cheating or rounding up. I was a little disappointed at first, but that lasted a short amount of time. It didn't take long before I was getting turned on by it. I satisfied it by comparing myself to the statistics and the like. It took me a long time before I found SPH. I had been into humiliation with my fantasies ever since I had started masturbating. So it's no surprise I found my way to SPH.

So for me, I guess it was weird. Until I accepted I was small, I would have probably been embarrassed to have had my size exposed. When I finally KNEW I was small, then the SPH kicked in! At that point, I was embarrassed about my SPH kink, but not ashamed my penis was small.

What was your experience? Were you ashamed about being small at first and it evolved into a kink? Was it always a turn on? Are you regular size or big, but it became an extension of your existing humiliation kinks?

kind of both. confused why i got so aroused when seen soft with shrinkage. also felt odd about getting off when compared, seen by my womans mom, "cumming" while being teased without being touched. i seek it out now.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've seen plenty of amateur porno relationships fall apart for the same reason. It's not always size but I think it's the difference in size, and the woman feeling that she has a lot more options to explore which leads to disagreements and divorce.

This might also apply to husbands who find women with bigger tits or tighter pussies. They could also just want exotic women like Asians. They could stop paying attention to their wives or cuckqueans if that's the lifestyle they want, and then their cuckcake gets all the attention.

 

[Luv4hotwives]

As a woman, I just want to say this thread is absolutely fascinating.

Thanks for being so open and honest about your feelings and experiences guys.

And I was sorry to read that the original poster's marriage fell apart after getting involved in the swinger's "lifestyle". That sucks. It's definitely a risk for all swingers though. Not just ones with SPH tendencies. I personally know of two marriages that have fallen apart after getting involved in the lifestyle. One might have had a little something to do with size (no pun intended lol) but they other bigger issues too. Again, no pun intended. The other one had nothing to do with penis sizes at all though so you just never know.

It really can be a risky lifestyle. Although, we were convinced entering into it that neither of us would fall out of love. Maybe that was part of the problem.

As time has gone on, I've realized there was a lot more to it. Yes, she fell in love with the other guy and that ultimately ended it, but something else would have likely came along down the road. On here, given the nature of the forum I focus on the sexual stuff, but hopefully no small guys end up reading it and assume they're doomed lol.

I realize too that my kinks might not be healthy in the context of a relationship. I am very sex positive, but I'm learning that it doesn't need to mean indulging in everything. I still fantasize about sph, and write stories involving it, but I also could see it fading into something else as time goes on. By the time I'm ready to date again and if I date again, I strongly suspect I will no longer be focused on it.

I guess that is partly why I'm interested in how other people's similar kinks developed.

 

[CuMex1]

I have a penis size that is on the smaller side of what's considered average and I have always been turned on by SPH. My lady admittedly does like and enjoys a much larger penis size (7" or bigger), than my size. I would say however that as far as Sph goes it is something that I'm more into. But we acquiesce each other's interests.

 

[whenagain]

I'm sorry but I can't say that I do. I've been called a size queen more than once in my life. More than twice too lol

If you’re a guy posting to this thread hoping Liz will be one of the gals saying “oh don’t worry size doesn’t matter”. . . You may have another thing coming.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I've decided to take my small pee-pee humiliation much further by locking myself up in chastity and trying to only dream of interracial sex where I have to lick and clean both partners.

Not all the time, I have my own needs, but most of the time if they're dominant enough might work.

 

[Leigh81]

If you’re a guy posting to this thread hoping Liz will be one of the gals saying “oh don’t worry size doesn’t matter”. . . You may have another thing coming.

I'd say if you're under 5" in length & below average girth then any woman saying, size doesn't matter is either lying to protect your feelings or isn't that big into intercourse.
Average is fine, especially with oral.