How Do You View Yourself?

[mnbreastluver]

In a mirror like most people.

 

[Wand3rlust]

Gullible.

 

[DarkFlameDesires]

Typical guy I think.

 

[thetiesthatbindme]

Extremely hard on myself. Growing up knowing nobody had my back as early as age 7 and then marrying someone with narcissistic personality disorder who's incapable of loving anyone,has done major damage. If the one person whose supposed to be there for you no matter what,doesn't care(mother)...why would anybody else? My 25+yr. Marriage just reinforced that belief...why am I so unloveable? What's wrong with me? It's tough

 

[SherlockianMan]

This is a loaded question.

I view myself a smart-ass who uses humor and snark to make up for insecurities. A long time sufferer of chronic depression. A hopeless romantic with little outlet for it. Also a hopeless perv with Lit as my outlet. Over-educated, under-stimulated. Always looking for ways to fill the voids.

 

[KinkyLaughs]

In a mirror.

 

[willlph]

Extremely hard on myself. Growing up knowing nobody had my back as early as age 7 and then marrying someone with narcissistic personality disorder who's incapable of loving anyone,has done major damage. If the one person who’s supposed to be there for you no matter what,doesn't care(mother)...why would anybody else? My 25+yr. Marriage just reinforced that belief...why am I so unloveable? What's wrong with me? It's tough

I can relate to this post wholeheartedly

 

[GirlFur]

I view myself as sexy and strong and beautiful, but it took a lot of work to get myself there. Having an unconventional body (lots of body hair that was hard to control), I had body issues, like even a lot of women with "normal" bodies have.

Now I feel confident and happy with who I am. Some people might think I look weird, but I focus on the ones who accept and even embrace the real me.

 

[GirlFur]

Nothing special really..

Wow, seriously? You're gorgeous

 

[GirlFur]

I see myself as struggling in many ways. In the past 14 months I’ve started finally getting treated for anxiety and depression through medication as well as therapy — and as much as I like my therapist there is one big struggle I’m unwilling to talk to her about, which is part of my biggest struggle. This would be my marriage, which I feel is not good at this stage. My wife believes that I’m at fault for the state we are in, particularly the lack of sex, while I don’t feel attracted to her sexually anymore because of how she treats me (which includes berating and putting me down when she disagrees with my approach to anything, and she always does it where my kids can see and hear it happening). I can’t even talk to her about what is bothering me because every single fucking time I have tried she turns it around and blames me for feeling that way, so I end up feeling worse than before. She won’t actually listen to what I’m saying because she always thinks she knows what I’m going to say.

And the marriage is my fault in a way, when we met I didn’t want to have kids but she did, and I asked her for time to reconsider because I really liked her, and I should have just stood my ground on that and ended things then, because I suck as a parent, no matter how hard I try to be successful. I feel all I’m really contributing is buying groceries, making meals, doing laundry, cleaning, and driving kids to their activities. I’m not a husband or father, I’m Mr. French from Family Affair!

Unfortunately I lack the financial means right now to get a divorce and find a new place to live, so I just have to put up with all of it. This is why I find myself looking for sex outside our marriage, because I am in such desperate need to feel attractive and wanted and desired. And I know that’s just trying to justify the decision, but after ten years I decided I had to do something. Even that pursuit has been largely unsuccessful to be honest.

Even with work I feel like I’ve failed, I have changed jobs and careers as often as I’ve changed vehicles, I earned a BA in Education in two years but I can’t get a permanent teaching job, so I’m on my third year as a substitute teacher. At least I’m finally writing, mostly on my first book, but also some stories here on Lit (I hate to say it but I’ve had the most success in the last year with the stories published here!).

So that’s honestly how I view myself.

love your thoughtful and honest reply

 

[GirlFur]

yeah I dont really see it tbh :/

i do

 

[Lorack]

Nothing special really..

whaaa? I dont believe that

 

[AlexBailey]

I feel lonely and old a lot.

In the last few years - my kids all left home and are independent productive and happy. My father, a brother, and my stepfather all passed away and my mother moved to another state. My sister and her husband are swinger dinks who never visit. One of my best friends was murdered, another went away to prison for a horrible crime. My wife got promoted to supervisor and now takes work calls nearly 24/7, add menopause to that and I’m pretty much on my own.

Most of the fun scene I was part of before Covid went away and hasn’t returned, my business used to be cutting edge but now it’s old tech, still someone else could be thriving in my position while can’t get myself to feel motivated.

My health is okay at the moment but I’m starkly facing the reality that my best days are behind me. One part of me wants to go wild while the other part wants to curl up in bed and pull the covers up over my head.

 

[mpeters]

love your thoughtful and honest reply

Thank you.

 

[Crownvic]

yeah just how I feel really.

You are beautiful..

 

[AWonkyDonkey]

What I like about Lit is the support between people. Everyone has issues but at least here, we're all hidden behind a screen - be it a computer or phone. The support given to each other is genuinely one of the better things about this place.

 

[RachelPost]

How do I view myself? Frequently as flawed and messed up. I get stuck trying hard to be perfect and then beating myself over not being able to do it. I give so much of myself, I really don't have anything left for me. It's really difficult for me to do something nice for me, like buy something that's not a need. That feels selfish. Selfish is bad, really bad.

So, I frequently hide behind the mask of a confident, competent woman, funny and giving. But the humor is sometimes so people don't see me. I'm afraid they won't like me.

I'm not always like that. Sometimes, I don't need to hide behind the mask, because I am those things. But at times, when I am alone, the dark corner is inviting.

 

[nedthebundler]

I'm just an older guy that has been married for a long time.

Absolutely average, and I prefer to work in the background making things better than being in the limelight. A quiet Thank You is always appreciated, not expected.

I'm overweight and finally working on that.

 

[PersonalFavors]

As of late, lazy. I view myself as a good cook, but wonder how successful I really am. Compliments from new victims this year were like, "how do you even know how to do that"? I try not to be sarcastic but, fire? Ever heard of fire?
Otherwise healthy and a positive participant in the community.
I could get more exorcise, but maintain a height weight proportionate exterior, sleep well and have the ability to be completely stiff when aroused and remain so such that I am not one and done.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I think there's potential for more sarcasm.

 

[Xerxes82]

In a mirror, or on video. Same as any other weirdo.

 

[mnbreastluver]

While standing on my head I’d have to say upside down.

 

[dreamysub]

DISCREET
Black, professional, educated, Christian woman... that loves sex, masturbation and being addicted to porn and websites like this since college. Dreams of going to a sex club or porn theater one day to watch and be used by men. Also curious about scissoring a woman.
....
So sometimes I feel guilt and shame after cumming by masturbation

Wish we could go together!

I am curious about the same thing.

 

[dreamysub]

I see myself as someone who would give you the WORLD, but somehow it's never enough. Leaves me wondering where did I go wrong that I am the one whos never enough, never the first choice, never the priority... I just don't understand WHY.

 

[Trubbycat]

I view myself with a mirror or other reflective object.