how many of you actually do bdsm in real life?

[ChicBookFiend]

I have only read novels and stories about it, but I am definitely interested in trying it. I have shown sub tendencies for as long as I could remember.

 

[shy slave]

I am in LDR and see him alot compared to many people in LDR, but it is still not enough.

The plan is for me to move to him, but the fine print needs work!

Oh and yes it was fun to use that strap on your hand yesterday. I had a great day, even if I did not find my sore feet as amusing as you did

I love the Av, but when are you going to take some new pics?

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i think that's doomed to fail...they're always topping from the bottom.

LOL oh so true, as the bookmark that i have says: as every cat owner knows No one OWNS a cat

 

[raven_wish]

married and have been with hubby (over all, not just married) for 8 and a half years. though 'experimenting' started slow years ago, now it is a definite part of who we are. i cant even remember the last time we had 'vanilla sex' (gawd i hate labels) nor do i crave it ever; though ive heard many who do crave it and/or have it regularly.

 

[FurryFury]

None of these categories really fit me. Oh well.

OTOH, my cat was using "the whip" heavily this morning and NOT in a good way.

*L*

Fury

 

[Bandit58]

Our relationship has been evolving over the 3 years we've been together.....started out in the bedroom, went through to my service as His carer and He recently asked me if I would like to take the D/s element further - as in calling Him Sir and giving me more orders

I now wear His collar 24/7 and in a few days will have a wedding ring too.

 

[JMohegan]

Public polls are great. Not sure I understand the point of the anonymous type, to tell you the truth.

...and now i regret not having a "i'm a wannabe" option

No worries. I'll just treat it as an adjunct option.

wan·na·be
n.
1. One who aspires to a role or position.
2. One who imitates the behavior, customs, or dress of an admired person or group

Whether working to emulate the skill of others with various tools or techniques, or striving to match the image in my head of the partner I wish to be, I have always fit that definition.

Lifelong wannabe. Mark me down for that.

The plan is for me to move to him, but the fine print needs work!

That reminds me.

How are those Danish lessons coming, Shy?

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I'm in an LDR that is full time, and we share RL time when we can. It's a REAL relationship ... our only distance is geographical.

That is EXACTLY what My little rose & I have.

 

[shy slave]

That reminds me.

How are those Danish lessons coming, Shy?

And I suppose you think thats funny, huh?

I am desperately trying to show an improvement since I last saw him but it is not going well.

I am in a class of three people and I am third

He may decide to take up your idea if I am not careful, but I am sure he would chain me to the tread mill at the same time.

Damn Doms.

*sob*

 

[Toa_lin]

I'm rl, in a long-distance currently. but we're saving up for my pyl to come move in with me so, that's not on the list , one close enough though.

 

[the captians wench]

I'm in an ldr of 14+ months and have yet to have r/l with him, but I do have sessions with friends. I've also done a few public displays in clubs but I fear those days are over as the guy who owned the shop that I worked in and did them has cut ties with everyone. Sad really as he was amazing with a single tail, and what a performer.

Anyway, there are hopes for a first meet with my love, but this atlantic ocean is proving quite the bitch, as is my van. Some day our time will come tho.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

i've done this thread before, long ago...but there's a lot of new faces here now!

always interesting to see the who are the lifers, the onliners and the dreamers.

so, tell me, what's your style now and would you want it to be any different?

wait for the poll!

I've been into in for sometime. I started exploring it online about 10 years ago, and in real life about 4 or 5 years ago.

At this point, it's part of my sex life. It's not what sex is about every time I have sex, but it dominates my masturbation fantasies. I tend to be submissive 2/3rds of the time when my husband and I play, but he likes to be submissive occasionally so I dominate about 1/3 of the time.

At this point, I'd like to visit a professional mistress someday, and my husband also likes the idea of both of us being dominated at the same time by a domme.

 

[lne_iii]

i do it rl sometimes...when i feel like playing.

Heh, or more fittingly, when I find someone to play with.

Pretty much always feel like it.

 

[submissiveknight]

i do it rl all the time...i live the life.

Been living the 24/7 D/s relationship for a little over 2 yrs now!

Been married for going on 9yrs now, but basically a D/s relationship just w/o the affirmation of it.

Unfortunently are work hours have really decreased Our time together lately. Been mostly into servitude for my Mistress,although that to has even been suffering, this is always been my bad time of year.

Mmmmmmmm, maybe if I beg this week.

 

[dolf]

I love the Av, but when are you going to take some new pics?

^^^just a few weeks old.

 

[ShinigamiSama]

i've done this thread before, long ago...but there's a lot of new faces here now!

always interesting to see the who are the lifers, the onliners and the dreamers.

so, tell me, what's your style now and would you want it to be any different?

wait for the poll!

I'm a really new guy
and I've been told I'd probly be good at it
and from what I've read and watched it does seem like something I'd do ok at
but I've not had the chance to try
though once I finish this last year and get my diploma, I should have the time to get into the scene a bit more
and not just BDSM, just the sexual scene in general

I've onlined a little bit, but it just doesn't feel right - to easy to fake

 

[myinnerslut]

LDR (how i hate being so far away from Sir so often!!)

 

[O'Mac]

I've never been able to do it online and the last LDR I had didn't really work out. I think its hard for me to develop a strong bond with someone if they live 5 hours away by train.

For me, the best relationship have always been close (in distance) with the two of us spending a lot of casual time with each other.

 

[Toa_lin]

yeah, I understand that. And it is hard to be in an LDR, but I'm in the unique position where plans have been thought up and are being implemeted to make it so it goes from LDR to living in same househoold

 

[SirVitude]

well.. first post on a new forum *hi everybody*

I live "the life" so to speak, my partner and I have been together for 2.5 years and i always new (so did she) that she was submisive, we only really discovered "the lifestyle" a month or two ago... contracts/play lists and safe words are all new to us but the D/s lifestyle is not really, if you get what i mean? with us its not playing its just natural.

we work together, sleep together, but dont yet officialy live together and I already control (in a positive way) her life.

 

[JMohegan]

And I suppose you think thats funny, huh?

As a matter of fact, yes. Yes I do.

But the mental image of you chained to the treadmill is even funnier.

 

[dolf]

But the mental image of you chained to the treadmill is even funnier.

wearing heels!

 

[Betticus]

wearing heels!

Heheheheheheheehehehehe......

 

[Chicklet]

I now wear His collar 24/7 and in a few days will have a wedding ring too.

i've been watching that ticker! I hope you'll take an early congratulations?

 

[Soumis]

i do it rl sometimes...when i feel like playing

The "when I feel like playing" isn't pertinent, because I always feel like playing. This choice was the closest fit since I'm not in a bdsm relationship right now, but still play every chance I get.