how many of you actually do bdsm in real life?

[shy slave]

Jm, dolf and Betticus ~ You are all mean, mean, mean!!

Dolf I am not sure he could put up with my bitching if I was in heels....

 

[dolf]

Jm, dolf and Betticus ~ You are all mean, mean, mean!!

Dolf I am not sure he could put up with my bitching if I was in heels....

he'd be laughing too hard to hear it

 

[shy slave]

he'd be laughing too hard to hear it

*cries*

 

[Bandit58]

i've been watching that ticker! I hope you'll take an early congratulations?

Thanks Chicklet

 

[Evil_Geoff]

so, tell me, what's your style now and would you want it to be any different?

I live my life as I chose, with my slave janey at my side and with a third in a developing poly relationship.

Life after bypass surgery is truly incredible!

 

[malewhore]

I use to do it all the time

The it stopped when me and one of my ex's broke up. It was great I loved it every second. I was the sub.

 

[Xelebes]

Of all the sex I have recieved, I have recieved a decent bit for a one-night stand.

 

[Sprinkles22]

I live my life as I chose, with my slave janey at my side and with a third in a developing poly relationship.

Life after bypass surgery is truly incredible!

Life after bypass surgery makes you healthier NOW than you were THEN ... you've got the whole world ahead of you!

Good luck, and I'm happy you had a successful operation and good recovery.

~Sprinkles

 

[sharezade]

i do it rl sometimes...when i feel like playing.

I have lived it in the past, and want to again - it must be part of any relationship I have.

Right now I am teaching my cats to bottom, but that is slow going....

I lauched out loud and attracted a bit of attention.

"...when I feel like playing" is as close as it comes for me...but that's not quite right either. I always feel like playing...but he almost NEVER feels like playing...so I wait "submissively" for him to feel like playing.....sometimes for months


yeah...I think I need a hobby too.

 

[SpectreT]

Public polls are great. Not sure I understand the point of the anonymous type, to tell you the truth.

Some folks won't answer honestly, or at all, if they know their name's attatched to it.

 

[Little_Kitten]

Im new to all this.. well kinda.... But I read and read and read... I also dream it sometimes. Im in an LDR with my BF from USA >.< I cant wait to finally meet him and experience all this IRL. We're gonna take it slow and gradually though. He's so understanding...

 

[babiesmiles]

LDR here and we don't like bdsm online at all, so it is for our rare precious meetings .

Edit to add i voted the LDR but as I said above when we are far we discuss about bdsm items and study together but we don't play .

 

[callinectes]

I don't think any of these options really fit my situation. I am in a real-time relationship and even though the D/s overtone is always present in varying degrees, I'm not sure I could be considered "living the life".

 

[neonflux]

I didn't feel like the choices represented my situation, either. BDSM is an important part of my sexuality, and is leading me to new levels of intimacy, self-knowledge, etc. I don't have a 24/7 relationship, nor do I think I want to have one, unless I could find someone with whom I could switch at regular intervals. That said, I do it in real life, I take classes, I read constantly, I belong to a couple of RL communities. I checked the box, "I do it when I feel like playing," but that reads too much to me like "it's an occasional turn on." However, even though I am not in a 24/7 relationship (of any kind right now), for me it's much more than that.

hmmmmm......

Neon

 

[dolf]

I didn't feel like the choices represented my situation, either. BDSM is an important part of my sexuality, and is leading me to new levels of intimacy, self-knowledge, etc. I don't have a 24/7 relationship, nor do I think I want to have one, unless I could find someone with whom I could switch at regular intervals. That said, I do it in real life, I take classes, I read constantly, I belong to a couple of RL communities. I checked the box, "I do it when I feel like playing," but that reads too much to me like "it's an occasional turn on." However, even though I am not in a 24/7 relationship (of any kind right now), for me it's much more than that.

hmmmmm......

Neon

classes?

sounds interesting.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

classes?

sounds interesting.

They usually are, dolf! *grins*

Most BDSM events have educational classes scheduled, some a few, some have a LOT. Many groups (at least here in the US) schedule demonstrations and presentations once a month, some more frequently, some less frequently. Education is considered very important by a lot of us, we want to learn how to do things with as little risk of injury as possible, with as much fun as possible.

I've been to events and groups from North Carolina to Texas, I've presented for some and attended classes for almost all of them... It's always been good for me! WOO!

 

[Ebonyfire]

They usually are, dolf! *grins*

Most BDSM events have educational classes scheduled, some a few, some have a LOT. Many groups (at least here in the US) schedule demonstrations and presentations once a month, some more frequently, some less frequently. Education is considered very important by a lot of us, we want to learn how to do things with as little risk of injury as possible, with as much fun as possible.

I've been to events and groups from North Carolina to Texas, I've presented for some and attended classes for almost all of them... It's always been good for me! WOO!

Piggybacking...
I too, have attended classes, and been to a lot of demonstrations, and I have enjoyed them. I cannot stress enough the importance of education. Sharpening or expanding ones skill set is always good. I say WOO HOO!

Eb

 

[Toa_lin]

I've always wanted to go to one of those seminars... except I'm in like the least open minded state of them all, and no seminar gets within the state borders... and I haven't had time to take a road trip to one... Yet.

 

[FurryFury]

I've always wanted to go to one of those seminars... except I'm in like the least open minded state of them all, and no seminar gets within the state borders... and I haven't had time to take a road trip to one... Yet.

My state is like that too but upon looking I found a surprising number of local groups.

Fury

 

[malewhore]

Does anyone know any good groups in northeast Ohio

 

[shy slave]

classes?

sounds interesting.

Your local munch has demos, which sort of double up as classes

The munch in the next county along has 5 demos booked for next year.

Rope
Needles & blood play
Whips
Ummm I forget the others...

If you would only stop killing cars you could get your ass there

And no, I have no intention of going.
Why would I want to learn to tie someone up? unless it was you when you laugh at my sore feet in high heels

 

[Ebonyfire]

:

And no, I have no intention of going.
Why would I want to learn to tie someone up? unless it was you when you laugh at my sore feet in high heels

But you could be volunteered to be the one tied up at the demo. I have volunteered one of my subs before.

Eb

 

[shy slave]

But you could be volunteered to be the one tied up at the demo. I have volunteered one of my subs before.

Eb

I am too shy.

 

[jadefirefly]

*sigh* I didn't know what to answer on this one. In my last relationship, there were definitely undertones of BDSM, but there wasn't as much face-time as either of us would have liked (LDRs are hard ) and when it ended, I haven't been with anyone since. I don't realy "do it" online, via phone, or anything of that sort, so I just picked the last option, as it seemed like the most honest one.

Thanks for reminding me I haven't got anyone to pull my hair!

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I've always wanted to go to one of those seminars... except I'm in like the least open minded state of them all, and no seminar gets within the state borders... and I haven't had time to take a road trip to one... Yet.

And

Does anyone know any good groups in northeast Ohio

To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

And Tao... if we have BDSM Groups in South Carolina, I can pretty much guarantee they are there in YOUR neck of the woods somewhere...