how many of you actually do bdsm in real life?

[dolf]

Your local munch has demos, which sort of double up as classes

The munch in the next county along has 5 demos booked for next year.

Rope
Needles & blood play
Whips
Ummm I forget the others...

If you would only stop killing cars you could get your ass there

And no, I have no intention of going.
Why would I want to learn to tie someone up? unless it was you when you laugh at my sore feet in high heels

hmmm, i leave that stuff to Daddy...i'm far too fond of killing cars

 

[malewhore]

Thank You

Evil thank you for the information.

 

[s_red830]

Where I am

I'm in my first BDSM-based relationship that has some aspects of 24/7 but isn't entirely. It's LDR, but there is fun with webcams to be had...

 

[Netzach]

I'd like more. I'm in a good place to evaluate systems and realize what's working and what's not for me - the lack of SM play that I've been suffering from is directly fied to a lack of organization and direction on my own part - I live with a submissive, it's there for me if I can manage and make it be there, which I haven't been able to do.

Part of this is a function of being in my early 30's - nothing more. However in one's early 30's being young ceases to be an explanation for not having one's shit entirely together. I've reached a point where "how to do X skill" is of far less import to the expansion and health of my D/s path than listening to the one minute manager or deciding that my finances have to be handled differently or keeping a clean kitchen sink whether it's via cleaning or delegating.

 

[subtleone]

I consider myself very lucky to be married to my Master therefore I chose - I live the life - however I do live it behind closed doors so I'm not entirely sure if that is really 'the life' I may go to munches in the future but have not as yet and do not advertise in any way my lifestyle choice. So I guess it would be more accurate to say 'I live the life when I can fit it around everything else'. That said I am very happy with the level I'm at.

 

[Toa_lin]

And


To find local Munches, email groups, and events in your area, try:
SceneUSA - http://www.darkheart.com/sceneusa.html
Caryl's Page - http://www.drkdesyre.com/
The BDSM Events Page - http://www.thebdsmeventspage.com/ which has links to both organizations AND events.

And Tao... if we have BDSM Groups in South Carolina, I can pretty much guarantee they are there in YOUR neck of the woods somewhere...

Hehe, I'm not saying there aren't any here, just not the easiest to track down. And unfortunately, I have very little free time to try to do so. Thanks for the links though, they helped re-inforce my beleif that there's a couple somewhere with-in reasonable distance.... Of course the closest one I could find in those lists, are pretty private so, oh well... I plan on taking a road trip once I can afford it anyway, so i'll jsut be patient and wait. Either way, thanks again.

 

[dolf]

gotta say that i hate the munch scene...it's not the way to go for everyone.

if it's just not your scene then that's fine

 

[Netzach]

gotta say that i hate the munch scene...it's not the way to go for everyone.

if it's just not your scene then that's fine

I am a grit-your-teeth-and-bear it person on those. I did snag a husband at one and a great play partner at another, but it takes a lot of horses to drag me out.

I'll obnoxiously treat everyone to my wish for what a munch might be like:

I would love to go to a munch that looks and feels almost identical to a business networking lunch. Those involved would happen to be people with perverse leanings having quiet and subdued conversations.

Some things, I have decided, are FINE in the closet. For 4 years I have never been someone a client would have to explain in stammers if we went to starbucks together after his session.

I do not like being outed by other people's garb, loud conversations, inability to consider that "no play" means "no play" etc.

 

[dolf]

I am a grit-your-teeth-and-bear it person on those. I did snag a husband at one and a great play partner at another, but it takes a lot of horses to drag me out.

i think it's just that there are too many of a certain type of guy there...

"i call myself a dom, therefore you must automatically respect and submit to me!"

...i have very little will power...when they try it on me, sometimes i do just stare at them and laugh.

 

[Netzach]

i think it's just that there are too many of a certain type of guy there...

"i call myself a dom, therefore you must automatically respect and submit to me!"

...i have very little will power...when they try it on me, sometimes i do just stare at them and laugh.

Oh. Not even a blip on my radar anymore. LOL.

 

[caela]

I voted that I do it when I feel like playing and that I aspire to more lol.

Right now I'm pretty active in my munch group and I have a couple of friends that I am able to scene with now and then. For now it works but eventually I hope to meet someone that can be more than just a friend and a play partner.

As for the whole munch thing, Dolf is right and they aren't for everyone but after reading some of the horror stories people her on Lit have of them I am ever so much more grateful for mine. When we go out we look like any other group of friends having a meal together. We talk about anything from how work is treating all of us to kids, families, politics etc. as well as kink.

Thanks for reminding me I'm blessed in them!

 

[Ebonyfire]

I do not like being outed by other people's garb, loud conversations, inability to consider that "no play" means "no play" etc.

How did I miss this? You hit the nail right on the head!

I have not been to one munch in all the time I have lived on the east coast! Just do not feel good about them here! I didn't have that problem in the Pacific Northwest.

Eb

 

[shy slave]

i think it's just that there are too many of a certain type of guy there...

"i call myself a dom, therefore you must automatically respect and submit to me!"

...i have very little will power...when they try it on me, sometimes i do just stare at them and laugh.

At the one munch I have seen you at, you had a Dom guy hanging on your every word. Then there was the old Dom guy who you tore to shreds just by looking at him.

I watched and learnt.

Our local munch scene is not my ideal place either. People keep telling me it has changed but the same people go and expect to be bowed down to.
Not to mention the 'couples corner' who expect all single people to give them due respect.

Although there are some great people who go there, it is just as easy for me to see them outside the munch.

I just can't be bothered, and TV is good on a saturday night.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Like several here, I didn't think any of the options really were my situation. So I chose lived the life before and aspire to more as they are the closest. I've never done the online thing, only r/l, although that's a bit hard to do when you don't have a partner. I want 24/7, but am beginning to think that Phoenix just doesn't have enough good Doms to go around.

 

[Andante]

(....)I just can't be bothered, and TV is good on a saturday night.

TV is actually crap on a saturday night, and you damn well know that....

 

[shy slave]

TV is actually crap on a saturday night, and you damn well know that....

I like crap......



*note to self, do not tease so close to being able to be within a crop reach of him*

I am saying nothing else. Nothing at all

*seals lips*

 

[neonflux]

Goddess, never expected the discussion on munches here - makes me grateful that I live where I live, or that I at least travel in the circles in which I travel. Of course, living in SF, multiple tattoos and piercings don't really raise an eyebrow anywhere, so that is a non-issue. Over-the-Top Dommes and people who don't understand that no play means no-play - yuck!!! Then again, one does find a-holes in any social group, I guess I'm lucky that I haven't run into folks of that variety very often, LOL.. Would definitely scare me off the munch scene. ~ Neon

 

[FurryFury]

My local group isn't like the negatives I've seen talked about here, thank goodness. They are simply a group of what seems like very nice, accepting people. I like that and them very much so far.

Fury

 

[neonflux]

My local group isn't like the negatives I've seen talked about here, thank goodness. They are simply a group of what seems like very nice, accepting people. I like that and them very much so far.

Fury

didn't say this quite so directly, which I should have, because I like the people I've met in my kink communities. so, me too!

 

[FurryFury]

didn't say this quite so directly, which I should have, because I like the people I've met in my kink communities. so, me too!

Fury

 

[WriterDom]

"Be careful Anais, abnormal pleasures kill the taste for normal ones."
~ Eduardo, (Anais Nin's Cousin in the movie Henry & June)

 

[Evil_Geoff]

My local group isn't like the negatives I've seen talked about here, thank goodness. They are simply a group of what seems like very nice, accepting people. I like that and them very much so far.

Fury

My local group is _MY_ local group (I founded it after all), so I think the quality of people who are active members are, in fact, a reflection of me and on me. If I am a total jerk and asshole, the group would probably be full of them. But since I am honest, open, genuine, erudite, compassionate, funny, brilliant, smooth, eloquent, suave, debonair, chic...

What? What? Why are all of you laughing so hard?

 

[FurryFury]

My local group is _MY_ local group (I founded it after all), so I think the quality of people who are active members are, in fact, a reflection oof me and on me. If I am a total jerk and asshole, the group would probably be full of them. But since I am honest, open, genuine, erudite, compassionate, funny, brilliant, smooth, eloquent, suave, debonair, chic...

What? What? Why are all of you laughing so hard?

Oh Sugah, I wasn't laughing at all. I promise.

Fury

 

[DVS]

It was once a part of everyday Life; it isn't at the moment; I doubt it will be again.

Sorry to hear that. Maybe you just need the right kind of um...catalyst.


I practice it every chance I get, which hasn't been that regular, lately. But, it's pretty steady, when I get the chance. Like dolf said...tied down, they don't leave.

 

[neonflux]

My local group is _MY_ local group (I founded it after all), so I think the quality of people who are active members are, in fact, a reflection oof me and on me. If I am a total jerk and asshole, the group would probably be full of them. But since I am honest, open, genuine, erudite, compassionate, funny, brilliant, smooth, eloquent, suave, debonair, chic...

What? What? Why are all of you laughing so hard?

If I am laughing, it's only because, for a VERY short moment, you made me wish I could return home to the south (and your neck of the woods), Neon