How would you deal with this?

[onlinefun1234]

I sort of get this post.

I used to be shy and quiet, but crave attention... there are some moments that are particularly cringe-worthy when it comes to my online persona and/or texting persona.

I see the original post and think of myself 4-5 years ago...

Noone was ever able to say what I wanted to hear. I, myself, didn't have a clue what I wanted to hear. So if anyone reading encounters someone like this I suggest just leaving them be. The amount of emotionally energy involved in trying to cheer them up might not be worth it, as they are rarely thankful when you take away the issue they're upset over.

Eventually, I matured. I stopped building relationships in my head that reality could never compete with. I stopped being so selfish. I started listening "between the lines" in conversations with other people. I started to really look at people and really look at myself...

The crush in the original post knocked up his gf and eloped. Financially, I think they're screwed. Did either of them think of the implications of having a baby? Does he know how much those things cost? Can he give the baby a happy home? will he be a good father figure? is this the right girl to be his baby's mother?... I think I'm getting sidetracked.

Point I wanted to make there was that seeing that little blurb of info, just made me think of someone that's irresponsible and doesn't think of consequences (NOT SAYING HE IS. JUST MY IMPRESSION) and I think I would deserve someone that can think ahead a little (like feeling good bareback vs. taking care of another human for 18 years) and be slightly less attracted to him and slightly less heartbroken.

Sorry for rambling lol.

 

[hashtag45]

Unlike you, I haven't represented myself as all manner of gender and/or sexuality and am quite confident most people here would happily agree I am who I am and feel safe in that.

On a personal level I don't care who you are, but I do care that Christopher might when he really doesn't need to deal with disingenuous Lit folk ...whatever they may be.

Also, you're actually just kind of annoying.

Good to know.
So - truce? If I make non-sexual comments on non-sexual topics, will you put me on ignore or disregard my comments ?

And you got me all wrong - I wasn't trying to make a pass at (I'm older than he is !!!) or mislead Christopher. I was only trying to pay him a compliment. For someone who is young aka in his 20's , he shows a lot of depth and empathy

 

[hashtag45]

Btw NiteSiren,

Don't feel dragged down by certain criticisms within this thread. I really admire you for what you've done here : being upfront about your own vulnerabilities and trying to reach out to other people. It actually shows some strength (to admit to those vlnrs.) and character.
People who do the opposite - trying to portray themselves in a good light, while denigrating others - Really get on my nerves.

And I see nothing wrong with your experiences or mode of being - we've all done it, more or less. And given your sad upbringing and life experiences, I totally understand where you're coming from.

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P.S. - I appologise to some of the posters here. I realise I've gotten myself into a bit of verbal diarrhoea but I got pretty worked up around some prior comments. That was my last ramble on the gender topic.



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[Christopher2012]

Don't stress over it, hssh345. I appreciate the compliments and the OP got some pretty solid advice. The thread can always get back on its tracks if the OP want to ask more questions.

 

[TheNiteSiren]

 

[hashtag45]

Well said, NiteSiren!
That's how we should all deal with the self-righteous smart-asses in our lives

 

[hashtag45]

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[joelafayette]

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[Darbhinder]

Weren't you outed on the GB as a middle aged man? I think Christopher is totally looking for someone with girl bits.

Yes, that's him.

 

[hashtag45]

Yes, that's him.

Nice try, RobDownSouth.
Digging up some old thread that has no more relevance, in order to "discredit" me in this forum.

After posting several pics. and videoskyping with a trustworthy GB forum member, I doubt there are any posters who still buy into the "X is a female impersonator" typical GB paranoid nonsense.

You and the other idiot who's been cyberstalking me know it too but are just pretending otherwise.
50 year old married men with kids, who are doing all this dumb shit on a porn board. Amazing.

 

[mLa2123000195]

devastated

de-va-sta-ted. Why are you crying?