How young were you when you went D/s?

[goodgirl4u]

i recall playtime in kindergarten, when the boys would capture you and put you in the playhouse. i always wanted to be captured.

i think i was about 12 when i saw a movie called Demon Seed with Julie Christie. She gets held down by a machine controlled by a computer. I didn't understand the effect the movie had on me until later. I was mesmerized.

my first boyfriend was into porn. i woke up one afternoon with my wrists and ankles tied to the corners of the bed with bedsheets. i didn't really like to suck cock then so he would force me. another time, he tied my ankles and wrists to a broomstick and tried to fuck my virgin ass. i screamed and cried and he didn't do it. he did it another time.

 

[Harmony_1985]

I was 23, cos it was late last year and my birthday isn't til August

 

[satindesire]

i recall playtime in kindergarten, when the boys would capture you and put you in the playhouse. i always wanted to be captured.

i think i was about 12 when i saw a movie called Demon Seed with Julie Christie. She gets held down by a machine controlled by a computer. I didn't understand the effect the movie had on me until later. I was mesmerized.

my first boyfriend was into porn. i woke up one afternoon with my wrists and ankles tied to the corners of the bed with bedsheets. i didn't really like to suck cock then so he would force me. another time, he tied my ankles and wrists to a broomstick and tried to fuck my virgin ass. i screamed and cried and he didn't do it. he did it another time.

This isn't BDSM, this is rape.

 

[Cattypuss]

My thoughts precisely

 

[Thumbell]

15

It was my first serious relationship and living in the country and no internet had no idea what was possible. I used to tie my other half to trees and play with swords then 'rape' him. None of our friends did anything like that and it wasn't unitl years later when i went to university that i discovered the bdsm scene. Hope you both enjoy yourselves as much as i have.
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P.s. Just read your reply goodgirl4u and i am so sorry for you. That is horrible. You are so brave to be able to still trust people. When i said 'rape' my boyfriend i meant rape play- he asked me to do it. It was insensitive of me to mention it following your thread.

 

[Betticus]

This isn't BDSM, this is rape.

Odd, when I read her post I was just thinking that it was pretty hot.


Isn't this what safewords are for?

 

[MisterSir]

Yeah, in the context of a scene. If the story is as she told it, then where's the safeword? Where's the consent at all? It struck me as hot for a second, then I felt a bit ashamed because that's genuinely rape, there's no play involved.

 

[Betticus]

In the context of this topic though, it's about when you knew you were into D/s so given that I'm assuming that it wasn't rape... perhaps it falls into the gray area category where it spans across the lines but the good and bad parts blend into something entirely different.

 

[MisterSir]

In the context of this topic though, it's about when you knew you were into D/s so given that I'm assuming that it wasn't rape... perhaps it falls into the gray area category where it spans across the lines but the good and bad parts blend into something entirely different.

I'd agree with what you originally said if there were any indication in the first post that she'd discussed the topic of CNC with her boyfriend at all, but if D/s was still a secret desire at that point then, no matter how much she may or may not have enjoyed the act, it's still rape.

 

[Betticus]

Well, we will never know unless she comes back and tells us what it was. I suppose a separate topic about rape of all sorts may be in order.

In fact, I'll go and start one.

 

[MisterSir]

Well, we will never know unless she comes back and tells us what it was. I suppose a separate topic about rape of all sorts may be in order.

In fact, I'll go and start one.

We'll agree to disagree on the matter. Good talk.

 

[satindesire]

i didn't really like to suck cock then so he would force me.

Nonconsent. This isn't "I was reluctant to suck cock so he pressured me til I gave in."

That's clearly nonconsent.

 

[rosco rathbone]

About 24 became fully conscious of it (story of o), but I had always been doing it.

 

[MisterSir]

Yeah, to actually answer the original question: I don't remember the exact age I was when figured out I liked so-called "strange" things, but it was at latest 1999. Probably earlier, but '99 was the latest.

 

[kiss_of_sin]

i was 17 in my first D/s relationship. i LOVED it. perfect for me. i find myself much more free when im commanded. not as a mindless fucktoy. but cherished as my whole being was completely owned for His pleasure. thats when i learned that never again could i fully enjoy vanilla relationships....

*giggles* damnit all, but D/s turned me out. lol.

 

[Betticus]

I don't recall a specific age, I was always a touch different when it came to girls. The best thing about having older sisters was trying to seduce their friends when they did those slumber party things.

When you're around six and their girlfriends are 16 they just think you're cute when you climb in their lap and kiss their cheeks.... they have no idea of the nefarious plotting that was going on in my mind... I didn't either.

 

[rumara]

i knew my tendencies early on but didn't act on them until i was 17. i'm 37 now.

(anybody see 'the entity' with barbara hershey?)

 

[Treason666]

I was... Um... 14??? Yeah, 14... He was almost 20...

 

[missginger2177]

I knew I was into the D/s scene at about 12. I knew I was a masochist at 6. And I learned that I had sadist tendencies at 10. So, I'm what you would call a well-rounded individual. Also I'm 21, in a r/l vanilla relationship, and have an online dom and master.

Yeah, my life confuses me too.

 

[myinnerslut]

I knew I was into the D/s scene at about 12. I knew I was a masochist at 6. And I learned that I had sadist tendencies at 10. So, I'm what you would call a well-rounded individual. Also I'm 21, in a r/l vanilla relationship, and have an online dom and master.

Yeah, my life confuses me too.

thats not too confusing. but then again, what do i know?

im told my life is confusing. i always manage to keep it straight

 

[bakedbeams]

My first experiences with D/s was at 17.

Am now 45

 

[missginger2177]

thats not too confusing. but then again, what do i know?

im told my life is confusing. i always manage to keep it straight

Thanks MIS. But then again, do you sometimes forget who you are talking to and end up with 20 or 30 people all mad at you at the same time? This is what happens when you chat online with Sir in a crowded classroom during a lecture on bestiality.

 

[Sexualinnocent]

Wow, you all knew so early.

I didn't know anything about BDSM until my 40's...and a close gf introduced me to it. I didn't quite understand at first, but now i do and it feels right to me.

 

[bellassecret]

I had fantasies that confused me ever since I had sexual feelings, but I guess I didn't really know anything about the world of bdsm until I read "The Secret Diary of Laura Palmer" based on the Twin Peaks TV series. Not exactly the best intro, but it opened my eyes up to a world of possibilities. I was 16 then. I didn't get to experiment with bondage or anything else until I was 18.

 

[FurryFury]

Wow, you all knew so early.

I didn't know anything about BDSM until my 40's...and a close gf introduced me to it. I didn't quite understand at first, but now i do and it feels right to me.

I had experiences and fantasies all along that I can now connect with D/s but then I simply thought were shameful and wrong.

It wasn't until I was in my 40's I finally allowed myself to be consciously aware and eventually accepting of my D/s interests.