How young were you when you went D/s?

[asmittenkitten]

I began dipping my toe into submission around 20... went whole hog at 25... never went back.
It's the only way to be for me...and I'm 35 now.

Born to be down...

sk

 

[Feral_Intelligence]

I've had an interest in BDSM and D/s for a long time, though it was not until I was in my 20s that I really. I had several online subs over a few years. When I was 23 I had my first real submissive. She was wonderful, but she shattered my heart.

 

[SirLeo]

I was 19, It was a very good year

I was 19, Karen was 18 and loved to be submissive, I loved to be Dom. We played lots of great games... Its been in my blood running hot to luke warm ever since.

 

[ILoveMaster]

I'm only 18 and have only recently came into the d/s scene. I guess at 20, my Master is pretty young too

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I was 28-29 when I found out I am submissive.

I was always like this, just didnt know its called being submissive. lol

 

[kellybean]

My first interest was in my early 20s, but I really didn't begin experimenting with it until my late 20s.

 

[tonya777]

I think that my interest has always been there. Over all, I would say I have a naturally submissive personality. I think my interest in BDSM started about when I was 20. I read some stories and played a little online. It was not until I was 24 that I had my first real Dom. I miss him a lot.

 

[bruisedangel]

I've always had this particular interest, as far back as I can remember. I mean, I'm talking about when I was a kid, before I even knew what sex was. I've taken a good bit of time, over the last few months, to really do an introspective study of myself. Everything that I've been drawn to, with any sort of sexual force, has always been that of a control/submissive nature. I'm fairly certain I could start a small, independent erotic book store! But...no dom, not yet. I'm looking for something quite particular. Until then, non-substantiated rough sex and fantasies will have to make do!

 

[SirMathos]

I was 19yr right out of bootcamp and met a wonderful older woman. She showed me things I have nevr even dreamed about... lol After about 6 months or so she wanted to try "switching" with me because she kept saying I was trying to top from the bottom. Well That was a little over 20 yrs ago and I have not looked back since. BTW... Tomorrow is my B-day...

 

[BrightlyGo]

I realized I was 'submissive' when I found out - from daytime TV no less - vaguely what it meant. I might have been a teenager, I'd hit puberty, anyway. I'd had fantasies about mind control, physical restraint, forced nudity (I had no idea about sex whatsoever) as early as 9, I think, maybe even younger, though. So, really, it's like an orientation, I've always been this way, it just took time to understand it.

 

[abella117]

I dabble for fun, not as a lifestyle thing, around 16 when I started

 

[LucyH]

For as long as I can remember. I remember drawing some stuff with crayons that would probably be illegal to keep, if I still had it. In first grade I got in trouble for tackling a boy, gouging him hard enough to draw blood, and kissing him.

(Teacher: What were you thinking, Lucy!? You know better than to fight with other children.
Lucy: I wasn't fighting. I'm not even mad at him.
Teacher: That doesn't matter. How would you feel if he did that to you?
Lucy: Okay.
Teacher: Does he look okay to you?
Lucy: No.
Teacher: So how do you think you'd feel if he did that to you?
Lucy: Um... sad?)

Lest you get the wrong idea about me, although I was confused, I learned my lesson, and haven't deliberately hurt anyone since, except in self defense or with consent.

 

[MissHolly]

I ventured into total submission just one year ago...at age 48

 

[babygrl11]

i just became a sub and im 20

 

[LanceWrite]

The answers are fascinating to me. I think it's interesting how the dawning of realization can come early on, and then years - or decades later - wait till the moment of realization. I suspect that's the dynamic more often than "Wow, never thought of that - might be interesting" - but perhaps I'm wrong?

 

[switchbitch]

14th birthday

 

[Les_Grossman]

first wet dream I ever had was spanking a woman who was on her knee's with her back arched hard, her head thrown back and a complete look of extacy on her face.

I've always been a very dominant personality, i havent lived a d/s life style but I am in a long term relationship with a woman who has admitted she would like to be tied up and blindfolded which leads me to believe she is opening the door to the rabbit hole so to speak.
I'm very excited to see where maturity will take her sexually, we're both 28.

 

[SmokinDolly]

I knew I was sub from a young age. Before I knew about sex, I imagined being tied up, naked. When I got older and realized sex could be like that, I immediately knew I liked it that way. About thirteen was when I realized I liked being controlled sexually.

 

[DVS]

I thought I'd responded to this thread, but I can't find a post. I'm sure there's another thread similar to this that I could just link to.

 

[LittleVixen69]

Sub at 43 ... just a few months ago

 

[leashedlaura]

I knew I wanted to be a sub/slave from a very young age.....18y when I agreed to be trained by a Master for my bf...( it was his idea)

 

[darlynd]

There is a difference between the various levels of self-awareness that can exist along that journey. At one point I became aware that I was attracted to dominated males (at 15). Then I learned I enjoyed their dominance on a sexual level.(20) Then I realized that my response to their Dominance could be as erotic as any part of me.(27) Then I realized the differnce between playing with the lifestyle and living the lifestyle.(30ish?) It wasn't until I was 40 (25 years from my sexual birth) that I found my comfort zone in the grey areas in between.

Each person/couple moves, learns, grows at their own pace. The internet has made for much younger learning with its plethora of information (and misinformation.)

 

[BluebirdDreams]

I remember masturbating at 9-10 with one of my toys and being fascinated at how it felt when it hurt a little. And being excited/ashamed that I might get caught. I read a gorean novel at age 16 and started going into chat rooms (Lycos chat lol) at 17.

I had my first offline D/s experience at 18. I met my current Master/Dom/Husband at 22 after several failed (and in one case abusive) tries with other men. I'm now 33.

Over the years we have explored and expanded on what we started. Neither of has much experience with most forms of BDSM play (we come from a time before D/s was included in BDSM and still believe the two are not mutually exclusive) but have never stopped expanding on what we know.

 

[slavearies]

I have always had what most might consider odd thoughts at a young age. It wasn't until my daughters father tied me to a table and beat my ass with a spatula for getting mouthy that the door to the life was opened.

After we split I began educating myself and soon found myself completely wrapped in the lifestyle. That was when I was 22. I now am 41 and life in a poly lifestyle relationship. I am Masters kajira and he also owns two other submissives.

Master has graciously given me an internet radio show where I talk about the lifestyle, as well as read some of my erotic stories and poetry. In time more educational readings shall arise.

Tonight my second show airs on dominance-radio.com at 9pm central. Its called The Naughty Hour with Arien Adora. My hope is that I can get more people to become involved as my ultimate goal is to create an interactive website for those in the life to express themselves, as well as educate one another on the way they choose to live their life.

If you are curious about my writing come find me at www.arienadora.com or on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/ArienAdora.

 

[Skorpion49]

Youth

There is a difference between the various levels of self-awareness that can exist along that journey.

An excellent point. I am sure most of us go through a sexual awakening, and then are more or less affected by our peers and social norms. The sexuality lingers, though, and can not and should not be suppressed. It may change form, during the journey. For example, I remember as a young boy getting a hard-on during rough play, and fantasies of death (with boys, but I do not consider myself a homosexual).
Later, I enjoyed the nudity that was available then - art, history, documentary, for the most part. I am talking 60s and 70s, where the coolest medium was LITERATURE. I can clearly remember the excitement of seeing half-naked bound slaves, and wondering what it would be like, to be at someone's mercy.
My first orgasm occured after a hot bath, where I imagined being dragged along the ground (it was in fact a warm and soft bed).
At this stage, I had no idea what sex was for, how babies were made, and where my cock was supposed to be when this happened. I was so young, I did not ejaculate. But I came.
I moved on to reading porn, shared with me by my friends, and we learned that it was the female that turned us on, more than horseplay. By this time colour magazines had arrived...
I particularly remember a tale of a centaur, and an insatiable woman...
Then of course came dating, flirting, petting, first sex, "relationships," trying to do the right thing, find the right one, and feel comfortable "talking."
Or was it all just conformity, keeping the sexuality buried? Marriage followed...
Middle age brought the typical, inevitable affair, and pain and dissatisfaction.
Rebound behaviour followed. I found a submissive slave...she did anything for me, and I was finally sexually fulfilled. I had to let her go. I miss her. But I miss her less than I would my children.
I have concluded that sex is a power game. That is why I am here. Letting off steam, to stop me exploding, and losing the admiring gaze of the fruit of my loins. I like to be on top of things, after all.