humiliation vs. degradation

[A Desert Rose]

Another really good bump, AA. Made me think and rethink things ... that can be a major feat. LOL

I hope that people will read and post to those that you have kindly bumped. And the library is full of so much more, too.

 

[Bandit58]

Bumping this again

I have humiliation/degradation as one of my hard limits. Some gentle teasing in private between Master and I can be fun, but being embarrassed in public is a no-no. Just an example of what brought up my thoughts and desire to do more reading:

This post on collarme - All change for slaves
Apart from the safety aspects, which I commented on in the thread, the public humiliation of the too tight collar and wearing diapers at work seemed extreme. Her workmates are being brought into the situation as well which they obviously didn't consent to.

The other was a joking comment by Master. He suggested I wear a santa suit to His mother's on Christmas Day. And we'd stop somewhere and He'd make me get out and go into a shop with it on, beard and all. Straight up I said NO WAY. Public embarrassment is NOT a turn on for me AT ALL. It brings back nasty memories of bullying at school and feeling my self esteem hit rock bottom. Of the emotional abuse I went through in my marriage. Too many bad feelings all round, so I prefer we not go there.

 

[Prof Bill]

noncensual participation

Bandit's note reminded me of another thing that bothers me about public humiliation/degradation.

I've seen scenes done for this purpose--but I've never been asked if I wanted to participate in them, witness them, have them inflicted upon me, or anything else. In other words, the "consensual" part of the common mantra was missing--at least as far as I was concerned.

And I really did not like being forced into something I find distasteful.

Prof Bill

 

[Wondering_Newb]

I think I can agree with this last post more or less in the definition of what one is and is not.

 

[rosco rathbone]

All OSG all the time!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Time for a bump?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Periodic bump...