Hyper sexuality and ADHD

[Robbie527]

I'm extremely hypersexual.. Mine got intense when i became a widow. Using my body for pleasure was and is an escape from the grief.

I think about sex acts, men, women.. All day..

I'm a 50 year old menopausal woman.. But i still feel 35!!!

I believe i have ADD also.

I had never considered that my wife might have some other disorder than being bi polar. He manic episodes are characterised by a need for new sexual conquests and they are frequent. I just thought it was being bi polar that caused it but given that even her long term friend next door does not totally satisfy her maybe there is more.

 

[wouldloveto]

Hmmm... maybe I have ADHD.
I never really tried to explain my periods of hyper-sexuality...

 

[MidKnight1378]

Makes a lot of sense for me, my sex drive has always been full throttle. When I was in school (70’s-80’s) there was no such thing as ADHD but looking back I definitely was afflicted with this condition. I self treated with caffeine for focus and had sex nearly twice a day if not more every day.

 

[Easyvirtue]

I usually masturbate daily just to keep my focus, I have to do it before I start my day but usually have to circle back around to it as time goes by!

 

[StilettoSweetHeart]

Absolutely! My husband and I are both ADHD and are both hypersexual! We routinely have all night long “fuck fests”! My previous marriage was sexless and awful; now I’ve found my perfect fit in every way!

 

[kypdyn82]

Absolutely true for me

 

[Older_Pervert]

I’m undiagnosed but I seem to fit the mould for ADHD, I’ve thought that for a long time.

I had a therapist at school who (mis)diagnosed me as ‘sexually precocious’ when maybe he meant hypersexual. My behaviour was ‘inappropriate’.

I love inappropriate behaviour!

 

[Paradox]

I've never been diagnosed and rather doubt that I will be given my age, but plenty of symptoms including hyper sexuality. Ah, well.

 

[roxanne1971]

Yes this is me! Diagnosed at 42. Made so much sense
Though I prefer slut to hypersexual

 

[BookishBabe0]

I read an article today about hypersexed men and those who take it further, along the lines of psychopathy. It made sense. There's a difference.

 

[Bassytian]

I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD in 2019, it made so much sense. I space out when people talk to me about crap I don’t care about but I can super hyperfocus on things I want to.

I used to be hypersexual, but either age or depression (or both) has all but killed my libido to the extent that I no longer care if I do anything sexual again.

 

[CincyGurl66]

Just wanted to say I did not expect to find a resource of information for this topic here and I am so glad I did. I am in a manic period and can relate to a lot of things posted here. I stopped using drugs and alcohol to regulate emotionally almost a decade ago, but in the past 2 yrs I have been using sex to a degree I am sometimes self shame. This site has helped me feel more secure about my fantasies and that I’m not a “freak”. Now after reading over some of your entries, I feel even more comfortable and not so alone. Thank you for sharing.

 

[Bassytian]

Don't be ashamed for having fantasies, they seem to be widely varied here! If anything, I feel like a "freak" for being as vanilla as I am. When it comes to sexual experience, fantasies, etc, it seems that 95% of the people on this site have me beat.

I'm not sure if it's ADHD or something else that made me off-putting to people (I could probably name several other things), but I couldn't get laid if my life depended on it. Seriously, if I had a week from today to find someone willing to hook up with me, my ashes will be dumped in a river on Friday of next week. I used to self-shame, and even hate myself, for my LACK of sex, largely because society shames people, especially men, that struggles to meet people to hook up with as much as I have.

But these days, whatever, it is what it is. No one is to blame for it, not even myself. I'm just different, not built to "mingle" with people in a sexual way, that's all. I would say I still have porn if nothing else but I've lost interest in that.

 

[SmokingFap]

Just ran across this thread. I do not personally have either ADHD or hypersexuality disorder. But the love of my life on here, and in real life, to be honest, has been hypersexual since she was very young. She also suffers from a variety of other mental disorders, literally doing anything including bipolar disorder, horrific social anxiety, and some form of dysmorphia that won't allow her to accept that she's actually a very beautiful woman. As far as I know she's never been diagnosed with ADHD, but it would not surprise me in the least if she suffered from that as well.

Her hypersexuality led her to have many partners, many in very unwise and even dangerous situations, over her late teen years. She meant a much older man when she was 20 and fell head over heels for him. They quickly married, and she was faithful to him for the first 5 years of their marriage. But due to some unwise, inappropriate, and selfish encouragement from myself, the dam finally broke and she went on a sex spree for about six months. She finally confessed her infidelity to her husband after a suicide attempt and subsequent hospitalization. It was at that point that her therapist diagnosed her as hypersexual, and said that monogamy was probably not an option for her. At least, not a healthy one. Although her husband is by all accounts and amazing man and satisfies her as much and in every way he can, she craves more sex than he can physically provide, along with some serious kinks that he tries to indulge, but are really pressing the boundaries of his... humanity?

So in order to save their marriage, as well as keep her slightly more mentally stable, he agreed to let her continue to have sex with other people, although not in a swinging or hotwife type relationship. He just chooses to look the other way whenever she satisfies her needs. In addition, they have shared at least two partners sexually. Their current arrangement seems to be working for both of them, although I haven't heard from her since Christmas.

This is probably much more than anybody was interested to hear, but maybe it will at least contribute to the overall conversation about hypersexuality.

 

[SmokingFap]

Just wanted to say I did not expect to find a resource of information for this topic here and I am so glad I did. I am in a manic period and can relate to a lot of things posted here. I stopped using drugs and alcohol to regulate emotionally almost a decade ago, but in the past 2 yrs I have been using sex to a degree I am sometimes self shame. This site has helped me feel more secure about my fantasies and that I’m not a “freak”. Now after reading over some of your entries, I feel even more comfortable and not so alone. Thank you for sharing.

I'm glad you have found a welcoming home here. I have found that the best thing about Lit is finding other people with similar fetishes, memories, fantasies, and even problems, and being able to discuss them all without too much fear of judgment or repercussions. I hope that you will become even more comfortable sharing everything with trusted friends on here. Simply unburdening your soul can change your entire life for the better.

 

[Robbie527]

Yes this is me! Diagnosed at 42. Made so much sense
Though I prefer slut to hypersexual

My wife once signed off an email to a new friend 'Your DivaSlut'.

 

[Bisexguy70]

Im not sure about having ADHD but by all accounts am definitely hyper sexual. I think about sex everyday and masturbate a lot. As early as I can remember i felt an itch I couldnt scratch. When I learned to masturbate it was a very joyful thing. After I turned 46 i discovered my bisexuality after I sucked another mans cock for thr first time. I pursued cock like acrack addict and over the years sucked close to 90 different men. A lot of those men on multiple occasions. I think this should be enough to let me amongst the ones on here. I think we should all get together and have s huge orgy and Embrace our ailment.

 

[shewantsmore]

i think i had ADHD when i was younger, the DR diaianosed in my teen years i was given tablets to help with it and i stopped taking them in my late teen years, im not sure if i had hypersexuality disorder but it would explain alot of things that i experienced. i definatly have it now

 

[Easyvirtue]

My “undiagnosed” ADHD has an unfortunate hold on me daily. I’m in a unsatisfying profession and being in a sexless marriage just compounds the issues. I need a hobby or need to bringin a workout regiment or something because otherwise I’m on LIT all day or watching porn or masturbating to no end.
Yesterday I was off, and had some errands to accomplish in the morning but at 11 I was done and returned him where I was alone all day. I spent the day reading posts here and watching porn and relieving my needs. Im in deep.

 

[hulmule]

I always thought it was just my high sex drive, but after reading some of these posts ?? Maybe im ADHD but i just know I'm hypersexual. My wife never understood my drive

 

[Stopokochac]

Interesting. A Google search pulled up this.......
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I've never been officially tested for ADHD, but I have the characteristics of ADHD, so I think I have it. Some of my friends/colleagues have ADHD too, and a lot of that stuff sounds like us. However, I think they're exaggerating the definition. There is a difference between having a really high sex drive and being hypersexual. I don't think having a really high sex drive, or even getting aroused more easily than others, necessarily means you're a hypersexual. Hypersexuality is constant and something you can't control. While getting distracted and unable to get things done because of sexual thoughts, I think that applies to everyone when they're horny, and this can be easily taken care of with masturbation. While hypersexuality makes these thoughts and feelings persist, even if you masturbate. So I think they're confusing hypersexuality with high sex drive.

 

[AlexBailey]

Fuck! Fuck! FUCK!

ADHD with hyper sexuality. My doctor prescribed adderal for me for the first time today. When I went to the pharmacy they didn’t have anything for me. The short version is that the pharmacist needed some sort of pre-authorization and it didn’t get approved before the end of the day.

I’m so uncomfortable in my own skin right now, and my menopausal wife has zero interest in intimacy.

I’m so fucking annoyed. All I want at the moment is a kinky orgy.

 

[checkitout208]

can relate to so many posts here.. message me to talk?

 

[WetSubGirl]

I have ADHD and I'm sexual. It doesn't interfere with my other life's aspects, I enjoy it.

 

[Mr. Briggs]

I just read an interesting article on the correlation of the two. Kinda makes sense and I never knew I had any form of ADHD. Anyone else consider themselves hyper sexual? Sometimes it consumes my entire day.

Never heard this. Do you still have the article?