Is cuddling important to you after sex/intimacy?

[Frankie Lane]

Well...sometimes I love it...sometimes I do the man thing and just roll over and leave him hanging...but...I could go for some cuddling...damn for some sex as well!! Can a girl get a break!

 

[NorseArtemis]

I find cuddling to be a nice thing...I don't need to have sex first, or really have any intention of having sex ever...sometimes a warm body next to me is what I really need to sleep.

Of course somedays I really want whoever is in the bed with me to finish up and leave so I can have my blanket to myself, so I'd say it really depends on my mood.

 

[Eritz]

I love cuddling at any time. Cuddling up whilst watching a film or the tv, in bed before and after sex or just anytime I generaly feel like it.

 

[frisky]

If it's someone I care about I find that physical (and somewhat emotional) connection to be important. Something about saying 'I want you to be close to me' without actually speaking those words.

 

[Ucellis]

it makes me feel wanted... needed.. something thats always nice after something so rough like that.. its the aloe on the sunburn

 

[londonaberdeen]

Everyone is different but for my own admission :
When I've cum, if she lies back then it's game over. I become typical man and have to fight my body against sleep. However if she carries on teasing me in these important few minutes. Just enough to keep my throb with a little lift..... then I stay awake and ready for more. This more could and often is cuddling.

I'm aware cuddling is important to her, she told me! Thats what we found works for us, each man, every couple will be different. But I guess if your SO doesn't know you need this as much as he needs to unload then you can't really blame him. It's not something that will occur to him naturally.

 

[Bandit58]

Cuddling is important to me all the time, not just after sex. Not having had much in the way of good touching and affection during my marriage, I now find myself making up for lost time!

Because Gil and I are also in a Master/sub relationship, I find I do need that reinforcement of his love after a play session, especially if there's been any spanking/paddling involved. I need to know that I've pleased him, and he's pleased with me. A cuddle, a stroke of the hair, and a kiss on the lips, and I'm a happy sub

 

[babydoll2u]

Well said, Eilan. I've been with cuddle-phobics, and it has detracted from the experience for me. Then again, I feel the desire to cuddle everyday, sex or no sex, just to feel that connection.

exactly! I love to cuddle and snuggle, whether there's sex involved or not....
it's the connection, the act of affection, that is important to me. It tells me
that he wants to be close to me because he cares, not just because he wants sex.

 

[jupiter lilly]

In the relationship I am in now, yes...cuddling is very important. Sex with my boyfriend is so good that afterwards I just have to hold on to him for a while. I am not however the type that likes to sleep cuddling. If it happens, it happens, but most of the time, I need space when I sleep.

In situations earlier in my sexual history with partners who I didn't have a real strong emotional bond with, cuddling wasn't that important...it was more about the sex.

For me that is the difference. When love is there, I want to cuddle.

 

[ReadyOne]

My SO just conceeded, after years of "cuddling is better than sex", that she wants sex too.

 

[SlyKitten]

I like cuddling for the sake of cuddling only; after sex, I usually need my space, just like when I sleep. For me, cuddling is a tender and silent “I like/love/adore/worship you” between lovers so yes, occasionally, after an intense session we will cuddle.

 

[HybridCrow]

I haven't cuddled before, but from my experience of WHAT cuddling is, it does seem to be important, because it brings the closeness of love for each other together even more.

I have to say I've been told I am the type A girl would cuddle with because I'm strong looking, hence the broad shoulders and masculine arms. I really wouldn't mind cuddling at all if I know I love the girl and want to make her feel secure and safe as well as loved.

 

[niteloser]

I used to think it was no big deal. But now I'm finding that I want cuddling more and more. I don't think it is as big of a deal to my husband as it is to me, so I've been trying to find ways of explaining to him that I 'need' it, but it's hard.

What does it mean to you? Do you need it?

I don't like cuddling after sex. I'm usually exhausted and want to sleep. But I do like to cuddle during movies and tv. But not after sex.

 

[RedIntense]

I don't *need* to cuddle after, but I like it just the same. I love when the guy doesn't pull out right away and we just lay their catching our breaths and coming down together.

I'm very fidgety and can never sit still for long though, so I don't cuddle for very long. 10 minutes and I am ready for more!

 

[Luv2PleasureF]

I love cuddling at any time. Cuddling up whilst watching a film or the tv, in bed before and after sex or just anytime I generaly feel like it.

Amen!
Me, I'm a total cuddle bug. My thing is not anytime I generally feel like it, but I feel like it all the time!
Even at my tender age of... well, over 40, I'm learning some things, and one of the things I've learned is that truly fantastic lovemaking isn't necessarily about the orgasm (yes, I'm a guy, and I said that), and it's not even in the same area code as complete without a whole heck of a lot of cuddling afterwards. Like all night, into the next morning stuff.

Truly great lovemaking isn't about how long you do it,
It isn't about how many times you cum,
It isn't about how sweaty you get,
It isn't about how many positions you try,
It isn't about what specific acts you do,
But all of those things can be great...
What it's all about is sharing, loving, caring. And communicating those feelings openly.

Fall asleep immediately afterwards? Nah, I'm WAY too revved up, too "floating on cloud 9" to fall asleep! Lots of cuddling, talking, kissing, then maybe make love again, and maybe then fall asleep...

 

[Luv2PleasureF]

Everyone is different but for my own admission :
<snips>
But I guess if your SO doesn't know you need this as much as he needs to unload then you can't really blame him. It's not something that will occur to him naturally.

Agree with the first part, completely disagree with the second!
As mentioned in a prior post, I'm learning that "his need to unload" isn't what great lovemaking is about! Oh, no doubt a mind-bending orgasm is a wonderful thing, but for me, it isn't what makes the sex great.
And cuddling ABSOLUTELY comes naturally to this guy!

 

[Guest]

Amen!
Me, I'm a total cuddle bug. My thing is not anytime I generally feel like it, but I feel like it all the time!
Even at my tender age of... well, over 40, I'm learning some things, and one of the things I've learned is that truly fantastic lovemaking isn't necessarily about the orgasm (yes, I'm a guy, and I said that), and it's not even in the same area code as complete without a whole heck of a lot of cuddling afterwards. Like all night, into the next morning stuff.

Truly great lovemaking isn't about how long you do it,
It isn't about how many times you cum,
It isn't about how sweaty you get,
It isn't about how many positions you try,
It isn't about what specific acts you do,
But all of those things can be great...
What it's all about is sharing, loving, caring. And communicating those feelings openly.

Fall asleep immediately afterwards? Nah, I'm WAY too revved up, too "floating on cloud 9" to fall asleep! Lots of cuddling, talking, kissing, then maybe make love again, and maybe then fall asleep...

Yup, and he ain't lying. Definitely a cuddle bug. But it isn't until the sun comes up. <chuckles>

Me? I love to cuddle, but there are times where I need to say "Please, let me sleep, hands off me!!"

 

[amraam840]

I'll cuddle if it means more than just laying there... One of my recent friends liked to leave the bedroom and go out to the living room, still naked and we'd sit together and discuss various irrelevant issues... Myself, I enjoy intellect after sex. Along with a good cigarette. Then more sex, but that's just my taste..

 

[Guest]

I'll cuddle if it means more than just laying there... One of my recent friends liked to leave the bedroom and go out to the living room, still naked and we'd sit together and discuss various irrelevant issues... Myself, I enjoy intellect after sex. Along with a good cigarette. Then more sex, but that's just my taste..

Well, we can't forget that ciggy, can we?

 

[amraam840]

I haven't cuddled before, but from my experience of WHAT cuddling is, it does seem to be important, because it brings the closeness of love for each other together even more.

I have to say I've been told I am the type A girl would cuddle with because I'm strong looking, hence the broad shoulders and masculine arms. I really wouldn't mind cuddling at all if I know I love the girl and want to make her feel secure and safe as well as loved.

Hybrid, words cannot describe why we cuddle. Not to say you're wrong, sofar as I know what you state holds true, but like that's just one piece of a jigsaw puzzle...

 

[amraam840]

Well, we can't forget that ciggy, can we?

haha, the cancer genes are hungry after some good long lovin....

 

[Luv2PleasureF]

haha, the cancer genes are hungry after some good long lovin....

I thought that went without saying, but I suppose it turns out to be worth mentioning, after all. LOL

And let's not forget some kind of liquid, whether it be a coke, water, something to rehydrate!

 

[amraam840]

I thought that went without saying, but I suppose it turns out to be worth mentioning, after all. LOL

And let's not forget some kind of liquid, whether it be a coke, water, something to rehydrate!

coffee!!

 

[Guest]

I thought that went without saying, but I suppose it turns out to be worth mentioning, after all. LOL

And let's not forget some kind of liquid, whether it be a coke, water, something to rehydrate!

I don't want to worry about cancer, that's why I didn't reply to that. Cancer genes-argh! You know me: worry, worry, worry!

On another note:
You sure as hell lost a lot of fluids last night, sweating, chowing down for an hour on your lover. And wasn't that "Propel" or Gatorade we had afterwards?

"Do you want some, honey?"
"Nah, I'm okay. Um, no, I changed my mind" with a grin. Ha!

Damn, I wonder how I'm still able to walk having my legs spread open for the amount of time I do. You definitely give me a great work out!! <smiles> I lost 15 pounds in two mos. I may not have to go to the gym after-all

Hoot, hoot
I love you
My little slut
And cuddle bug.

 

[Guest]

coffee!!

LOL, amraam!! I can't imagine coffee after sex...with the amount of coffee I add to my sugar (hehe). Oh boy!! I think I need something more with sodium in it

saldne=sugar junky