Is my wife a slut?

[policywank]

What does slut mean to you policywank?

I think of a slut as a woman who is sexually active with multiple partners to a degree that is beyond what society finds acceptable. She does so consciously and for her own reasons.

How she presents herself to society doesn't factor into it in my view. Nor does the manner in which she chooses her men.

A discrete professional woman who engages in multiple regular sexual relationships is every bit the slut as a woman dresses provocatively and picks up strangers.

We often think of as slut as lacking in judgment or confidence. But that is the stereotype. A slut can just as easily be a discriminating, deliberate and thoughtful lover.

The image of the slut works a bit like the image of a gay person. We think that anybody who fits that image has that characteristic and anybody who doesn't fit that image don't have that characteristic. We are frequently wrong on both counts.

 

[Wilson Spalding]

Slut: what is that, again?

[stuff]...So with all of this in mind, do you consider my wife to be a slut. There's no right or wrong, or offensive, answers.

So, there are really two answers here:

1. Yes/No. Some have said "yes," some have said "no," some walk the line with some version of "it depends." The key is that all three of those groups have their own definition, but the last one is leaning into the second potential answer...
2. What in the world is a "slut"? Slut is like "fuck" – a word that has a definition relative to the context of the speaker. In that respect, it's useless as an objective description, but invaluable at showing emotional investment.

"Slut" – like fuck – is designed for provocation. It's essentially a sexually-themed Rorschach test. Merely asking the question, much less asking in public, elicits an emotional response and a whole psychosocial cascade follows, both in the person making the query and those who consider an answer.

So, given the context and connotation, the only meaningful answer is the one you yourself have. So start with:

• How do you define "slut"?

Once you've resolved your own objective denotation, then re-ask the question:

• Is your wife a slut?

At that point, for the sake of mental and relationship health, the follow-up becomes supremely important:

• Qualitatively, is that a good thing?

TL;DR, personal opinion given the described criteria: Yes, though in a benign, sex-positive way.

 

[IsItBad]

to slut or not to slut

honestly, i never really liked the word slut
its kind of like the word cunt
just too? guttural to me


what would one call ones wife if she is out willfully fucking other men with ones approval? a good girl? a hotwife? a fucktress? what?

the power of the pussy is so amazing....even here in the land of the anonymous perv.....any woman can have a huge following instantly.....just by her willingness to engage......

in high school one of my good friends was a girl who had literally fucked every guy i knew.....at first people looked down on her....but i truly believe in time people began to look at her with a certain kind of awe......the power of her pussy.....to get any guy to fuck her.....even girls seemed like they were amazed by her......now she was hot as hell and a playboy body......and was a true nympho......but her most amazing quality was the power her pussy exuded over people

so....no....i say your wife is not a slut.....she is probably hot as hell.....she is a power unto herself and those around her.....she has learned how she can garner the attention and desire of men simply with the power of her pussy

 

[screwher]

I just had a chat on here with a young gentleman. He called my wife a slut a number of times through out! It was so hot!

 

[Tina85321172]

honestly, i never really liked the word slut
its kind of like the word cunt
just too? guttural to me


what would one call ones wife if she is out willfully fucking other men with ones approval? a good girl? a hotwife? a fucktress? what?

the power of the pussy is so amazing....even here in the land of the anonymous perv.....any woman can have a huge following instantly.....just by her willingness to engage......

in high school one of my good friends was a girl who had literally fucked every guy i knew.....at first people looked down on her....but i truly believe in time people began to look at her with a certain kind of awe......the power of her pussy.....to get any guy to fuck her.....even girls seemed like they were amazed by her......now she was hot as hell and a playboy body......and was a true nympho......but her most amazing quality was the power her pussy exuded over people

so....no....i say your wife is not a slut.....she is probably hot as hell.....she is a power unto herself and those around her.....she has learned how she can garner the attention and desire of men simply with the power of her pussy

Did u fuck your high school friend?

 

[BigButtSlut47]

I know I'm a slut! If it's human and has a cock or pussy I up for some fun with it.
I don't consider it real sex if it doesn't involve vaginal or anal penetration with ejaculation inside.

 

[screwher]

My wife’s last romp with her boyfriend was basically a quickie. He came over. They went up to the bedroom. He put his cock in her pussy as soon as possible. He came then left. Neither of us are annoyed by this. We’re no stranger to quickies ourselves. But while chatting with another gentleman on the site here, he mentioned how slutty the whole scenario was.

Would this recent step in our hotwife lifestyle make my wife a slut?

 

[Islander55]

My wife’s last romp with her boyfriend was basically a quickie. He came over. They went up to the bedroom. He put his cock in her pussy as soon as possible. He came then left. Neither of us are annoyed by this. We’re no stranger to quickies ourselves. But while chatting with another gentleman on the site here, he mentioned how slutty the whole scenario was.

Would this recent step in our hotwife lifestyle make my wife a slut?

No. Assuming she wanted the sex and enjoyed it. There is nothing wrong with a quickie. I rather enjoy them. Sometimes that is all we need or want and they certainly are useful when time is constrained.

 

[Mtnmike]

No. Assuming she wanted the sex and enjoyed it. There is nothing wrong with a quickie. I rather enjoy them. Sometimes that is all we need or want and they certainly are useful when time is constrained.

Well said Islander, my wife told me a bunch of times if I could do quickie's she would have been willing to have sex more but I haven't been able to, of course this was before we became sexless.

 

[Lynn1996]

You are one lucky sob so just enjoy her.

 

[Islander55]

Well said Islander, my wife told me a bunch of times if I could do quickie's she would have been willing to have sex more but I haven't been able to, of course this was before we became sexless.

I wonder how many men understand that a woman does not always want or need a lengthy episode. Especially as we get older, we know what we want and how to get there. Now there are times when a lengthy session is nice but much of that should focus on foreplay or even pre foreplay. Once I am fully aroused, it does not take long for me to reach orgasm and then start thinking how nice a nap would be.

 

[screwher]

I wonder how many men understand that a woman does not always want or need a lengthy episode. Especially as we get older, we know what we want and how to get there. Now there are times when a lengthy session is nice but much of that should focus on foreplay or even pre foreplay. Once I am fully aroused, it does not take long for me to reach orgasm and then start thinking how nice a nap would be.

Yes. There are times all Mrs. Screwher wants is a quickie. Wants me to make her cum with my tongue. Then fuck her til I do.

 

[2021Noobie]

Fuck no!
Mrs Screwher is no slut!
Granted someone wants her to be
All of us wish we would be her chosen...
But that means we are sluts, no?

 

[CuttingEdge]

Yes she is: We have dictionaries so that subjectiveness is taken out of the equation and we are left with a baseline. In this case a reputable dictionary: Merriam Webster defines "slut" as this:

disparaging + offensive : a promiscuous person : someone who has many sexual partners —usually used of a woman

That, by definition is what your wife is, but that is not really what is being asked. What is being asked is; is it right or wrong?

Asking that here is like asking if drinking is okay at a local pub. The answer would be much different if you ask the same question at a Missionary Convention!

 

[CuttingEdge]

Now my opinion: While by definition your wife is a slut, its okay.

I think the perfect woman is one where you can take her home to meet your Mom, but at the same time, who does some slutty things in the bedroom.

It is hard enough to find a person to go through life's journey with, and more rare to find one that has similar sexual kinks as you do. Finding one is a true blessing.

 

[screwher]

Now my opinion: While by definition your wife is a slut, its okay.

I think the perfect woman is one where you can take her home to meet your Mom, but at the same time, who does some slutty things in the bedroom.

It is hard enough to find a person to go through life's journey with, and more rare to find one that has similar sexual kinks as you do. Finding one is a true blessing.

Exactly. From the outside Mrs. Screwher is society’s example of the perfect wife. A lot of people would be quite surprised (the guys would be pleasantly) to find out another man is visiting us. And having sex with her on our marital bed!

 

[CuttingEdge]

Exactly. From the outside Mrs. Screwher is society’s example of the perfect wife. A lot of people would be quite surprised (the guys would be pleasantly) to find out another man is visiting us. And having sex with her on our marital bed!

To me there is no wrong act between two consenting adults, and even more so among those that are married. (Sorry, but I don't buy into the premise that marriage is just a piece of paper, marriage has intense meaning and direction).

My girlfriend was not sure we were compatible because I went to church. My wife and I were obviously compatible, and yet she grew up going to church every time the doors were open. YET, she had a rape fantasy and would set it up so that she was "raped" by men on dates (before marriage to me). My girlfriend knows my wife and was SHOCKED that church-going, Mom of the Year, parade into church with five kids and a husband would do such a thing!

Sex lives and what people project in public are two different things: as it should be, and its fine

Prudes I detest.

 

[Dutchslut39]

I call myself a slut, for me it means that I can have sex with whoever I want because I like it. Yes I am easy when it comes to sex but "being" a slut, of a swinger, doesn't mean I fuck with everybody.
That's the most common mistake men make. "oh you're a swinger, a slut, so I can fuck you"

No you can't. Even when I/we take part in a orgy, of even a smaller sexparty, or we go to a club I always know who is fucking me and I'm in control who is...or my BF watches out for me.

And yes...it turns me on to be called a slut, and yes I've fucked a lot of men and women but I don't spread my legs just for anyone.
Yes I'm easy when it comes to sex, yes I enjoy sex and I'm very open about that.

If that makes me a slut..... damn I love that !

 

[Justfantasies]

I call myself a slut, for me it means that I can have sex with whoever I want because I like it. Yes I am easy when it comes to sex but "being" a slut, of a swinger, doesn't mean I fuck with everybody.
That's the most common mistake men make. "oh you're a swinger, a slut, so I can fuck you"

No you can't. Even when I/we take part in a orgy, of even a smaller sexparty, or we go to a club I always know who is fucking me and I'm in control who is...or my BF watches out for me.

And yes...it turns me on to be called a slut, and yes I've fucked a lot of men and women but I don't spread my legs just for anyone.
Yes I'm easy when it comes to sex, yes I enjoy sex and I'm very open about that.

If that makes me a slut..... damn I love that !

I know it is quality not quantity but how many men a girl has fucked still impresses me of a ceertian sort -- men like me

 

[phil1955]

Sort of a fact of life. Generally women can have as many men as they want. A little tougher for most men and more so as they get older. We are in our 60's but the little woman can still attract men and I encourage her to do so. She can take care of me with energy to spare so an extra guy in her life is good for both of us.

 

[screwher]

I call myself a slut, for me it means that I can have sex with whoever I want because I like it. Yes I am easy when it comes to sex but "being" a slut, of a swinger, doesn't mean I fuck with everybody.
That's the most common mistake men make. "oh you're a swinger, a slut, so I can fuck you"

No you can't. Even when I/we take part in a orgy, of even a smaller sexparty, or we go to a club I always know who is fucking me and I'm in control who is...or my BF watches out for me.

And yes...it turns me on to be called a slut, and yes I've fucked a lot of men and women but I don't spread my legs just for anyone.
Yes I'm easy when it comes to sex, yes I enjoy sex and I'm very open about that.

If that makes me a slut..... damn I love that !

My wife loves sex. We have a fantastic marriage with a strong sex life. But she also has a healthy curiosity and desire for other men. Fortunately she has my approval to act on these.

 

[Vitriolhack]

As most of you seemingly know, my wife and I are a hotwife couple. We both enjoy her having sex with other men. Mrs. Screwher currently has two lovers. I'm hoping more is soon added to the roster so to speak. Throughout our marriage, a total of five other men have fucked my sexy hotwifey

One of the things I enjoy doing on this site is chatting with other men about them having sex with her. And just about our lifestyle in general. A handful of men have called my wife a "slut". I admit that it kind of turns me on when they do. For me though Ive always equated being a slut with having a large number of sexual partners over a relatively short period of time. Over our thirty years together only five other men have gotten naked and nasty with my wife. So going by that , I don't think she's very "slutty".

But...

A case has been made recently that my wife may be a slut, or acting slutty, within this lifestyle. First off, the fact gat she's married and dropping her panties for other men. Another is that she's using our marital bed with one of her lovers. And mostly, her relationship with the other lover. Their whole "relationship" is simply he calls her up. She practically drops everything to run to his place. They have no pretence anymore about it being a date. She goes to his place. He fucks her. Then sends her home.

So with all of this in mind, do you consider my wife to be a slut. There's no right or wrong, or offensive, answers.

A guy has multiple female sexual partners is a “stud” and woman who has a few partners is a “slut”.

This does not seem very fair.

To me, my red line is when one of the adults in the group is forced or uncomfortable in the situation. If no one is getting hurt by this situation, who are we to judge it?

 

[GuySLut]

A guy has multiple female sexual partners is a “stud” and woman who has a few partners is a “slut”.

This does not seem very fair.

To me, my red line is when one of the adults in the group is forced or uncomfortable in the situation. If no one is getting hurt by this situation, who are we to judge it?

Exactly!

 

[screwher]

As most of you seemingly know, my wife and I are a hotwife couple. We both enjoy her having sex with other men. Mrs. Screwher currently has two lovers. I'm hoping more is soon added to the roster so to speak. Throughout our marriage, a total of five other men have fucked my sexy hotwifey

One of the things I enjoy doing on this site is chatting with other men about them having sex with her. And just about our lifestyle in general. A handful of men have called my wife a "slut". I admit that it kind of turns me on when they do. For me though Ive always equated being a slut with having a large number of sexual partners over a relatively short period of time. Over our thirty years together only five other men have gotten naked and nasty with my wife. So going by that , I don't think she's very "slutty".

But...

A case has been made recently that my wife may be a slut, or acting slutty, within this lifestyle. First off, the fact gat she's married and dropping her panties for other men. Another is that she's using our marital bed with one of her lovers. And mostly, her relationship with the other lover. Their whole "relationship" is simply he calls her up. She practically drops everything to run to his place. They have no pretence anymore about it being a date. She goes to his place. He fucks her. Then sends her home.

So with all of this in mind, do you consider my wife to be a slut. There's no right or wrong, or offensive, answers.

The puritans be damned! My wife’s getting fucked tonight! By another man! In our marital bed! And I couldn’t be happier!

 

[Crownvic]

The puritans be damned! My wife’s getting fucked tonight! By another man! In our marital bed! And I couldn’t be happier!

My opinion says yes she is a slut...