Just curious about how many married women turned sub during or after affair?

[james93]

Dear All,
I am curious about extra-marital affair and it's correlation with bringing out submissive side of woman. Recently I came across one more 'wife' who had similar kind of experience like me about being turned sub during extra-marital affair. And we both are not sub to our husbands. And we both are quite accomplished professionally.
I felt It is an interesting dynamic.
P.s. please comment about your profession too.

With love,
DocUkWife

I have had several online D/S relationships with women who're quite accomplished, and a lot of the time, they were seeking online Doms as a way to satisfy themselves when they were in relationships where their partners couldn't give them that sexual thrill in the bedroom. In my own relationship, I would probably find it quite hard to be Dominant towards my wife (we are not into that in our bedroom), but I find it easier to be dominant with other women.

 

[Bossybats]

I have had several interactions online with married women that wanted to be submissive to me, lots of fun. I have also had RL meetings with women that wanted the same.
All seemed to have the same theme in life, they made all the decisions, some were single moms that rarely had a day off, had no partner to help them and were very much looking to not be responsible for their actions.
The married ones had spouses that were basically checked out and they also ran the house.

I am currently seeing someone on the side that has no interest in being submissive, even though she seems to have the same issues as all the priors. It’s just not her thing…yet.

 

[magic_rat]

Some people (not just women) don't know they're sub until they meet someone who can bring it out of them.

I didn't know I enjoyed hurting women until I met a woman who wanted me to bruise her. She didn't know she liked it (she'd been married twice and slept around a lot in between times) until she met a guy who wanted to hurt her. And so it goes.

 

[Dad4u1970]

I had an affair with a sales rep that visited my work. He flirted with me and flirted back. Then one time I ended up in his hotel room. The sex was awesome!
Over the course of many getaways which covered many months he slowly became dominant. And I gladly participated.
At first it was just raw sex. He was always in control and I liked that. Then he would have me do little things, he made our love making go on for over a hour or so. Bringing me to the edge of climax then backing down. I was sooo ready, I would do anything for him.


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These kind of affairs one will never forget.

 

[SPARTAN047]

It seems that some Dominant women will seek extra subs and affairs outside their marriage. On average, a lot of Domme women and sub ones seek a much more Dominant man or woman to have an affair with because that's what's missing in their lives. Maybe they were already submissive and the affair helped bring it out.

I'm not sure how it is for men. Lots of them seem to find a young, submissive woman to fuck in affairs, though of course there are the young women who are aware that being Dominant will bring them more money in a niche market, and they seek sub men to serve them and maybe exploit financially. Some will also find sugar daddies.

 

[Luvloosepussy]

My husband a brilliant man is, yes, a marshmallow. I have had to play hardball for him professionally with his clients, as he skirts the practice trying to find more delicate solutions. The same held true on the home front raising children and dealing with life. I've always had to take the dominant role in almost every aspect of our relationship and professional life.
So yes in extra-marital affairs I do prefer to take the submissive role seeking dominant lovers

Do you live near Missouri, lol

 

[N2outdoors]

I think it is hard for some guys to be aggressive if that is not their nature. My husband tried but it just did not seem right and like you we gave up on it. Fortunately for me about 5 years ago we agreed to allowing other partners. I have been able to find several that do it just about the way I like it and it comes naturally to them.

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[Islander55]

Can you explain what these other men do to dominate you? Or maybe how they do it?

It really is not about being dominated in the normal Dom/sub sense. The dating, the foreplay is all pretty normal. It is when we get to the fucking, he is fully seated, I want him to aggressively fuck me. I want to feel that he wants me and needs me. I will let him know if I need something but I like him to just go ahead and fuck me. Take his pleasure with me. In doing so he will get me aroused and I have had some wonderful orgasms while being taken like this. Not sure if I explained it well but that is the gist of it.