Just curious about how many married women turned sub during or after affair?

[Bossybats]

I have had several interactions online with married women that wanted to be submissive to me, lots of fun. I have also had RL meetings with women that wanted the same.
All seemed to have the same theme in life, they made all the decisions, some were single moms that rarely had a day off, had no partner to help them and were very much looking to not be responsible for their actions.
The married ones had spouses that were basically checked out and they also ran the house.

I am currently seeing someone on the side that has no interest in being submissive, even though she seems to have the same issues as all the priors. It’s just not her thing…yet.

 

[magic_rat]

Some people (not just women) don't know they're sub until they meet someone who can bring it out of them.

I didn't know I enjoyed hurting women until I met a woman who wanted me to bruise her. She didn't know she liked it (she'd been married twice and slept around a lot in between times) until she met a guy who wanted to hurt her. And so it goes.

 

[Dad4u1970]

I had an affair with a sales rep that visited my work. He flirted with me and flirted back. Then one time I ended up in his hotel room. The sex was awesome!
Over the course of many getaways which covered many months he slowly became dominant. And I gladly participated.
At first it was just raw sex. He was always in control and I liked that. Then he would have me do little things, he made our love making go on for over a hour or so. Bringing me to the edge of climax then backing down. I was sooo ready, I would do anything for him.


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These kind of affairs one will never forget.

 

[SPARTAN047]

It seems that some Dominant women will seek extra subs and affairs outside their marriage. On average, a lot of Domme women and sub ones seek a much more Dominant man or woman to have an affair with because that's what's missing in their lives. Maybe they were already submissive and the affair helped bring it out.

I'm not sure how it is for men. Lots of them seem to find a young, submissive woman to fuck in affairs, though of course there are the young women who are aware that being Dominant will bring them more money in a niche market, and they seek sub men to serve them and maybe exploit financially. Some will also find sugar daddies.

 

[Luvloosepussy]

My husband a brilliant man is, yes, a marshmallow. I have had to play hardball for him professionally with his clients, as he skirts the practice trying to find more delicate solutions. The same held true on the home front raising children and dealing with life. I've always had to take the dominant role in almost every aspect of our relationship and professional life.
So yes in extra-marital affairs I do prefer to take the submissive role seeking dominant lovers

Do you live near Missouri, lol

 

[Islander55]

Can you explain what these other men do to dominate you? Or maybe how they do it?

It really is not about being dominated in the normal Dom/sub sense. The dating, the foreplay is all pretty normal. It is when we get to the fucking, he is fully seated, I want him to aggressively fuck me. I want to feel that he wants me and needs me. I will let him know if I need something but I like him to just go ahead and fuck me. Take his pleasure with me. In doing so he will get me aroused and I have had some wonderful orgasms while being taken like this. Not sure if I explained it well but that is the gist of it.

 

[MichelleSwan]

Dear All,
I am curious about extra-marital affair and it's correlation with bringing out submissive side of woman. Recently I came across one more 'wife' who had similar kind of experience like me about being turned sub during extra-marital affair. And we both are not sub to our husbands. And we both are quite accomplished professionally.
I felt It is an interesting dynamic.
P.s. please comment about your profession too.

With love,
DocUkWife

Same, although it's my husband's company, I am the CEO, at home the dominant director . In trysts I seek dominant men to wich I can surrender control.

 

[TonyF862]

going to give this great thread a BUMP - as I'm exploring this with a swinging couple we've played with in the past. The wife has been hot/cold on me, although she did fuck me once after a party, but honestly is was so-so, likely for both of us. I ran across an online profile of one of her lovers, and the guys is into BDSM and appears to be a switch, although mostly Dom. Upon further reflection & observation, I've come to suspect/realize she is into BDSM but unsure if she is a Dom/Sub/Switch. I want to explore this with her but if she is a Sub, I'm not sure I have that DNA. I can be Dom w/ my wife but this is just bedroom play. Not sure I have that native drive to have woman submit although the thought of it turns me on.

Ask: Is someone like myself, who is turned on by turning on women, able to grow my "Dom-ness"? If so what is the best way to develop this? My wife would be a safe, willing participant so I can practice on her leading up to my next encounter with a sub candidate.

 

[Submissivepat]

I think I was always submissive but my affair and eventual marriage to my partner, exposed me, literally, to much more than I had fantasized about.

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Someone should start a club for submissive men to learn how to be aggressive in the bedroom. Or maybe just try testosterone to see if it increases “alpha male”-ness.

I’d rather someone showed women the joys of being worshipped and served by a man. The pleasure in directing a man who enjoys you telling him what to do and how to do it.

How many women like topping from the bottom? I bet they’d be happy with a submissive man who enjoys being a service top.

How many women have pent up frustrations? Most of us I bet. Imagine a man strong enough to offer soaking up your aggression, letting you decompress by flogging him. Imagine seeing the bliss on his face as the endorphins make him fly, as he takes pride in enduring for you. Imagine him holding position for you without restraints, held only by your voice and his desire to obey. That takes strength. And to me, it is effing hot.

I see nothing weak about sub men at all. Strength is integrity, bravery, responsibility and moving heavy furniture for me, not who directs the action in the bedroom.

I’m mostly subby but it’s more selfishness on my part and no desire for submission on my partner’s part than anything else.

The whole “alpha” concept is a personal squick for me. I like a firm Dom but if he were to call himself an “alpha” my pussy would insta-dry and he’d never touch me again.

Sorry, I know that’s off topic. I didn’t come here to derail. I just really feel for sub guys who aren’t finding enough Dom women.

Bit more on topic, my man is super sweet, thoughtful, puts others before himself. He is learning to be a soft Dom for me which is just how I like it. His nature is well suited to giving me what I want in bed.

I’ll quit derailing now, sorry!

 

[doctorukwife]

I’d rather someone showed women the joys of being worshipped and served by a man. The pleasure in directing a man who enjoys you telling him what to do and how to do it.

How many women like topping from the bottom? I bet they’d be happy with a submissive man who enjoys being a service top.

How many women have pent up frustrations? Most of us I bet. Imagine a man strong enough to offer soaking up your aggression, letting you decompress by flogging him. Imagine seeing the bliss on his face as the endorphins make him fly, as he takes pride in enduring for you. Imagine him holding position for you without restraints, held only by your voice and his desire to obey. That takes strength. And to me, it is effing hot.

I see nothing weak about sub men at all. Strength is integrity, bravery, responsibility and moving heavy furniture for me, not who directs the action in the bedroom.

I’m mostly subby but it’s more selfishness on my part and no desire for submission on my partner’s part than anything else.

The whole “alpha” concept is a personal squick for me. I like a firm Dom but if he were to call himself an “alpha” my pussy would insta-dry and he’d never touch me again.

Sorry, I know that’s off topic. I didn’t come here to derail. I just really feel for sub guys who aren’t finding enough Dom women.

Bit more on topic, my man is super sweet, thoughtful, puts others before himself. He is learning to be a soft Dom for me which is just how I like it. His nature is well suited to giving me what I want in bed.

I’ll quit derailing now, sorry!

sounds you are moderate

 

[doctorukwife]

going to give this great thread a BUMP - as I'm exploring this with a swinging couple we've played with in the past. The wife has been hot/cold on me, although she did fuck me once after a party, but honestly is was so-so, likely for both of us. I ran across an online profile of one of her lovers, and the guys is into BDSM and appears to be a switch, although mostly Dom. Upon further reflection & observation, I've come to suspect/realize she is into BDSM but unsure if she is a Dom/Sub/Switch. I want to explore this with her but if she is a Sub, I'm not sure I have that DNA. I can be Dom w/ my wife but this is just bedroom play. Not sure I have that native drive to have woman submit although the thought of it turns me on.

Ask: Is someone like myself, who is turned on by turning on women, able to grow my "Dom-ness"? If so what is the best way to develop this? My wife would be a safe, willing participant so I can practice on her leading up to my next encounter with a sub candidate.

Seems you are overthinking this.

 

[TonyF862]

Seems you are overthinking this.

hows that?? Please elaborate

 

[Robbie527]

Dear All,
I am curious about extra-marital affair and it's correlation with bringing out submissive side of woman. Recently I came across one more 'wife' who had similar kind of experience like me about being turned sub during extra-marital affair. And we both are not sub to our husbands. And we both are quite accomplished professionally.
I felt It is an interesting dynamic.
P.s. please comment about your profession too.

With love,
DocUkWife

My wife has been submissive to the man next door since November 1985 when she first experienced him. She has had many other experiences since with others and I understand she is fairly dominant and demanding especially with those much younger than her. With Dennis however she is his to do with as he wills.

 

[Yarglenurp]

My wife has been submissive to the man next door since November 1985 when she first experienced him. She has had many other experiences since with others and I understand she is fairly dominant and demanding especially with those much younger than her. With Dennis however she is his to do with as he wills.

So what is she to you?

 

[doctorukwife]

Seems the interest in this post has died out It's interesting how even posts have same fluctuations like our moods.

 

[Gman1911]

Seems the interest in this post has died out It's interesting how even posts have same fluctuations like our moods.

Some threads thrive on but others like this sometimes need a bit of support, a post from you every now and again could help keep it alive

Perhaps you could share more of your journey and that would get more interest and therefore responses?

 

[CuriousJInLA]

I really feel like the desire to be submissive isn't all about sex it's about your professional life also. People that have high stress jobs, direct or manage alot of people andare decision making all day just want to have something in their life they just are their as an object of fun to be used by someone else.

Home relationships that are vanilla can be a big part of the reason you want something different and exciting but don't have to plan it all and then being the one orchestrating it.

Personally I think just enjoy the fun you are having and don't over think it because it's just sex.

Man this is spot on for me. I like being dominant as well as “normal” sex, if you can call it that. But I’d love to be submissive to someone who just takes control and I don’t have a choice

 

[TonyF862]

Man this is spot on for me. I like being dominant as well as “normal” sex, if you can call it that. But I’d love to be submissive to someone who just takes control and I don’t have a choice

I think my wife could be a sub.

 

[Slvr4Younger]

Dear All,
I am curious about extra-marital affair and it's correlation with bringing out submissive side of woman. Recently I came across one more 'wife' who had similar kind of experience like me about being turned sub during extra-marital affair. And we both are not sub to our husbands. And we both are quite accomplished professionally.
I felt It is an interesting dynamic.
P.s. please comment about your profession too.

With love,
DocUkWife

I've had more than a few affairs with married women, in person mostly but also over distance by phone. Yes phone, I'm older if you check my profile. Anyways, all but two turned sub to some degree. Some only mildly being into orgasm control and emotional manipulation, just enjoying being taken away from responsibility. A few decsended into collared mindlessly obedient nympho's. Craving to be used even in public. How they could turn this on & off at home was amazing. Most had completely inattentive husbands who were clueless. Ah to be young again! Or to find another MILF needing to be seduced to the sensual sensations lurking deep within her, waiting to be awakened and released!! There is always hope, except for the owned...

 

[Ciceri]

I corresponded with a woman in Seattle who's a professional Domme. She doesn't have sex with men or women but mostly punishes them - usually by spanking. I wanted to know more about women seeking out her services. What's in it for them if there's no sex? The Domme told me the women who use her services are primarily straight and married. WHAT? Yes. She said the women will often strip naked and be spanked. For some reason the women feel like they're somehow deserving of the punishment and cry during the session. I think it's some sort of catharsis. I imagine the submissive side surfaces when they've had an affair - for similar, contrite reasons.

 

[matureman32]

Seems the interest in this post has died out It's interesting how even posts have same fluctuations like our moods.

We can be a real moody bunch, perhaps now summer is here it will lighten us up.

 

[Robbie527]

I've had more than a few affairs with married women, in person mostly but also over distance by phone. Yes phone, I'm older if you check my profile. Anyways, all but two turned sub to some degree. Some only mildly being into orgasm control and emotional manipulation, just enjoying being taken away from responsibility. A few decsended into collared mindlessly obedient nympho's. Craving to be used even in public. How they could turn this on & off at home was amazing. Most had completely inattentive husbands who were clueless. Ah to be young again! Or to find another MILF needing to be seduced to the sensual sensations lurking deep within her, waiting to be awakened and released!! There is always hope, except for the owned...

My wife was a microbiologist in a management role but when we moved house in 1985 the immediate neighbours took an interest in her initially because he was obsessed with her breasts. After some weeks of probing his then wife took my wife to a local naturist establishment where they had a massage. The masseur fucked his wife while my wife watched from her couch but refused the same treatment. After some discussion with his wife mine went back a few weeks later and let the masseur have her - bareback it seems. This led on to her becoming close to next door and fairly soon afterwards impaling herself on him and enjoying to the extent that she became his willing toy and did whatever he wanted. She took him bare from the word go and only used condoms on a first meeting with anyone else. This included servicing a friend of his both single and as a threesome. Over the years her sexual activity has developed into a much more demanding role where she uses her vagina as a weapon. I know all this because next doors ex wife told me chapter and verse in what was obviously revenge. The only time I witnessed anything was finding my wife being fucked on the dining room table by some around 30 years younger just after her 55th birthday. It was that which caused me to ask next doors ex if she had ever noticed any comings and goings at our house.

 

[TonyF862]

My wife was a microbiologist in a management role but when we moved house in 1985 the immediate neighbours took an interest in her initially because he was obsessed with her breasts. After some weeks of probing his then wife took my wife to a local naturist establishment where they had a massage. The masseur fucked his wife while my wife watched from her couch but refused the same treatment. After some discussion with his wife mine went back a few weeks later and let the masseur have her - bareback it seems. This led on to her becoming close to next door and fairly soon afterwards impaling herself on him and enjoying to the extent that she became his willing toy and did whatever he wanted. She took him bare from the word go and only used condoms on a first meeting with anyone else. This included servicing a friend of his both single and as a threesome. Over the years her sexual activity has developed into a much more demanding role where she uses her vagina as a weapon. I know all this because next doors ex wife told me chapter and verse in what was obviously revenge. The only time I witnessed anything was finding my wife being fucked on the dining room table by some around 30 years younger just after her 55th birthday. It was that which caused me to ask next doors ex if she had ever noticed any comings and goings at our house.

This is SO f’n hot and fascinating!! The fact that it went on for years, seemingly without your knowledge is incredible!

Please, catch us up-to-date. Do you enjoy your wife in any of these situation‘s? Have you explored with other women?

 

[Robbie527]

This is SO f’n hot and fascinating!! The fact that it went on for years, seemingly without your knowledge is incredible!

Please, catch us up-to-date. Do you enjoy your wife in any of these situation‘s? Have you explored with other women?

No. I am not involved in her life and it could go on without me knowing because I was often away for 1 or even 2 weeks at a time. She is 70 now and still goes next door regularly although him being 76 not sure how long it can go on for. She visits 2 naturist clubs and has a few other, younger, male friends. Her preference is to be involved with a couple as that means she gets the benefit of them plus any extra men that the wife of the couple attracts. Yes I have explored with other women.