Ladies, honesty about "fingering".

[opti1]

yeah... i would say my love of it approaches fetish too...

for those women that love it and don't have a regular partner... i strongly encourage this... it's really a solo toy because of the weight... if a partner really wanted to help, i'd suggest starting with dual hands before letting him or her go solo...

i taught my ex-husband (my first bf) how to finger me properly ... he told me (we are good friends... was just a shit marriage) a couple months ago that the woman he was dating was benefiting from my lessons. lol

my last boyfriend nearly made me pass out every time he fingered me....

In a good way, I hope, not from the pain inflicted?

 

[njoyndesire]

In a good way, I hope, not from the pain inflicted?

Very much in a good way!

 

[MrsCCfromRC]

As I mentioned earlier, they first attempts weren't the most successful but I loved it anyway and still love it. Hub is wonderful with his fingers etc. and I don't have a problem letting him know what I want. As to multiple orgasms.... yes, I want them and there isn't a loss of arousal after the first one.

 

[gabriel16]

wonderful thread

Will come back to read it all

I love how turned on a lover can get as she is fingered - slow, deep, deeper, and more

G

 

[nawtyally]

Was i the only one who didn't expect an orgasm from my boyfriend fingering me back in the day? We would be making out and he would slide his hand down the front of my panties or pull them aside, slowly slipping his fingers between my moist folds, feeling my heat, spreading my juices as he teased me then would dip his fingers into me then go back to teasing with his fingertips... It was all VERY hot and felt amazing but it was always just a stepping stone to him either making me orgasm with his mouth or to us fucking. Should i be retroactively pissed that i missed out or something?

 

[Tomahawk26]

Sorry, I guess I really did stink at making it a question.

Here it is. How was it at first with your early bf/s? Were you merely letting your b/f because he wanted to do it? Did you enjoy it....at all? Were you to shy to tell him he's "doing it wrong"? Would you tell a new partner how to do it if he wasn't doing it the way you enjoy it best? Would you have a problem showing him by doing it to yourself? During the whole foreplay process, is it something you look forward to as you start making out, or is it something that is just going to happen, but hopefully for not very long? Did you look forward to being fingered early on, even with an inexperienced b/f, because at lease it was something happening sexual? And the last question, do you, or your partner touch yourself WHILE he's inside you to add to the moment and help bring about orgasm?


I suppose I have one more question. With guys, once we orgasm, sadly, we are pretty much done, or, we were when we were younger. But women, does an orgasm take the wind out of your sails? Once a man makes...er, helps you orgasm, do you continue because you want him to orgasm out of..... kindness/love, or because you genuinely still want to have sex?

Let me start by saying I have only had a handful of orgasms in my entire life from fingering, whether it be by myself or with a partner. . . but especially when I was younger, just the thrill of being desired and touched was pretty potent, so I didn't care that much about anything else about it! I can't honestly remember anyone that was "bad" at fingering me. . . but it generally occurs after so much making out and groping and such that I have always been plenty wet. . . DEFINITELY always enjoy the prospect of having my jeans unzipped or my skirt pulled up and those fingers reaching into my panties.

If I happen to want something specific out of fingering, I have no problem telling a fella (sweetly) or moving his hand to show him! And I don't think I would ever think of what he was doing as "wrong"--that's awfully uncharitable! Everyone likes different things, and maybe he was taught by someone that likes it that way!

And as for the orgasm question, well everybody should cum! But I also pretty much always have multiple orgasms (generally at least 3), and I absolutely keep going until I've gotten my Daddy (husband) off! For me it's kind of the opposite. . . on those EXTREMELY rare occasions when I haven't cum yet but he does, I'm pretty much done because I really can't cum without his cock, and although he always offers to make out with me and touch me while I ride a dildo or something, I don't always want to cum on an inanimate object!

 

[analgirl69]

I don't really like it 99% of the time. Like it more when we were teenagers and it made e think about what the real thing would be like with him. I just liked that he was touching me. Finger fucking is pretty meh for me. Sometimes it even hurts. I could certainly do with out it.

 

[mike2010fc]

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[kinktars_slut]

My very first boyfriend was almost 15 years my senior, and he was fantastic. His fingers were amazing, and fingering remains one of my favorite forms of foreplay. Once he showed me what when where (lol), he taught me a very important lesson. "A closed mouth will never get fed, baby girl."

He wouldn't give me what I wanted until I was willing to ask for it. Ok, so maybe there were times when he made me beg for it. My point is, he set the stage for an incredible sense of sexual confidence. I left our relationship knowing that if I wanted my orgasm, I needed to be willing to chase it down, tackle it, and claim it as my own.

And he remains my best, most favorite fingering partner. Oh, those hands...

 

[XsNrg]

I found long ago that if you put a few women around a table and show them nice hands they will ALL have comments about them and it becomes obvious how many women really look at a man's hands and fingers.

 

[kinktars_slut]

I found long ago that if you put a few women around a table and show them nice hands they will ALL have comments about them and it becomes obvious how many women really look at a man's hands and fingers.

One of the first things I noticed about my husband... His huge hands, thick fingers, and well manicured nails. I have a picture of his hand on my thigh that I make sure to transfer each time I get a new phone!

 

[UAlbanyGirl]

I just have to suspect that, guys think a lady is enjoying it more than she really is. I'm willing to bet that, as you and your partner got older and more experienced, it is more pleasurable for you both. But really, when your 1st b/f was attempting to please you, was he? I remember back at what I was doing, and I didn't really think I was any stud or anything, but I was hoping that she was enjoying it as much as I was enjoying doing it. Now.. I know my wife does enjoy it, if I do it properly, which isn't what I was doing at 1st! My poor g/f's! They were so kind and sweet to let me. But, perhaps just the fact that we were making out, "in love" and touching each other, even incorrectly, was enough.

The problem is that most boys think fingering is about penetration, when it's more about micro- massage!

Don't get me wrong, it does fell good to have a couple of fingers delving deep into me, but what really gets me off is the concentrated rubbing and stimulation of my clit (one he happens to locate it or stumble upon it!)

 

[1Browneyedguy]

Fingering

" but what really gets me off is the concentrated rubbing and stimulation of my clit (one he happens to locate it or stumble upon it!) "

I don't think there's anything wrong with showing / guiding his hand there and whisper to him

"ohhh YES YES! right there! Rub my clit"

 

[Lookn4brownsuga]

The problem is that most boys think fingering is about penetration, when it's more about micro- massage!

Don't get me wrong, it does fell good to have a couple of fingers delving deep into me, but what really gets me off is the concentrated rubbing and stimulation of my clit (one he happens to locate it or stumble upon it!)

Those fingers that go for penetration clearly are not experienced fingers.

 

[chellbarr]

I was a bit drunk the first time it happened, so I can't really remember liking it or not. But I do love it now, especially when he/she knows what he/she is doing and hits all the right spots.

 

[goesallnight]

I love fingering and I love to so it very softly and lightly from the beginning staying on the outside of everything for ages until it gets frustrating and until I feel the wetness starting to leak out. I love to feel the hardness of a woman's clit through her lips, and love to play with different ways of touch to see her reaction.

 

[Queen_Guinevere]

All the 'men' I've dated have no clue when it comes to fingering. I don't think they were too bothered either, as long as they were satisfied. That's the trouble with dating 21 year-olds. All the confidence and none of the know-how.

Sometimes it's easier to pretend it's good for an easy life.

 

[goesallnight]

All the 'men' I've dated have no clue when it comes to fingering. I don't think they were too bothered either, as long as they were satisfied. That's the trouble with dating 21 year-olds. All the confidence and none of the know-how.

Sometimes it's easier to pretend it's good for an easy life.

Yeah, I was clueless when i was that age. Fortunately I figured it out.

 

[chellbarr]

All the 'men' I've dated have no clue when it comes to fingering. I don't think they were too bothered either, as long as they were satisfied. That's the trouble with dating 21 year-olds. All the confidence and none of the know-how.

Sometimes it's easier to pretend it's good for an easy life.

I've had some twenty-one-year-olds - and younger - who were pretty dexterous. Sorry you got the bad ones.

 

[Queen_Guinevere]

Yeah, I was clueless when i was that age. Fortunately I figured it out.

Very fortunate! How long did that take? They're dumfounded when they realise really hard and really fast don't work. Slow and steady wins the race every time.

 

[Queen_Guinevere]

I've had some twenty-one-year-olds - and younger - who were pretty dexterous. Sorry you got the bad ones.

Owhh. ): Good to know there are some though! 'No, it's honestly fine, I'll just do it myself' should never be uttered during sex.

 

[chellbarr]

Owhh. ): Good to know there are some though! 'No, it's honestly fine, I'll just do it myself' should never be uttered during sex.

Ouch. I've never said, but I'm fairly certain I've made a disapproving sigh or three.

 

[Sweetandsinful]

I love fingering and I love to so it very softly and lightly from the beginning staying on the outside of everything for ages until it gets frustrating and until I feel the wetness starting to leak out. I love to feel the hardness of a woman's clit through her lips, and love to play with different ways of touch to see her reaction.

Wow. Just, wow. I wish every man knew/did this....

 

[chellbarr]

Oh, can I post here of a really frustrating case I dealt with a while ago? It was a painfully shy girl who wasn't really...well, she wasn't into sex. Whenever I'd finger her, she'd always ask me to stop after a bit because she didn't WANT to lose control. It was really tough to try and get her to see that losing control was the point.

It was quite sad as she never could orgasm, with me, herself, or anyone.

 

[Goldie55]

I'm wired backwards, I think of it like vagina-ing because it blows my mind when girls grind on my hand or use their muscles to massage my fingers. Feeling her orgasm that way (usually when I'm going down on her) to me is better than sex.

Mike

Oooh Mike.... where did you say you lived????