Ladies, honesty about "fingering".

[Goldie55]

Wow. Just, wow. I wish every man knew/did this....

Me too sweetandsinful......

 

[goesallnight]

Wow. Just, wow. I wish every man knew/did this....

It would certainly make things better for the women out there. And I'm all for that.

 

[NYTimesBest]

I have a massive fetish for being fingered, it may be because my first 'proper' boyfriend was really good at it. He was a musician (bassist mostly) and was excellent with his fingers .

My current man is also very skilled, more so probably, since I'm slightly harder to please and I'm not afraid to give direction these days.

nice, maybe being a musician does help! I play guitar and have been told I have "magic fingers" ...the gf's i've had have always loved it when i've fingered them. and i like it too. i like to see how much of my hand i can fit in their pussies, and some day hope to get the whole fist in there.

 

[NaughtyDaddyO]

Fingering

I absolutely love fingering. I thoroughly enjoy finding that elusive g spot and rubbing that clit. Hmmmm, getting turned-on just thinking about it.

 

[kinktars_slut]

My first boyfriend was significantly older than me. I will not mention the age gap, but he was certainly old enough and experenced enough to have been around the block enough to help a girl along on the road to sexual discovery. He taught me the joy of being fingered. The very first time he slid his fingers in and hit just the right spot, I thought I was possessed. I grabbed his wrist and started riding his fingers like my life depended in it.

After that very first time, for quite some time he would only finger me if I gave him directions and showed him exactly what I liked. He let me use his fingers to find out exactly what I liked and needed. Love that guy!

 

[Domesticity]

I came for the first time by being fingered. I remember thinking, "whoa wtf is this?!? Whoooooaaaaaa holymotherfuckingshitwhoooooaaaaa". It was awesome and I still enjoy being fingered. My newest favorite is 3 or 4 fingers bc it hurts a little bit but feels so good. It's helpful if the guy has big hands and long fingers.

 

[Belle_Nuit]

My first bf had no clue what he was doing, but neither did I! I enjoyed being touched, but there was nothing pleasurable about it. I didn't know any better at the time.

The first time I was properly fingered I couldn't believe it! It felt so good I could barely breathe. We were in the back of a van in a crowded parking lot. People were walking all around us. I was so nervous about being caught, but it felt so damn good I couldn't help myself.

My current bf is great with his hands (and mouth)! But I don't cum easily so we usually have to finish off with a toy. I still love every second of it though!

 

[MILFSauce]

it becomes obvious how many women really look at a man's hands and fingers.

Omg yes. Hands are one of the things I notice first about a man. Hands are very sexy, especially when they're obviously strong and skilled, but also gentle and sensitive.

But regarding the fingering ... I'll add how important it is to have clean hands and closely trimmed nails. Yes, it's very sexy when you've been working on your car, but I don't want your greasy fingers inside me!

And a man has to be really gentle when he's feeling me up. My clit is extremely sensitive and it doesn't need to be manhandled like a piece of meat in a butcher shop. Dip your finger inside and get some of my wetness to use on it. Then circle around it, barely brushing against it. Be very careful about rubbing directly on it.

I especially like being felt up when we're out somewhere ... in a movie, maybe, or making out in the car. When we're in bed and we can be naked, I prefer your tongue, to be honest. As much as I like being felt up, it doesn't compare to being licked.

I remember one time going to the movies with two guys. I sat between them and they both felt me up ... one top, one bottom, and from time to time they switched. Jeezus, I was turned on ...

I came for the first time by being fingered.

Same here. In high school, my boyfriend and I used to park in the big vacant lot next to our house late at night, and he would feel me up. This had been going on for some time before finally one night he happened to hit on the right spot. Gawdalmighty. I was bucking like a filly in the spring.

When it was over, I cried in his arms. I had had orgasms before, but not by doing that. I had never fingered myself before that, but it didn't take long to realize I could do it myself, too.

 

[InsatiableDsire]

Now, me, I prefer fingering to licking... But perhaps that's because I've had guys get all focused with that tongue tip directly on my clit at all times....

 

[gabriel16]

Great thread

I love giving pleasure with my fingers. When a lover is responding, moving her hips against my fingers, perhaps with my mouth at her clit, and the intensity building... yes.

 

[timeonmyhands]

I absolutely love this, probably more than being licked. If a guy or a girl knows how to use their fingers right then I'm in heaven!

 

[VixenEllie]

*****

 

[just for fun]

For me fingering can be really hot, but only if there is an added element. Being fingered in public and trying to hide it is definitely a thrill.

Yes it is. I used to meet an old girlfriend for lunch an on more that one occasion I pleasured her with my hand and fingers while we sat in the car like nothing was going on.

 

[JoyceMarieL]

I absolutely love being fingered, but wouldn't turn down a probing tongue or a pair of lips tightly clamping down on my clit.

To borrow a clever comment from the movie "Sleeping Beauty" (Not the Disney Version); "The shade of your lip-gloss must match the pink of my labia."

 

[Sheana_V]

How was it at first with your early bf/s?
The fist time with rubbing was actually with a girl, it was exciting but we were just 'experimenting'. The first time actually getting fingered was with a boy, and I was way excited already so it felt really good. (This experience also was my first experience with exhibitionism...) I didn't have an orgasm but I was very into what he was doing. In my early experiences when a guy was trying to get into my panties or engaging in foreplay fingering went quite well. When they were trying to get me off, not so much. Girls were a little but not much better at it...


Were you merely letting your b/f because he wanted to do it?
I'm not entirely sure how to answer. All sex acts are bart me wanting to and part them. Certainly they initiated it a lot.


Did you enjoy it....at all?
Yes!


Were you to shy to tell him he's "doing it wrong"?
Back then. Yeah, it took me some time to learn to set boundaries and communicate expectations.


Would you tell a new partner how to do it if he wasn't doing it the way you enjoy it best?
Absolutely. If he is excited about doing it, it is quite likely he will receive instructions.


Would you have a problem showing him by doing it to yourself?
I get really turned on by being watched masturbating with a long term lover, so yes. A one night stand... not so much.


During the whole foreplay process, is it something you look forward to as you start making out, or is it something that is just going to happen, but hopefully for not very long?
As a step along the process of foreplay it's great. If I'm very wet it can certainly take things to the next level.


Did you look forward to being fingered early on, even with an inexperienced b/f, because at lease it was something happening sexual?
Yes. In fact, it was often part of the process of figuring out if I wanted to proceed further with this person.


And the last question, do you, or your partner touch yourself WHILE he's inside you to add to the moment and help bring about orgasm?
I touch myself when a partner is inside me pretty frequently. Though it depends a lot on the mood. It isn't required for me to get off, but is frequently helpful. This is something I'm more likely to do with a one night stand, since mileage varies with their proficiency.


Does an orgasm take the wind out of your sails?
It depends. If I've had many intense orgasms I'm pretty much done. This is an opportunity to switch directions in terms of getting him off, or if I don't care about him at all, I might just get dressed at this point.

 

[satin_and_lace]

It felt good with my first boyfriend. He was much more experienced than I was. We were making out one day and his hands migrated south and started rubbing my pussy over my jeans. The friction of the denim and his hands over my clit was delicious. I felt like a hungry animal, opening my legs wide so he could rub me with the palm of his hand. Unfortunately I don't think the magic translated when his hands slipped under my waistband.

The rest of my fingering experiences were mediocre at best. I never pretended to be getting off, I'd usually just change the focus to dry humping.

My current bf has magic fingers. He's the first person I've met who does me better than I do myself

 

[tonyp]

hi

lovethis thread

 

[EvaRimes]

There's something a little dirty about fingering and I love it. I think mainly because its such an easy sex act to perform pretty much anywhere. My first boyfriend and I never had anywhere to go and the first time he fingered me we were in a lift... Didn't even realise at the time there were cameras in there..

 

[TwistedJenn]

I think when it comes to fingering less is more, but that is just my opinion. I need a soft touch when it comes to it, to much or too rough can be painful for me since I'm so sensitive down there. Just a soft circular motion rubbing the clit through the hood is a good start before I get wet enough for a bit of penetration. My husband is really good at it if I'm already wet and read but if I'm not sometimes he can be a bit rough, but that is where the communication comes in. I find it highly erotic to know that a man can't wait to get my clothes off to touch me, sometimes when I play with myself I leave my jeans on and just reach into my panties to recreate this feeling. So yes I enjoy it and I still enjoy sex after my first orgasm and unless I get raw I can go on and on and on.

 

[sweetnsassysuzi]

I'm usually a little different, but I got addicted to fingerings immediately. It was penetration that took a while to appeal

 

[shygirlcurves]

To be honest, I got so much pleasure from my first boyfriend. We never actually had sex. Oral, fingering, hand jobs... but that's about it. He got me off better than anyone since. We were each others' firsts. I just think we were so sexually compatible it worked. It's a shame we never had sex. I still fantasize about him.

Now, I'll take it or leave it from my husband. He's just not good at it. I've tried giving direction... but if I'm being honest we just aren't that sexually compatible. *sigh*

 

[TexasLark]

Believe it or not, the guys I dated when I was young were generally better at fingering than the men I see now. Older men seem to think they are supposed to replicate the feeling of a rough fuck when they finger, by just inserting a couple of fingers and then "vibrating" as fast and hard as they can. My younger men were sweet and would slide slowly in, relishing the feeling of my wet pussy, sensuously exploring. They would leave me breathless, panting and moaning. So yes, I love to be fingered when it's done well.

 

[Milia]

I love being fingered. I have been fortunate that most of my partners have either been pretty good at it or were able to take direction. My first experience was wonderful, and I haven't been able to get enough since then. I prefer it to oral.

 

[GeorgiaSub]

I'll take a good fingering over oral any day. I love when a man rubs my clit and lips, teasing my hole until I'm humping his hand and begging him to stick his fingers inside me. And if he's aware enough to know where a woman's g-spot is and rubs me the right way....mmmm....it's better than fucking!

 

[texasace]

I'll take a good fingering over oral any day. I love when a man rubs my clit and lips, teasing my hole until I'm humping his hand and begging him to stick his fingers inside me. And if he's aware enough to know where a woman's g-spot is and rubs me the right way....mmmm....it's better than fucking!

Except when I tongue fuck you for hours!!!