Ladies, honesty about "fingering".

[GeorgiaSub]

Except when I tongue fuck you for hours!!!

Mmmm, Tex...what a naughty man you are

 

[MeekMe]

Fingering hasn't always been great. Still working on it really. Oral has been amazing, though. Finger was always one of those feelings of "not the pleasure of clitoral stimulation and not as filling as a cock." :/ not great but still some good feelings.

Lately I'm changing my mind, as I've just recently had an orgasm from fingering. I'll agree with others and say that with the right touch it can be awesome.

After I orgasm I'm usually prepared for more. One orgasm is not grounds for stopping.

 

[texasace]

Mmmm, Tex...what a naughty man you are

I enjoy the finer things... like YOU!!

 

[BiMommy77]

I love when my husband and I start our sessions making out...passionately, lots of heavy breathing, kissing, head holding, fingers in hair...then he flips me onto my back...while kissing me he reaches down and rubs me through my panties...a moan escapes my lips....then he gently rubs around until I can feel myself leaking juices...then he inserts a finger...sometimes sweetly...sometimes he ravages me...I love his fingers inside me...especially after he goes deep and brings it to my mouth and we share my taste in a kiss....mmmmmmm

 

[Beachboy84]

I'll take a good fingering over oral any day. I love when a man rubs my clit and lips, teasing my hole until I'm humping his hand and begging him to stick his fingers inside me. And if he's aware enough to know where a woman's g-spot is and rubs me the right way....mmmm....it's better than fucking!

Fingering is probably my best skill... Sometimes I'd rather finger a girl and please her than get off myself!.... Sometimes....

 

[subwhore60]

I don't recall any fantastic fingering & IF hub even touches my pussy it's like it's not worth his effort

 

[Jen82]

I was lucky, my first BF was much older and very skilled with his fingers...combined with his tongue it left me shaking and spent. After I helped him find my gspot? Amazing.
All I have to say is ask a woman throughout what she wants...sometimes another finger is good for climaxing. or maybe she wants a finger in both holes. There's no way to know unless you ask!
Otherwise it can be uncomfortable...so just ask us, guys. We don't mind. Trust me.

 

[lili_fromtx]

Fingering, like oral, can be spectacular if the giver knows what he's doing.

For me, don't just start rubbing. The best thing is light touching, maybe opening my pussy and actually starting with oral. Like licking me first and getting me wet. THEN sliding a finger in. Even then, go slow, let me adjust, and keep licking. THEN start rubbing my gspot and I'll go crazy.

I actually prefer a tongue on my clit and fingers massaging my gspot. When i get close that can work up to a finger bang as long as the fingers are still hitting/rubbing/poking my gspot.

But for chrissakes guys don't just start rubbing a woman's clit. Tease her, etc. Get us wet. THEN use a finger or two to draw some wetness from our pussy to the clit. And even then go lightly with your thick fingers on our clits. Or better yet, just use your tongue on your clits and your fingers on the gspot.

 

[MILFSauce]

Fingering, like oral, can be spectacular if the giver knows what he's doing.

For me, don't just start rubbing. The best thing is light touching, maybe opening my pussy and actually starting with oral. Like licking me first and getting me wet. THEN sliding a finger in. Even then, go slow, let me adjust, and keep licking. THEN start rubbing my gspot and I'll go crazy.

I actually prefer a tongue on my clit and fingers massaging my gspot. When i get close that can work up to a finger bang as long as the fingers are still hitting/rubbing/poking my gspot.

But for chrissakes guys don't just start rubbing a woman's clit. Tease her, etc. Get us wet. THEN use a finger or two to draw some wetness from our pussy to the clit. And even then go lightly with your thick fingers on our clits. Or better yet, just use your tongue on your clits and your fingers on the gspot.

Guys, print this out and stick it on your fridge.

 

[BongoGal]

But for chrissakes guys....just use your tongue on your clits...

That sounds problematic.

 

[MILFSauce]

That sounds problematic.

LOL! I didn't even catch that.

 

[indywife]

I love when my husband and I start our sessions making out...passionately, lots of heavy breathing, kissing, head holding, fingers in hair...then he flips me onto my back...while kissing me he reaches down and rubs me through my panties...a moan escapes my lips....then he gently rubs around until I can feel myself leaking juices...then he inserts a finger...sometimes sweetly...sometimes he ravages me...I love his fingers inside me...especially after he goes deep and brings it to my mouth and we share my taste in a kiss....mmmmmmm

Next time I get to lick your fingers

 

[unicorn64]

How was it at first with your early bf/s?
It was kind of a non-event. I didn't know what to tell them to do because I have never successfully masturbated to orgasm using my own fingers. G-spot stimulation just makes me feel like I have to pee, and I can never make the clit stimulation work right either (at least not with my hands). Some early B/F's seemed to make the assumption that because girls are supposed to like a dick pumping furiously into them, that they should replicate this action with a finger. Excess enthusiasm in this area resulted in too much knuckle banging into my groin area so I would just find a reason that we should just have sex to get them to move on.

Were you merely letting your b/f because he wanted to do it?
At first I wanted to try it to see what it was like, but after I discovered that I was not getting anywhere, then, yes, I would just let them do it because I didn't want to tell them that is would do no good. I thought that they might take this as a challenge and re-double their efforts and I would be laying there, being ineffectually thrust upon all night.

Did you enjoy it....at all?
I would enjoy it when it was coupled with making out, kissing, etc., and if he was making some variety happen down there. A little work on the clit, some probing, spreading my wetness around, not just repetitive banging.

Were you to shy to tell him he's "doing it wrong"?
When I was younger, yes. I felt that I would hurt their feelings and kill the mood. I have less trouble speaking up now, but I still would not say: "You're doing it wrong," I would just suggest things to do that I know would feel better. Fortunately after 11 years, my husband pretty much has me figured out by now, so I don't have to feel as awkward.

Would you tell a new partner how to do it if he wasn't doing it the way you enjoy it best?
Depends on where I feel like the relationship is headed. One night stand? Probably not, I would just lead the way to a different activity. Something a bit more long term? Then maybe some gentle guidance is in order if this person is going to be touching me again repeatedly in the future.

Would you have a problem showing him by doing it to yourself?
I would not have a problem in theory, but see my comment above - I'm not any good at it myself, so I wouldn't have much to show him.

During the whole foreplay process, is it something you look forward to as you start making out, or is it something that is just going to happen, but hopefully for not very long?
I will say that in the past I was not that into it for its own sake, but nowadays I find that I do get turned on when kissing/making out and I begin to anticipate the moment that his fingers will slip inside. Something very erotic about when it happens when I still have clothes on, too.

Did you look forward to being fingered early on, even with an inexperienced b/f, because at lease it was something happening sexual?
Yes.

And the last question, do you, or your partner touch yourself WHILE he's inside you to add to the moment and help bring about orgasm?
He does use his thumb on my clit if the position we are in allows him to reach, which I really enjoy. This has not fully brought about an orgasm yet, but I think it will happen at some point.


I suppose I have one more question. With guys, once we orgasm, sadly, we are pretty much done, or, we were when we were younger. But women, does an orgasm take the wind out of your sails? Once a man makes...er, helps you orgasm, do you continue because you want him to orgasm out of..... kindness/love, or because you genuinely still want to have sex?
It can be either of those for me, depending on the situation. I know that after I get off, with all the blood flow to the area, everything is super-sensitive, so many times I will masturbate on purpose before we have sex, because I find that it makes the sex even more enjoyable because everything is revved up down there.

This was not in any of your questions, but as a side note, I have noticed over the years that if a man is fingering me (or eating me, for that matter) I honestly get a little weirded out if he stares at me (eye-contact wise) a lot during it. My only explanation for this is that I kind of feel like a car that is being worked on by a mechanic - a little tweak here, and listen to the engine to see how it's working now... Like he's watching my face to see how he's doing. I feel like I am being put on the spot to "perform" even if I am not getting off on what's happening. I don't know if there are other women with this issue, but for me it can be unnerving. Something about my orgasm being a goal that he is trying to achieve makes me feel under pressure that I have to arrive at a destination so that he will be satisfied that he has "done good" rather than just enjoying the journey. I think because of this issue I would much prefer to give rather than receive in the bedroom.

Some of these I totally agree with. My first didn't know what he was doing just fingered me to get me wet so he could penetrate and exploded almost instantly. I felt like there should have been more and said it but he told me no. That was all there was to it. I did see him several more times and it never got any better.

Later on other guys did wonderful with fingers. Although when I would squirt they would get mad cause I peed. Back then I knew nothing about g-spot and female ejaculation. I thing someone was just interested in getting themselves off and didn't give a dam about me.

Now I love to be finger fucked, it is the only way to come close to orgasm with me. I don't orgasm very often and certainly not during 15 minute quickies.

I look for men with magic fingers. I love to be fingered and I want fingers in my pussy not just rubbing back and forth the length of my slit. Only now I like to be sucked at the same time.

 

[fireplugm]

Nothing like it

I must say it is a wonderful feeling to lay next to a woman and gently finger her. I have found a great deal of variety in regards to what works for a particular lady. No two women are the same.

Some cannot have any direct contract on their clit. They must have a very light touch and lots of wetness and lubrication. I usually can make my finger wet by dipping it lower in-between their lips. Or by slipping briefly inside them.

Others respond best to direct contact on their clit. Of course, my fingers need to be wet.

Some need it fast, some prefer slow. Some want all the attention paid to the clit and others need penetration just as much. Some like their ass fingered at the same time.

It is so sexy to feel down there and find an erect clit and that wetness lower down. I like to play with and suck their nipples while I finger. Always listening and watching their responses to changes in rhythm and where my touch lands.

Sometimes I like to change it up when they get close so it is not too fast. Other times I slowly start again after their climax - building again.

 

[Leigh81]

I'm not a big fan of getting finger banged. I love having my pussy rubbed and of course licked, but I only enjoy a finger or 2 if it's slow and passionate.
I'd love to have a woman play with me in such a manner.

L

 

[stu_gats_2000]

I'm not a big fan of getting finger banged. I love having my pussy rubbed and of course licked, but I only enjoy a finger or 2 if it's slow and passionate.
I'd love to have a woman play with me in such a manner.

L

where can one get PPV tix for this fem fem activity

 

[Leigh81]

where can one get PPV tix for this fem fem activity

LOL..I'm shy for camera's, but there are a couple of gals here that would fit the bill.

L

 

[BiMommy77]

Next time I get to lick your fingers

Well that sounds fun!!

 

[unicorn64]

I absolutely love being finger fucked. If a guy can't do it even when I tell him and show him how He won't get any further. I always loved it. Even before i knew what it was. And I always liked to be sucked at the same time.

 

[amyforfun]

Fingering, like oral, can be spectacular if the giver knows what he's doing.

For me, don't just start rubbing. The best thing is light touching, maybe opening my pussy and actually starting with oral. Like licking me first and getting me wet. THEN sliding a finger in. Even then, go slow, let me adjust, and keep licking. THEN start rubbing my gspot and I'll go crazy.

I actually prefer a tongue on my clit and fingers massaging my gspot. When i get close that can work up to a finger bang as long as the fingers are still hitting/rubbing/poking my gspot.

But for chrissakes guys don't just start rubbing a woman's clit. Tease her, etc. Get us wet. THEN use a finger or two to draw some wetness from our pussy to the clit. And even then go lightly with your thick fingers on our clits. Or better yet, just use your tongue on your clits and your fingers on the gspot.

AMEN

Guys, print this out and stick it on your fridge.

I would say more stick it on your headboard.

 

[smallgirl]

Fingering, like oral, can be spectacular if the giver knows what he's doing.

For me, don't just start rubbing. The best thing is light touching, maybe opening my pussy and actually starting with oral. Like licking me first and getting me wet. THEN sliding a finger in. Even then, go slow, let me adjust, and keep licking. THEN start rubbing my gspot and I'll go crazy.

I actually prefer a tongue on my clit and fingers massaging my gspot. When i get close that can work up to a finger bang as long as the fingers are still hitting/rubbing/poking my gspot.

But for chrissakes guys don't just start rubbing a woman's clit. Tease her, etc. Get us wet. THEN use a finger or two to draw some wetness from our pussy to the clit. And even then go lightly with your thick fingers on our clits. Or better yet, just use your tongue on your clits and your fingers on the gspot.

Exactly. Fingering is like oral. Not everyone is good at it. I LOVE being fingered...nothing gets to me more than a guy doing that and kissing me...or fingering me during oral. Doing that together? I cum all over his face and he gets a mouthful.

 

[HonkOnBobo]

LOL..I'm shy for camera's, but there are a couple of gals here that would fit the bill.

L

how about a fly on the wall

 

[RobinSparkles]

My first boyfriend and first fingering experience made me cum. I was so naive I didn't know what an orgasm was so one minute I'm laying there with his fingers working their magic and the next my pussy is exploding in a way I have never felt before. I didn't know what was happening but it felt so good I didn't want it to end haha! It led to many pleasurable attempts at recreating it myself.

 

[Aurora6969]

My boyfriend plays bass too, and fingering plays a major role in our sex life. I never squirted before him. I love it!

 

[Aurora6969]

I have a massive fetish for being fingered, it may be because my first 'proper' boyfriend was really good at it. He was a musician (bassist mostly) and was excellent with his fingers .

My current man is also very skilled, more so probably, since I'm slightly harder to please and I'm not afraid to give direction these days.

My boyfriend plays bass too, and fingering plays a major role in our sex life. I never squirted before him. I love it!

Sorry, forgot to hit 'quote message in reply' so the bass comment must have seemed weird.