Lesbian Daddis/bois: Why we ID this way
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Svedish_Chef
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sexy-girl said:i just saw this thread/posts
i deny ... nothing
Thankyou sexy.
Much as I LOVE your current av... Boots please.
cellis
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I don't know how I missed this...
What an education for me...
Thank you all who have contributed...
and by the way... not a lesbian, but a woman who loves women and men...
what does that make me?
Oh and Never.... I'd give it up for the right lesbian, just like I give it up for the right man...
What an education for me...
Thank you all who have contributed...
and by the way... not a lesbian, but a woman who loves women and men...
what does that make me?
Oh and Never.... I'd give it up for the right lesbian, just like I give it up for the right man...
Whew! That was a delightful crash course in new terminology. I've never had the opportunity to meet a Daddi or a boi, or at least not that I was aware of. Then again, given my location and seclusion from society, that's not so strange.
I constantly classify myself. The primary loop in this is that I label myself Introspective, and so I must examine myself and give names to what I find. Once that little moebius strip has been established, I label myself:
Artsy, which catches everything from romantic to idealistic to creative to passionate, and has earned me most of my friends and enemies
Writer, which overlaps the previous category but adds such traits as perfectionistic, obsessive, and sociopathic
Sensual, which, along with the above-two (minus the sociopathic, most of the time), encompasses my bifem quasi-masosub status and my fondness for black leather gloves, since those are rather a hindrance in writing
Young, which I have only recently added. I wasn't very aware of this until the past month, and now I constantly dwell on how much of my worldview is temporary and ruled by my neverending secretion of hormones. This aspect of me lives very much in the now and thinks less of immortality than the other three labels.
I do not force others into the adjectives I've conjured for them. I merely write them into my mental book as well-developed characters. I hope this causes nobody offense. I just like the english language and it is fairly effective--as long as you are giving names to existing traits and not creating narrowminded boxes to hide the world in.
I constantly classify myself. The primary loop in this is that I label myself Introspective, and so I must examine myself and give names to what I find. Once that little moebius strip has been established, I label myself:
Artsy, which catches everything from romantic to idealistic to creative to passionate, and has earned me most of my friends and enemies
Writer, which overlaps the previous category but adds such traits as perfectionistic, obsessive, and sociopathic
Sensual, which, along with the above-two (minus the sociopathic, most of the time), encompasses my bifem quasi-masosub status and my fondness for black leather gloves, since those are rather a hindrance in writing
Young, which I have only recently added. I wasn't very aware of this until the past month, and now I constantly dwell on how much of my worldview is temporary and ruled by my neverending secretion of hormones. This aspect of me lives very much in the now and thinks less of immortality than the other three labels.
I do not force others into the adjectives I've conjured for them. I merely write them into my mental book as well-developed characters. I hope this causes nobody offense. I just like the english language and it is fairly effective--as long as you are giving names to existing traits and not creating narrowminded boxes to hide the world in.
BlackWolfe
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"A path! A path!" -- The Knights of Ni
A quote for those of you who are having difficulty categorizing yourselves:
I don't fit anywhere either. *shrug*
A quote for those of you who are having difficulty categorizing yourselves:
I don't fit anywhere either. *shrug*
DustyWolfe
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JenJ said:
*smiles brightly* Yep yep...
Hmmm.. about classification... My hair is short and I keep not spiked but ummm... well, it's hard to explain. It looks good though lol.
I mostly wear jeans and t-shirt or some sort of form fitting shirt with buttons or a zipper.
BUT... I bought a dress yesterday.. can you believe it?
DustyWolfe
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JenJ said:
Hehe, yes I will either wear that or the black skirt... *grins*
DustyWolfe
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JenJ said:
Oh yes, and the black lace top with it, and my boots of course
MotorCitySam
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Re: Re: The Dreaded "N" Word...
I did read that thread, and I recall reading some articles about that book when it came out.
I can see both sides of the issue. On the one hand I do think that we can take away a word's power to hurt by claiming it for ourselves, which if i understand right , is what people have done with the word "queer".
But at the same time, with all respects to those who are targeted by bitter words, THAT word seems so much greater in it's power to hurt, so I understand wanting to make it disappear all together.
All in all, an interesting discussion. Thank you for the link.
cymbidia said:
I did read that thread, and I recall reading some articles about that book when it came out.
I can see both sides of the issue. On the one hand I do think that we can take away a word's power to hurt by claiming it for ourselves, which if i understand right , is what people have done with the word "queer".
But at the same time, with all respects to those who are targeted by bitter words, THAT word seems so much greater in it's power to hurt, so I understand wanting to make it disappear all together.
All in all, an interesting discussion. Thank you for the link.
cymbidia
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Re: Re: Re: The Dreaded "N" Word...
May i ask you please, Sam, since you have a unique perspective on this (someone who might have been hurt by that word once or twice) which line of reasoning most appeals to you? Would you rather do with that word what gays did with "queer" or would you like to see us continue, as a society, to keep that particular word 'off limits' to all those would be bothered by offending someone else with such epithets? To be honest, i can't imagine i'd ever be comfortable saying it out loud to another person for any reason, but people felt that way about "queer", too, i'd guess.
May i ask you please, Sam, since you have a unique perspective on this (someone who might have been hurt by that word once or twice) which line of reasoning most appeals to you? Would you rather do with that word what gays did with "queer" or would you like to see us continue, as a society, to keep that particular word 'off limits' to all those would be bothered by offending someone else with such epithets? To be honest, i can't imagine i'd ever be comfortable saying it out loud to another person for any reason, but people felt that way about "queer", too, i'd guess.
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Re: Re: Re: Re: The Dreaded "N" Word...
I think we are a long way from eliminating it's hateful use. So the better course of action would be to try to defuse the pain it can cause. But we need to remember that to our elders, that can never happen. My grandmother's generation will always feel pain at the word, and we need to respect that.
The other words that once hurt badly too, like coon, spook, darkie, seem silly now, and dont have power. And without their power, they have mostly faded away. So maybe in the long run the way to make the N Word disappear is to first steal away it's power.
I am glad you asked cym, until now I never really made up my own mind how I felt.
cymbidia said:
I think we are a long way from eliminating it's hateful use. So the better course of action would be to try to defuse the pain it can cause. But we need to remember that to our elders, that can never happen. My grandmother's generation will always feel pain at the word, and we need to respect that.
The other words that once hurt badly too, like coon, spook, darkie, seem silly now, and dont have power. And without their power, they have mostly faded away. So maybe in the long run the way to make the N Word disappear is to first steal away it's power.
I am glad you asked cym, until now I never really made up my own mind how I felt.
cymbidia
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Every human relationship we have in our lives is a power-exchange relationship, whether we know it and consent to it or are completely ignorant of that fact. So it is with words. We can clasp them to us and make them a strong part of us, as we do with our consensual power-exchange relationships, or the words can be vicious and confusing, and tear at our inner selves like knives. The choice is ours, i think.
I'm very glad that you came to the BDSM Forum, Sam. You're a valuable addition to the sum total of ideas, questions, admissions, and education that flows (sometimes chaotically) through the threads in this place.
I'm very glad that you came to the BDSM Forum, Sam. You're a valuable addition to the sum total of ideas, questions, admissions, and education that flows (sometimes chaotically) through the threads in this place.
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JenJ said:
ooooh Mistress, very nice indeed. Hmmm... garters... sounds fun. *giggles mischeviously*
Well.. hmmm.. no.. I wont go into what I have lol
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Now this begs the question:
Does your house ever get cleaned? Do you have to hire housekeepers? :>
Please don't shoot me for asking.....
Does your house ever get cleaned? Do you have to hire housekeepers? :>
Please don't shoot me for asking.....
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