Male sub thread

[Xelebes]

I don't know how far this was back, but I guess add half a page for each day the difference in days or something would get you the number. I used the Search function to bump it.

 

[Aeroil]

ah okay, well whatever, it doesn't matter, but we should keep it alive this time lol.

 

[Xelebes]

Well, my best friend from high school (bi-dom "in training") and I met at a party last night and he showed me his new partner he brought up from Cowtown, someone who has accepted the title as "slave". Whatever, it was kinda neat being actually able to talk (in real time) with another sub, who's not in it for just kinky sex. I've actually only made one friend who is a male sub but he's in for more of the kinky sex than anything. So... uh... yeah. I should actually get some sleep from that party. On second thought... nah.

 

[Xelebes]

We need to keep this thread alive, he said!

 

[vogon8n]

We need to keep this thread alive, he said!

OK - Ill keep it alive for one post....

Such a nice tread!

Hi everyone,
I have been a sub for a many years, but never in a 24/7 situation. I have always yearned to feel that control back in my life whenever has been removed though.

My current girlfriend (My Domme) had fantasized for years about being a Domme. She didn’t know they really existed and thought it was very strange and wrong to think about such things. I believe from what she has told me that she was oblivious to anything but a vanilla lifestyle and her own fantasies disturbed her conscious as sexual and erotic images she ought not think about. – Like she was perverted.

Soon after we started going out together, I told her of my needs to find a Domme.
She, in turn told me of some of her own fantasies and had inadvertently described herself as a Bisexual Switch, with a definite inclination toward the Dominatrix side.

Her new journey down the path of a Domme has begun…

We are now slowly evolving into a D/s relationship, where I am just so happy to see her ask and try just about anything she wants. It is a very exciting time for the both of us. She is busy reading this site and many other sources of the dominatrix world. I am so happy to see her explore and discover that her needs are genuine and healthy. It is great to see her flourish in the newly acquired knowledge she gains, and to see her realize she is not perverted after all. It is also rewarding to see her fulfill – play out some of those thoughts she had, which once plagued her as “improper thoughts”

I do challenger her a bit, (well, pretty often actually). That is, I can be somewhat bratty, but only till she cracks the whip and comes more into her Domme personality, which can flare up so powerfully at times. At other times she says I’m just too obedient… and finds it hard to engage in a commanding role with nothing to incite her inner strengths (go figure)..

I just get a bit confused at times and top too much from the bottom – one of my many failings, I’m afraid – but I really want her to overtake me in this area and train this tendency out of me. It’s just a matter of time I figure.

QUESTION:
Is there a balance, I wonder, when an emerging domme is with coupled a slightly older sub that has a tendency (albeit well meaning) to top from the bottom??

So, can someone advise me on how to help her grow, without helping TOO much??
Yes, she will be reading this post – so I don’t want to read “Beat him severely!!” from any of you.

Thankyou - herdrew

 

[Still Falling]

QUESTION:
Is there a balance, I wonder, when an emerging domme is with coupled a slightly older sub that has a tendency (albeit well meaning) to top from the bottom??

So, can someone advise me on how to help her grow, without helping TOO much??
Yes, she will be reading this post – so I don’t want to read “Beat him severely!!” from any of you.

i’m almost in the reverse situation to you. Until becoming involved with M’lady i had completely repressed my fantasies and had no understanding of my Masochism or my submissive nature. M’lady who would also describe Herself as a Bisexual switch, spent a number of months exploring all these parts of me as well part of me that thrives on topping.

After nine or so months it became obvious that i was Her slave already, and once we recognized this formalized this, which was a new step for both of us as She has never had a slave. But M’lady does not want to train my top out of me, as being a switch She enjoys bottoming. In fact it was a very important point for Her in accepting me as Her slave that i recognized that i could be submissive and still have the urge to top.

Rather than trying to eliminate this part of play perhaps you and your Domme could integrate this more. M’lady has focused on training me to restrain myself until She wishes me to ‘unleash’. This has included making me beg for it. She not only benefits from being able to maximise the pleasure She gets from switching, but She can also derive sadistic pleasure from tormenting that side of me without giving me permission to act. She simply sees it as another way She has control over my body and my desire – by driving me to the point where i am fighting to remain in control of myself gives Her a power kick.

This may not suit you both – but is certainly a lateral approach to the situation.

 

[Xelebes]

OK - Ill keep it alive for one post....

Good jorb!

 

[SweetDommes]

Yay! the thread hasn't died!

I'm very glad to say that our boys are both doing ok (although one is significantly more trouble than the other ... we're working on it). Right now, I'm getting ready to cut the trouble maker's hair LOL think he's pushing his luck?

 

[snowy ciara]

Last one for tonight: BUMP

 

[HarletMinx]

Last one for tonight: BUMP

Ah ha! It's snowy that goes bump in the night! (couldn't help myself )

Though not Dominant, I don't think I need to be to say I adore male subs. They can be delightfully caring creatures... and adorable brats. Half the bad stigma they get spurns from gender stereotypes and I just get sad to see a good sub put down. So for all you male subs out their searching for that right person, a rose for you.

-Pip

 

[snowy ciara]

I'm really good friends with one of our male subs around here, (who is unfortunately buried under schoolwork and rugby practices) and you know, he's an absolute mystery to me, submission wise. But one of the reasons I respect him so much is that he totally ignores the way some people disregard male subs. He told me once that the whiny obnoxious sissy male sub who wants it his way is actually pretty rare, but they're flashy and LOUD. So they're all anyone sees, and they get painted with the same brush. It's really not fair to the guys like him. It's like, he's being held to an unfairly high standard of behavior in order to shatter perceptions about male subs. But this image is so prevalent, that it's hard to find erotica and stuff that's written about the non-stereotypical male sub.

Maybe I should write some over Christmas break. Who wants to help me with my research? I can't Dominate you, but I'd love to watch and take notes!

 

[HarletMinx]

I'm really good friends with one of our male subs around here, (who is unfortunately buried under schoolwork and rugby practices) and you know, he's an absolute mystery to me, submission wise. But one of the reasons I respect him so much is that he totally ignores the way some people disregard male subs. He told me once that the whiny obnoxious sissy male sub who wants it his way is actually pretty rare, but they're flashy and LOUD. So they're all anyone sees, and they get painted with the same brush. It's really not fair to the guys like him. It's like, he's being held to an unfairly high standard of behavior in order to shatter perceptions about male subs. But this image is so prevalent, that it's hard to find erotica and stuff that's written about the non-stereotypical male sub.

Maybe I should write some over Christmas break. Who wants to help me with my research? I can't Dominate you, but I'd love to watch and take notes!

Hmmm, that's not a bad idea.... maybe Christmas theme? I can think of some lovely kinky fun to be had with ribbon and candy canes. I think that's in large part it, though also while BDSM is a subculture it's still heavily influenced by the over all culture of the location. When I think of the stereotypical traits of men none of them strike me as particularly submissive though men make delightful subs. I think Shadowsdream put it best, it's the way they blush, the sincerity they can posses that makes them so endearing. But yes, if you would like help I'de love to get some more male sub stories out.

 

[Byakuya]

Do you think a man can be submissive during sex but dominant the rest of the time? Would a man like this be considered dominant or submissive?

I have no problem submitting during sex. I think it's kinda hot when the woman takes control. But I tend to take control of most of the non-sexual aspects of our relationship. Would you consider me dominant or submissive?

 

[SweetDommes]

best lable would probably be switch or sexual bottom ... but does it really matter? as long as you are up front about what you are looking for, it should all be good.

 

[chelleb]

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[just a thing]

A 20 page thread about sub males? Looks like I have some reading to do.

 

[lucas83]

I don't view male submission as degrading or something to be embarrassed about. I guess I see it as the complete opposite. It takes a lot of mental strength to be able to turn yourself over to another person. I have known for about 10 years that I didn't have a 'take-charge' personality. I didn't learn about this D/s lifestyle until about 2 yeras ago though, and when i did, i knew it was exactly how i was meant to live. I am honestly, pretty proud of the fact that i am a submissive and am 'owned' by my Domme, Amanda.

And even knowing this, it's still difficult to comply to someone elses wishes and demands 24/7. It takes a lot of self-discipline and mental toughness to comply. Amanda and i have discussed long term goals for our relationship, and i have to say, it's gonna take a lot more strength and growth and trust for me to give over as much as she wants to take. Our ultimate goal would be her having 100% complete control over my life and body (like a slave). I say that, but as Amanda has taught me, it's good to have such a lofty goal that may never be achieved, but always strived towards. Without goals, we would merely drift aimlessly.

It sounds like a lot of people cant imagine living in a 24/7 submissive relationship. I'm only 24, and i honestly haven't been in any other serious relationships, but isn't it like any other relationship, but instead of the guy in control, it's the woman? Isn't there supposed to be one head of the household, and the other submits, at least mostly? I think my relationship is like that, but Amanda makes all the important decisions. IT's not that i don't make decisions, but i have to consider what she would want instead of what i would want.


lucas

 

[9to5]

is it wrong to want to give up control to someone. Being a male sub and sometimes switch. Its does get hard to find someone to take control. Of course unless you pay. That wasnt to bad. I do like the suspence of not know whats going to happen next or the long slow tease. To be held on the edge.
The wife has done that only a couple of times. Just hard to get her into it. So as we male subs who dont have a mistress do we just do it to ourselves?
But I have had fantasys of giving myself for many years. Like someone said here early I too think there are more male subs than doms. or is it
Maybe theres not enough female doms

 

[every12seconds]

Hmmmm, well, I am definitely male but consider myself a switch, leaning towards sub. Why? Maybe because my job requires a lot of decision making and responsibility and sometimes I just don't want to be responsible for the outcome of something...

My wife wants nothing to do with it, so I'm left with nothing, really. Nothing but fantasy, which I explore, by myself. I bought myself a few slave collars, and really love wearing them when I explore, but that only goes so far. I'd really love to be able to be sub to someone, but just have no outlets...

 

[slavepuppie]

Hi,

Great to see this discussion ... I am a male sub and I am proud of it. Me and my wife are from India and therefore we can't talk to many people about it. I have always wanted to be a sub and when we started going out, I introduced the idea to her and in some time she was quite game. Now she gives me a tough time

I love when we have sex and she just kicks my dick out and does it to herself. I have to sleep with a hard dick all night and wait for her to let me come. She also loves me as her dog and I have to wear a dog collar and leash and please her a lot of times

I enjoy being a sub and pleasing my mistress with my body. I would never want to switch and dominate her. She controls most of my sexual activites and I am quite happy with this arrangement

In fact she is right now on a trip and I am supposed to not shag till she is back

 

[Bill3250]

i'm a girl and a switch (so i guess i dont belong here ).

i just wanted to say that there is a huge lack of male sub stories. maybe i should try writing some...i have never written one before, but i will actually have time to give it a go since my finals are done on saturday (they have exams on saturdays. how annoying is that??!!).

I am a subservient male and a published short story writer (HUSTLER, VELVET, CAVALIER,etc.) but I have never written a Literotica Story because I not very computer knowledgeable. I could use some help. Help! PM me.