Master!

[mindlover]

I don't demand anyone call me anything, I like to see how long it takes them to want to.

Nice!!

 

[Croctden]

I prefer to go by Master, primarily because it's traditional. I'm hardly wedded to it. I think the popularity of the words comes less from the words themselves than the deference and respectful tone that usually accompanies them. I’ve cheekily been called Master and punished a sub for it.

 

[InnerDarkness]

I find it VERY difficult to call my Dom "Master" or even "Sir" because I tend to address people by their first names on a very regular basis...it is how I connect with them and get comfortable with them. I generally also find the use of their first name to be more intimate.

Being forced to say Sir is so hard for me to take, but when my Dom wants it that way, then i will respond that way..but only when absolutely necessary.

For me, I get much more enjoyment out of responding, exclaiming or begging using their first name rather than one of these titles...it makes it more real for me.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Sir when appropriate. His first name most other times. Master is not a term I feel comfortable using at any time, nor has He asked me to use it.

While others here Sir or Ma'am other Dom/mes, I reserve that only for my Dominant and one or two Dom/mes that I have an incredible amount of respect for. Somehow, I feel, if I'm flinging Sirs/Ma'ams about to everyone, it would diminish the "Sir" that I give to Him. Just me, and as Eb says, YMMV.

~anelize

 

[Quint]

Sir when appropriate. His first name most other times. Master is not a term I feel comfortable using at any time, nor has He asked me to use it.

While others here Sir or Ma'am other Dom/mes, I reserve that only for my Dominant and one or two Dom/mes that I have an incredible amount of respect for. Somehow, I feel, if I'm flinging Sirs/Ma'ams about to everyone, it would diminish the "Sir" that I give to Him. Just me, and as Eb says, YMMV.

~anelize

I agree with you, anelize. T and I were playing with another couple; I was receiving a very thorough spanking by the other male and told to thank him after each one, but he wanted me to call him "Sir" and I refused. It didn't throw the mood of that night but I wonder if it will complicate things if we continue to find other males to incorporate. It's just too personal of a term for me to use indiscriminately.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

I agree with you, anelize. T and I were playing with another couple; I was receiving a very thorough spanking by the other male and told to thank him after each one, but he wanted me to call him "Sir" and I refused. It didn't throw the mood of that night but I wonder if it will complicate things if we continue to find other males to incorporate. It's just too personal of a term for me to use indiscriminately.

I understand completely. And if I may clarify my previous post. The two persons, I have used the honorifics with, oddly enough, were Dommes. I can't bring myself to utter "Sir" to anyone but Him. Like you said //It's just too personal of a term for me to use indiscriminately.//

~anelize

 

[Goddess Helena]

Originally posted by Quint Here's a question: I've read several instances where, usually upon collaring, a slave is given a new name by her Dominant...are there any instances where the Dominant is given a special name, used only by the submissive? (Personal interest here.)

When I collar a slave, he is allowed to call me "my Mistress". That is a way from him to be reminded that I am the One who owns him. It is also a reminder to both of us of our shared bond. When in public, he would call me "my Lady". A slave of mine is never allowed to use my name.

Before collaring, I am Mistress. What I am called during the time of consideration varies by submissive.


Helena

 

[Ebonyfire]

I prefer to be called by my given name in public. and I do not let subs who do not know me call me by any honorifics. I find that it has no meaning when the person has no connnection.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I prefer to be called by my given name in public. and I do not let subs who do not know me call me by any honorifics. I find that it has no meaning when the person has no connnection.

I'm with you on this...there are several subs around Lit who can tell you that I usually state early on, "I am A Dom, not YOUR Dom!" My slut and a select (very few) others call me 'Sir'.

 

[WeirdGirl]

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[catalina_francisco]

I agree with you, anelize. T and I were playing with another couple; I was receiving a very thorough spanking by the other male and told to thank him after each one, but he wanted me to call him "Sir" and I refused. It didn't throw the mood of that night but I wonder if it will complicate things if we continue to find other males to incorporate. It's just too personal of a term for me to use indiscriminately.

Must agree, we are more in this camp. My Master is the only one who has earned the honour to be addressed as such. I can only have one owner, and as such, can only refer to that one in such a way. Too many think it is a title to be used by all they meet or interact with which to me is a little bit of an ego trip, not a reality. I am to address others in a respectful manner, but I alone have the priviledge of calling him Master, and show my understanding and respect for the title by reserving it for him alone.

Catalina

 

[Quixotica]

<snip>I love being made to address someone as Sir or Ma'am...but it is still a struggle for me. I often need prompting. Sometimes it comes naturally, but it still makes me blush. I like this though...it means I don't and won't use the words lightly. That is important to me.

The reluctance to address a Dom/me as "Master" was exactly how i felt when i was searching for One to serve. In my o/l ad i even mentioned that if a prospective Dom wanted me to address him as "Lord Dark Master" right from the get-go, then he need not bother responding to my profile. When i first met my Master, he and i would joke about the use of titles in a D/s context. However, as my surrender to him has evolved and my depth of devotion to him has grown (we are now in a 24/7 r/l relationship), he asked me to call him first "Sir" then "Master," which was an honorific that i longed to call him because through his compassionate understanding of me and of us, he had earned the title.

i don't call him "Master" as much as he would like. For example, when he asks me to get him something, i automatically reply, "Okay." i know that he would rather i say "Yes, Master" because it reinforces that we are indeed Master and slave and not merely vanilla lovers. i like to say it, too, but, as serijules said above, find myself blushing and shy to use it.

As another here also mentioned, i enjoy using his given name (and do so in public). His name is like music that resonates in my heart. When i add the "Master" as a prefix of respect and devotion before it, the syllables slip from my lips like an aria.

 

[ammre]

I don't think i could ever use "Sir" I picked up as a habit calling my dad "Sir" because it was sort of like "Yes! Sir!" because he always told me waht to do and what chores and stuff... or i used it in a sarcastic manner "yeah sir, right sir, whatever sir" If i were ever to use "Sir" in the bedroom i think it would be horribly awkard.

I'm not horribly vochal in bed and he never asks me to call him anything... although he calls me his fluffy, and i'm used to talking about him in public so he's jsut "kon" or "boyfriend" or a normal manner of speaking.

 

[Arden]

quick visit from Lurk-ville...

I don't like being called master. It makes me feel like a participant in a poorly written screen play. To me, it gives things a taint of unreality or, if role playing, points the finger to the unreality and thus shatters the moment. I don't really know why this is so and I don't recall talking to anyone who evinced the same prejudice for the same reason. Just me I guess.

No, not just you. I am a submissive who shares your feeling for precisely the same reason. It just doesn't feel real and reminds me of that silly old American sit-com called "I Dream of Jeannie" (and, in my mind, makes a caricature of a man for whom I have enormous respect). My SO would prefer that I address and refer to him as Master but, being aware of my strong distaste for the title, has not insisted.
<snip>

I think "I Dream Of Genie" screwed it up for a lot of us... I've even quoted the same thing before in our own private conversations. It will take some major mental adujstments on my part to be able to call him "Master" and not have visions of Barbara Eden and Larry Hagman in my mind. One day, however, I do hope to overcome this obstacle because I know he'd like me to use the term when appropriate.

 

[serijules]

The reluctance to address a Dom/me as "Master" was exactly how i felt when i was searching for One to serve. *snipsnip* ...he asked me to call him first "Sir" then "Master," which was an honorific that i longed to call him because through his compassionate understanding of me and of us, he had earned the title.

i don't call him "Master" as much as he would like. For example, when he asks me to get him something, i automatically reply, "Okay." i know that he would rather i say "Yes, Master" because it reinforces that we are indeed Master and slave and not merely vanilla lovers. i like to say it, too, but, as serijules said above, find myself blushing and shy to use it.

Before I was in my current relationship, I could use the terms with much more ease than I can now. What you said about having earned the title really hits home, as my Domme is the first person I've felt this way with. This makes it harder for me to use "Ma'am" because I actually mean it, it's very important to me that she knows I respect her. I often think "yes ma'am" in my head and say or type "yes" or nod or something of the sort. I think sometimes my reluctance to automatically use ma'am is that I don't want it to lose its impact...on me or on her. I know she knows that when I DO use it without prompting, that I am really listening to her and know she is serious, so sometimes I find myself saving it for those times. I think we both prefer it that way.

 

[MasterNJS]

QUOTE]Originally posted by MissTaken
Maybe it is all semantics, but my guess is that each person has there own translation and use of the term "Master" or "Mistress."

What does it mean to you?

What does it do for you, regardless of role in D/s?

Is it a term you use always or only at certain times?

If you dont use this word in your relationship, why or why not? Do you have another?



Sooooooooooo

let's talk! [/QUOTE]



I had been involved with a subbie for about year before I offered her My collar.....at that point in time I was know simply as NJS.......she asked what she should call Me.....Sir, Master, Lord????.........and I replied that she should call Me whatever she felt comfortable with, as long as it was repsectful. Initially, she called Me "Sir", but after about six months, "my Master" started to creep in to her vocabulary.........not pervasive, but simply at the end of scene..........it was shortly thereqafter that she asked Me to add "Master" to My name and email address........which I did......W/we were together for over 4 years, when her personal resaons required that she relocate and terminate O/our relationship..........and, although I have retained the title, I do not require anyone to use it......when it is used, I hope that it is because I have earned it through words and actions, rather than demanding it to please an ego....

Quite recently, I was involved casually with another subbie....and the question again came up......My reply this time was the same as the previous, but because of the casual nature of O/our relationship, she could only bring herself to call Me "Daddy".........and I must admit, that from her lips, "Daddy" has the sweetest ring to it......I smile with the greatest pleasure each time she honors Me so.......

 

[Master_Vassago]

T'is My preference to be called, Sir or MV in public or at least when being posted to or about. Master is reserved for those that I collar and only in the most tender of moments. When I have a submissive in pm or on the phone though, I allow a first name basis, until recently I wouldn't have allowed it but the way a certain one brought it up to Me it was more intimate.

Actually normally only during scening do I expect the word Sir to be used. Or if I have been pissed off beyond normal limitations.

Just because Master is in My name means nothing. It's just a title I use. I don't expect or what to be called differently than MV, or Vassago most of the time in public posts.

The strangest thing is when I do hear it though I am always given a sense of euphoric bliss, (that Master or Sir that is). I suppose it's because the person calling Me that truly means it and wouldn't say it otherwise. Those to honorific names are more meaningful and should only be used out of true respect and or devotion.

To each His/Her own though. This is just My ideas on the subject. Now I just have to work on stopping the capitalization of the M in My. LOL. Old habits die hard.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Maybe it is all semantics, but my guess is that each person has there own translation and use of the term "Master" or "Mistress."

What does it mean to you?

What does it do for you, regardless of role in D/s?

Is it a term you use always or only at certain times?

If you dont use this word in your relationship, why or why not? Do you have another?



Sooooooooooo

let's talk!

when involved in a relationship..i refer to my "Owner" as MZ. or Sir. Not that I feel the word "owner" has slave connotations but since i consider myself a *pet* just makes more sense in my brain. During scenes, Tis always Mz. (followed by first name) or Sir (the same). It is habitual for me to respect all i give my trust to in this way. Never have i used the terms Master or Mistress..takes me too far back in the past and leaves a dirty taste in my mouth..due to the connotations of a my racial ethnicity. Did that make any sense???
Pet

 

[ownedsubgal]

it has been over a year at least since i have called my Master "Master"....99 percent of the time, he is Daddy or Dad. no, we don't age play or role play. we have a Father/daughter relationship which comes before our D/s union. so he is Daddy first, Master second. but there is not much difference in the two to be honest. sometimes i refer to him as "Sir", when i must be more formal, but the vast majority of the time...He is simply Daddy. and that goes for everywhere, in a vanilla public, in lifestyle environments, around family, everywhere. most vanillas know us not as a couple, but as Father and daughter anyway. so it never causes any issue or odd looks....well, except for times like the evening we were out shopping and while i was trying on clothes, the clerk asked Daddy if i was his daughter, or his girlfriend/wife...and he said she's my daughter....then proceeded to palm my naked bum, right in front of the clerk.

 

[Etoile]

it has been over a year at least since i have called my Master "Master"....99 percent of the time, he is Daddy or Dad. no, we don't age play or role play. we have a Father/daughter relationship which comes before our D/s union. so he is Daddy first, Master second. but there is not much difference in the two to be honest. sometimes i refer to him as "Sir", when i must be more formal, but the vast majority of the time...He is simply Daddy. and that goes for everywhere, in a vanilla public, in lifestyle environments, around family, everywhere. most vanillas know us not as a couple, but as Father and daughter anyway. so it never causes any issue or odd looks....well, except for times like the evening we were out shopping and while i was trying on clothes, the clerk asked Daddy if i was his daughter, or his girlfriend/wife...and he said she's my daughter....then proceeded to palm my naked bum, right in front of the clerk.

I think most people on the street don't realize Daddy and I are a couple. That's part of why I make a deliberate point to be touchy and kissy in public, and Daddy lets me. The age difference helps with that. I don't ever use Dad, though, just Daddy.

 

[Netzach]

Oooo....I can so relate to what serijules said.

M's standard operating procedure is to call my by my name. S'cool. Mistress so and so always makes me feel like a prodomme with a client. Ma'am or Miss is better coming from him.

But I like them to come naturally, and I like them to carry some kind of meaning. Recently I shot M a look for saying something snide and said "don't you ever say something like that to me in public." He was obviously chastened and pulled back to our reality and said "Yes Ma'am." and I knew exactly how he meant it.

 

[Peter2002]

Master, Sir, Daddy, Whatever

My view is similar to Incubus. To me "Master" is almost a cliche. Or at a minimum -- or perhaps I should say at a maximum -- it suggests to me that the sub who may have fewer choices than I feel comfortable with. "Sir" and "Daddy" are the terms we use in private. It's interesting, she uses them interchangably but at the end of a very intense afternoon or evening she often just thanks me by my given name, Peter -- which is also reserved for when she wants to talk about something. It's not quite a safe word, but "Please, Peter" is a signal. I can tell how submissive she is feeling by the frequency with which she employs "Sir". Her sexual appetite is best guaged by her use of "Daddy". This wasn't pre-ordained, it's just worked out that way.

 

[Etoile]

I do the same thing - I say "Daddy" most of the time, unless I'm trying to draw attention to a statement that I consider very serious, and then I use Daddy's real name. That might be needing to talk about something important, needing to slow down a scene, or even just saying "I love you" when I really want to impress upon Daddy how much I mean it.

 

[MasterNico]

I'm not always comfortable being called Master by anyone other than mine. I prefer to just be known as Nico. I know a lot of old time BDSM folks that had to earn the title Master or Grand Master, or had to be given a cap before being called Daddy. I use it online as a holdover from the very old AOL days when you had to have Master in your name or people came into a chat and said "kneel bitch" I wouldn't have used it here, but someone was already using Nico I do, however prefer that my slaves use Master (I'm Gorean at heart) since they are my slaves. I am fortunate enough to be called "Amo" as well, and the double meaning hold something special for me. That honorific is used only by my First Girl.

 

[Etoile]

I'm not always comfortable being called Master by anyone other than mine. I prefer to just be known as Nico. I know a lot of old time BDSM folks that had to earn the title Master or Grand Master, or had to be given a cap before being called Daddy. I use it online as a holdover from the very old AOL days when you had to have Master in your name or people came into a chat and said "kneel bitch" I wouldn't have used it here, but someone was already using Nico I do, however prefer that my slaves use Master (I'm Gorean at heart) since they are my slaves. I am fortunate enough to be called "Amo" as well, and the double meaning hold something special for me. That honorific is used only by my First Girl.

First, welcome to the community!

What do you mean by having to earn the title? I'm not familiar with this. And what sort of "cap" do you refer to for those who are called Daddy? I'm not too familiar with Gor in general.