Master!

[His_pita]

i call him "Sir", "my Sir" or "my Sweet Sir". i think of the word Master as being for those in a very committed day to day relationship. Don't get me wrong, i am very committed to Him, but as we haven't even met in r/l yet it wouldn't mean the same to call Him that, IMO.

Someday, i will hopefully be collared by Him, and i hope He will then allow me the priviledge of calling Him by Master

I could have wrote this.

I call my Dom "Sir, "my Sir" or "Daddy" right now.

Because we are both new to the lifestyle my Sir explained to me that he wouldn't feel comfortable being called Master until he earns that title. Once we are in real life and I am collared then it will be another name I will be happy to call him.

 

[Kajira Callista]

bump.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Thread title makes me sing old metallica songs to myself.

I probably posted this same post 2 years ago. That's the problem with these bumps. I'm certainly not going to actually read the whole lame thread.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Thread title makes me sing old metallica songs to myself.

I probably posted this same post 2 years ago. That's the problem with these bumps. I'm certainly not going to actually read the whole lame thread.

i dont bump lame threads

 

[graceanne]

Thread title makes me sing old metallica songs to myself.

hehe Me, too. Glad I'm not the only one that gets master of puppets stuck in my head.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I have no intention of ever calling anyone master though the Dominant I see now says that I will. I don't mind Sir or similar endearments but master is too far fretched for me. I don't desire to beowned. I do however want to be the best submissive ever and he says it is that desire which will lead me to call him master and wear his collar which I also have declined.

Now don't think all this rebellion has been without its consequenses. My nether region has paid dearly for my rebellion and will continue to do so according to him.

Who really knows what the future brings but for today those are my thoughts.

 

[Richard49]

blush you bring to my mind and an interesting question
and perhaps it might should be it's own thread

"should a bottom ever be collared or accpet a collar"?

 

[alice_underneath]

Beaten into submission?

I have no intention of ever calling anyone master though the Dominant I see now says that I will. I don't mind Sir or similar endearments but master is too far fretched for me. I don't desire to beowned. I do however want to be the best submissive ever and he says it is that desire which will lead me to call him master and wear his collar which I also have declined.

Now don't think all this rebellion has been without its consequenses. My nether region has paid dearly for my rebellion and will continue to do so according to him.

Who really knows what the future brings but for today those are my thoughts.

Blushing Bottom,

What you seem to be saying is that your Dominant is punishing you because you are unwilling to take your relationship to a different level.

You have made it clear that you are not interested in being owned by a Master and not interested in the type of relationship implied by the wearing of a collar around your neck.

This is not "rebellion", as I would define it. This is simply you defining the terms of the type of relationship in which you are interested. This is not unreasonable or unacceptable or misbehaving in any way. This is your right as a human being, and I fail to see why punishment is an appropriate response to it.

If I have misunderstood your comments, please excuse me for doing so.

If I am correct in stating that he is punishing you for your reluctance to take your relationship to a different level, then I have two questions.

Does this punishment bother you? Why or why not?

Alice

 

[Kajira Callista]

I have no intention of ever calling anyone master though the Dominant I see now says that I will. I don't mind Sir or similar endearments but master is too far fretched for me. I don't desire to beowned. I do however want to be the best submissive ever and he says it is that desire which will lead me to call him master and wear his collar which I also have declined.

Now don't think all this rebellion has been without its consequenses. My nether region has paid dearly for my rebellion and will continue to do so according to him.

Who really knows what the future brings but for today those are my thoughts.

why wouldnt you call someone Master ( i will keep my thoughts on this to myself for now) and why did you decline the collar?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

My thoughts are no.

Collars and the term master are for slaves. I have no desire today to be a slave for more than 10 or 12 hours at a time.

blush you bring to my mind and an interesting question
and perhaps it might should be it's own thread

"should a bottom ever be collared or accpet a collar"?

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

ummmn

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Easy answers.

I'm not ready.

Both are soft limits and I have agreed to accept punishment for any soft limits I firmly refuse to explore.

Enough said?

why wouldnt you call someone Master ( i will keep my thoughts on this to myself for now) and why did you decline the collar?

 

[shy slave]

I dont like the word Master in itself. It makes me slightly uncomfortable but Sir and Daddy are worse.
Please note this is a personal opinion based on nothing but my own feelings.

All three words are so commonly used in the BDSM world I have visions of going to a munch or get together and saying one of those, with the result of almost every man there turning around in response to hearing 'their' name.


There are times I call him Master but not often, usually on the phone when I feel a great longing for him.

I wish we could decide on something we both thought 'right' for me to call him.

I called him a fucking bastard once, he didnt like that and I regretted saying it.

I did start a thread asking for alternatives but sadly nothing jumped out at us.

One day we will find something, for now I use his name and now and then 'Master'

 

[Kajira Callista]

Easy answers.

I'm not ready.

Both are soft limits and I have agreed to accept punishment for any soft limits I firmly refuse to explore.

Enough said?

If you arent ready then they are hard limits for now. Why are you being punished for that? Just wondering.

 

[Richard49]

My thoughts are no.

Collars and the term master are for slaves. I have no desire today to be a slave for more than 10 or 12 hours at a time.

If you have no desire to belong/to be owned
and you enjoy a nice heated/welped ass
than maybe
at lest for this moment
you are a bottom

and you can be that with pride

 

[AngelicAssassin]

and you enjoy a nice heated/welped ass

Try masochist.

 

[graceanne]

I called him a fucking bastard once, he didnt like that and I regretted saying it.

I actually find 'Master' to be feel kinda silly. Like some mindless zombie on some old movie. I did do a zombie imitation once when he told me to do something. Luckily enough for me he's got the same sense of humor as me. Sir also seems silly, and I absolutely refuse to call him Daddy. That's just flat out grosses me out - calling the man I'm having sex with Daddy. yick. So mostly I call him by his name, unless he insists on Master. *shrugs*

 

[raven2]

Easy answers.

I'm not ready.

Both are soft limits and I have agreed to accept punishment for any soft limits I firmly refuse to explore.

Enough said?

Yes, but what do you define as soft limits? You need to be pushed perhaps but it should happen at your speed and when you are ready.

 

[LoneOne]

Until now I was not in a situation where this came up but I think the german equivilants are even more harsch and I could not say Meister/Herrin to anyone without smiling. I just do not like the german terms... ok, I have to admit Herrin (it is the same as mistress in german) has it's charme too but it sounds a little bit to hard in my ears.

I'm used to call some people "mistress" or "ma'am" (out of an BDSM context) and I always have the feeling I sound like some knight in shining armor doing this (and at least once I was told this really sounds like I was some loyal knight, retainer or something like this by a female friend of mine)

So I think that if I should ever meet someone who would appreciate something like this I would be happy to call her "mistress" or "ma'am". I often mix english with german so this is easy, even as I would use "ma'am" more often because it is hard to insert mistress in a german sentence.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

In a new situation I always prefer to be called Mistress. As each relationship then grows i have found that each sub and i have found a new name to signify our connection. For me this makes each relationship even more special afterall each sub is different, each journey taken with them is new and so to have a different name used by each seems only fitting.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Not hardly.

Try masochist.