Misrepresentations

[shy slave]

this is pyl meaning pick your look not label lol

so what do you mean by 'defined'?? within what parametres would you call a definition a definition lolololol

sorry but you walked right into that !!

 

[RJMasters]

this is pyl meaning pick your look not label lol

so what do you mean by 'defined'?? within what parametres would you call a definition a definition lolololol

sorry but you walked right into that !!

Walks into wall over and over repeating...does not compute...does not compute...

 

[shy slave]

RJ

I am female and a sub.

It therefore follows i don't have to make sense and furthermore few expect me to lol

 

[graceanne]

Re: RJ

I am female and a sub.

It therefore follows i don't have to make sense and furthermore few expect me to lol

I understood.

 

[shy slave]

Re: Re: RJ

I understood.

*sits trying to work out if RJ should be worried that he didn't understand

Grace should be worried she did understand

or if Lit should be worried that out there in cyber land someone is on the same wave length as shy*


ROFL

 

[graceanne]

Re: Re: Re: RJ

*sits trying to work out if RJ should be worried that he didn't understand

Grace should be worried she did understand

or if Lit should be worried that out there in cyber land someone is on the same wave length as shy*

ROFL

LOL I'd be more worried if you're on MY wavelength. I've even had a psychologist tell me that I'm weird. No clinical terms for me, just weird.

 

[TigerClaw]

I think it is easier to lie online whether it to deceive or to live in a Fantasy. When i came here had fun with the boards telling what i liked in character. So, I was playfully hiding behind a mask but told about myself in a fun manner.

I found some didnt have a sense of humor or imagination. Those that did are some of my better friends online.

I've never lied about myself. How are you going to meet someone if you are going to lie? I have learned a lot about myself, that is for sure.

Basically I dont care if they lie online or not. You usually can tell the difference. Things will not add up. As things progress whether friendship or more then you can always reevaluate. I didnt do that in the past. I know now you have to be very careful about vibes and signals you get from someone online even as you start to date them.

I suppose it all depends on the individual and what they are to me.

 

[shy slave]

Re: Re: Re: Re: RJ

LOL I'd be more worried if you're on MY wavelength. I've even had a psychologist tell me that I'm weird. No clinical terms for me, just weird.

You defy clinical analysis???

OMG you are very definately in the right place here Grace

 

[shy slave]

I think it is easier to lie online whether it to deceive or to live in a Fantasy. When i came here had fun with the boards telling what i liked in character. So, I was playfully hiding behind a mask but told about myself in a fun manner.

I found some didnt have a sense of humor or imagination. Those that did are some of my better friends online.

I've never lied about myself. How are you going to meet someone if you are going to lie? I have learned a lot about myself, that is for sure.

Basically I dont care if they lie online or not. You usually can tell the difference. Things will not add up. As things progress whether friendship or more then you can always reevaluate. I didnt do that in the past. I know now you have to be very careful about vibes and signals you get from someone online even as you start to date them.

I suppose it all depends on the individual and what they are to me.

slightly off topic but I agree you can tell after a period of time if someone on-line is lying.

Do you think that those people who spend time chatting on-line quickly develop a '7th' sense regarding if someone is who they say.

For example if you are in a chat room and they say they are 28 brunette single and female do you ever get the sense they are not all of these things and may be older/younger, male etc.

Its a discussion i have had several times with my family who are not in agreement with meeting people you have spoken to on-line.

I believe that in time or perhaps the next generation will have this immediate sense of picking out the 'undesirables' (for wnat of a better term) and being able to gauge people accurately despite having only on-line contact ~ any thoughts

 

[shy slave]

Following on from Tigerclaws post

Why does it matter less if they lie on-lie?

It is still mis-representation?

I would feel mis-led and hurt if i discovered that, for exampe, Shadowsdream was a fat, balding, middle aged man who lived with his mum in a council house in Grimsby.
(not sure what the internationalequivelent of council houses and Grimsby are ~ sorry).


The reasons for feeling mis-led and hurt would not be on the level of someone I had had a sexual or emotional relationship with, but it would be on the level of feeling deceived by someone I had respect for.

PS Shadowsdream please do not take offence unless your are a fat, balding, middle aged man who living with his mum in a council house in Grimsby.

 

[graceanne]

Actually I agree. They'll do things like I'll say I have crohns disease, they'll say 'what's that?' and then a few days later, loe and behold, they have the symptoms of cd. Or they'll slip on a lie. One of my unique abilities is that I remember almost everything that people tell me, so I catch that pretty fast. And sometimes I just get a weird 'feel' about them.

 

[TigerClaw]

Sorry, I was playing it safe considering past experience.

I do think as ppl become accustom to a medium. They get a better feel of the environment. So, Yes, I think as the younger generation grows up with the internet they will have a greater feel for it rather then us older folk, lol. We can and will develop it just at a slightly longer period of time.

I take everything with a grain of salt at the begining and then let the person grow on me. But as with everything else you will come across someone who lies and you think they are being sincere.

I know a number of people who have been successful in meeting someone online and having a long term relationship and a number of marrages from such meetings. The risk of meeting someone undesireable is also a great risk as we read every so often in the papers.

slightly off topic but I agree you can tell after a period of time if someone on-line is lying.

 

[shy slave]

Actually I agree. They'll do things like I'll say I have crohns disease, they'll say 'what's that?' and then a few days later, loe and behold, they have the symptoms of cd. Or they'll slip on a lie. One of my unique abilities is that I remember almost everything that people tell me, so I catch that pretty fast. And sometimes I just get a weird 'feel' about them.

A weird feel ~ i understand perfectly.

I used to give mediumistic readings on-line so quickly have a feel for people.
However sometimes i know elements of what they portray are lies but it does not always stop me conversing with them. This may be because their lies do not appear to give harm (other than to themselves) or their lies reveal what they 'want' to be. Self-fulfilling prophecy ~ if i say I am outgoing quirky & fun; I will be.

Others have given such an uncomforatble feeling that I cannot always identify that I do stop conversing.
Interestingly it tends to be on vanilla sites not here that that happens. I have not given it a great deal of thought but perhaps its because when we land here its just good to be allowed to be ourselves.

 

[graceanne]

You mean I don't have to pretend to be normal? Thank God!

 

[shy slave]

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I know a number of people who have been successful in meeting someone online and having a long term relationship and a number of marrages from such meetings. The risk of meeting someone undesireable is also a great risk as we read every so often in the papers.

Have always thought on-line safer, after all you don't have to meet ~ ever ~ if you don't wish to.

My response to my family has always been if I met someone in a pub, spend the evening with them and allow them to walk me home; what do I know about them?

We may have both been drinking (not necessarily drunk but relaxed). They may appear charming, vanilla, stable, safe but I have known them about 3 hrs in a social & relaxed setting.

Once they walk me home a goodnight kiss turns to coffee, they could rape, bugger or murder me. I do not know ANYTHING about them.

On-line people usually talk for considerable stretches of time over a period of time. Without interuption from other people, without alcohol without the social setting. Photos can be emailed, webcams can't lie people tend to be more honest behind a keyboard as it is a feeling of protection.

No-one got raped/pregnant/violated/murdered via a keyboard or webcam. You may never meet.

I met my master through on-line. We live 2 hr drive away. I could have met him 1/2 way in a cafe where no-one knew me and would therefore not noticed if i were safe or not. I could have met him in a local town but I knew I would inevitably ask him home. So I met him in my home, on my terms, with my sons coming home within the 1/2 hour. Yes it could have been a disaster, luckily it was not.

Other on-line people I have met in social settings but never taken them home.

It was that 'feel' grace spoke of that made the difference.
An odd belief but I think it can be harder to mis-represent or lie about yourself over a period of time on the net than; it is in a work or social setting in r/l.
Although I know there are underground industries that rely on the naiviety of people on the net, and exploit that naiviety for their personal gain

 

[TigerClaw]

I am sorry I meant to answer you sooner. I think if you are cautious or careful whether it is online or in person it can be safe meeting someone. After all older generations had pen pals. The only difference was that it was slower.

I think no matter what the avenue you have to be aware of the risks invovled. It is a lot easier for someone to hide and lie behind a terminal or peice of paper. Also, writing is an art. You can tell exactly what you do and make it sound like the most exciting thing youve done. Same thing with speech.

Yet when someone else witnesses it or tries it they may think it is the most boring thing on earth. lol. What would happen if when they met that flamboyant exciting post that was describing them and you find is little ole boring them?

Have always thought on-line safer, after all you don't have to meet ~ ever ~ if you don't wish to.