New friend just told me she tried to kill herself. What do I do?

[Tetriak]

Leave her be. It will do you no good to pick at that scab again.

Then what's he supposed to do with his boner?

I mean, hey, it ain't gonna suck itself.

What's up with all the roosterblockers on this thread.

 

[Honed_Hunger]

If you're not strong enough to withstand an emotional trainwreck.............don't go put your cock in one.

Just say'in........

 

[old_scratch]

I could really use some help. I don't know what to do. How best should I deal with this?

This woman who claims to have attempted suicide is playing you.

When a person attempts seriously attempts suicide, (and survives), the last thing they are going to do is contact someone with a light-hearted email bragging about it. And she was bragging when she emailed you. When someone is taken to the hospital after having overdosed with drugs, the procedures used to save their life are harsh and invasive, and because time is critical, ER doctors are neither gentle nor compassionate.

Usually after a person has tried to commit suicide, they are quite sick and depressed for the next few days. It is a very traumatic experience. Also it is unlikely the hospital would have released her the same day. If a hospital released a person intent on killing themselves, they would just go home and try again; then be hauled back to the hospital, and the doctors would have to do it all over again. In some states/cities, a suicide victim has to be examined by the resident psychiatrist before they can be released. In most states, (if not all), suicide is illegal and there is a procedure that has to be followed.

What you are describing is a woman who uses sympathy/pity to control people in her world. (And there are a lot of them out there). If you get hooked-up with her, (even online), you will spend all of your time dealing with *her* problems, and when you fix one problem for her, she will just create another problem for you to deal with.

She seems to have so much in common with you because she played you! A woman like this molds herself into to your ideal woman; then after you think you have found the right woman, she plays you for her own benefit. If you met her and spent enough time to get to know her, you would find that she is a very different woman from what you had expected. But after a man gets hooked-up with a woman like this, it’s too late. It’s in the nature of a man to not want to admit he has made a mistake, and because you don’t want to admit having made a mistake about her, you will try to fix the relationship. And when you start trying the fix the relationship; she has you right where she wants you.

How do you handle this situation? Exactly like you handled it! You turn around, walk away and forget that she exists. A woman like this is a head-case and will never bring anything into your life but grief.

Perhaps you need to do some soul-searching of your own. Perhaps you are a rescuer? A man who feels a subconscious need to rescue women from the worldly problems that overwhelm them. I know nothing about you personally, but perhaps you should ask yourself why you feel drawn to women who have problems.

If you want to find a woman with whom you have something in common, focus your time on your interests. You said you like photography, reading and horror movies; focus your internet time of forums that parallel your own interests, (and sooner or later), you will find a woman with the same interests as yourself and likes you for who you are.

Don’t waste your time on a woman who starts telling you about her problems before you have even met her.

 

[old_scratch]

If you're not strong enough to withstand an emotional trainwreck.............don't go put your cock in one.

Just say'in........

Excellent aphorism, if you don’t mind, I think I will use it.

 

[fuckmeat]

If you're not strong enough to withstand an emotional trainwreck.............don't go put your cock in one.

Just say'in........

I completely agree with the above. And as Erika says, people do not to psychiatric 180s in the space of 12 weeks.

Also, given how unbalanced this woman is... well I wouldn't be surprised if she wasn't one of these serial internet singletons who plays the politician game; asking you lots about yourself and then agreeing with it all.

 

[human_male]

Point taken. Thanks again everyone.

 

[Christopher2012]

This probably isn't going to help your situation, but it's something to think about for future reference.

People who are really suicidal don't just tell you that they're going to kill themselves. They typically tell you, in great detail, how they're going to do it.

Person who wants attention: "I'm going to kill myself. I'm going to kill myself!"

Suicidal person: "Tonight, I'm going to lock myself in my room, grab my 9mm, put it my head, and pull the trigger."

It's very specific, and that's the rule of thumb about when to get worried. I'm not saying that people who just say "I'm going to kill myself" won't do it, but it's much more unlikely.

 

[Mac98]

My personal advice: Despite what everyone here assumes, no one really knows. Not even you. I would still invite her over or out for a coffee... meeting her face to face will give you a much clearer idea of who she is.

If she is manipulating you, no matter if she is depressed or not, you don't deserve that.

And you know what, if worse comes to worse, you can always remain friends. Then, you don't have to handle anything, you'll just get to benefit from the similar personality you two share.

 

[NippleMuncher]

human-male should give the woman's phone number to those of you who think it's a good idea to go play in the psychiatric ward for a piece of ass. Maybe a taste of psychosis will change your minds.

 

[Kamz]

Hello again everyone.

I posted this nearly three months ago and since then I've often wondered how she's doing. I can see by looking at her profile on the dating site where I met her that she's still active there, so she's alive which is good.

Would it be a hugely bad idea to email her to see how she's doing? You were all pretty emphatic in your answers, do you still feel that way? Do you think it's possible she might have changed?

I must sound crazy be we had so much in common and got on really well, and that's pretty rare for me.

If you think it would be unfair on her then I won't.

I am rather late in adding my view to this topic (maybe its coz i never comment on anyone's threads)

I noticed how everyone diagnosed her as an "attention-craving, crazy girl".
What she is doing is wrong but it is really sad that noone is actually trying to help her.
Doesn't anyone see that she could be very lonely?
She could have lied about the suicide attempt to get attention or have really done it to get attention.. but as Erika pointed out, she really didn't wanna die, she wanted attention.

She could continue doing this to get more attention from each and every person who has shown some interest and imagine what it would do to her confidence levels if everyone ran away from her.

This girl needs sorting out, and if you are really interested in her then, screw what everyone says.
If you care for her, than show it, because no woman will appreciate it more than her.

If I were you, I'd give her some attention and show her that it does make a difference to someone that she exists.. (thats if you care-and u sound like u do). O one day she might get fed up of faking it and really do it..

And since you are single too, it would help your situation as well.
Once she feels more confident with you, suggest her to get some professional help..


That's what I feel.. you're completely free to make up your mind...