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[ecstaticsub]

Who said TPE was unrealistic? Of course it doesn't mean you must scrub the floor with a toothbrush or anything like that. But it DOES mean that you do what you're told, when you're told. And yes, any good dom would take into consideration your vanilla life. Of course they would. I never meant to suggest that one necessarily WOULD have to go masturbate in the bathroom when told, only that in a 24/7 situation, it is POSSIBLE. 24/7 doesn't require the dom to be capricious, only that the option is there if they wish to invoke it. And as long as that option is on the table, that is TPE. In fact, it's the most successful and sane form of TPE.

I don't know how to express myself clearly, I guess.

I'm sorry, I never meant to imply that TPE was unrealistic. I also never meant to imply that a PYL in a TPE relationship would be unreasonable or impractical.

Let me try this again..

In my head I am a 24/7 submissive but I am not in a TPE relationship. The difference to me in my relationship is that since I have a husband and children who are not under my PYL's control at all, plus I do not physically live with my PYL a think a Total Power Exchange, empasis on the total, would be a falsehood, a misnomer.

This is not to imply that a pyl has to live with their PYL for it to be a TPE, it just would have to be for me.

It goes back I guess to being a mental thing. I have never been in a TPE but I would imagine that it would feel emotionally and mentally different than a a non-TPE. Somewhat similiar to how I felt about the difference between being Daddy's girlfriend and being his owned 24/7 submissive.

I hope I didn't offend anyone. I am trying to figure out the differences in my own head between the two terms, other than it just "feels" different.

 

[intothewoods]

Well, okay then. I'm abusive, disgusting, and criminal.

Thank you for making that clear. I'll tell viv and MIS so they can find someone not so awful towards them.

Remember kids, 24/7 TPE with no safeword is abusive, disgusting, and criminal. You've read it here.



Please don't. Just... don't.

Just to play devil's advocate for a sec, haven't you said in the past that no one should feel threatened by someone else's opinions? I'm just throwing that out there. It's not just you. But if we're all going to say to each his own...

I wonder if a lot of the difference boils down to head space. There appear to be M/s couples in which the M takes care of the s into consideration and doesn't simply push limits just for the sake of pushing them 24/7. Similarly, there are D/s couples in which though the safeword exists, the s would be loathe to use it. But I know I have the safeword. A slave needs to know she doesn't.

 

[Homburg]

Just to play devil's advocate for a sec, haven't you said in the past that no one should feel threatened by someone else's opinions? I'm just throwing that out there. It's not just you. But if we're all going to say to each his own...

The above quoted post of mine was sarcasm. If you didn't catch that, you might want to have your Sarcasm Detector checked.

I don't feel threatened in the slightest, but it is remarkably easy to decide that someone needs some derision without feeling threatened by them. Case in point would be bytor from that idiotic "women need punished" thread. Threat? No. Worthy of derision? Most assuredly.

 

[intothewoods]

The above quoted post of mine was sarcasm. If you didn't catch that, you might want to have your Sarcasm Detector checked.

I don't feel threatened in the slightest, but it is remarkably easy to decide that someone needs some derision without feeling threatened by them. Case in point would be bytor from that idiotic "women need punished" thread. Threat? No. Worthy of derision? Most assuredly.

Yes, I detected the sarcasm.