ok you male subs

[Shadowsdream]

nope

~~smile~~ thats what I thought!

So boys...do you have any thoughts on caging...confined by your Mistress?

 

[onceburned]

So boys...do you have any thoughts on caging...confined by your Mistress?

umm... do you mean like a metal cage? With bars?

I think it would make me feel like I were in prison. Or maybe some kind of animal.

 

[SweetDommes]

Heh, from my side - way too much like work ... I am starting to dislike the sound of chains too

 

[Shadowsdream]

umm... do you mean like a metal cage? With bars?

I think it would make me feel like I were in prison. Or maybe some kind of animal.

Metal cages are one option as are wooden cages with bars in the front...there are other options as well.

Putting a submissive in a cage has many variables as to reason and expectations of the outcome.

From isolation to humiliation. to housing a valued pet. Some submissives find being caged a form of bondage as well. Some see it as being under the control of a Dominant with no way out.

Caging is all in the eye of the beholder.

 

[onceburned]

Putting a submissive in a cage has many variables as to reason and expectations of the outcome.

From isolation to humiliation. to housing a valued pet. Some submissives find being caged a form of bondage as well. Some see it as being under the control of a Dominant with no way out.

Oh, I see. Caging can work on many different levels - from pure physical restriction, to symbolizing the control that a dominant has over her submissive, to being a "home" and source of status.

How interesting!

 

[Xelebes]

Heh, from my side - way too much like work ... I am starting to dislike the sound of chains too

I can see why that would be the case.

 

[SweetDommes]

Yeah, the whole chains thing wasn't too bad until we had 3 days in a row with inmate fights which involves the people fighting being brought down in full shackles ... lots of chain rattling.

 

[Her sissy slave]

males?

This bothers Me from My stance as a Fem Domme. So I think I will begin this thread to discuss the difficulties and delights of male subs.

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difficulties?
for me, one is, not knowing what to say, when.
i cannot read minds, esp a Domme.
delights?
knowing when i am finished witha chore/task/project..pick your word here.......i know it is done well..and i seek but ONLY Her smile.

a sissy

 

[TaintedB]

Would someone who knows please bump the strap-on thread. I've been slowly saving up a few pics for it and now I want to post them but I cannot find that thread after seven pages of scrolling. I give up. :/

 

[Her sissy slave]

cages

Metal cages are one option as are wooden cages with bars in the front...there are other options as well.

Putting a submissive in a cage has many variables as to reason and expectations of the outcome.

From isolation to humiliation. to housing a valued pet. Some submissives find being caged a form of bondage as well. Some see it as being under the control of a Dominant with no way out.

Caging is all in the eye of the beholder.
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personally i would like to know what it feels like, since i have never been around one or a domme that wanted me to try.
sounds quite interesting actually.

a slave

 

[Alt]

"agonized frustration" what a wonderful way to make someone feel! Ooops did I say that out loud?

I thought you might enjoy the thought brought by the quote.

 

[Alt]

~~smile~~ thats what I thought!

So boys...do you have any thoughts on caging...confined by your Mistress?

With the right Mistress, anything is possible, if not outright desired.

 

[onceburned]

With the right Mistress, anything is possible, if not outright desired.

wow...I don't know about that. There are a number of things that, to me, are too dangerous or thoroughly squickening. Here is one example:

On a different forum site, one person indicated that his domme wanted him to lick her boots, speckled with horse manure, after she returned from the stables. He wondered what he could do to minimize the risk.

We warned him of the various horse parasites that he could contract, we told him that he and his domme should read up on their signs and symptoms. And we told him that if he thought he might be infected he should go to his doctor and tell him everything so that a good treatment plan could be devised.

Frankly, I would hate to have roundworms. And no domme could convince me to lick horse manure (or human manure for that matter).

 

[Alt]

wow...I don't know about that. There are a number of things that, to me, are too dangerous or thoroughly squickening. Here is one example:

On a different forum site, one person indicated that his domme wanted him to lick her boots, speckled with horse manure, after she returned from the stables. He wondered what he could do to minimize the risk.

We warned him of the various horse parasites that he could contract, we told him that he and his domme should read up on their signs and symptoms. And we told him that if he thought he might be infected he should go to his doctor and tell him everything so that a good treatment plan could be devised.

Frankly, I would hate to have roundworms. And no domme could convince me to lick horse manure (or human manure for that matter).

Then she was NOT the right Domme!

 

[timberwolf05]

cages

With the right Mistress, anything is possible, if not outright desired.

i agree with Alt

 

[SweetDommes]

I would like to know why this thread gets neglected while the femsub thread pretty much stays at least on the first page you guys are slacking.

I have a question, and I don't know that anyone can answer it, but I can try.

I'm asking this question (ok, these questions) because of the guy at work that some of you already know about ... I don't want to scare him off, but I also don't want to go so slow that he gets bored with it.

For those of you male subbies who are a little older (sorry Aeroil and Xel, this means that you are excluded from this) who haven't been interested in the lifestyle since you were a teen ... how were you introduced to the lifestyle? What was said/what did you see that made you stop and go "oh my"? What could have been done to make the transition to the lifestyle easier/better?

 

[timberwolf05]

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I would like to know why this thread gets neglected while the femsub thread pretty much stays at least on the first page you guys are slacking.

I have a question, and I don't know that anyone can answer it, but I can try.

I'm asking this question (ok, these questions) because of the guy at work that some of you already know about ... I don't want to scare him off, but I also don't want to go so slow that he gets bored with it.

For those of you male subbies who are a little older (sorry Aeroil and Xel, this means that you are excluded from this) who haven't been interested in the lifestyle since you were a teen ... how were you introduced to the lifestyle? What was said/what did you see that made you stop and go "oh my"? What could have been done to make the transition to the lifestyle easier/better?

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... how were you introduced to the lifestyle? What was said/what did you see that made you stop and go "oh my"? What could have been done to make the transition to the lifestyle easier/better?
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Proud owners of ghosst_K&H
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i was introduced when a buddy of mine seen my frustration of finding 'a' female that enjoyed being pampered and waited on hand and foot.
2nd question. same answer.
what could have been done? uh oh. is this a trick question for a test? lol
hmm, maybe, if all the so called literature got down to brass tacks, and answered real life questions with real life answers.
it is a struggle to grasp and understand that a few select of us out here, do not subscribe to the s/m norms, and are told or implied we are not good enough.
some of us, are sincere and serious and seek only domestics. but not into the pain structures, for our own sake.
some of us, were trained sex is a no no, and there is no romantic love.
we are to do as we are told, and not allowed into Her bedroom except to change sheets, and pick up Her dirty laundry.
if the online textbooks would cater to real life it would be helpful.
thank You

 

[roosterado9]

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... how were you introduced to the lifestyle? What was said/what did you see that made you stop and go "oh my"? What could have been done to make the transition to the lifestyle easier/better?
__________________
Proud owners of ghosst_K&H
=========================================================
i was introduced when a buddy of mine seen my frustration of finding 'a' female that enjoyed being pampered and waited on hand and foot.
2nd question. same answer.
what could have been done? uh oh. is this a trick question for a test? lol
hmm, maybe, if all the so called literature got down to brass tacks, and answered real life questions with real life answers.
it is a struggle to grasp and understand that a few select of us out here, do not subscribe to the s/m norms, and are told or implied we are not good enough.
some of us, are sincere and serious and seek only domestics. but not into the pain structures, for our own sake.
some of us, were trained sex is a no no, and there is no romantic love.
we are to do as we are told, and not allowed into Her bedroom except to change sheets, and pick up Her dirty laundry.
if the online textbooks would cater to real life it would be helpful.
thank You

Ok I was a voyuer of Bondage Porn loveed it thought I might be a closet Dom. Well after not dating for 3 yrs I met a girl a sub I had 2 dates and was totally infatuated.Took her 2 dates to see I was a sub male, I am 49 always like to try and please female partners[few and far between] passive alot of areas in life And I Never took a look at this I have now I am A sub lol

 

[onceburned]

For those of you male subbies who are a little older (sorry Aeroil and Xel, this means that you are excluded from this) who haven't been interested in the lifestyle since you were a teen ...

uh oh.... old fogey time!

You young whippersnappers have it so easy now. Why, when I was your age it wasn't so acceptable to be into all this whips and chains and stuff. There was no internet to help us find one another. Or to find toys, neither. We used to have to flog ourselves - with tree branches or hit ourselves with rocks. We didn't have any other choice. And it was good for us, too. <harrumph>.



Seriously, I was interested in D/s since I was 13 or 14 but its scary image made me untrusting - and how would I find someone to trust? I didn't want my lifeless body on the evening news.

It was only after moving to San Francisco in my thirties that I got involved. There, a friend of a friend introduced me to this cozy little world.

 

[Gibbons]

Well, I'm a little older and I've just recently gotten into bdsm. I'm intrigued by both domination and submission, but submission interests me more. I stumbled on bdsm almost by accident. I knew it was out there, but didn't realize that it was something that I was interested in. Then I ran across a site where it discussed what it was really about... not just the physical acts, but the mental aspects as well. From that point on I was hooked. While I find the physical fun... its the mental aspect of bdsm that touches deep into my soul.

 

[Aeroil]

I would like to know why this thread gets neglected while the femsub thread pretty much stays at least on the first page you guys are slacking.

Well that's because there are fewer people here to crack the whip and force us to post
I seriously did expect the femsub thread to kick this thread's ass though, we're outnmbered three to one and we're only twice as good as they are on average!
...... yeah the joke answer is a result of the fact that I can't answer the question.

 

[Baskin Robbins]

Spank ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!EEEEEEEE

 

[SweetDommes]

Well that's because there are fewer people here to crack the whip and force us to post
I seriously did expect the femsub thread to kick this thread's ass though, we're outnmbered three to one and we're only twice as good as they are on average!
...... yeah the joke answer is a result of the fact that I can't answer the question.

cute

Ok, so I appreciate everyone's answers so far. It's giving me a bit more insight into what S is potentially going through. Now he just has to meet Holly's approval.

 

[timberwolf05]

whippersnappers?

uh oh.... old fogey time!

You young whippersnappers have it so easy now. Why, when I was your age it wasn't so acceptable to be into all this whips and chains and stuff. There was no internet to help us find one another. Or to find toys, neither. We used to have to flog ourselves - with tree branches or hit ourselves with rocks. We didn't have any other choice. And it was good for us, too. <harrumph>.



Seriously, I was interested in D/s since I was 13 or 14 but its scary image made me untrusting - and how would I find someone to trust? I didn't want my lifeless body on the evening news.

It was only after moving to San Francisco in my thirties that I got involved. There, a friend of a friend introduced me to this cozy little world.

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okay behave yourself there. just coz i am over 50, no need to pick on me now.....roflmao chuckling hard.

 

[SweetDommes]

I have another question, but I'm not sure how to phrase it ... I'm really trying to figure out how the male-sub mind works, and I'm failing miserably. Ghosst is helpful, but only to a point, as he knew what he wanted in a relationship before getting with us ... S has always taken the submissive role, in general, but has never been with a Domme, and really didn't (and still doesn't) have much of an idea what this lifestyle entails.

So I guess I do have questions. On Wednesday night, when I bring him up here, I'm thinking about giving him research assignments to do while he has a computer available to him (he doesn't have one - his ex got it in the divorce) - what do y'all think of that? What kinds of things do you think would be most helpful to a "newbie"? Are there any threads you think I should print out to give him on Tuesday to read through?