ok you male subs

[tropix]

My question would be to all of you male subs...When you fantasize how often is the fantasy around the strap on?

Good morning, Dear Mistress!
To backtrack a moment, I like being called "boy," especially now that I am older. It makes me quite energetic!

In the times I've been fortunate to have a steady Mistress, strap-on play has never been the focus of our activites. Rather, it is something reserved for extended sessions when we have had a whole day or long afternoon.....
so it's actually rare that I fantasize about being fucked. (Though I am now, after reading Your post!
To me, the act is more mental than physical-- the idea of completely surrendering my body to Her... and the idea of a Woman doing what men have done to Women for eons... kind of a 'payback' thing.

 

[Shadowsdream]

I would have to say I have never dreamed about a strap on. Just the thought of pleasing a beautiful mistress with any form of cbt (allowing her the honor or self-inflicted at her direction) gets me hot and hard.

About hearing "good boy," I much prefer further humiliation and a heavy dose of painful cbt for a rerward.

Hello kidkoaz and thank you for your reply. May I ask if you have been in a BDSM relationship for any length of time/

It is lovely to have you join this conversation.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Good morning, Dear Mistress!
To backtrack a moment, I like being called "boy," especially now that I am older. It makes me quite energetic!

In the times I've been fortunate to have a steady Mistress, strap-on play has never been the focus of our activites. Rather, it is something reserved for extended sessions when we have had a whole day or long afternoon.....
so it's actually rare that I fantasize about being fucked. (Though I am now, after reading Your post!
To me, the act is more mental than physical-- the idea of completely surrendering my body to Her... and the idea of a Woman doing what men have done to Women for eons... kind of a 'payback' thing.

Hello tropix how are you today? Nice to see you here joining in the new conversation.
~~smile~~ fantasies are born in many places and wander many avenues yet reality out strips most of them in memries.

 

[timberwolf05]

good boy?

Giving the Lady's thread a well-deserved bump.




Hmm, neither one of my Ladies refers to me as a "boy", but I do get a "good job" every now and then. Or a "very good, bronn." I'm over the moon when that happens. You know when You're really happy and You get that bubble of emotion in Your stomach that sort of rises up to rest between Your heart and throat and it bursts over Your vocal cords? Then You get blushy and speechless. Or at least I do. I realize I may be destroying my tough guy image, but the once when one of the Ladies said "You've made me very proud." I cried. Real tears and everything.

You also asked about cages.

It had never been one of my fantasies, but Lady M uses it. It doesn't really make me humiliated, but it does make me insecure and worried. I find myself really subdued and needing of reassurance when I come out. I'm really starting to hate it to the point that it's a punishment issue. The worse thing is that it totally takes away the urge to make love. She locked me in there once and went and flirted with a friend on line. She comes back all hot and bothered and ready to do the nasty and I couldn't perform right away. It passed. Well, She helped it pass, by enlisting some help from her slave, whom She does refer to as "boy" by the way. She's thinking of constructing an oubliette of some sort for guys like me.

Ms. Karen asked about submitting to a couple who are a Domme and a Switch, as well as easing an older submissive into this.

The switch thing, I've never tried it, but as long as the chain of command was clearly delineated I don't think it'd be a problem. I have a lot of respect for switches, as it seems like you have a harder time of it. I look back at myself growing up bisexual and trying to understand and deal with my feelings for girls and boys and the confusion and stress it caused me, and the thought of dealing with that on a power exchange level gives me the willies.

The second question; I'm in the same category as Xel and Aeroil, so I can't help you there.

Oy, this is going to be a long post. I should probably split it, but I'm gonna be stubborn.



I tend towards stoicism, so actual whining is somewhat rare. But I do respond to said torments; begging, ouching, gasping and all that. I'd definitely feel deprived if You didn't let me go at the end of it, though. I'd try to be a grown-up about it though, and not a brat.

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good boy? never been there --my 1st felt/as do i/ it is not necessary to say good boy when you are doing as you are told...same as in-military-service..not going to powder your butt just coz you do what is expected.
cages? thought about it. never been THERE either.
switching? strictly a slave only.
torments? never been there...

my 2 cents.
the wolf

 

[roosterado9]

K o/l on phone Mistress uses good boy i bout melt

 

[roosterado9]

My question would be to all of you male subs...When you fantasize how often is the fantasy around the strap on?
ok as i am trying to move away for mass media porn to reading and fantasizing more to release[on my schedule] i will start this one[above ]tonite i had sorta stopped on this one no more bring em[fantasies bout being fucked by Domme]on

 

[Shadowsdream]

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good boy? never been there --my 1st felt/as do i/ it is not necessary to say good boy when you are doing as you are told...same as in-military-service..not going to powder your butt just coz you do what is expected.
cages? thought about it. never been THERE either.
switching? strictly a slave only.
torments? never been there...

my 2 cents.
the wolf

~~smile~~ hello timberwolf

Thank you for joining the conversation.

When I say the words "good boy" it is not only a validation to the slave or submissive that they have pleased Me either through service or endurance and suffering but also a reminder of My caring for them.

Simply to be served with no expectation of reward or acknowledgement even in a very minor way would give Me no personal satisfaction.

I do hope that at some point you have the opportunity to experience a bit more out of the BDSM journey.

 

[Shadowsdream]

My question would be to all of you male subs...When you fantasize how often is the fantasy around the strap on?
ok as i am trying to move away for mass media porn to reading and fantasizing more to release[on my schedule] i will start this one[above ]tonite i had sorta stopped on this one no more bring em[fantasies bout being fucked by Domme]on

I look forward to hearing how your fantasizing developes!

 

[kidkaoz]

Hello kidkoaz and thank you for your reply. May I ask if you have been in a BDSM relationship for any length of time/

It is lovely to have you join this conversation.

Thank you for welcoming me. I hope I can contribute and make you happy.

I have not been in an extended BDSM relationship, but it is not for lack of trying. I don't seem to have much luck with the superior sex, plus I do spend a lot of time at school and work (both full time) so that doesn't leave me much time for enjoyment.

 

[roosterado9]

I look forward to hearing how your fantasizing developes!

Course might be best to ask Mistress what i should fantasize about [Grin]

 

[yourstruly]

Hello

Well I keep reading this thread and having so much to say that I don't even bother.

But I'd might as well start somewhere so here goes: it is very nice to finally have a malesub-centric thread active here on Lit. Now I can finally start working towards those hundred posts I apparently require to upload my devilishly cute avatar (you'll see what I'm talking about in about three years when I get there ).

AAkasha, it is nice to see you here. You don't know me, but I read many of your posts on usenet, back when I was even more of a clueless wanna-be than I am now, and many of them were very helpful to me, not to mention orgasm-inducing!

I'd also like to answer the question about verbal rewards... "good boy," and similar comments work like a charm for me. I have recently discovered -- much to my surprise, actually -- that some aspects of a parent/child relationship are quite central to my kink. I have zero interest in "adult baby" play, at least insofar as that involves actual infantilism. However, it is the tender, nurturing qualities commonly associated with "Mom" that tend to plummet me into the deepest sub-space. Even with respect to very non-"Mommy"-ish BDSM activities, the greatest thrill for me is usually the display of pleasure on the part of my domme at my own achievement: "You did it, I knew you could," etc. By contrast, the idea of a cold, demeaning ultra-bitch who wants to "ruin" me does not a thing for me.

This is a stretch, but, perhaps the D&S relationship provides the only context where my ego, superego, and id can all collude to the same principle: please and impress my domme... er.. wait, what does the ego do again?

Well, whatever. Nice to see this thread, thanks for creating it Shadowsdream!

 

[roosterado9]

Now i have found ShadowsDrean website i can read and learn,Also almost did a bad tonite not nite to relase on stroke 2 mins so i'll work on finishing that strap-on fantasy tommorrow k all

 

[timberwolf05]

no rewards

~~smile~~ hello timberwolf



also a reminder of My caring for them.

Simply to be served with no expectation of reward or acknowledgement even in a very minor way would give Me no personal satisfaction.


???????? welllllllllll. YOU are the FIRST to say this openly. wow. You just floored me. thank You for being open and candid about it.
never met a domme til now that didnt feel as my 1st Ms did. everyone whines and bitches about service and what the boy wants in return, like it is some burden to Them. wow. You are so cool for a Ladyship.
thank You.
the wolf ---in hope my newest Ms will be as You are...moving 07/13/05.

 

[timberwolf05]

fantasizing?

My question would be to all of you male subs...When you fantasize how often is the fantasy around the strap on?
ok as i am trying to move away for mass media porn to reading and fantasizing more to release[on my schedule] i will start this one[above ]tonite i had sorta stopped on this one no more bring em[fantasies bout being fucked by Domme]on

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...When you fantasize how often is the fantasy around the strap on?
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sorry. party pooper here. "i" do not HAVE fantasies. wish i did. it's my anal-ness being a type "A" behavior...with my o.c.d.
the wolf

 

[onceburned]

in hope my newest Ms will be as You are...moving 07/13/05.

Congratulations

 

[Alt]

My question would be to all of you male subs...When you fantasize how often is the fantasy around the strap on?

I would have to say that the majority of my fantasies have a strap on involved in one way or another. Perhaps as much as 80%, depending on my mood. Although most may be of the idea of being taken anally, there is also the fantasy of cleaning Mistress' strap on orally.

 

[SweetDommes]

???????? welllllllllll. YOU are the FIRST to say this openly. wow. You just floored me. thank You for being open and candid about it.
never met a domme til now that didnt feel as my 1st Ms did. everyone whines and bitches about service and what the boy wants in return, like it is some burden to Them. wow. You are so cool for a Ladyship.
thank You.
the wolf ---in hope my newest Ms will be as You are...moving 07/13/05.

She is far from the first to say that openly - she is just the first that you have seen say it. We have said the same thing more than once, and there are others around here who feel the same way. Yeah, there are many who don't feel that way, but pretty much everyone that I have talked to for more than a few moments here and in the chat room that I used to hang out in feels the same way.

 

[timberwolf05]

missed?

She is far from the first to say that openly - she is just the first that you have seen say it. We have said the same thing more than once, and there are others around here who feel the same way. Yeah, there are many who don't feel that way, but pretty much everyone that I have talked to for more than a few moments here and in the chat room that I used to hang out in feels the same way.

ok. to You, i apologize if i missed it somewhere on here. but i still think She is way cool.
the wolf

 

[landcruisergal]

She is far from the first to say that openly - she is just the first that you have seen say it. We have said the same thing more than once, and there are others around here who feel the same way. Yeah, there are many who don't feel that way, but pretty much everyone that I have talked to for more than a few moments here and in the chat room that I used to hang out in feels the same way.

Echo that..The reason I chose a puppy boy, was so I can lavish affection upon him, and still maintain my authority and control.

"Dogs have inner strength, character, more play like.
They can freely express unconditional love that Master or Mistress can easily accept. Slaves can love their Owners, but you always had that distance way up there on the God like pedestal – a slave puts distance between you. Not so with your beloved mutt.
In a nutshell a Master or Mistress can get a lot closer to his or her slave if the slave is a dog.Dog boys are fun and make you feel good.
The nature of a dog is it unconditional love to its Owner. Like no matter how much you abuse it, it still comes crawling back to the feet of its Mistress/Master."


Sorry for the hijack...back to my box..

 

[timberwolf05]

dog slave? lol

Echo that..The reason I chose a puppy boy, was so I can lavish affection upon him, and still maintain my authority and control.

"Dogs have inner strength, character, more play like.
They can freely express unconditional love that Master or Mistress can easily accept. Slaves can love their Owners, but you always had that distance way up there on the God like pedestal – a slave puts distance between you. Not so with your beloved mutt.
In a nutshell a Master or Mistress can get a lot closer to his or her slave if the slave is a dog.Dog boys are fun and make you feel good.
The nature of a dog is it unconditional love to its Owner. Like no matter how much you abuse it, it still comes crawling back to the feet of its Mistress/Master."


Sorry for the hijack...back to my box..

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just teasing here.......

some of wolves can be puppies....rowf woof bark whine sniff roll over fetch and sit up and beg.......esp. begging..lol


the wolf

 

[SweetDommes]

ok. to You, i apologize if i missed it somewhere on here. but i still think She is way cool.
the wolf

No need to appoligize - she is way cool ...

But yeah, there are a lot of us who aren't into the 'cold' type of Domme-liness (is that a word?). We have pets (not puppies, just pets) for that reason as well. We want to be affectionate with them ... I have a need for that kind of affection. I don't always get that need met, but most always - and it is because of the type of relationship that we have.

 

[yourstruly]

But yeah, there are a lot of us who aren't into the 'cold' type of Domme-liness (is that a word?).

It is now (just look it up in the OED )! I love the wee note of sarcasm in "domly," as in "She was too dommely to admit that she had totally fucked up."

 

[Aeroil]

Hello bronntanas

you have been a busy "boy" answering so many questions in one message ~~smile~~ must be time for a new question!

The strap on is one of those delightful toys that can spark desire or apprehension in the eyes of a submissive. The way it is used and the position the submissive or slave is put into can also add to the emotions involved.

Just yesterday morning I took the virginity of a male sub as his cock was in bondage with a cock corset that had just been tortured with various implements for My entertainment and his initiation into CBT.

Bending him over the arm of My sofa, blindfolded and trembling with desire he eagerly took everything I gave him until I exploding in a mind blowing orgasm. he was allowed to masterbate to conclusion while standing before Me.

he was speechless at the conclusion of these new experiences but I could also see through the window of his eyes that he was already fantasizing about being fucked again.

My question would be to all of you male subs...When you fantasize how often is the fantasy around the strap on?

hehehe, I'd have to mirror my answer with Alt's, about 80% of my sexual ones do involve a strapon in some way.

 

[timberwolf05]

need?

No need to appoligize - she is way cool ...

But yeah, there are a lot of us who aren't into the 'cold' type of Domme-liness (is that a word?). We have pets (not puppies, just pets) for that reason as well. We want to be affectionate with them ... I have a need for that kind of affection. I don't always get that need met, but most always - and it is because of the type of relationship that we have.

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... I have a need for that kind of affection. I don't always get that need met, but most always - and it is because of the type of relationship that we have.

******i find it interesting a lot people call it a NEED. for me it has always been a want. being independant as i am, i do well all by myself. i do not NEED anyone.
want. yes. need, no.
interesting
the wolf

 

[onceburned]

i do not NEED anyone.
want. yes. need, no.

Could it be that you do not feel the need for love/affection/respect of others because you have grown some emotional scars due to your hard life?

Scar tissue is less sensitive to pain. When damage is being done, it is less noticeable to the person with the scar. But it doesn't mean that the damage/hurt isn't occurring.