Online D/s... whats it good for?

[MissTaken]

I have peeked into a few chat rooms and really felt out of place.

I didn't return unless they were playing trivia!




The assumption that I will call complete strangers Sir and Master is a bit out of my perception of BDSM or any relationship, for that matter.

I have, however, seen submissives who caused me concern. Being asked to meet someone after a few days of chat, taking directions from these strangers, that sort of thing.

I imagine if you want to play at being a Dom or sub, a chat room is okay. In terms of anything realistic, the experience seemed hollow to me.

Of course, I have never been an asset in any chatroom on any topic.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Preach on, Eb

I'm happy to see personal responsibility encouraged by those in a position of authority.

Thanks lark.

There are too many predators, and it seems that just using certain terms seems to give authority to those who do not earn it. the term Master/Mistress is a term that is earned.

I personally do not allow strangers to call me Mistress. It is a term that has meaning to Me and Mine, not some virtual slave/sub.

Eb

 

[Cirrus]

Dream:

I don't hate you. Hate is a very strong word. In fact, I don't think I hate anyone, even my worst enemy. Still, you really haven't given us many reasons to like you. Every post you make is me me me, or spewing bitterness or your breakup with artful. Quite frankly, we're tired of it. If you got some mental help and grew up a little, our opinion may change.

And that's as blunt and honest as I can be.

 

[Pure]

Just a thought on safety of online SM. I think it's potentially safer, provided one does not mindlessly carry out directions.

I did hurt myself once with an ordered attempted insertion, yet at least I could stop. Iow, if I'd been bound and gagged, maybe it would have proceeded to a worse state.

At least with onself at the helm, there is no direct connection between the dom/me's acts and one's injury. She can't hit you too hard with her wooden spoon and really hurt you. Better, then to have one's own mind interposed as it were, between her intent and the result: I determine how hard to hit.

Again, one will find some orders 'impossible'--e.g. to insert a wedding ring into a very narrow opening I won't specify. In person, if protest were not possible, or done soon enough, there's a greater possibility of injury.

NOTE: I can picture a few activities that *would* be more dangerous alone, e.g. putting a plastic bag over one's head. In some cases the presence of a sane 'other' could save one's life.

 

[~Dream~]

awww Lance

just when I had taken ya off ignore , geez lol I love you too babe ... NOT!!

Originally posted by lark sparrow


it comes off as being very manipulative and self-serving

I've been reading the board long enough to see many of your "nevers", "always" and "lasts", and they do seem to change very frequently and extremely quickly.

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Manipulative, self-serving, a quick change artist.

That's ~Dream~ alright.

And that's on her good days.



<,takes a bow !!!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Dream:

I don't hate you. Hate is a very strong word. In fact, I don't think I hate anyone, even my worst enemy. Still, you really haven't given us many reasons to like you. Every post you make is me me me, or spewing bitterness or your breakup with artful. Quite frankly, we're tired of it. If you got some mental help and grew up a little, our opinion may change.

And that's as blunt and honest as I can be.

Bling! Bling! Golden Cirrus.


Who here cares if Dream posts? I know I do not. However, it would be highly refreshing for her to post on the topic of BDSM instead of her paranoid ramblings.

Yes you can post where you choose, however when you post vitriol (look it up, sweety), be prepared to get it sprayed back into your face!

<edited for typos>
Eb

 

[Cirrus]

Nope, can't say I really care too terribly much if Dream, or anyone posts here. If you're going to leave, for whatever reason, just go. Contact whoever you feel you need to to let them know the reason why so they don't think you were eaten by a leopard while walking home, and then I guess we'll see you later.

And does anyone else find it only slightly unsettling that Dream, while still bitter over her breakup with artful, and hung up on that, has found a new "love of her life"? This SCREAMS security and self esteem issues to me. Maybe if you didn't try so hard to be accepted, Dream, you would be.

And please, please, talk to someone. The issues you have a quite fixable, and I truly BELIEVE you'd be much happier if you could deal with them.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Nope, can't say I really care too terribly much if Dream, or anyone posts here. If you're going to leave, for whatever reason, just go. Contact whoever you feel you need to to let them know the reason why so they don't think you were eaten by a leopard while walking home, and then I guess we'll see you later.

And does anyone else find it only slightly unsettling that Dream, while still bitter over her breakup with artful, and hung up on that, has found a new "love of her life"? This SCREAMS security and self esteem issues to me. Maybe if you didn't try so hard to be accepted, Dream, you would be.

And please, please, talk to someone. The issues you have a quite fixable, and I truly BELIEVE you'd be much happier if you could deal with them.

What I find unsettling is that Dream keeps wanting to come here at all. It isn't as though she likes to discuss BDSM.

Eb

 

[P. B. Walker]

What I find unsettling is that Dream keeps wanting to come here at all. It isn't as though she likes to discuss BDSM.

Eb

I find it all unsettling... now someone come give me a BJ.



juuuust teasin folks.

PBW

 

[lovetoread]

I find it all unsettling... now someone come give me a BJ.



juuuust teasin folks.

PBW

Heh, from what I remember, its not that part of you that Eb wants.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Heh, from what I remember, its not that part of you that Eb wants.

ohhhh so that makes it ok? hehee... then by all means, someone come give me a BJ...


PBW "I never turn down BJs"

 

[MissTaken]

ohhhh so that makes it ok? hehee... then by all means, someone come give me a BJ...


PBW "I never turn down BJs"

Do Dommes give head?

I am really curious.

 

[SierraMoon]

ohhhh so that makes it ok? hehee... then by all means, someone come give me a BJ...


PBW "I never turn down BJs"

Has anyone noticed how many of the threads lately have "ended" up on PBW's assets?

Thinking maybe we need to just dedicate a whole thread to him, so we can discuss his assets at length (pun intended!!)

 

[lovetoread]

Has anyone noticed how many of the threads lately have "ended" up on PBW's assets?

Thinking maybe we need to just dedicate a whole thread to him, so we can discuss his assets at length (pun intended!!)

Heh...agreed.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Do Dommes give head?

I am really curious.

I'm not exactly sure, but I would have to say that some must... I mean... how torturous would it be to stop just before the completion of a BJ? I'm sure BJ's have to be on the list for some of them. I'm sure there some that don't also.

Not to mention... them doing that until you explode.. and then they kiss you and make you take your cum back in your mouth and swallow it... ewwwwwwwwwww... shivers. Or make you cum on their tits and lick it up. Endless possibilities.

So... short answer.. Yes. LOL.

Uhmm.. except for lesbian Dommes. I'm guessing they don't give blowjobs. LOL.

PBW

 

[Ebonyfire]

Heh...agreed.

Count me in!

What should we call it?

Eb

 

[lovetoread]

lol, Miss Eb, you are the one with the wicked wit. I am awful at titles to threads.

We just need to do it before he comes back.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Has anyone noticed how many of the threads lately have "ended" up on PBW's assets?

Thinking maybe we need to just dedicate a whole thread to him, so we can discuss his assets at length (pun intended!!)

Oh geezz... now I'm embarrassed. Ya'll are so bad... hehe

PBW

 

[lark sparrow]

I find it all unsettling... now someone come give me a BJ.



juuuust teasin folks.

PBW

I think you just found another answer to "Online D/s... what's it good for?".

Words that make you go "Mmmmm!"

 

[amsubone]

Trying to learn the basics is difficult especially when one lives a distance from "civilization". i think there can me some benefit to spending time on-line and would agree it's important to be careful. i've not had much on-line experience but have certainly been disappointed in what i've seen in most of the chat rooms i've visited. Ultimately, nothing beats a real person with real skin.

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

Absolutely nothing ... say it again!

 

[rosco rathbone]

Absolutely nothing ... say it again!

I already made that bon mot, bro......

 

[Cuckolded_BlK_Male]

I already made that bon mot, bro......

Bro huh???

Any-who ... in my haste to "get off a goodie," I didn't check to see if someone else had beaten me to this rather obvious quip.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I believe that "bro"is a common form of salutation between one submissive male and another. If I have offended you or in any way seemed over-familiar, I extend my humblest apologies.

 

[Guest]

I believe that "bro"is a common form of salutation between one submissive male and another. If I have offended you or in any way seemed over-familiar, I extend my humblest apologies.

That's cool. Would you like to lick my ass? It's nasty!