Orgasm Denial

[Sir_Joe]

I've tested orgasm denial on myself

But I've found pain in urination later on.
I guess its bad for health, since the sperms get out of the balls and go in to the veins but if they don't get out of the penis later [via orgasm] then more likely you feel extreme pain in belly button area while urination.

[posting to get 100 so i can have my own a/v]

 

[Jaydoes]

okay....

I've done it both ways and in my opinion it does seem to increase the intensity of the orgasm. I've done it to myself by masturbating but not to the point of orgasm for a few days, usually like right before a big date...and it seems to me that the hormones do build up over those few days so that when you do allow yourself release it has a little extra oomph to it both physically and feeling wise....

I've also done it with women, though not usually for extended periods of times...getting them right to the edge...then backing off...then going back to the edge than backing off....usually the woman will let you know when enough is enough and once in a while you'll have a woman who is like....OMG...I didn't even know I could cum that hard!

 

[Netzach]

as a sub male, id like to add my opinion... orgasm control/denial is excellent for controlling male submissives because it keeps them keen and aware of their Mistress' wishes... often, after orgasm, a male will have sub-drop and lose some of his desire to be submissive and to serve a Mistress.. of course, with training, this isnt a problem, but initially, its pretty common, so orgasm denial is often used in training a sub m.... if anyone has any questions, feel free to ask

My experience with orgasm denial is that it sometimes clouds the brain into focus ON the denial and makes an even bigger deal out of his orgasm than I'd like.

I'm about control, not denial. When, where, how, and why I want.

 

[omniavincet]

My experience with orgasm denial is that it sometimes clouds the brain into focus ON the denial and makes an even bigger deal out of his orgasm than I'd like.

I'm about control, not denial. When, where, how, and why I want.

My wife was concerned about this very point when we recently discussed the possibility. Once she realized how into her controlling my orgasms I was she immediately wondered whether I would wind up a huge nag. I'd like to say I'm a more disciplined sub than that, but let's be honest, I wouldn't bet $100 bucks on it. I do hope to find out soon, however....

 

[huendin]

Has anyone else here practiced orgasm denial? It seems like it could be a step in getting a person to come on command.

Is it harmful in any way?

..in many more ways that one, and as long as you milk the prostate once and a while or let him release, I don't believe it would be harmful.

I didn't read through every reply so I apologize if I just repeated someone

 

[eroticspank]

Ohh! I like this!

My experience with orgasm denial is that it sometimes clouds the brain into focus ON the denial and makes an even bigger deal out of his orgasm than I'd like.

I'm about control, not denial. When, where, how, and why I want.

Well said!! This is a big turn on for me! Knowing my orgasm is going to happen how, when, and where my girlfriend decides. My orgasm is under her control. And it is a turn on to me knowing that she enjoys taking control of my orgasms.


ES

 

[eroticspank]

Not exactly for me!

as a sub male, id like to add my opinion... orgasm control/denial is excellent for controlling male submissives because it keeps them keen and aware of their Mistress' wishes... often, after orgasm, a male will have sub-drop and lose some of his desire to be submissive and to serve a Mistress.. of course, with training, this isnt a problem, but initially, its pretty common, so orgasm denial is often used in training a sub m.... if anyone has any questions, feel free to ask

I have heard this many times before that if a sub cums during a session that he loses his sub desire so a Mistress should use orgasm denial as a method of control. In fact, in several sessions with Pro Dommes I have had, the release or orgasm usually happens at the end....almost as if to confirm the idea that I would lose my sub desire, no big deal since the session is over.

I would actually say that this idea, in my opinion, ranks up there with the idea that men lose all desire to please their partner after they cum and roll over and go to sleep. (Yes I have read blogs, journals, and books about the fact that a man has a relaxing hormone introduced into his body after orgasm causing him to feel very relaxed etc) I have fallen alseep myself after a nice orgasm my partner helped me achieve but only after we both decided to go to sleep.

My point is that as a sub my orgasm or release can take so many forms that I can't really predict how I will feel after the orgasm. However, when I am in my sub space and really am comfortable with my partner, I never lose my sub desire. In fact, many times an orgasm can put me further into my sub space!

For example: I am spanked over my Domme's lap. If she knows what she is doing, she can actually make me cum that way and the intensity of the orgasm along with the pain of spanking can cause me to really cum hard, scream out, etc. Afterword I feel vulnerable and even more into my sub space that my Domme could bring that out of me. I feel conflicted at that time. On the one hand I want her to hold me in her arms while I recover but on the other hand I want to instantly get on my knees on service her orally, massage her, kiss her all over....etc.

There are also so many ways she can make me cum that would cause me to feel humiliated, but I will not go into it here do to time, again putting me deeper into sub space.


However, I can think of one way that maybe an orgasm would cause you to lose part of my sub desire. For me the only way for this to happen is if I was with someone who I really did not want to be with and I was role-playing the sub. After my orgasm, I would have to remind myself that I am still the sub and try not to look at the clock. This would not happen for me because I don't play with a partner I don't want to be with anymore....I am much more picky. As a result when I do play, I play with someone I really enjoy being a sub to and I am turned on and submissive throughout our time together.

Thanks for bringing this up DonkyDick and this is not meant as an attack on you. Many people I have talked to on lit feel the same way. This is just my humble opinion.

ES

 

[oneguy4fun]

Well, I think there are a lot of men who practice orgasm denial, too, in hopes of having better orgasms in the future.

Hey, don't knock it if you haven't tried it. I would never have done it before either, but it's totally awesome for me.

I am right there with you Sister! 5 years ago I would have never imagined saying this....but I LOVE BEING TEASED & DENIED ORGASM! MY wife has controlled when and how I orgasm for a little over 2 years now. I must always ask permission. She usually keeps me denied for about 4 or 5 weeks before I can have an orgasm. For guys, the horniness just builds and builds so I am constantly horny. I love it! I get such an erotic rush when she teases me to the brink and I ask for an orgasm and she says no. It's also very exciting when she selfishly uses me to have an orgasm and then just rolls over and says good night, leaving me all horned. It's hard to explain but I just love it!.

 

[cookiecat]

although this is a little off the topic of orgasm denial, i did find this article interesting.

orgasm control

i don't necessarily agree with her assertion that orgasm denial is unhealthy but i liked the way she describes controlling her orgasm(s).

just more to think about

 

[edm17]

i enjoy being brought so close to cumming then stopping. Doing this for a hour or more and when u finally do cum its so much more intense

 

[oneguy4fun]

i enjoy being brought so close to cumming then stopping. Doing this for a hour or more and when u finally do cum its so much more intense

Yes...it is such great torture with a fantastic reward. Sometimes I don't want the torture to end.

 

[sirsprincess]

i need permission to orgasm or even to touch myself, it's a love/hate thing. my Dom wants me constantly aroused so that i am ready to satisfy my husband (he is in contact with hubby, yes - very different situation) and if i cum too often, i'm not horny and i don't want sex. i fucked up and masturbated twice yesterday, confessed last night and am waiting for punishment. Sir held off as i had lots of office work to do today and now i'm playing on line, i'm really falling off the ledge, ha!

 

[lumi]

I'm the opposite- I've always found that the more, I cum, the more I want it, up to a point. My husband has told me I'm only allowed to cum without permission during daylight hours, which with my job and everything leaves very little opportunity. I'm allowed and encouraged to tease myself as much as I want, but that can just make it worse. Because of his work schedule, sometimes I go days without any satisfaction. I also require his permission to cum when we're together, but he's more into forcing repeated orgasms on command than denial. Either way, I love that he's taken control of me like that.

 

[eroticspank]

Very Hot

although this is a little off the topic of orgasm denial, i did find this article interesting.

orgasm control

i don't necessarily agree with her assertion that orgasm denial is unhealthy but i liked the way she describes controlling her orgasm(s).

just more to think about

Wow! Thanks for that article cookiecat! Very nice! and yes I don't agree that orgasm denial is unhealthy.

ES

 

[oneguy4fun]

although this is a little off the topic of orgasm denial, i did find this article interesting.

orgasm control

i don't necessarily agree with her assertion that orgasm denial is unhealthy but i liked the way she describes controlling her orgasm(s).

just more to think about

Fantastic article and cool website also. In the article she describes having an orgasm on command without physical contact. For a master to have that much control over a slave is incerdibly hot! However, I do find it hard to believe. Has anyone else experienced that?

 

[_kiana_]

Fantastic article and cool website also. In the article she describes having an orgasm on command without physical contact. For a master to have that much control over a slave is incerdibly hot! However, I do find it hard to believe. Has anyone else experienced that?

Yes, it is really possible. If I'm already aroused and hot, certain people can make me cum by telling me to even if I haven't been touched at all. And I do think that, if enough effort was put into it, I could be trained to do that when not in such a state. Not in a place to do that right now though, and it's not something to take lightly.

 

[Beaurotica]

orgasm denial delight

hey there,

my partner loves it. denial is really just teasing, for those not as interested in the dom/sub aspect, and teasing is just good old fun.
for both of us, if we delay orgasm, it just makes it more intense.
last weekend we fooled around and neither of us came.
now i'm all pent up and horny (great state for being creative with writing, btw) and she's pretty much the same.
when we do resume, it'll be very hard not to cum at first, so we'll see where it goes. every time is different and that's part of the fun, too.

 

[oneguy4fun]

Yes, it is really possible. If I'm already aroused and hot, certain people can make me cum by telling me to even if I haven't been touched at all. And I do think that, if enough effort was put into it, I could be trained to do that when not in such a state. Not in a place to do that right now though, and it's not something to take lightly.

I can believe your first sentence. The same goes for me. It's the second sentence that I find hard to believe. Has anyone really been able to cum/orgasm on command when they or not in an aroused state?

 

[subwannabe]

orgasm denial is very hot. I love it when my wife gets me all hot or makes me get myself all hot, give her multiple orgasms, and then deny me until another day. It is very hot not knowing when I will be allowed to cum, today, tomorrow, or a few days. It is also hot knowing that the better I do the better chance I have of cumming sooner, but that ultimately, no matter how good I do, it is still up to her. It is also very hot to know that I have to obey her at all times of the day, including cleaning the bathroom, etc and that this is not all just about sex, although to me it is.

 

[FungiUg]

Has anyone really been able to cum/orgasm on command when they or not in an aroused state?

Well, that's the trick with the training I've done in the past -- basically train the submissive so she is permanently aroused. Then yes, orgasm on command at any time is feasible.

 

[mickyp123]

Your answer was nothing giving any insight.

Orgasm denial long term is not good for the prostate, fortunately your av and orgasm denial kind of don't go hand in hand lol

 

[xxx_ellie]

Has anyone else here practiced orgasm denial? It seems like it could be a step in getting a person to come on command.

Is it harmful in any way?

i would love to have a go at orgasm denial...i cum so easily it might help me gain control of myself again...if you descover how it works ,let me no.

 

[mrskent]

Who cares what a slave feels or doesn't feel? A slave is there to do whatever he is ordered to do so his feelings are of no concern at all.

 

[serijules]

Who cares what a slave feels or doesn't feel? A slave is there to do whatever he is ordered to do so his feelings are of no concern at all.

You kick puppies and pull wings off flys for fun, don't you.

 

[Homburg]

Who cares what a slave feels or doesn't feel? A slave is there to do whatever he is ordered to do so his feelings are of no concern at all.

Who cares what a slave feels? A smart Owner. That's a no-brainer.