Privacy in a D/s Relationship
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privacy?
i'm sorry you people had such a problem with me not having bathroom privacy...i'm glad to see you all had such a good chuckle at my expense.....
but none of ya even addressed the facts about ZERO privacy..
''i'' have never had any privacy with ANY Ma'am i have been with.
there is no such thing as bedroom doors/.......let alone the bathroom door.
i suppose i am the exception here........the way i read all the posts all of YOU make here......it seems.......you folks dont bother with this.
it seems......none of have had your privacy taken away.
and that's okay i guess.
it just hurts i try to be nice to post to be helpful and then ya all jump my ass and make a big joke out of it...
okay.....i'll deal with it.
garylee
i'm sorry you people had such a problem with me not having bathroom privacy...i'm glad to see you all had such a good chuckle at my expense.....
but none of ya even addressed the facts about ZERO privacy..
''i'' have never had any privacy with ANY Ma'am i have been with.
there is no such thing as bedroom doors/.......let alone the bathroom door.
i suppose i am the exception here........the way i read all the posts all of YOU make here......it seems.......you folks dont bother with this.
it seems......none of have had your privacy taken away.
and that's okay i guess.
it just hurts i try to be nice to post to be helpful and then ya all jump my ass and make a big joke out of it...
okay.....i'll deal with it.
garylee
catalina_francisco
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Re: privacy?
I think you need to read more than as I for one have no right to any privacy at any time regardless of circumstance or reason.
Catalina
garylee said:
I think you need to read more than as I for one have no right to any privacy at any time regardless of circumstance or reason.
Catalina
Privacy
I have a friend, PyroDeamon, he reads my mail on a couple different forums to weed out the idiots that I am constantly barraged with. I find it soothing and sometimes funny to have sopmeone to discuss the mail I get. Of course a warning is posted on my profiloes for these forums that someone else besides me is reading. People dont bother to look at the text only the pictures so it is their own peril that they write me lude messages.
In time He is going to be my Dominant, in time, and when that time comes I have no problem sharing whatever mail I have paper or otherwise, I've never had anything to hide from him and who knows he may have solutions I didn't think of myself.
I have a friend, PyroDeamon, he reads my mail on a couple different forums to weed out the idiots that I am constantly barraged with. I find it soothing and sometimes funny to have sopmeone to discuss the mail I get. Of course a warning is posted on my profiloes for these forums that someone else besides me is reading. People dont bother to look at the text only the pictures so it is their own peril that they write me lude messages.
In time He is going to be my Dominant, in time, and when that time comes I have no problem sharing whatever mail I have paper or otherwise, I've never had anything to hide from him and who knows he may have solutions I didn't think of myself.
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Re: privacy?
Your post seemed to me to have a very "more sub than thou" ring to it, to be honest. I was simply pointing out that not every Dominant really has that much interest in some of the doings of their submissives. I suppose micromanagement is fine for those who seek it and for those Dominants who have that kind of time, but frankly there are things I don't care to know about my submissive because I trust him and I'm a busy person with a life.
Yes, I've taken away my submissive's privacy. Any time I feel like barging into the bathroom and any time I ask M "what are you thinking" he has no privacy. I am, however, not interested in monitoring those things more closely than I monitor my own doings and thoughts.
garylee said:
Your post seemed to me to have a very "more sub than thou" ring to it, to be honest. I was simply pointing out that not every Dominant really has that much interest in some of the doings of their submissives. I suppose micromanagement is fine for those who seek it and for those Dominants who have that kind of time, but frankly there are things I don't care to know about my submissive because I trust him and I'm a busy person with a life.
Yes, I've taken away my submissive's privacy. Any time I feel like barging into the bathroom and any time I ask M "what are you thinking" he has no privacy. I am, however, not interested in monitoring those things more closely than I monitor my own doings and thoughts.
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Re: privacy?
*tilts head* Hmmm...I don't have any problem with anyone's lack or nonlack of privacy. Everyone's relationships are different, here on Lit and out there in the big bad world of local groups and those who never attend a group or a munch. I do have submissive and slave friends who also have the "open door" policy and it's always interesting to hear how they deal with that in their lives.
I have never been a relationship like that, but I don't think it would bother me - I've been a mom too long for it to bother me if someone was in the potty with me. Master does watch me dress or undress, as he sees fit...and we shower together every morning. If he wanted, he would have my passwords and could read my mail, etc. But he isn't into micromanagement, as he neither has the time nor the inclination to do so.
I don't think anyone looks down on you, sweetie, for having a non-privacy relationship, nor have I seen anyone make fun of you for it. Just because what you have and/or crave is different from what we have doesn't it make it wrong in our eyes - it just simply makes it different. It adds a new dynamic into our conversations which we lacked before, so I say post away with your experences. It helps us learn and grow to know someone who has a different relationship from our own.
garylee said:
*tilts head* Hmmm...I don't have any problem with anyone's lack or nonlack of privacy. Everyone's relationships are different, here on Lit and out there in the big bad world of local groups and those who never attend a group or a munch. I do have submissive and slave friends who also have the "open door" policy and it's always interesting to hear how they deal with that in their lives.
I have never been a relationship like that, but I don't think it would bother me - I've been a mom too long for it to bother me if someone was in the potty with me. Master does watch me dress or undress, as he sees fit...and we shower together every morning. If he wanted, he would have my passwords and could read my mail, etc. But he isn't into micromanagement, as he neither has the time nor the inclination to do so.
I don't think anyone looks down on you, sweetie, for having a non-privacy relationship, nor have I seen anyone make fun of you for it. Just because what you have and/or crave is different from what we have doesn't it make it wrong in our eyes - it just simply makes it different. It adds a new dynamic into our conversations which we lacked before, so I say post away with your experences. It helps us learn and grow to know someone who has a different relationship from our own.
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Re: privacy?
Paranoid much?
People were responding to your post with their own opinions, a bizarre thing that is known to happen from time to time on a discussion board.
Several people stated that they have no expectation of privacy, so no, you're incorrect in your assumption that none of us have ever had our privacy taken away.
Surely you remember the saying about assuming things, right?
Geez. The thin skin I've been seeing lately. I don't know how some people manage to bear their floggings with proper subbish decorum. *puts on her Sublier Than Thou hat, just for Netzach, and stomps away*
garylee said:
Paranoid much?
People were responding to your post with their own opinions, a bizarre thing that is known to happen from time to time on a discussion board.
Several people stated that they have no expectation of privacy, so no, you're incorrect in your assumption that none of us have ever had our privacy taken away.
Surely you remember the saying about assuming things, right?
Geez. The thin skin I've been seeing lately. I don't know how some people manage to bear their floggings with proper subbish decorum. *puts on her Sublier Than Thou hat, just for Netzach, and stomps away*
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Re: Re: privacy?
Hmmm, don't think it has been limited to the sub camp.....but yes, it is sad when discussion cannot be open and varied without people feeling their words are seen as worth less than another's, or reason for amusement where none was intended.
Let the floggings begin!!
Catalina
sunfox said:
Catalina
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Re: Re: Re: privacy?
Yeah, it has seemed to be a prevalent issue on the board, sadly. Hopefully it won't remain so.. I prefer the exchange of opinions and ideas, and the disagreements, to lots of head nodding and no interesting posts.
So, where's the line for the floggings start?
/off topic.
Anyways, privacy = non-issue for me. If C wanted to do something privacy related that would bother me/be an issue for me, it'd be more useful to make me be all alone while using the bathroom or changing clothes.
That's my story, and I'm stickin' to it.
catalina_francisco said:
Hmmm, don't think it has been limited to the sub camp.....but yes, it is sad when discussion cannot be open and varied without people feeling their words are seen as worth less than another's, or reason for amusement where none was intended.Let the floggings begin!!
Catalina
Yeah, it has seemed to be a prevalent issue on the board, sadly. Hopefully it won't remain so.. I prefer the exchange of opinions and ideas, and the disagreements, to lots of head nodding and no interesting posts.
So, where's the line for the floggings start?
/off topic.
Anyways, privacy = non-issue for me. If C wanted to do something privacy related that would bother me/be an issue for me, it'd be more useful to make me be all alone while using the bathroom or changing clothes.
That's my story, and I'm stickin' to it.sunfox
yes,.......actually i AM a paranoid personality and my psychologist was trying to work with me on it......
but now since i changed ststes i have-to find a new one.
if YOU figure i owe you some kind of apology......
okay,...i can live with that....
i am sorry........if i upset you........
but i was upset thinking that my posts were being made fun of...and i didn't feel i deserved it.
if this not being the case..........yes,.......i'm sorry. yes, i'm a paranoid.
i am also o.c.d. and p.t.s.d.---
garylee
yes,.......actually i AM a paranoid personality and my psychologist was trying to work with me on it......
but now since i changed ststes i have-to find a new one.
if YOU figure i owe you some kind of apology......
okay,...i can live with that....
i am sorry........if i upset you........
but i was upset thinking that my posts were being made fun of...and i didn't feel i deserved it.
if this not being the case..........yes,.......i'm sorry. yes, i'm a paranoid.
i am also o.c.d. and p.t.s.d.---
garylee
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Re: sunfox
I didn't ask for an apology, so no, I wasn't expecting one. I'm good like that.. if I want something, I'll say it. I'm not a big fan of reading inferred meanings into everything said... that usually ends up being wrong, and I hate to be wrong.
But just as my personal view of reading all the comments after your previous post.. I'd say no, no one was making fun of you. If they were, they'd have posted "OMG LOL What's wrong with you?!!111!one!" (Okay, I promise not to mock chatroom speak again.)
I'm mostly paranoid that everyone is jealous of me. But that's just me, and I have a colossal ego. Now best to return to topic, or Catalina will start dishing out the spankings.
Wait, that sounds kinda good.
garylee said:
I didn't ask for an apology, so no, I wasn't expecting one. I'm good like that.. if I want something, I'll say it. I'm not a big fan of reading inferred meanings into everything said... that usually ends up being wrong, and I hate to be wrong.
But just as my personal view of reading all the comments after your previous post.. I'd say no, no one was making fun of you. If they were, they'd have posted "OMG LOL What's wrong with you?!!111!one!" (Okay, I promise not to mock chatroom speak again.)
I'm mostly paranoid that everyone is jealous of me. But that's just me, and I have a colossal ego. Now best to return to topic, or Catalina will start dishing out the spankings.
Wait, that sounds kinda good.
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Re: Re: sunfox
LOL, now I really wish you and I lived a little closer so we could confer on this spanking, flogging line over coffee or something.
Catalina
sunfox said:I didn't ask for an apology, so no, I wasn't expecting one. I'm good like that.. if I want something, I'll say it. I'm not a big fan of reading inferred meanings into everything said... that usually ends up being wrong, and I hate to be wrong.
But just as my personal view of reading all the comments after your previous post.. I'd say no, no one was making fun of you. If they were, they'd have posted "OMG LOL What's wrong with you?!!111!one!" (Okay, I promise not to mock chatroom speak again.)
I'm mostly paranoid that everyone is jealous of me. But that's just me, and I have a colossal ego. Now best to return to topic, or Catalina will start dishing out the spankings.
Wait, that sounds kinda good.
LOL, now I really wish you and I lived a little closer so we could confer on this spanking, flogging line over coffee or something.
Catalina
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Re: Re: Re: sunfox
I would enjoy that...
Probably too much.
The next time I'm in the Netherlands, though, I'll certainly drop by.
catalina_francisco said:LOL, now I really wish you and I lived a little closer so we could confer on this spanking, flogging line over coffee or something.
Catalina
I would enjoy that...
Probably too much.
The next time I'm in the Netherlands, though, I'll certainly drop by.
