Sexless Marriages

[LustyScribe]

I guess I can join this club. It's been sexless for years now. I bring it up, like groundhog day - about once or twice a year. Tears ensue. and then nothing. This past Valentine days - made a nice dinner, wine, card... all the usual. She did nothing.

So I'm looking for friends with benefits out there. I absolutely don't consider it cheating because - she's not even in the game, so how can it be cheating???
I'm in Los Angeles and it'd be great to connect with someone...female, male... whatever.

Exactly. I consider myself abandoned.

 

[shizzz]

I was in a sexless marriage up until my divorce a few years ago. Now I'm just playing the field.

How is it out there? Biggest fear of pulling the divorce is ending up like my parents did. One died alone. The other is on his 3rd wife and still miserable

 

[overwatcher]

How is it out there? Biggest fear of pulling the divorce is ending up like my parents did. One died alone. The other is on his 3rd wife and still miserable

You know what they went through after divorce. I'd hazard a guess you don't want to go there, make that the goal, not the problem. Even divorce can be amicable for both if there's love left. And it's good for the soul. Good luck.

 

[Cob083]

How is it out there? Biggest fear of pulling the divorce is ending up like my parents did. One died alone. The other is on his 3rd wife and still miserable

It's going really well actually. For everyone it's different for sure. I feel something casual is far more ideal for me personally. I don't see myself marrying again.

 

[Alancaster78]

Checking in with all the people with whom this thread reasonates. Sexless and lonely. How has your March started?

Anyone making meaningful connections on Lit?

With Spring coming soon, hope springs forth.

Hang in there peeps!

 

[IwantU99]

Today's felt pretty shit. Long day at work and the usual absence of any affection, romance etc. when I got home.
Sat down on the sofa and could hear my neighbours fucking loudly through the walls. Valentines treat. Just made me feel sad.

I think you just need a big hug, and a kiss.

 

[shizzz]

Checking in with all the people with whom this thread reasonates. Sexless and lonely. How has your March started?

Anyone making meaningful connections on Lit?

With Spring coming soon, hope springs forth.

Hang in there peeps!

Struggle with meaningful connections here. Lots of good ones, but few that go into personal life stuff seem to last long

 

[ScarlettStilettos]

Just wondering if there are any women in this group thread? I have just skimmed but I’ve not seen any posts from a woman x

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Checking in with all the people with whom this thread reasonates. Sexless and lonely. How has your March started?

Anyone making meaningful connections on Lit?

With Spring coming soon, hope springs forth.

Hang in there peeps!

Birthday at the weekend ... nothing remotely sexual from the wife (Seems she's still keeping true to her word 17 years ago about no sex with me since I shagged the woman from down our street) - just keep sme coming back to Lit and other sites, mainly to view sexy pics of hot ladies

As for "meaningful connections" - nobody wants to indulge in anything more than some chat by DM (unless I'm just looking in the wrong place?)

I'm hanging in though - perhaps one day!

 

[luvclassics]

Just wondering if there are any women in this group thread? I have just skimmed but I’ve not seen any posts from a woman x

Any women that would post here would most likely get inundated with offers or requests. There are some that would want the attention but most would just keep on moving along rather than face the barrage.

 

[whiskeycowgirl23]

Any women that would post here would most likely get inundated with offers or requests. There are some that would want the attention but most would just keep on moving along rather than face the barrage.

You are very correct. But I just weed through them. Some chats have lasted a while some only days. Some haven't gotten responded to due to the sheer number i have gotten at one time.

 

[luvclassics]

You are very correct. But I just weed through them. Some chats have lasted a while some only days. Some haven't gotten responded to due to the sheer number i have gotten at one time.

Not at all surprised.

 

[LustyScribe]

Checking in with all the people with whom this thread reasonates. Sexless and lonely. How has your March started?

Anyone making meaningful connections on Lit?

With Spring coming soon, hope springs forth.

Hang in there peeps!

Same crud. The depression is a constant battle.
I recently asked her if what she wanted was actually a platonic marriage (since, by way of refusal, that's what she's actually forcing on ME). She sputtered, said she wasn't saying anything like that...but then she didn't say it's NOT what she wants, either. We had some unrelated crap stir up, so it got tabled, but I'm going to press it again this weekend. Time to just put the cards on the table.
If she says yes, that's her desire, then that's my open pass to meet those needs elsewhere with no guilt. If she says no, I'm preparing some expectations. No more riding the fence.

 

[Gory]

Mine is sexless because he refused to take care of diabetes when it first happened. Now he's been impotent for over 10 years but it's not just that. I got tired of asking for a hug, some not sexual touch other than when he wants a hj or bj. Even though it is a disease there's a lot of contained rage because he could have taken care of himself. Sex consists of giving him start he wants, then turns around a goes to sleep and i take care of myself when I'm alone. It's a lonely life.

SS. I agree with your problem too , I would say more but last time a lady rip me a new Ass. I guess Diabetes hits both Sex. Take Care. Gory

 

[NightOfPassion2]

The depression is real. And what i hear is "why are you crying? Are you depressed again?"

So sorry. To not take care of himself and then demand...ugg.

 

[RightSized]

She's 69. I'm 66. I try to entice her every other Saturday afternoon or evening with no luck. It's just been too uncomfortable for her. Last Saturday morning, I woke up and spooned her, rubbing my cock up and down her panty covered tush. She kind of wiggled against me making me think maybe she's up for something. I started rubbing her snatch over her panties from from behind and she didn't push me away, so I pulled them off and started rubbing her on the outside of her slit. Finally coated my middle finger with saliva and slipped it in. She was very relaxed and even pushed against me a bit. Only problem was that she wouldn't change positions, kind of half on her back, half on her side. Reached into the night stand and grabbed some lube. Got both my hands slick, then coated my cock. Twisted myself in position to slip it inside her and it went right in. Usually takes a few minutes for her to adjust which makes it hard to maintain my erection. This time she opened up nicely. I started humping but was very uncomfortable because of her position. I grabbed her hips and started pulling myself into her really fast. Was starting to feel a surge but wasn't sure my back would hold out long enough. Finally pushed my right index finger deep in her ass and started pumping it. Only took another 10 seconds before I unloaded several weeks worth of backed up jizz. I grabbed the hand towel that's been sitting on my night stand for weeks and stuck it between her legs. She went right back to sleep. Found out later that she had taken a Klonipan right before bedtime. Now I know what to do next time.

 

[luvclassics]

I don't know what to do anymore. The prospect of living like this for the rest of my life is very depressing.

I feel for you. That is a real tough situation.

 

[Bummy4]

Anyone else with this problem?
I have a high sex drive and the wife doesn't.
Looking for others with this problem, and possibly helping fill our needs.

I have that problem too let's talk

 

[rickeno650]

I have been in a sexless marriage for over 10 years. It’s a lonely place to be.

 

[Alancaster78]

Hang in there peeps…

 

[darkride]

The last time I remember having actual sex with my wife was pre COVID... There's been the occasional dalliance but that's typically only me getting her off with a toy / fingers / mouth / etc before she rolls over and I go to my computer and check out Chatropolis for someone to chat with.

Not sexually compatible, as well as lack of sex drive from her due to PCOS, or at least, partly so.

So yes, here we all are, huh...

 

[Vinylguy]

The last time I remember having actual sex with my wife was pre COVID... There's been the occasional dalliance but that's typically only me getting her off with a toy / fingers / mouth / etc before she rolls over and I go to my computer and check out Chatropolis for someone to chat with.

Not sexually compatible, as well as lack of sex drive from her due to PCOS, or at least, partly so.

So yes, here we all are, huh...

Yepp

 

[LustyScribe]

So, possibly some development. I pushed the "platonic?" question again. It seemed to lead to some progress, though there were also some tears as well. I tried to keep ALL the anger out of it, though I did express how hurt, anger, depression and loneliness had impacted my mental health.

I'll share this, in case it helps one of you. I'm multilingual; she is not. I described it this way to her. I asked her to imagine that I decided (with no known reason) to stop speaking English to her when I come home. She'd know that I CAN speak English, but suddenly, I just stop speaking "her" language. Eventually, you'd get lonely because now you can't talk, can't share, can't enjoy the person who has been your best friend most of your life. That illustration seemed to help her understand.

It seemed like we had some breakthrough, though my optimism is highly guarded. I'll let y'all know if it bears fruit.

 

[Poetryinmotionxo]

it’s really very tedious.

 

[13Fantasies]

it’s really very tedious.

Indeed