Social Distance Distraction - A Little Lit Gathering Thread

[twister947]

I feel more of a need to check in somewhere on a regular basis, but not more of a need to open up.

This. My mind is a wading pool, anyway.

 

[gracie920101]

I'm pretty paranoid about people knowing more about my thoughts in RL than on here. LOL.

My reality:

Sadly l actually feel more welcome here than in RL because there's so few in RL that would be concerned about me.

 

[cookiecat]

I feel more of a need to check in somewhere on a regular basis, but not more of a need to open up.

I get this.

I think we can have a sense of community without disclosing the things close to our hearts to the online world.

 

[cookiecat]

This. My mind is a wading pool, anyway.

This.
I can open up sexually here, pretty much the only place I can, but I can’t open up about me anymore.

 

[cookiecat]

I'm pretty paranoid about people knowing more about my thoughts in RL than on here. LOL.

My reality:

Sadly l actually feel more welcome here than in RL because there's so few in RL that would be concerned about me.

I feel similar, gracie. This isolation isn't much different than my usual. No kids, no partner. I check in with family, a few friends.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I get this.

I think we can have a sense of community without disclosing the things close to our hearts to the online world.

Yes

I have a need for routine, for familiarity, but i don't have a need to be vulnerable.

 

[seela]

I've been even more of a recluse than usual because of this.

I check in with my parents and a few friends once a week. Work is quiet because almost everybody is working from home at the moment so there's not a lot of socializing going on there. My online people have gone quiet too.

This really made me realize how large a part of my social contacts happen at work or are those tiny moments when I see someone I know on the tram stop and talk with them for a few minutes. I'm not a social butterfly, so those types of meetings and talking online have been more than enough for me most days. Now that those types of meetings are non-existent and online is quiet I'm starting to notice a certain lack in my life.

I feel lonely but I'm never alone. It's the complete opposite of my usual life and it's a bit of a struggle!

That said, I've started to work on Duolingo again and I've been able to put some thought into a few of my long term projects too. So it's not all bad.

 

[cookiecat]

Yes

I have a need for routine, for familiarity, but i don't have a need to be vulnerable.

I feel my wall of self protection growing even higher and it concerns me I'll never let anyone in or actual feelings out.

Right now that feels safe. But I've done this before and it's a challenge to dig out from the cave.

Thinking over seela's about social contacts and honey's post
about routine - I'm realizing I fill my time with distraction rather than interaction.

 

[midwestyankee]

I see a lot of you lurking around here! Come out of the shadows and say hi dang it! Oh wait, there's a thread for that!

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1326456


Thought I'd start a thread to say hi - see what you guys are up to.

Just to get the conversation started - how did you discover Lit?

It took me a few months to discover the forum after I started reading on the story side here. Once I did, though, this place soon became my regular "water cooler" time since I had only that year started working independently from home. And it's been downhill since, as they say.

 

[cascadiabound]

Just popping in to say hi.

Still here.

 

[gracie920101]

Okay, downer alert for a serious question. I have to drop this on everyone but can't get back to lit until early evening today but this has been bothering me for several days as more dire warnings are put out.

Do you have a plan in place to take care of your toys in case something happens to you?

Both of us being in the high risk category of this crap started me thinking.

What happens if both of us are whisked off to a hospital and eventually succumb to the virus?

Do I really want his son clearing out my toy drawer?

So my question is, when is the time I should clear out my toys? I still use them but you know, maybe I need to think about giving them up. It's just one more thing to stress about.

 

[Beardpositive77]

Does your son know you’re a woman? Or are you simply a mom?
He’s old enough.
Keep the toys.

Wisdom ^^

 

[seela]

In general I think this is the absolute least of your worries. If you're dead, you won't be embarrassed. If he's embarrassed by that... Well, he'll survive.

If you want to do something, maybe for the time being keep them in a box and mark it clearly with something like "please throw away without opening", maybe tell him about such a box existing beforehand. If he still opens it, it's on him.

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

I still use them but you know, maybe I need to think about giving them up.

All of my girls have come upon my one toy at some point while rummaging in my sock drawer or climbing into bed for morning snuggles. I do try to keep it stashed away but... it happens.

I once overheard one of them expressing mild disgust over it to another, and then my 15yo son chiming in in my defense. 'Mom has needs too, ya know!'

Ah ha ha ha ha ha ha



I think the boy will likely be okay.

 

[midwestyankee]

All of my girls have come upon my one toy at some point while rummaging in my sock drawer or climbing into bed for morning snuggles. I do try to keep it stashed away but... it happens.

I once overheard one of them expressing mild disgust over it to another, and then my 15yo son chiming in in my defense. 'Mom has needs too, ya know!'

Ah ha ha ha ha ha ha



I think the boy will likely be okay.

The lad is definitely a keeper.

 

[cookiecat]

My girlfriends and I have a contingency plan for toys, toy bags, etc just in case.

The reality is it probably won't work like that.

I currently live with family. I'm not sure I'd love it if they found the bag with mask, cuffs, big big toys, paddles and the rubber chicken. I have a really nice flogger too.

I honestly haven't thought about them until gracie asked the question.

They're locked in a big box in the closet under boxes.

It is what it is. I think if it's truly a stressor, get rid of it/them. You can always get something new later. Or find a really really good hiding place.

 

[twister947]

Shopping for new toys: Win!

 

[Cumference]

I surfed for erotica, and found the stories. It took several years before I realized that there was a forum too.

Regarding toys, you already store them in a box. Address it to a friend that knows.
A suitcase with a lock could be ideal.


My family would probably be slightly embarrassed finding the stuff, but mostly for finding something very personal, not because it was sexual in nature.
They probably wouldn’t be that surpriced.
And then they would have a good laugh, (and wonder what some of them are.)



There is a rubber chicken and a clown’s nose in the collection. I have never used them in a sexual context, but they kind of belong.

 

[twister947]

I went through this before major surgery. I agonized back and forth, and finally got rid of 40 or 50 books, and a whole bag of toys. None of my friends consented to be part of my kinks. Respect.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Okay, downer alert for a serious question. I have to drop this on everyone but can't get back to lit until early evening today but this has been bothering me for several days as more dire warnings are put out.

Do you have a plan in place to take care of your toys in case something happens to you?

Nope. No secrets from my partner, and if it comes to my extended family, they'll probably just get a chuckle out of it.

 

[sullivag2]

Nope. No secrets from my partner, and if it comes to my extended family, they'll probably just get a chuckle out of it.

We had family help us move a while back. They were persistent about helping to unpack and ended up running across a few things such as cuffs. It is a big joke to them to this day and to my wife and I we still get to laugh at what their reaction might have been if they had unpacked some of the other things they helped carry in.

 

[gracie920101]

Thanks everyone for the support.

I may just leave it as is and sit back and laugh about it when I'm gone.

This is just one of those 4am burning questions that keeps me awake and tossing/turning which has become a problem for a few months. (and Cookie is over in the corner saying "welcome to my world, bitch!")

 

[gracie920101]

I went through this before major surgery. I agonized back and forth, and finally got rid of 40 or 50 books, and a whole bag of toys. None of my friends consented to be part of my kinks. Respect.

Thanks!

 

[gracie920101]

Does your son know you’re a woman? Or are you simply a mom?
He’s old enough.
Keep the toys.

His son. I'm a nullipara.

Never been a mom either except to furbabies.

Maybe I'll at least lose the chains and straps. Maybe, I do love the smell and taste of leather.

 

[gracie920101]

As a kid who may one day have to clean out her parents things.

I think a box with a lid, and a not that says - Items of a Personal and Sexual Nature - would be appreciated and tossed without looking.

We appreciate that our parents are free to be into whatever they want and know that we just don't want to know.

My rusty 2 cents!

Sorry. I would have to look. LOL