Some very basic BDSM questions that I've yet to answer

[redelicious]

Here is a link to something called the "Ceremony of the Roses," which I think is a collering/commitment type deal.

http://www.castlerealm.com/library/roseritual.shtml

Weird, definetely, but isn't everyone?

I have pretty limited experience, and not anything I would consider "edgy." I just read a lot.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

0. What is collaring, exactly?

1. The Internet-BDSM connection. Weirdos spend a lot of time online, this connection is too bold to ignore. Online Dom/Sub relationships? Get the fuck outta here.

2. The Mensa/Trekkie/Ren-fare/Dungeons and Dragons connection. All groups are populated entirely by weirdos.

3. The one time I met a BDSM group. at least 80% of them were totally overt weirdos. It didn't take me long to figure out that another 10% were weirdos, I'm sure they all would've failed the test of time.

4. I'm a weirdo. A lot of people who I've disclosed to have said I "seemed like the type". (am I supposed to put the period before the quote there? Isn't there an exception?)

5. How far do/have most of you gone? I often wonder if I am on the lighter or heavier end of the BDSM spectrum. Have you ever taken/inflicted serious pain? Have you ever drawn blood or done anything really disgusting?

0. Collaring - click away.

http://www.cuffs.com/wp/s3.htm

http://www.cuffs.com/kinkylinks/Collars/

http://www.cuffs.com/stories/erotica/acollaring.htm

http://bondage.com/columns/13/268

in short, a commitment, and everything that comes with it.

1) Rather a narrow-minded view, but to each their own.

2) i'd rather be the border collie weirdo, than a vanilla sheep.

3) What did you use for a test to determine weirdness?

4) The period goes before the end quote. The exception might be in your example. Some put a comma inside the quote when they refer to material from a previous thought immediately following th e quote. The parens may negate that. Ask Quint ... she's an editor.

5) Far enough to know i don't plan on putting blinders in a vanilla world again.

Yes and yes to your last two questions.

 

[Marquis]

Thank you all for your participation. Each of you gets a star.

 

[AvaAdore]

I always jokingly thought of myself as weird, but never seriously. The more I think about things and notice things, the more I realize that in some respects I am very different from most people, especially regarding sexual preferences.

For some reason I always thought that most people at some time or other would experiment with different kinks. I can't imagine someone not having a kink of some kind. I just can't comprehend that someone would be completely vanilla all the time.

Of course most of the sex I have is vanilla, but that doesn't mean I like the other stuff less.

I have never met anyone else (besides my boyfriend) who I knew was fairly seriously into BDSM, nor have I sought anyone. I do know a guy who is especially talented at whipping. He's tall, shaves his head, and wears lots of black. I have never talked to him about it, other than to ask where he learned, and he said his girlfriend.

I haven't done that much. Plenty of whipping and spanking, some bondage, infliction of pain that was not severe. Basically nothing "extreme". But then we are fairly new at this. I have tasted urine.


Wow, so am I the only one around who has the maths but not the vocabulary?

 

[Quint]

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4) The period goes before the end quote. The exception might be in your example. Some put a comma inside the quote when they refer to material from a previous thought immediately following th e quote. The parens may negate that. Ask Quint ... she's an editor.

There needs to be a smilie for "pulls her eyelid down and sticks out her tongue."

Since the "seemed like the type" was the end part of the quote, it logically can and should contain the period inside the quotation marks. However, my Strunk and White informs me that quotes beginning with (or inferring) "that," such as the one I'm presently in, are indirect discourse and thus quotations are not necessary at all. So the whole dilemma could've been avoided.

Aren't you glad you provok--er, asked?

 

[Marquis]

I thought there was a distinction between using quotes to show where speech was used and using quotes to show an ironic distinction. Like when AvaAdore uses "extreme" in her post, which she punctuated using the Marquis method.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

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Aren't you glad you provok--er, asked?

Yep.

Sorry he ain't got a tongue ...

 

[snowy ciara]

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Yep.

Sorry he ain't got a tongue ...

I thought he more of a cheesy "Come a little closer, little girl." smilie.

intentionally added a quotation to provoke...

 

[Quint]

Very true; I simply hadn't caught the irony in your original post.

 

[Quint]

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I thought he more of a cheesy "Come a little closer, little girl." smilie.

intentionally added a quotation to provoke...

Must I put up my "Do not needle the obsessive-compulsive" sign?



Since the sentence continued after the quote, it should be a comma rather than a period, although with a quote inserted in a restrictive term of identification such as this, no punctuation at all is necessary. Thus, "I thought he more of a cheesy 'Come a little closer, little girl' smilie." What can I say? You needled!

 

[AngelicAssassin]

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Since the sentence continued after the quote, it should be a comma rather than a period, although with a quote inserted in a restrictive term of identification such as this, no punctuation at all is necessary. Thus, "I thought he more of a cheesy 'Come a little closer, little girl' smilie." What can I say? You needled!

Voila ... my point exactly ...

When i needle, i bring in the big guns ...

 

[FungiUg]

Ooooh, needle play with Quint! Looks all keen!

 

[snowy ciara]

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Must I put up my "Do not needle the obsessive-compulsive" sign?



Since the sentence continued after the quote, it should be a comma rather than a period, although with a quote inserted in a restrictive term of identification such as this, no punctuation at all is necessary. Thus, "I thought he more of a cheesy 'Come a little closer, little girl' smilie." What can I say? You needled!

It's not that I want to continue needling the the OCD Editatrix Lady, but my writing instructor would beg to differ. He's anal about punctuation. Whether or not I agree with him, I have his "You MUST punctuate properly within the quotes!" speech memorised.. I can even remember his rule.. When a full sentence is contained within the quotes, standard punctuation rules apply. "Eats, shoots, and Leaves" anyone?

 

[FungiUg]

I've seen arguments both ways. I tend err on the "complete sentance within quotes" approach myself as well, I will admit.

What's interesting is that Word's grammar checker has settings for both ways.

 

[snowy ciara]

Yup, what the Ringwraith said.. nods and looks all innocent and helpful and stuff

 

[AngelicAssassin]

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... but my writing instructor would beg to differ. He's anal about punctuation. Whether or not I agree with him, I have his "You MUST punctuate properly within the quotes!" speech memorised.. I can even remember his rule.. When a full sentence is contained within the quotes, standard punctuation rules apply ...

Somebody better pass the "when a full sentence is contained within the quotes, standard punctuation rules apply" rule outside of academia.

BOT ... Besides, i like people that beg. Such behavior makes the fun all the more enjoyable for me.