Submissive 'Thought for the Day' Calendar 2007

[FurryFury]

November 22, the words of Madetotakeit

I agree with so many of the above statements. For years it was the belief that women should not have libidinous thoughts. Puritanical dogma instructed that sex was for procreation. This sets up a dichotomy with what is hardwired into our makeup. We are supposed to enjoy sex. Otherwise what is the orgasm for? A built in timer to let you know when to stop? Our bodies are designed to be enticing, we produce pheromones to signal attraction and readiness, we have hormones to drive us towards coupling. Women were supposed to ignore all of those things?


Fantasies are an idealized situation. Everything is perfect. There are no mis-strokes or wrong words spoken. The players are flawless. Rape fantasies are no different. They have nothing to do with real life. A creation of the mind to express desires. Mine involve either someone who has wrapped themselves around my psyche or carry the characteristics thereof. While I am helpless, I am not truly. Even the rape fantasy is a scene. In some way I know the players and so feel secure in what will happen. It also varies in elements depending on what particular kink has captured my attention that day.

There is a release of responsibility in what you desire. But at the same time there is an accountability. In some way in my fantasies I have let my guard down and placed myself in jeopardy. Whether it be be doing in the wrong thing or not recognizing ulterior motives in someone. (Not getting into the "asking for it" statement, because in real life there is no such thing!)

On the other hand, the ego is invested in this fantasy as well. To be so desired that this man (or men- again depending on that days menu) that he is so effected he is unable to control that desire. There is no choice but to act upon it. The animal takes over and he takes what he wants. Even though my mind has set up what happens (it is my fantasy after all)it is projected onto him. I'm experiencing those things because that is what he wants. (That drives the sub in me too. Yes I want to feel so many things, but I need to have someone who wants to see me go through that. To have his eyes light up as chill bumps cover my body from a touch that is agonizingly light, my back arch at something that stings...)In essence, even though I have the rush of the "fight or flight" reaction kicking in I am never in true peril. Adrenaline is a wonderful thing.

I have not had the chance to experience this in a scene. I hope that when I do it comes close to images that play through my mind. To place myself before someone I trust and say, "This is yours you do with as you wish. My fantasy fulfilled through your fantasies."

http://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=25286264

From the thread:

From the thread:

~ R a p e ~

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=559996

 

[FurryFury]

November 23, the words of A Desert Rose:

Well unfortunately, it seems that a lot of online relationships start (and usually end quickly) this way. It's not a safe or smart way but, it does occur. I guess, although I've never met one, there a lot of people online who want to be jerks and don't understand what Domming means. Or at least, their definition of Domming is what you described above. I think most would agree that is not standard or preferable Dom behavior.

(But Lord knows, I don't want to be offending anyone's definition of Domination, submission, Lincoln Logs or the weather.)

If someone asked my advice, I'd tell them to avoid this kind of immediate verbal/text interaction with a potential Dominant. My personal successess (i.e. the lasting friendships I have with a few certain Dom/mes) all started as friendships. Happily for me, almost all are still my friends... some online and some in real life.

http://forum.literotica.com/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=25333817

From the thread:

New to D/s and have lost of questions

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?p=25333817#post25333817

 

[madetotakeit]

Thanks for the includes FF...I feel very honored to be among those chosen. Especially since I am such a newbie.

 

[FurryFury]

Thanks for the includes FF...I feel very honored to be among those chosen. Especially since I am such a newbie.

My pleasure, your post touched me.

 

[doveofserenity]

Thank you Catalina. Never knew words about my inner spirit would touch someone so much.

 

[FurryFury]

We should finish this calendar.

 

[FurryFury]

November 24 the words of The Captians wench:

People who dismiss what I do because I work for Mcyd's don't usually stay in my company for long. I tend to ask, "so how many times have you stopped at a restauant in the past week?" They don't think about the fact that if some one didn't do my job, then they wouldn't have had a place to get that coffee on their way from one meeting to the next.

Interactions with waitstaff has always been something I watch. One because I'm in the industry, but two comes in especially in "interviewing" a potential dom/top. This person is in service to them, as I might be whether with in a relationship or with in a scene. If I don't like how they treat that waitress, I'm probably not going to like how they treat me. The way you treat one servant tends to translate to the way you treat another.

From the thread:

the dating game-bdsm style

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=558331

 

[FurryFury]

November 25 the words of Unfoundiamond:

Everytime I read this thread title, it reminds me of that Insane clown posse song, "BoogeyMan" (with the parody of the dating game...)

Hahaha... sorry... I am a little offtopic,

(I will get)Back on topic...

I avoid asking a a potential partner what he does for a living, partly because that's what girls I know do to see if a guy has money... if he doesn't answer well, she moves on... I don't want to be one of those girls, there are other ways to find out, people who love their job will gush and tell you, or Ill ask what someone went to school for... (I am quirky I know....)

I will ask if s/he's married, (because adultery is a turn off, and moral nono to me)

I will ask what his/her hobbies are, to see if we share common interests, but other than that...

I will be honest about my cituation and wait to analize what they OFFER...

I think saving questions and waiting to hear what they offer works well, because- I can see what is volunteered, then ask more detailed questions later... all while cross reffrencing the new and old information...

I look for consistancy... Most people who lie to cover their faults will not keep their lies straight, or think if their newly volunteered info conflicts with prior statements... In my expirience people who are hiding something or one track minded don't just go on and on, they will keep avioding the subject and "passing" questions back to you, or they will give you a weak answer... both tend to be noticable...

I think as people we have all the time in the world to find out our parters favorite (blank) and in the begining its best to try to weed out the Liars and Abusers (interchangeable titles IMO)

I always wonder if contestant #1 isn't telling you WHY he is single... For example, like those car commercials where they start out saying "front end damage" and "water damage" and delete that because the truth is ugly, and edit the desription of the damaged car to read "fresh Paint" and "New carpet"... making the new buyer (you) unaware of the riskyness of this seemingly good deal...

Anyone can lie to your questions... but letting them talk first gives them less time to think up a good lie...

From the thread:

the dating game-bdsm style

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=558331

 

[doveofserenity]

November 26, in the words of Northwoods Sub:

from the thread Is There Something You Have Done In Your Life That You Truly Wish You Hadnt?

Here is my view on regret. If I changed or regreted anything about my past I would not be who I am or where I am today. In order for me to accept who I am now I have to accept who I was then and the decision that I made. Sure I may regret that I didn't save that money instead of spending it on new shoes, but that is not a life changing decision.

I can't regret marrying my first husband because then I wouldn't have my oldest son
I can't regret leaving said marriage because then I wouldn't of met my second husband even though he was an abusive asshole
but see if I didn't meet him I wouldn't of felt the need to leave him and have the ability to go to Texas for job training and meet my Sir
which then led to my youngest son, and my ability to go to college and so on and so forth.

See no real regrets. (because they are really cute shoes!)