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Submissive 'Thought for the Day' Calendar 2007

October 9th - Words of Justina123

I enjoy serving Sir, it's just part of our life together, I do lots of things for him basically without thinking...cooking, cleaning, laundry, coffee at his side when he wakes up, toweling him off when he leaves the shower, etc. etc.

However, he often expresses his appreciation either verbally or with a pat, stroke, or more. I quite sincerely do not do things for him because I am looking for the "thank you"...however, if no appreciation was EVER expressed, I don't know if I'd love him like I do.

I would think for someone to be someone else's "right arm" they would have to have NO other life of their own- no job, no kids, no possessions to take care of, no responsibilities of their own. Does that person exist, and if so, is that person desirable? I would think not to most people.

(Okay, service subs... discuss?)
 
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October 10th - Words of shelleb4

Curious, what a meagre word to describe what im feeling.
I wish there were someone who i could kidnap for a weekend, and ask every question i have.
I knew i wanted something else from sex. My sexuality has felt stifled and stilted, until.....

One day, a really good male friend of mine, sort of ordered me to do something. A shock of desire shot through my body at his words. Nobody had ever talked to me in this way since ive been an adult.

But having looked on line at various Doms, well, i dont respect them, and so baulk at their words. In fact, their attitude seems to invoke anger within me. I feel goaded into fighting with them. So perhaps im not so sub.

I really enjoy the domme role, but my concentration on being domme falls by the wayside as i become more aroused and lose it completely.

Its questions leading to questions that lead to more questions. So infuriating!

A friend lent me Midoris book on Japanese bondage, there is a scenario as seen through the eyes of a sub and same senario as seen by eyes of a dom. I wanted both!

Sometimes my sexuality is too strong for me, it interferes with work etc. I hate the way my body is sometimes. Walking round like a bitch on heat is not always appropriate.

Isnt there a questionnaire or something?

(I am "exploring" what is known as BDSM)
 
October 11 - words of ownedsubgal

yes, those kinds of things happen, and not as rarely as some may think. it's a very diverse, fascinating world out there...as Pure mentioned, everything has been done (and imo is being done) at some point. just within my own small D/s world (meaning Daddy, myself, and those we know), caging a slave for up to a day is not unheard of...starvation of a slave for days is not unheard of...beating (with hands only) to the point of broken bones is not unheard of....violent staged rapes are not unheard of, etc. it all just depends on the particular niche you're in in the D/s or bdsm world.

(Just out of curiousity regarding extreme S&M)
 
October 12th - words of Esclava

"No, I've not met my online PYLs and yes, I would like to. I have seen pictures of my Domme and spoken to both of them on the phone.

Is it possible? Probably not - as both belong to others. To meet them would be fine (for dinner or drinks); but to meet and physically play with them in a BDSM context, would violate something I've had in my life for the last 5 years (since I returned to BDSM). I don't play with 1/2 of a couple without the permission or participation of the other 1/2. It keeps "issues" to a minimum.

That's how I know it would never work out. So, I just enjoy the time I do receive from Them - and enjoy the hands of my real life Dom/me couple."

Have You Met Your Online PYL/pyl?
 
October 13th - words of VelvetDarkness

"IME Moral values are required for society to function. Even primates are altruistic to other group members and their young. It's just a carrot and stick way of getting us to behave so that society as a whole can prosper. It starts with toilet training and develops in exactly the same way throughout life through positive and negative reinforcement. Where society breaks down, people get positive reinforcement for doing destructive and negative things and their moral code is rewritten as a result. If a good kid whose been raised well joins a group of bad peers, he'll become violent and apathetic. It all boils down to who you have personal respect for and whose authority is imposed upon you whether you like it or not.

So your fantasies will remain safe in your head because as an emotionally mature adult you have respect for other people's wishes and welfare - to the point where the thought of acting out your fantasies in real life makes them repellant to you.

But mainly because if you do you'll be arrested and go to prison forever"

Can It Ever Be Wrong To Fantasis?
 
October 14th - words of fieryjen

"A while after my now-husband and I first started dating, I found the courage to breach the subject of BDSM. He'd never done anything like it and didn't think he was in any way dominant, while I had a bit of experience and have always sorta known I was a submissive.

He didn't seem completely turned off by the idea, so I told him that it would mean a lot to me if we'd give it a try some time. He was a bit reluctant, but agreed.

The first few times were extremely weird. I did feel like I was simply acting, and it was difficult to find the fear and respect in me that I should have. He noticed it, too, and that frustrated him.

We did a lot of talking during that time. We had to talk out every single scene, the way we both felt during it, and what we expected or each other during the scene. It was a difficult process. We were lucky though, because it did work out. My husband developed quite the taste for it, though it took a little while, and now I couldn't find a better Dom for me. If you're interested at all (sorry for the plug ), I wrote down some of my feelings during those times here and here."

Introducing Your Partner To Domination
 
October 15th - words of rida

"Hubby and I both feel very lucky that we have met each other. And even after 11years of marriage, imagining life without each other is like imagining a world without the sun.
Being a sub for me, and being a Dom for Hubby is deeply rooted in our nature, but we are not a D/s 24/7 couple: D/s is reserved for the bedroom and yet is part of our relationship.
In the last few month, more and more hidden parts of myself have being uleashed, not necessarly related to my being a sub, and the whole impact of it is now starting to take shape. It brought us closer than ever, to talk about things we never dared to talk before, and yet it has also brought us to what I feel is an impass...This is the core of my struggle now. As a sub I know I should trust my Master to know, and I should just wait and follow. But on the other hand I feel that we need to talk and understand what are each other's expectations. I feel the need to know to be able to really let him have the right of way. I do realize that it is mostly myself that need to think hard and answer the above questions, but because the relationship here is much more complex than just playing a scene, I feel it needs some more soul-searching on both parts.

Anyway thank you for your good wishes! I surely hope to be able to repeat the forced orgasm session in a not too far future."

Forced Orgasms?
 
October 17th - words of CutieMouse

"This reasoning is the sort of thing that makes me wonder why (generally speaking) it is presumed submissives are cherished/encouraged to pursue their interests, and slaves aren't. I had lunch with a different gentleman yesterday, who has had M/s relationships for 30+ years, and looks at things from a M/s perspective, rather than D/s. We've discussed the details of how each of us see such a dynamic/what it means, and he's the sort of guy who wants final say in everything, with the option to micro-manage - even though he hasn't any interest in doing so... he's of the "oversee another's life" school of thought, which (to him) includes enjoying my impassioned interest in XYZ subject, and making whatever need happen, happen to enable my enjoyment of such - going back to college/setting goals with me and making sure they happen, etc. He's already said being a good mother would be a priority, as would maintaining my close friendships... yet were I to decide to enter a relationship with him, I would be a "slave" in the BDSM sense/definition of the word. Sometimes his exertion of control would be no different than what I'd decide to do for myself, but it would make it no less his decision."

The Slippery Slope
 
October 18th - words of myinnerslut

"i wear one of his shirts

or cuddle with the stuffed puppy that he gave me for our six month anniversay. a puppy for his puppy.. he thought it was cute"

D/s & LDR's - Revisited
 
October 19th - words of minx1

"I'm so pleased to hear you are making the move to be together.

I have nothing to add to the good advice already offered....but you both have your heads screwed on and I am sure you will be more than fine

I can completely empathise with how you must be feeling...the excitement.... the nerves....the excitement.......the anticpation.....the excitement....the praticalities of the move and oh, did I mention the excitement?!

Best of luck to you both and your family "

Transitions...Changes...Moving Forward
 
October 20th - words of LuvKitty33

"In the last two months, I've been exploring both cyber and phone sex for the very first time, and I've definitely enjoyed it very much. The first couple of times I did cybersex, it was fun because it was new. I didn't cum, but I loved knowing that the guy did. I haven't done it since then, though because I MUCH, MUCH prefer phone sex. I love being able to hear the guy's voice, and I LOVE having him tell me what to do to myself and then knowing what it's doing to him. Yummy!!!

The problem I'm kind of having now is that really good phone sex is making me crave......seriously crave.......the real thing. Not that I wasn't before, which is why I started with cyber and phone sex in the first place, plus it's been my way of getting a tiny taste of control and submission, but now part of me feels empty afterwards. I think I need to have the relationship or possibly be working towards that, or at least some emotion and caring between me and the person on the other end of the phone, in order to stop having the empty feeling. I don't know.....it's all very complicated in my opinion, LOL!! Some times it's been great without the empty feeling so maybe it just depends on my mood at the time?????

I probably won't stop having phone sex until I'm in a real life relationship with someone.....unless it's a long distance relationship.....because I just LOVE so many aspects of it. I do wish I could cuddle up and fall asleep in his arms afterwards, though.

"There's something to be said for human touch"..........oh so true, and oh how badly I want this!!!"

Cyber/Phone Sex - Does It Do It For You Or Leave You Cold?
 
October 21st - words of Etoile

"Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) is not at ALL the same thing as infibulation (erotic sewing). Yes, the procedure might be the same, but the purpose is not, and they are very, very different things. FGM is supposed to preserve chastity, but it's usually performed on young girls who end up a mass of scar tissue down there. I have seen some pretty dramatic FGM pictures and these women have no hope of having a normal sex life, ever. FGM is cruel and harmful, and it doesn't keep the girl from trying, so it's also basically useless. She still wants to do stuff, she just has a hard time figuring out how.

Infibulation, however, is fucking awesome. I have seen it done with a set of rings along the labia and cord run through them, I have seen it with strong thread sewn directly onto the labia, and I have seen it with fishing line done the same way, or just by closing the vaginal opening. I find infibulation erotic, and if done properly it can be beautiful. Most of the time it is a temporary thing, for a few hours or a few days etc. Sometimes female chastity is enforced this way but that's usually in committed relationships."

Temporary Chastity
 
October 22nd - words of Quint

"New log.

T and I are discussing his methods of asserting mastery over me when sharing me with other people. We move on to "what if T is not in the room?" Why, send me out with the understanding that when it comes time for my slutty self to get nekkid with Random Male, I must implore him:

"Put it in my little pink mousetrap."

I just about died. I STILL can't say it without flipping into some sort of roleplay voice, e.g. Baby Girl, or else laughing hysterically. But T won't allow me to roleplay it--can't be Memorex, gotta be live. Sooooooooo in the meantime, no random sex until the whimsicle finger points in a different direction. Or until I grow a pair."

Whimsicle Dominations
 
October 23rd - words of His_pita

"I agree that it depends on what type of pain, arousal level, mood of the moment, implement of choice, etc. There are times when he can't (or won't) hit me as hard as I crave, and other times it takes a whole lot less to have me in tears and wishing I still had a safe-word."

How Much Pain...
 
October 24th - words of intothewoods

"Generally speaking, either the marriage is secondary to 24/7 D/s, or you have the D/s aspect of the relationship, and a partnership of some sort, the vanilla aspect. As others have said, it all depends on how you define your relationship. And I haven't been married to someone with whom I also have a D/s relationship, so I'm guessing.

The reason I really wanted to post is to do my usual Jewish mother routine. It's all about the kids! I spend most of my angsting these days trying to figure out if I can marry a Top/Dom, and have a family with him. I do want both a partnership, and the feeling that I'm part of a team, with my husband (if I marry again). But I also know I need D/s too. If it did ever work out, I think it would primarily be a bedroom dynamic that is emphasized by certain subtleties outside: wrapping his arms around me (hint of physical dominance), a look, the way our personalities interact.

But we are 1000% a team when it comes to the kids. Holderman says he is daddy? Well, I am mommy, and that ain't gonna be messed with."

Question
 
October 25th - words of HottieMama

"i have two close friends that are feminist/lesbian/vanilla. We talk pretty openly about our lives, and the first time i mentioned "liking it rough," i was met with the same accusations of allowing abuse etc. Added in that we were also discussing being submissive, and i got a lecture about how women like me are putting "us" back in the "dark ages" of sexuality. What i tried to explain is the concept of informed consent and that is my choice to submit to a particular person. Nothing else is going on that makes me "submit" out of fear, force, etc...

i understand their concern when i tell them things though. i went through a horribly abusive relationship with my ex-girlfriend and i think that will always be in the back of their mind. They have a strange way of showing it at times, but i know they only question because they care."

Perceptions of Abuse
 
October 26th - words of HisBabyDoll26

"Truth. Sometimes people like that talk that way...negative..because they don't have anything worthwhile to say or get nervous in a situation. Maybe she needs the heads up so she can change how she reacts when uncomfortable or wanting to fill silence. I think it's easy to fall back on the negative or to complain because usually you can find something common where most people will jump in and agree that such and such sucks etc. She may even regret later things she said but again falls back on it as a way to "cover" that she doesn't have anything else interesting or real to say..or because she doesn't want anyone to focus on her negative aspects so tries to redirect things elsewhere."

Need Ladies Advice
 
October 27th - words of sinnOcent1

"None of what He does to keep me in line is a favorite.
It's never for fun nor enjoyment.

And, if i told you about them, my post would seem a bit null because
...... a secret once revealed is no longer a secret."

Gimme Yer Secret
 
October 29 the words of BiaTcHiNFiRe:

BiaTcHiNFiRe said:
I have read this BDSM story the other day and I must say I loved the idea so much I just had to apply it into my real life.

Well it was a story about Master ordering his sub to do this "meditation of a sub" and he ordered her to do that daily, every time when she lay down to sleep in the night.

He told her to totaly undress, lay down to the bed, bend the knees, spread her legs wide open as he was there to inspect HIS property and lay still and think of him. Think he standing right next to her bed and watching her. Watching her laying there all naked infront of him not knowing if he would touch her or if he would just watch her lusting for his touch. He told her to close her eyes and imagine he's right there with her, watching her closely. He told her to think if he would slide his finger in there or not he told her he knows how embarrassed she would feel if he was watching her like that. All naked, with her hands below her knees and unable to stop whatever might happen. So open for him, so naked and so HIS. Laying there as a shameless slut just like her Master told her to and leting the thoughts of Him consume her body and mind. Let the desire reminds her whos she is.

Well to make it short I have tryed this and I must say I enjoyed it to no end. This will prolly do no well to sub's who live with their PYL's, but for me and for those who are in long term or online relationship I must say I find this as a sweet daily reminder of HIM.

Theres days when I don't talk with my Master at all, life is just damn busy sometimes. Sometimes we don't talk for days and I miss him real bad. I can just say this lil daily "meditation of a sub" makes me feel very nice and it reminds me my Master in a very nice sensual way on days when he's gone and busy with work. I needed something like this, something what would remind me my Master when he's gone and I must say I have found it.

When I get naked, lay down to my bed with legs open wide, close my eyes and think of HIM, think of HIM watching me like that, watching me lusting for HIS touch - in a while I feel him all over me and I fukin love and enjoy the feeling it gives me. It's hard to explain, but it surely keeps me safe from feeling so damn blue on days when he's gone for work.

I must say the first time I tryed this I had a real prob to lay still as I felt such a need of HIM. I fall alseep whimpering and in incredible need of HIS touch, but happy feeling HIM deep inside of me. I slept like a lil baby after this and thats not quite often lately.
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'Meditation of a sub'

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=559197
 
October 29 the words of Incompleteidea:

Incompleteidea said:
I had an online Sir (I don’t suggest them) have me do this on a daily basis. Every day of the week was a different submissive pose that I would hold for 15 minutes while thinking of him. Half of the time I would imagine his eyes on me. The other half of the time I would try to think of things I could do to better please him. I was never allowed to touch his cunt before during or after this ritual until strictly told to. Every morning I was left wet and wanting just as he hoped.

Laying naked for a man that isn’t present… Doing your utmost to please and better yourself for them even when they’re not watching. It can become almost tan-trick. It can also leave you feeling very open and vulnerable.

I suggest it to any couple interested in the deeper levels of this life style…
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