Submissive "Thought of the Day" Calendar

[niteshade]

February 15th

The words of S’lara

You mention that you know it is dangerous to give information about yourself for fear that someone will take advantage of you.

In the the first two paragraphs of your post (as well as the thread title), you stated that you were:

-- 19 years old
-- a virgin
-- submissive
-- Admittedly inexperienced and looking for a Dom.

The foregoing information is exactly what you do not want to throw out there as a way to look for a Dominant. To be honest, as you are not sure sexually what you will need, i believe you need to spend time doing some self-reflection as opposed to Dominant hunting.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=228634

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 16th - words from stardust :

"I think the most important thing in a relationship is honesty. Especially in a D/s relationship. How else, can a Master/Mistress know his/her property and take care of her/him as needed?
I was honest about everything about myself towards Master, right from the moment that I met him. Never regretted it. It's over 7 years later now and I'm still completely happy."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7528905#post7528905

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 17th - words of lark sparrow

"I've never been loaned out... possession in the opposite sense was always too strong for loaning... but it does have some appeal, at least in fantasy. I am like that 'one dog person' and it could be an interesting experiment in following direction."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=213583&perpage=25&pagenumber=1

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 18th - words of willowthwisp

"In truth, I do find it comes down to some basic fundamentals, like your Master/Mistress taking the responsibility for your physical, psychological and emotional wellbeing. This can include all of your list in its own way. BDSM relationships require alot of trust and in the early days it can be a good step around areas of concerns......or perhaps doubts is a better word."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=205107

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 19th - words of Pink Orchid

"...there are different kinds of intelligence. IQ tests are overrated, and each individual has mental weaknesses and strengths.

Common sense is vastly underrated.

I have more years of graduate school than most people here have floggers and whips and can discuss ad nauseum the finer points of several sciences, but if you ask me to work with electronics or, worse, put me in a room with ten 5-year-olds, I'll look like an idiot inside of 3 minutes."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=207585

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 20th - words of foxinsox

"Left overs.

I have some right now... I have lovely finger marks and wonderful bruises and the hot, dull throb of aching muscles.

I have left over marks of ropes around my wrists and ankles and I have... well, I won't go there

I *love* left overs, they're tangible reminders of wonderful times

I hate when they fade "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=77676

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 21st - words of sunfox

"For me, it's become more enjoyable simply because I don't have to feel unsatisfied. Vanilla sex, while it gets the job done, doesn't get the job done with a bang. It always left me feeling like.. 'well. That was nice, but I could have been buffing my nails.'

Now, it's the freedom to enjoy being submissive, enjoy his grip on my hair, his teeth on my skin, his hand on my ass... that lets me have a delicious orgasm every time. And it pleases him plenty to see that he does it to me, that it's his touch that makes me lose control.""

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7440867#post7440867

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 22nd - words of AnelizeDarkEyes

"Personally, I wouldn't take his word on it. Any Tom, Dick, or Harry out on the net, can....and does, call himself MasterWhatever. Happens all the time.

My point is this--for you newbies out there. Just because someone calls himself a master doesn't guarantee that he's going to be safer than someone who calls himself a dominant.

Play safe, ya'll."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7146729#post7146729

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 23rd - words of Megafurvert

"what i truely enjoy about my submission is that due to the fact that i am a pet and not a slave my whole role is to make fantasies a reality and to make sure that M'lady is have the best possible verison of her fantasy come true..... it fills me w/ the greatest of joys to watch as M'lady's pleasure comes to a peak!!!! to put it simply i enjoy the pleasuring of others aspect of my submission!!"

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=206443&perpage=25&pagenumber=3

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 24th - words of AnelizeDarkEyes

"Submissives, by the way, aren't babies, who need you to help them grow up. We are strong, smart, intelligent adults. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=229903&pagenumber=2

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 25th - words of Kajira Callista

"There are alot of subs who know a whole lot more then alot of Dominants. We should be learning from each other no matter what the role. To add i would like to point out something overlooked. A "seasoned" submissive understands all the mixed up in a rush feelings a newbie has. They have been there and learned from it already. I think in alot of online lit....its called sub frenzy, which also happens when subs are w/out a Dom or have been released. The understanding of emotions involved is what IMHO makes an experienced sub a better mentor. I kind of thing in that type of situation the natural reaction for a Dominant would be to control all that instead of fellow submissive understanding and showing the newbie that we all go thru these things...helping them find their own solutions. A Dominant mentoring is only teaching a sub to be dependant on a Dominant for answers...which im pretty sure will not always be the answer in a subs life being that its not always the case in the begining that we are under a Dominants control. A submissive mentoring helps the newbie become aware of her needs and be dependant on herself till she finds the right One for her to give up that power to."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7620849#post7620849

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 26th - words of RisiaSkye

"For fsubs, I think part of the problem is a tendency among MDoms to be attached to the silly fantasy of finding a kinky teenage virgin to make their very own forever. We live in a stupidly ageist society, and sex is one of the places where that really affects women in an ugly way that men seem to avoid recogizing, which they feed into. If the arrogance of aging men is a myth, please call me on it; I doubt, however, that I'm the only one to have ever noticed this. "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72790

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 27th - words of morninggirl5

"coming out to anyone is scary as hell, but the relief afterwards is so freeing. Take the time you need to look inward and you will know when that time comes that you cannot exist only in yourself anymore. Sometimes, life throws you things you never expected just at the moment you are searching for them."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=69594

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 28th - words of taipa

"But to say submissives are weak, helpless or need to be submissive in order to survive is a bit stretched in my opinion.
To be submissive is not the key to survival, happiness and living, but more a key to deeper joy, freedom, and sense of being."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7625640#post7625640

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

February 29th - words of Inner Darkness

"I think that this has been a big thing for me...I have only begun to scratch the surface of my physical tolerance for pain, but I have realized that I am much less able to endure things emotionally. Within a BDSM context (specifically D/s), I have found myself feeling more vulnerable, more scared, more attached to someone emotionally than ever before (and also more emotionally fragile overall)...but I also came to see that it is okay. There remains that part of me, however, that wants to cut off that emotional part... but at the same time, I want to embrace it because with the right partner, it can be appreciated and cultivated into something beautiful perhaps..."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=230689

Catalina

 

[lizzie anne]

hmmmmmm?

Common sense is vastly underrated.
=========


deeee-fine.........common?.....
what may be in my mind......as common.......comes from my home area......dealing with my environments there....
not somewhere else......so whay "i" call common.........i doubt you.......would.
imho...
==================================


I have more years of graduate school than most people here have floggers and whips and can discuss ad nauseum the finer points of several sciences, but if you ask me to work with electronics or, worse, put me in a room with ten 5-year-olds, I'll look like an idiot inside of 3 minutes."

------------
and as dear old dad..rest his soul.....used to say...
difference is who knows what end of the shovel to use first.....
i know.......i hear.......and maybe? it is a social joke???? not a real thing?......but folks lay claim to not knowing how to set the time on vcrs and other simple things.......
i myself.......have not.......ever........needed......any manuals....i just look at the available buttons.......knobs......etc....and usually i can figure it out BEFORE anyone FINDS the manual.....
but this is just me.......only!
dont ask me to write out a 25 page essay......on wall street....
aint a gona happen in this lifetime.
but yeah i can// and do//...... know about maintenance on the house/yards/ etc.......from years of being-the-grunt.....

i used to.......really.........vent.......on white collar folks.
educated friggen idiots......
now i understand.........education depends on where you are standing......
no east city slicker can know about mid country farming....
not every kid in the midwest will know about east coast problems....
etc etc etc etc........andendum......

so now.......though i have-to grit-my-teeth.....i t-r-y to keep in mind.....what ever i claim to know...not every living soul has my life experiences and vice versa......

personal prejudices ARE difficult to overcome.......

and now back to your regularly scheduled life....

lizzie anne

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 1st - words of sigsauerprinces

"that my submission, his Domination, and our relationship, is just that-ours. as long as we're happy, thats all that matters, and whether others would view us as either "too extreme" or "not really TPE because you dont do xyz" or "youre not a real sub because of abc" doesnt matter at all. you take the elements of D/s and bdsm that make you and your partner happy, and leave the rest. there are no "rules" to follow besides the rules of your own Dominant, and your own heart."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=230689

Catalina

 

[InnerDarkness]

a sidenote...

Thanks for keeping this calendar thread going...i really like the concept (and the Dominant Thought of the Day one, too!).

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: a sidenote...

Thanks for keeping this calendar thread going...i really like the concept (and the Dominant Thought of the Day one, too!).

I think it is worth keeping going not only as a good resource at a glance, but also to celebrate the diversity and collective wisdom the submissives, past and present, have shared with anyone who cared to read it. Is definately a proud achievement for all IMO.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 2nd - words of apet4you

"By saying that our choices (whether black or white) are brought about by others beliefs concerning accepted behavior is silly. Most of us could give 2 F*CKS bout what others think. If we did, we would not be involved in these practices, these lifestyles, these THINGS."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=222275&pagenumber=5

Catalina

 

[sunfox]

Thanks for keeping the thread alive, Catalina.. I enjoy reading the quotes.

This board can be such an excellent resource, and all the various points of view paint a much more complete picture.

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 3rd - words of Justina123

"I recognize that some of my ways of seeing things have changed since giving my life and submission to B. We have never exactly labeled it "training", but since Sir has deliberately set out to mold some of my ways of looking at things and reacting to him, etc. I guess you could call it training.

For me, it has consisted primarily of my desiring to please Him and therefore trying to act and react in ways that please Him. After awhile, these reactions become ingrained and **poof**, I guess you could say some training has taken place! "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7638522#post7638522

Catalina

PS. Thanks sunfox.

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 4th - words of SkylineBlue

"I think putting a collar on a submissive during play is possible and wonderful - without it being a permanent decision. The first time I wore one and he grabbed the ring at the front and pulled me into a kiss I could not escape - I felt things in my body stop and tingle. And I wanted him to do it again and again, and I yanked my arms to put them around his neck but found them locked behind my back by cuffs and again, i felt my pussy clench and my heart speed up. But the significance of that collar at that time... was not that of a submissive being collared by her one true dominant. However, the experience was powerful and wonderful none-the-less... I unforunately cannot tell you what the difference is to be collared in other ways. But I can tell you that to wear a collar is not the same as to be collared, that I know and understand now. And I will also say, that since then, I have become much more educated.. and now will be more hesitant about accepting a collar and even more likely to question the significance of a collar until i know its use and meaning. I imagine myself one day, hopefully having a private ceremony that involves a collar "

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=230501

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 5th - words of serijules

"There is more at stake in the D/s lifestyle than there is in other aspects of a person's life. If a person hurts another under the circumstances you described, they might earn the reputation of being an asshole or some such, but it really isn't going to affect them a whole lot other than maybe some snubbing from her and her friends. In the D/s circle, one such mistreatment can ruin a doms reputation as someone trustworthy and safe to scene with. Word travels fast, and reputation means a lot...at least in my experience.

Discussing aftercare or needs may not guarantee they will be met, no, but it is better than going the "they might not do this so I'm not even going to bother discussing it" route that will lead to almost surefire miscommunications. In my opinion, it is better to have said it and be able to say you did, than to say nothing at all."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7610455#post7610455

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

March 6th - words of sunfox

"My submission is a personal choice. It feels good, so I do it. It also feels good to eat cheesecake. So I do it. That's not biology. It's a matter of taste and desire. And now I'm hungry."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7489086#post7489086

Catalina